FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t get some people on here. Not sure if other experience it however twice now…

Example -

Sent a very polite and complimentary message to a couple (Not just saying that to make myself appear in the right) - I am a polite guy. Attached a fairly decent face pic - no sausage pics etc. asked if I could join them with a FWB following a social in a bar / coffee shop prior to make sure we are suitable.

Absolutely no pressure or suggestions etc. no “your not my thing, too young, sorry but not interested. Even complimented her fella for goodness sake. - blocked.

I love FAB and have met some incredible people and experienced things sexually I never thought I would. However it also has its its fair share of rude people who spoil it!

Anyways rant over - hope everyone has an incredible evening x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'll be absolutely honest but we don't respond to single men who offer to meet us with a woman from their single profile.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Anyone can block anyone on here with no need for an explanation. It's best to have a thick skin and don't take things to heart. They didn't send a rude message, just aren't interested. Chin up and move on

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

What did you expect from them O.P. ? What would have satisfied you ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I do that all the time. If I read a message and I’m not interested I block. Don’t take it personally. It’s just a tool.

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By *nasuitMan
over a year ago

Ruislip

Random blocking is rife

I exchanged over 20 messages with a woman recently, then she blocked me for no obvious reason. I didn't even get around to asking for a meet, showing her the sausage or suggesting that I tie her up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I have to ask. When you get scam calls or the spam mail through your letter box, do you phone them up/write a letter to them to say you're not interested? Women, Couples, TV/TS and even some lucky men can get an insane level of mail so replying to all of them would be a waste of time. Blocking people is just there to make sure they don't message again. It isn't personal mate, its just the internet and people can block for whatever reason they deem fit. It isn't rude to not be interested in someone and people aren't obligated to give a reply. It's literally stated in the site's F.A.Q or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don’t like meeting FWBs - prefer a ‘proper’ couple. Also best to have a couples profile if messaging as a couple

Don’t sweat it - it’s probably just a way for them to keep track of who they are not interested in, rather than personal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get some people on here. Not sure if other experience it however twice now…

Example -

Absolutely no pressure or suggestions etc. no “your not my thing, too young, sorry but not interested. Even complimented her fella for goodness sake. - blocked.

I love FAB and have met some incredible people and experienced things sexually I never thought I would. However it also has its its fair share of rude people who spoil it!

Anyways rant over - hope everyone has an incredible evening x"

Did you read their profile? Did it say they are looking for a single man and a woman who may not exist and they have no way of knowing she consents to meeting them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are ignored so much that we don’t know what to say if we get a reply !!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I been blocked by people I've not conversed with ! I'm assuming from forum comments they don't agree with! Petty but hey ho! None as strange a folk lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I been blocked by people I've not conversed with ! I'm assuming from forum comments they don't agree with! Petty but hey ho! None as strange a folk lol x"

Same.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

People don't like other people shocker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block people who've never even messaged me because I don't like the cut of their jib. People can do what they like with their own profile.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i wouldnt let it bother you op..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m probably blocked by a significant proportion of this site. Do I change my name to Lego? No.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You weren't their type, what they were looking for, so they block to avoid any further contact. Simple.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

People take being blocked way too personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a little smirk when I see I'm blocked by yet another forum user.

Take it as a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get some people on here. Not sure if other experience it however twice now…

Example -

Absolutely no pressure or suggestions etc. no “your not my thing, too young, sorry but not interested. Even complimented her fella for goodness sake. - blocked.

I love FAB and have met some incredible people and experienced things sexually I never thought I would. However it also has its its fair share of rude people who spoil it!

Anyways rant over - hope everyone has an incredible evening x"

One thing you need to learn in life - you are not entitled to anyone’s time. Nobody has to entertain your suggestion of meeting. Nobody has to respond or tiptoe around a stranger that has approached them. That applies on here and in real life.

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By *addad99Man
over a year ago

Rotherham /newquay

Don't take it personally I've had your to far away literally was a few miles but least you got a reply most wouldn't give you time of day just use the site for what it is and enjoy.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I was surprised once when I commented on a thread and 4 women responded very negatively which bearing in mind it was a very light-hearted thread I thought was unwarranted.

When I went to look all 4 of them had blocked me.

I had never engaged directly with any of them in the forums or elsewhere and they were all in a different country anyway.

It didn't bother me at all and I was more surprised at the verbal attack than the blocking.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Don’t take it personally OP. Loads of people use the block button as a filtering tool. It doesn’t mean they have anything against you - you just might not be what they’re looking for. It’s far quicker and easier to block than it is to send a reply rejecting someone, or ignore them and have to potentially deal with a repeat message.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Nobody owes you a reply. Blocking is just one of many tools available to users.

It's highly likely they weren't interested and chose to block you to prevent you messaging again.

No point fretting about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your replies.

A lot taken onboard.

I wasn’t suggesting that I feel insulted or sad that I had been blocked.

Also I get the blocking as a filtering tool - I generally block women looking for obscenely large tooled black men (because that will never be me!

) - that being said, people who message me always get a reply - even those who are not what I’m looking for.

I can imagine that recent times I have been blocked they were incredibly attractive and more than likely get flooded with messages.

Anyway thank you again for your replies and enjoy fab (sorry if I annoyed anyone btw with this post)

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By *hriscooperMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Yeah, I get where you're coming from as 8t costs nothing to just reply with a no thank you.

But it does seem the norm to get blocked when someone decided you aren't their cup of tea.

In their defenses though, I can only imagine that a good number of guys are rude, obnoxious arse holes who can't cope with a damaged ego so, so they get nasty.

Maybe that's why folk prefer to block? To avoid them?

Id always be polite and say no thanks though, manors cost nothing do they.... And THEN block.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Block them back get it off your chest two can play at this game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see blocking as just another form of filtering on here.

I block regularly the profiles that come up on my ‘local updates’ if:

- they don’t meet my criteria

- I don’t meet their criteria

- something just doesn’t feel right

It keeps my local feed nice and tidy, it’s just housekeeping.

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I always have a little smirk when I see I'm blocked by yet another forum user.

Take it as a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only block BBWs

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By *oneybee1001Woman
over a year ago

Around and about

"People take being blocked way too personally."

Agreed, it's a gift, they're not interested in you or wasting your time, gracias, I'll accept that gift with good grace

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If you feel that your experience is being spoiled and you felt the need to have a rant because you were blocked by a complete stranger then you’re way, way too sensitive OP. I’m not telling you how to feel but life must be a real struggle for you if getting blocked by a stranger has that much of an affect on you, I can’t imagine how you’d react if you ever get blocked by someone you actually know….it sounds like you’re doing a lot better here than the majority of single men as you’ve stated that you have experienced things sexually that you never dreamt of experiencing, are you seriously letting being blocked by a stranger spoil the experience of having sex that is beyond your dreams?

I agree that it is a bit rude to not reply when someone sends them a polite and respectful message but to say that it spoils the experience of having better sex than you ever dreamt about seems a bit of an overreaction. Not holding the door open for someone who’s following you through is rude so if you went to the most amazing restaurant in the world and ate food that was better than any food you have ever dreamt about eating but when you were leaving someone went through the door just before you and didn’t hold it open for you would you say the experience was ruined because someone did something that’s a bit rude?

Everyone’s free to feel how they want to feel and to rant about whatever they want to rant about, everyone’s also free to not reply to and block anyone they want to. You didn’t ask for it I know, but some advice I would give you is to get over yourself and stop letting things that don’t matter at all have such a big affect on you. You’ll find that life is a lot more enjoyable once you stop caring about the things that really don’t matter.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Yeah, I get where you're coming from as 8t costs nothing to just reply with a no thank you.

But it does seem the norm to get blocked when someone decided you aren't their cup of tea.

In their defenses though, I can only imagine that a good number of guys are rude, obnoxious arse holes who can't cope with a damaged ego so, so they get nasty.

Maybe that's why folk prefer to block? To avoid them?

Id always be polite and say no thanks though, manors cost nothing do they.... And THEN block.

It clearly states on the sites FAQ no reply = not interested.

Also a reply to someone stops future filters from working. Which is why I either don't reply or reply then block.

Nobody is entitled to a reply from anyone.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm half a couple op and like nice couple said, we would be skeptical about a couple messaging from a single male account too.

Maybe you could make a joint profile where you could have pics of you both on.

Blocking just means you weren't for them op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone can block anyone on here with no need for an explanation. It's best to have a thick skin and don't take things to heart. They didn't send a rude message, just aren't interested. Chin up and move on

Think they get so many messages it's easier to just block.

If I get a no rlthamks reply, I block then just to stop search results regurgintating their profile up again

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Blocked , ignored you just have to accept it and take it on the chin. Tbis place is a cock fest so woman have the upper hand. Never take it personalty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on, guys can get the right arse when you say no and get abusive why waste time blocked is as good as a no and no shit it’s not personal, a lot of people on here need to get over themselves and not expect wall to wall shagfest

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
over a year ago

Darlington

Blocking is just way easier on the mind than answering no thanks and dealing with a torrent of either abuse or begging. Sorry OP

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I don’t get some people on here. Not sure if other experience it however twice now…

Example -

Absolutely no pressure or suggestions etc. no “your not my thing, too young, sorry but not interested. Even complimented her fella for goodness sake. - blocked.

I love FAB and have met some incredible people and experienced things sexually I never thought I would. However it also has its its fair share of rude people who spoil it!

Anyways rant over - hope everyone has an incredible evening x"

You've offered to meet somebody you have never had any contact with. No initial messages to say hello. You're going straight into a suggested meet, with the addition of somebody you don't even share a profile with. And you can't understand why is very unappealing to somebody? You have a lot to learn. If we received a message like that we are certainly not going to be interested and are highly unlikely to reply, even though we personally wouldn't block just for this.

You are not entitled to a reply just because you sent what you consider to be a good message. They didn't like the message and don't want communication with you. Seriously. Grow up and get over it.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"OP I have to ask. When you get scam calls or the spam mail through your letter box, do you phone them up/write a letter to them to say you're not interested? Women, Couples, TV/TS and even some lucky men can get an insane level of mail so replying to all of them would be a waste of time. Blocking people is just there to make sure they don't message again. It isn't personal mate, its just the internet and people can block for whatever reason they deem fit. It isn't rude to not be interested in someone and people aren't obligated to give a reply. It's literally stated in the site's F.A.Q or something."

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Thus is why I think an automated no thanks tick box next to delete would be great.

As it at least is a response of sorts for those that are sensitive to being ignored / deleted

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Best one I had.. trannie blocks me all I did was fab pics..find them on fab guys..they denied all knowledge of it..then blocked me.. I've now found them on another site....no of course it's not stalking..

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By *issalignedTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Blimey, I need a separate server for my block list

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Thus is why I think an automated no thanks tick box next to delete would be great.

As it at least is a response of sorts for those that are sensitive to being ignored / deleted "

I like this idea. It would probably help to stop lots of unwanted follow up messages too.

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

"I don’t get some people on here. Not sure if other experience it however twice now…

Example -

Absolutely no pressure or suggestions etc. no “your not my thing, too young, sorry but not interested. Even complimented her fella for goodness sake. - blocked.

I love FAB and have met some incredible people and experienced things sexually I never thought I would. However it also has its its fair share of rude people who spoil it!

Anyways rant over - hope everyone has an incredible evening x"

Why are you ranting and calling people who block rude? If you want to meet as a couple with your FWB then make a couple profile. Blocking means not interested. Accept it and move on.

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

"Thus is why I think an automated no thanks tick box next to delete would be great.

As it at least is a response of sorts for those that are sensitive to being ignored / deleted "

But then they would be asking why it's no thanks, that tends to be what happens quite often.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I been blocked by people I've not conversed with ! I'm assuming from forum comments they don't agree with! Petty but hey ho! None as strange a folk lol x"

I think it’s just sensible, if you are the sort of person who doesn’t find people attractive because they hold views you disagree with or find offensive then why not block?

We use people’s forum posts as an extra filter.

Mr DD

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

There is always a reason for someone to use the block button , they just may not tell you what it is.

It doesn't matter what the persons reasons are or whether you think because you sent a polite and complimentary mail that they should speak to you, if they want to block someone they can.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Thus is why I think an automated no thanks tick box next to delete would be great.

As it at least is a response of sorts for those that are sensitive to being ignored / deleted

But then they would be asking why it's no thanks, that tends to be what happens quite often. "

Not if auto blocked them for 30 days like the way the wink works

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Best one I had.. trannie blocks me all I did was fab pics..find them on fab guys..they denied all knowledge of it..then blocked me.. I've now found them on another site....no of course it's not stalking..

lol I get blocked by loads of trannies when I look at their profiles or like some picks. Especially notice it with other TS like me with boobs / face surgeries etc. TS with other TS are some of the funniest interactions online here

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Block them back get it off your chest two can play at this game

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Blimey, I need a separate server for my block list

This

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

This sounds really entitled. You don’t know how they use their block button, you don’t know why they blocked. It’s a no because you’re not what they’re after. Don’t worry about it.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I been blocked by people I've not conversed with ! I'm assuming from forum comments they don't agree with! Petty but hey ho! None as strange a folk lol x

I think it’s just sensible, if you are the sort of person who doesn’t find people attractive because they hold views you disagree with or find offensive then why not block?

We use people’s forum posts as an extra filter.

Mr DD"

Majority of our block list is from forum posts too. Although I'm unsure why anyone would take issue with this, we weren't friends and they've suddenly been cut off etc. Really has no impact on anyones life.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll be absolutely honest but we don't respond to single men who offer to meet us with a woman from their single profile. "

This

advertising one thing asking for another. Nope.

We won't meet single ladies asking us to meet with their FWB either

Mrs C

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"OP I have to ask. When you get scam calls or the spam mail through your letter box, do you phone them up/write a letter to them to say you're not interested?"

Yes. Dominos sent through a flier and I rang them up with the intention to tell them to stop...

You can guess the rest.

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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago

Colne

Regardless what you think is right and wrong... Remember there's humans on the other side of that profile. They (like me) have probably had negative experiences by telling someone no so blocking is the easiest way of saying no without having to potentially deal with abuse or further messages asking why they're not interested.

We all have a right to protect our mental health and use fab in the best way we see fit.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I'll be absolutely honest but we don't respond to single men who offer to meet us with a woman from their single profile. "

Ditto, our experience is that when we ask to contact said female (whom we accept might not be on here) then there's often an excuse which backs us away..

Not critiquing the Ops profile but there's no mention of any FWB arrangement si that's another red flag..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The block button is a site tool that people use for countless reasons myself included

I never give a second thought why folk have pressed it to block me.. their profile their choice

If you're gonna try and figure out why you were youre wasting time energy and likely your enjoyment on the sitr will be less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've taken to blocking anyone

I'm not interested in,

that looks like drama,

that plays games,

sends me a dickhead message, unsolicited cock pic,

Video of them fucking someone else.

Won't send a face pic,

Moves the day of a social,

Cancels a social,

There are several things on a profile that will be an instant block if I see them.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

My favourite are the ones who send verbal abuse then block me after sending it. Like, dude, you did me a favour.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

PS - I have just added everyone on this thread to my block list. All. Of. You.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I use the block button a lot but I’ve never blocked anyone from the forum. Don’t see the point really. Still see the posts etc. I’ve not noticed anyone from the forum has blocked me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez, take it easy

I block people I won't talk ever just because I don't like their pictures /profile, I block after multiple messages if a conversation is going nowhere, I block if something pissed me off during a conversation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PS - I have just added everyone on this thread to my block list. All. Of. You."

How rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PS - I have just added everyone on this thread to my block list. All. Of. You."

Good way of sorting out unlucky people

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah I don't care for being blocked here. People use it differently to say, insta where you have probably said something they found awful. Here people use it to narrow down what they are looking for and probably get a little trigger happy with it

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

"I been blocked by people I've not conversed with ! I'm assuming from forum comments they don't agree with! Petty but hey ho! None as strange a folk lol x"

This

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Forget about sending messages op and join in with forum/cam room chat. Get noticed.

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