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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt

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By *lendermanMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I find any variation of "you want fuck" generally yields good results. Include a dick pic

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Tbh I thought that was exactly what they was saying they didn't want.

I'll get back with my results lok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There all the same different hair cuts

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Lol ok

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Don't be boring. Also here's me looking sexy and a profile saying dont be boring!

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Don't be boring. Also here's me looking sexy and a profile saying dont be boring!"

Have you got really short legs and a long body or is it just the angles?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"Don't be boring. Also here's me looking sexy and a profile saying dont be boring!

Have you got really short legs and a long body or is it just the angles?"

I didn't get called Mr torso for nothing! Don't make me stand on a shall and give ya some thumpin!

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Don't be boring. Also here's me looking sexy and a profile saying dont be boring!

Have you got really short legs and a long body or is it just the angles?

I didn't get called Mr torso for nothing! Don't make me stand on a shall and give ya some thumpin!"

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Sounds like you two need to meet with a tape measure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The old "if you don't message with a face pic I won't reply" even though they don't have one makes the rejection even more personal after the face pic haha

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

I message with a face pic, I look far worse in pics than in real life, so I'm told.

I don't give a shit if they don't respond, maybe I should lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's uplifting when someone gives you top tips on how to message them . You're in with a chance, just don't be a dick

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

I don't think I'm ever a dick, just hard work in a big pond when you're not up for bullshit ting about yourself for results.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Your message will probably just be deleted if you don’t have a profile pic and your profile is boring so I’d say work on those 2 things if you want your message to have a better chance.

K

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

I stuck between a rock and a hard place.

The reason I don't have a profile pic is because I was on here as a couple with an ex and she's a bit of a headcase stalker

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I stuck between a rock and a hard place.

The reason I don't have a profile pic is because I was on here as a couple with an ex and she's a bit of a headcase stalker "

Take body pictures that aren't easily identifiable. No scars/tattoos.

(And use stealth mode - who's looked at me, you can remove yourself from that in the settings. See if you can find her profile and preemptively block her)

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

This woman has more social media accounts than you can shake a stick at.

Probably done the same thing on here.

Has contacted my ex wife, previous partner and my kids.

Unfortunately it's just not worth the risk.

I always send pics when I message someone though

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"This woman has more social media accounts than you can shake a stick at.

Probably done the same thing on here.

Has contacted my ex wife, previous partner and my kids.

Unfortunately it's just not worth the risk.

I always send pics when I message someone though"

Unfortunately many women look at profiles before they reply, and (along with unoriginal messages) may dramatically reduce your chances of success.

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

I totally get that.

It is what it is unfortunately

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

How about “oi oi sugartits! I’ve not seen tits like that since Bill Oddie’s last programme”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt "

It's not difficult to not be boring so I don't understand the issue.

Just show you have read my bio and identified some areas of compatibility and I'll reply. Probably asking for a face pic because I'm fussy about where I sit

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton


"How about “oi oi sugartits! I’ve not seen tits like that since Bill Oddie’s last programme”

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I tried but I'm outside your age range

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt

It's not difficult to not be boring so I don't understand the issue.

Just show you have read my bio and identified some areas of compatibility and I'll reply. Probably asking for a face pic because I'm fussy about where I sit "

I do read the profiles and I wouldn't say I was boring either.

With the greatest of respect as a woman you would have far more responses than a single guy.

I know this from being on here previously as a couple and my ex having a single profile.

I have a very comfy sofa by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I do read the profiles and I wouldn't say I was boring either.."

Then I still don't understand your issue here?

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton

It was simply a question/conversation asking what women respond to in an intro message.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It was simply a question/conversation asking what women respond to in an intro message.

"

Something to do with their profile, get ideas from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was simply a question/conversation asking what women respond to in an intro message.

Something to do with their profile, get ideas from there."

This. Give us a reason why you're messaging us specifically, that doesn't sound like you could send it to everyone.

Don't say "hi sexy! How's ur day?"

Do say "Hi, great profile, it sounds like we some have common desires. I'm looking for someone to practice shibari with too. Have you been to Anatomie Studios?"

Give us some substance. A little work, some effort. No one wants a low effort lover...

You never get a second chance at a first impression and if you need to keep your pics private and bio blank you'll need to work a bit harder on those intros.

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton


"It was simply a question/conversation asking what women respond to in an intro message.

Something to do with their profile, get ideas from there.

This. Give us a reason why you're messaging us specifically, that doesn't sound like you could send it to everyone.

Don't say "hi sexy! How's ur day?"

Do say "Hi, great profile, it sounds like we some have common desires. I'm looking for someone to practice shibari with too. Have you been to Anatomie Studios?"

Give us some substance. A little work, some effort. No one wants a low effort lover...

You never get a second chance at a first impression and if you need to keep your pics private and bio blank you'll need to work a bit harder on those intros."

Lol, bit harsh considering you don't know what my initial messages are like.

Oh, I've no idea what shibari is

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton


"It was simply a question/conversation asking what women respond to in an intro message.

Something to do with their profile, get ideas from there.

This. Give us a reason why you're messaging us specifically, that doesn't sound like you could send it to everyone.

Don't say "hi sexy! How's ur day?"

Do say "Hi, great profile, it sounds like we some have common desires. I'm looking for someone to practice shibari with too. Have you been to Anatomie Studios?"

Give us some substance. A little work, some effort. No one wants a low effort lover...

You never get a second chance at a first impression and if you need to keep your pics private and bio blank you'll need to work a bit harder on those intros.

Lol, bit harsh considering you don't know what my initial messages are like.

Oh, I've no idea what shibari is "

I do now of course cos I looked it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lol, bit harsh considering you don't know what my initial messages are like.

Oh, I've no idea what shibari is "

I only know what most of my inbox looks like and was basing it off that. Nothing personal at all.

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton


"

Lol, bit harsh considering you don't know what my initial messages are like.

Oh, I've no idea what shibari is

I only know what most of my inbox looks like and was basing it off that. Nothing personal at all. "

None taken

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt "
Unfortunately if you can't think of anything to say that unfortunately won't help your cause here even if it just casual NSA meets they like to fancy you and like your personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find any variation of "you want fuck" generally yields good results. Include a dick pic "

Don't listen to this guy. Always start with a greeting and asking how they are.

"Hi hw r u?' " works well.

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By *aised_By_Wolv3sMan
over a year ago

Leinster


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt "

It's the same as people who shame vanilla sex all the time on here. Its amazing if both people enjoy it and It's not your fault if they gotta have their leg in a bear trap and get punched in the face to cum. They need to Relax

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By *ximia OP   Man
over a year ago

Sutton


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt

It's the same as people who shame vanilla sex all the time on here. Its amazing if both people enjoy it and It's not your fault if they gotta have their leg in a bear trap and get punched in the face to cum. They need to Relax "

Lol

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m not too bothered about the opening message as long as it’s not sexual or sickly over complimentary. I always click on profile and pics anyway before I open a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt "

It's just like chatting to people IRL. You make an interesting comment, ask them about themselves.

Why would anyone want to receive 30 messages a day that all say "How're u?"? But that's what happens to lots of women and couples - so another "How're u?" from a silhouette isn't going to stand out.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I stuck between a rock and a hard place.

The reason I don't have a profile pic is because I was on here as a couple with an ex and she's a bit of a headcase stalker "

Then your message would have to be the equivalent to Tolkien to get read as you fall down on a bland profile and no pics - which is the 3 areas you usually need to do well on here.

K

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"How many times do you read "don't start with a boring message"

Where the fuck do you start without saying you have 12 toes and Cynthia Payne is your aunt "

If this is true, why would you not want to start with that? It's very interesting.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A lonely piano intro overlaid with guitars building to a crescendo as the drums come in is a good knicker dropper.

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