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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm doing the cheating, it's understandable and acceptable.

If I'm being cheated on, then it's disgusting unacceptable behaviour.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"It is what it is "

I’m guessing your not against cheating?.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"If I'm doing the cheating, it's understandable and acceptable.

If I'm being cheated on, then it's disgusting unacceptable behaviour."

Lmaoooo

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By *ros40Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It's fine

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The vast majority will say it's wrong. Some will say they're fine with it. By far the majority will keep very quiet on the subject.

Personally I think it's best to avoid drama and let other people worry about their own conscience

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By *agebunWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

Different people are going to have different morals and different boundaries.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If I'm doing the cheating, it's understandable and acceptable.

If I'm being cheated on, then it's disgusting unacceptable behaviour."

Yep that about sums it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what it is

I’m guessing your not against cheating?."

I am against cheating. But people will still do it regardless of my views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I’m a naughty boy that feels like I’m missing out on certain things

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

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Agree to disagree

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

People have different opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating isn't always wrong, there's generally a reason why people cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not cheating enough is my issue.

It’s fine as long as love exists in other area, I’m clear on sex and love and I want both so I’m a greedy chest in that respect.. but when push comes to shove and my loyalty is test the. It’s family all the way.

Confusing if so I’m not apologetic for that

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Cheating isn't always wrong, there's generally a reason why people cheat. "

I’m just a freak Lool I don’t just eat one thing at the buffet

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It’s not my bag.

But if people are then they should make that clear so those of us who choose to avoid can make an informed choice.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

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Not really. In terms of that it's no different to watching porn, or being on any other forum. It entirely depends what you are actually doing.

Intent and attempt to cheat is still not cheating. Differing degrees of questionable behaviour but it's not cheating. It does bring up the question of why are you hiding it from a partner if it's honest and above board of course. But it's still not cheating.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I love these threads because they make things much easier

LvM

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"It’s not my bag.

But if people are then they should make that clear so those of us who choose to avoid can make an informed choice."

People tend to state discretion I’m sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

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There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on. "

The assumption that swinger's are easy.

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By *ay VhonMan
over a year ago

gods country


"Cheating isn't always wrong, there's generally a reason why people cheat. "

He’s right not everyone on here are just out to be serial cheaters.

There are reasons why some people are here.

I believe in live and let live. Xxx

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And that should be respected xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating isn't always wrong, there's generally a reason why people cheat. "

Oh you mean there is generally an excuse when they get caught ?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"It’s not my bag.

But if people are then they should make that clear so those of us who choose to avoid can make an informed choice.

People tend to state discretion I’m sure "

I don’t want discretion. I want to avoid people here with partners who are unaware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eating is cheating apparently so just stay clear of oral and you're golden.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on. "

Because ultimately it's just a fuck site so of course they will flock here

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"It’s not my bag.

But if people are then they should make that clear so those of us who choose to avoid can make an informed choice.

People tend to state discretion I’m sure

I don’t want discretion. I want to avoid people here with partners who are unaware "

I think you misunderstood, I’m saying that people that have partners or married state discretion on profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on.

The assumption that swinger's are easy."

Disappointing and true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I agree with it? No.

I think it's one of the lowest things you can do to a person.

Would I meet am attached guy? Yes.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Do I agree with it? No.

I think it's one of the lowest things you can do to a person.

Would I meet am attached guy? Yes.

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This is a conundrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I think cheating is right? No.

Am I going to beat someone with a moral stick who does? Also, no.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on.

Because ultimately it's just a fuck site so of course they will flock here"

Most definitely isn't "just a fuck site"

We are here as a couple for us it's a personal lifestyle choice that we use for social engagement with like-minded people.

It's disrespectful to say it's just a fuck site, problem seems to be too many singles treating it as just that.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't agree with it. I don't want to be involved with anyone behind their partners back.

There are people that are all for it, and that's whatever. But I should be able to make an informed choice regarding the people I choose to sleep with, and so should everyone else

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"It’s not my bag.

But if people are then they should make that clear so those of us who choose to avoid can make an informed choice.

People tend to state discretion I’m sure

I don’t want discretion. I want to avoid people here with partners who are unaware

I think you misunderstood, I’m saying that people that have partners or married state discretion on profile. "

Single people and couples state discretion too. That’s nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not my bag.

But if people are then they should make that clear so those of us who choose to avoid can make an informed choice."

Agree. I understand why some people do it - been in a loveless / sexless marriage myself for example.

But for me swinging is all about consent from everyone involved, and if you are cheating your partner did not consent. So, not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do I agree with it? No.

I think it's one of the lowest things you can do to a person.

Would I meet am attached guy? Yes.

This is a conundrum "

Is it? I'm not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Do I think cheating is right? No.

Am I going to beat someone with a moral stick who does? Also, no."

Would you meet someone knowing that they’re attached?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on.

Because ultimately it's just a fuck site so of course they will flock here

Most definitely isn't "just a fuck site"

We are here as a couple for us it's a personal lifestyle choice that we use for social engagement with like-minded people.

It's disrespectful to say it's just a fuck site, problem seems to be too many singles treating it as just that."

Single women may treat it as a fuck site.

Single men just assume it's a fuck site....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do I agree with it? No.

I think it's one of the lowest things you can do to a person.

Would I meet am attached guy? Yes.

This is a conundrum "

Humans are walking, talking contradictions

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting.

There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on.

Because ultimately it's just a fuck site so of course they will flock here

Most definitely isn't "just a fuck site"

We are here as a couple for us it's a personal lifestyle choice that we use for social engagement with like-minded people.

It's disrespectful to say it's just a fuck site, problem seems to be too many singles treating it as just that."

Oh well. Colour me disrespectful so. It's a fuck site

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"Cheating isn't always wrong, there's generally a reason why people cheat.

I’m just a freak Lool I don’t just eat one thing at the buffet "

Then be honest about it. Cheating fucks people up and sometimes the damage is irreparable

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Do I agree with it? No.

I think it's one of the lowest things you can do to a person.

Would I meet am attached guy? Yes.

I like you, we should play chess

This is a conundrum

Is it? I'm not cheating. "

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

like everything, everyone will have a different opinion?

Surely the only thing that matters is your own opinion on it and surround yourself with people who think the same?

I’m totally against it. Will only meet those who share my opinion. No big deal. Live and let live for the rest of them I just avoid. No big deal.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Let people do what they want to do.

If it isn't affecting you personally what is the issue?

Everyone has varying morals, those morals should not be subjected onto others.

Have a met an attached man in the past? Yes, frequently. Do I regret it? Yes mostly because it turns out he was a nut job

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."
So i guess you ask that question because you are, i don't personally care what you do but the ladies of the forum might, i would have kept it to myself.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble "

Your breaking my heart now, was hoping to meet you Lool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

Your breaking my heart now, was hoping to meet you Lool "

That would have been a no regardless of your marital status

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By *anzer FernandoMan
over a year ago

Over the seas and far away

People are often very judgey without taking the time to think about the myriad circumstances others may find themselves in.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different.So i guess you ask that question because you are, i don't personally care what you do but the ladies of the forum might, i would have kept it to myself. "

I am and still will. I don’t see it as wrong, I’m not married Lool tbh I wouldn’t mind my gf seeing other men

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I just don't get how people are able to cheat!

I struggle enough to find a partner or 1 person to date, nevermind additional, either for ons or longterm affair.

It seems exhausting too. Though I am a very picky fucker too.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Nah they pretend they don't because morally correct. But they just want a good dicking. Or so was the case last time around

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different.So i guess you ask that question because you are, i don't personally care what you do but the ladies of the forum might, i would have kept it to myself.

I am and still will. I don’t see it as wrong, I’m not married Lool tbh I wouldn’t mind my gf seeing other men "
Well why call it cheating if she doesn't mind you being here

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

Cheating has no place in ethical non monogamy.

Anyone who tolerates it or makes excuses for it is just confirming all the bad stereotypes in the pubic domain.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

Your breaking my heart now, was hoping to meet you Lool

That would have been a no regardless of your marital status "

I already knew that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble "

See I don't agree with this.

I've been cheated on in the worst possible way and yeah, it destroys a person.

I never blamed anyone but my ex partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

See I don't agree with this.

I've been cheated on in the worst possible way and yeah, it destroys a person.

I never blamed anyone but my ex partner. "

I equally blamed the women mine slept with knowing full well I existed. That’s not cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do I agree with it? No.

I think it's one of the lowest things you can do to a person.

Would I meet am attached guy? Yes.

I like you, we should play chess

This is a conundrum

Is it? I'm not cheating. "

No we shouldnt

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different.So i guess you ask that question because you are, i don't personally care what you do but the ladies of the forum might, i would have kept it to myself.

I am and still will. I don’t see it as wrong, I’m not married Lool tbh I wouldn’t mind my gf seeing other men Well why call it cheating if she doesn't mind you being here "

Good point, I like you

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

I’m amoral & don’t care.

But...I’m the product of an uncaring amoral world.

Where good is rarely rewarded & evil thrives.

Do what you want, just don’t get caught.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different.So i guess you ask that question because you are, i don't personally care what you do but the ladies of the forum might, i would have kept it to myself.

I am and still will. I don’t see it as wrong, I’m not married Lool tbh I wouldn’t mind my gf seeing other men Well why call it cheating if she doesn't mind you being here

Good point, I like you "
really omg i have a friend

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I’m amoral & don’t care.

But...I’m the product of an uncaring amoral world.

Where good is rarely rewarded & evil thrives.

Do what you want, just don’t get caught. "

This sounds like the beginning of a life quote, potentially. I like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

See I don't agree with this.

I've been cheated on in the worst possible way and yeah, it destroys a person.

I never blamed anyone but my ex partner.

I equally blamed the women mine slept with knowing full well I existed. That’s not cool "

But they didn't make a commitment to you? Unless they were close friends, you ultimately meant nothing to them.

I don't blame a woman I've never met who doesn't know me for destroying me, I blame the guy that did know me and made promises to me and lied to my face.

But my morals are clearly squiffed!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"People are often very judgey without taking the time to think about the myriad circumstances others may find themselves in."

There is no circumstance that makes it ok IMO. So yes, I absolutely judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

See I don't agree with this.

I've been cheated on in the worst possible way and yeah, it destroys a person.

I never blamed anyone but my ex partner.

I equally blamed the women mine slept with knowing full well I existed. That’s not cool

But they didn't make a commitment to you? Unless they were close friends, you ultimately meant nothing to them.

I don't blame a woman I've never met who doesn't know me for destroying me, I blame the guy that did know me and made promises to me and lied to my face.

But my morals are clearly squiffed!

"

Clearly. It’s not about meaning something to anyone, it’s about showing a basic level of human decency to a fellow person. It’s one thing to shag a man you think is single and later find out not be, and completely different to shag a man you know full well has a partner at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway I’m out before I end up in the naughty corner again

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

There you go ! You knew the answer already.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

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Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many people genuinely think they would never cheat, right up to the point that they meet someone and then do so.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

"

Social construct yes, but not limited to just humans. A fair few other animal species mate and bond for life. Some even don't move on after the death of that mate. Humans are the weird one though, the whole self awareness thing mixed with free will makes everything very muddy waters.

Its a tricky subject and when it comes down to it, it's all about the respect for another person.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some women don't mind meeting anyone cheating,for others, like me it's a big no.

Be upfront about it to others though, I agree the discreet bit can be an indication, but it doesn't always equal cheating.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Some people rob banks or mug people.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Some women don't mind meeting anyone cheating,for others, like me it's a big no.

Be upfront about it to others though, I agree the discreet bit can be an indication, but it doesn't always equal cheating. "

Yeah I thought that as I typed it

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

Social construct yes, but not limited to just humans. A fair few other animal species mate and bond for life. Some even don't move on after the death of that mate. Humans are the weird one though, the whole self awareness thing mixed with free will makes everything very muddy waters.

Its a tricky subject and when it comes down to it, it's all about the respect for another person. "

Humans will twist and adjust a lot of things just to make sense/make peace with what they chose to do.

That's not me disagreeing with Brucey, just what makes it such a very complex subject.

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over a year ago


"It is what it is "

I suppose if you’re a swinger you get what you get.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty "

So why not ask your partner if they'll allow you to meet others or if she wants to get involved in all this?

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

Social construct yes, but not limited to just humans. A fair few other animal species mate and bond for life. Some even don't move on after the death of that mate. Humans are the weird one though, the whole self awareness thing mixed with free will makes everything very muddy waters.

Its a tricky subject and when it comes down to it, it's all about the respect for another person. "

What's to say those animals don't cheat though? No science study has ever followed the lives of those animals throughout so you never knowwww...

Just being devil's advocate!

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty

So why not ask your partner if they'll allow you to meet others or if she wants to get involved in all this? "

She definitely wouldn’t go for that, I know her very well

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

Social construct yes, but not limited to just humans. A fair few other animal species mate and bond for life. Some even don't move on after the death of that mate. Humans are the weird one though, the whole self awareness thing mixed with free will makes everything very muddy waters.

Its a tricky subject and when it comes down to it, it's all about the respect for another person. "

Social construct may be the thing. But honesty is the answer.

My partners know that I'm non monogamous. That exclusivity was never on the table. And that I will keep them informed of anything relevant to our relationship or their sexual risk profile.

So what I do is not cheating. Everything is with informed and enthusiastic consent.

It's the people who lead the people they supposedly care about to believe that they're the only one, that's where the problem lies for me. If you'll lie to the people you supposedly care about, I can't trust you to be honest with me as a casual interest about risk profiles or anything else I should know about, and I don’t want to put the people I care about at risk

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty

So why not ask your partner if they'll allow you to meet others or if she wants to get involved in all this?

She definitely wouldn’t go for that, I know her very well "

She probably thinks she knows you very well too…

In reality she might be on here hiding it too

Least you’d know the answer

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Keep in mind I look like a Viking, make sense now. Look at the stuff them mofos got up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

Do you mean the score of how many people will block others that have commented on this thread be ause of their view?

And how many will get a ban for biting?

Or how many people comment saying it's wrong while hiding the fact they are actually attached which I have to say is pretty rife in the forums?

I wouldn't even like to guess as these threads always cause problems.

Can we do a tally as we go? We could give the job to the first person in the naughty step. Save them twiddling their thumbs.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty

So why not ask your partner if they'll allow you to meet others or if she wants to get involved in all this?

She definitely wouldn’t go for that, I know her very well

She probably thinks she knows you very well too…

In reality she might be on here hiding it too

Least you’d know the answer "

I would love it if she was on here Lool

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different.

Do you mean the score of how many people will block others that have commented on this thread be ause of their view?

And how many will get a ban for biting?

Or how many people comment saying it's wrong while hiding the fact they are actually attached which I have to say is pretty rife in the forums?

I wouldn't even like to guess as these threads always cause problems.

Can we do a tally as we go? We could give the job to the first person in the naughty step. Save them twiddling their thumbs.

"

It’s all good banter and conversation

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

Social construct yes, but not limited to just humans. A fair few other animal species mate and bond for life. Some even don't move on after the death of that mate. Humans are the weird one though, the whole self awareness thing mixed with free will makes everything very muddy waters.

Its a tricky subject and when it comes down to it, it's all about the respect for another person.

What's to say those animals don't cheat though? No science study has ever followed the lives of those animals throughout so you never knowwww...

Just being devil's advocate!"

Penguins have. As have wolves. And they are just two. These behaviours have been well researched through observation including tracking of multiple members of the species.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Nice tits btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're married or attached and on a site like this without your partners knowledge, you've already cheated even without meeting. "

^ this.

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London


"Is it morally right? Hell no.

Has it happened since forever and will it always happen - hell yes.

It's honestly just one of those things. Also depends on definitions of cheating. Controversially, I do think relationships and sex being linked to one partner is a social construct. Cavemen and animals fucked around all the time. In wartimes, many women fucked the men that stayed at home while their husbands were away. Does it make people terrible, no I don't think so, but it does make them somewhat selfish.

Social construct yes, but not limited to just humans. A fair few other animal species mate and bond for life. Some even don't move on after the death of that mate. Humans are the weird one though, the whole self awareness thing mixed with free will makes everything very muddy waters.

Its a tricky subject and when it comes down to it, it's all about the respect for another person.

Social construct may be the thing. But honesty is the answer.

My partners know that I'm non monogamous. That exclusivity was never on the table. And that I will keep them informed of anything relevant to our relationship or their sexual risk profile.

So what I do is not cheating. Everything is with informed and enthusiastic consent.

It's the people who lead the people they supposedly care about to believe that they're the only one, that's where the problem lies for me. If you'll lie to the people you supposedly care about, I can't trust you to be honest with me as a casual interest about risk profiles or anything else I should know about, and I don’t want to put the people I care about at risk "

But that's it isn't it.

I guess many are non monogamous people out there but living in a 'generally' monogamous society, it conflicts with that. Which is fine if you have accepted who you are and the lifestyle but not if you want the whole kids thing and chances are 90 percent or more of people you meet are going to conform to that monogamous lifestyle.

Again I'm not justifying anything here but it is complex I think

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Of course cheating is wrong.. swinging should be done with consent separately or together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

If you have a partner and you swing no its called swinging but if they go behind your back and you not know that is a cheater

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty

So why not ask your partner if they'll allow you to meet others or if she wants to get involved in all this?

She definitely wouldn’t go for that, I know her very well

She probably thinks she knows you very well too…

In reality she might be on here hiding it too

Least you’d know the answer

I would love it if she was on here Lool "

The thing is op, if she ever finds you're on a site like this behind her back , she could make the decision that your relationship is over.

It does happen & people can easily become suspicious, if having more experiences is worth that risk, go for it. Remember though that actions have consequences, so as long as you're prepared to deal with those, that's your choice to live with.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"So because we’re more civilised than say a pride of lions. Male lion sleeps with how ever many lionesses are in the pride. They stick around and aren’t phased. I want a bit of variety in my life, adventure and new experiences. I’m always gonna feel like this no matter what relationship I’m in. Am I robbing myself not seeking these new adventures?. One day it may be to late and I’ll have regretted not being naughty

So why not ask your partner if they'll allow you to meet others or if she wants to get involved in all this?

She definitely wouldn’t go for that, I know her very well

She probably thinks she knows you very well too…

In reality she might be on here hiding it too

Least you’d know the answer

I would love it if she was on here Lool

The thing is op, if she ever finds you're on a site like this behind her back , she could make the decision that your relationship is over.

It does happen & people can easily become suspicious, if having more experiences is worth that risk, go for it. Remember though that actions have consequences, so as long as you're prepared to deal with those, that's your choice to live with. "

I understand and this is food for thought although I don’t think I’ll ever change. Haven’t been caught so far but every dog has his day I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how good you are at hiding it to be honest. If you're great at lying and deceiving and never get caught, then the problem never manifests and no one is hurt.

But if you're a terrible liar then cheating wouldn't be your strong suit either so best to be faithful and avoid any hurt or heartache...

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble "

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"But that's it isn't it.

I guess many are non monogamous people out there but living in a 'generally' monogamous society, it conflicts with that. Which is fine if you have accepted who you are and the lifestyle but not if you want the whole kids thing and chances are 90 percent or more of people you meet are going to conform to that monogamous lifestyle.

Again I'm not justifying anything here but it is complex I think"

One of my partners does the whole family thing. That's his primary and nesting relationship and being a secondary or bit of fun on the side is what I signed up for from the beginning. Non monogamy doesn't exclude traditional family life, just means that they take turns having nights in with the spawn so the other can see their other partners and enjoy themselves outside of the family unit.

I'm not compatible with monogamous people. So I don't date them. Same as I don't date tories or homophobes or people whose moral views differ too violently to my own. Dating someone monogamous and lying to them isn't okay just so you can get your rocks off and lie them into believing they're happy and having a successful relationship.

Most people are incompatible with 99.99% of people for various reasons. Pretending a glaring issue isn't an issue doesn't help anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes."

I'm as bad as the guy lying to his wife of 10+years whom he devoted his life to?

Am I fuck.

The ironic thing is, so many women on here commenting how bad it is knowingly chat and flirt to attached guys. But I guess that's ok.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I guess in a nutshell, everyone is different. Is anyone in here truly innocent and pure?. That’s not a question to answer btw. Some people cheat some people do other things no matter how big or small, everything in life can’t always be the right way/the good way, the world doesn’t work like that does it. Some people like the dark side and the dark side is exciting and like forbidden fruit sort of thing

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

It's disgraceful behaviour.

If someone wants to cheat then their relationship is shit to begin with.

I've never cheated and never would, but I have been cheated on and it's not nice at all.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes.

I'm as bad as the guy lying to his wife of 10+years whom he devoted his life to?

Am I fuck.

The ironic thing is, so many women on here commenting how bad it is knowingly chat and flirt to attached guys. But I guess that's ok. "

I wouldn't knowingly engage with a married man/or someone cheating, ever.

Yes in my eyes, emphasis on me, someone that would get involved with a married man/woman is just as bad. Have some common decency and choose a single man/woman. Its really not that hard!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes.

I'm as bad as the guy lying to his wife of 10+years whom he devoted his life to?

Am I fuck.

The ironic thing is, so many women on here commenting how bad it is knowingly chat and flirt to attached guys. But I guess that's ok.

I wouldn't knowingly engage with a married man/or someone cheating, ever.

Yes in my eyes, emphasis on me, someone that would get involved with a married man/woman is just as bad. Have some common decency and choose a single man/woman. Its really not that hard!!"

Yeah but, what if he's really hot?

Like super hot?

Then it's ok right?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes.

I'm as bad as the guy lying to his wife of 10+years whom he devoted his life to?

Am I fuck.

The ironic thing is, so many women on here commenting how bad it is knowingly chat and flirt to attached guys. But I guess that's ok.

I wouldn't knowingly engage with a married man/or someone cheating, ever.

Yes in my eyes, emphasis on me, someone that would get involved with a married man/woman is just as bad. Have some common decency and choose a single man/woman. Its really not that hard!!

Yeah but, what if he's really hot?

Like super hot?

Then it's ok right?

"

Um it might be to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bloke on fab, cheating, will make it known. Total scumbag, and will have his arsehole torn wide open generally.

A woman on fab, cheating, you probably won’t know because she’ll be keeping it schtum from everyone. And if she did let the info out, it’ll be the blokes fault and most the guys will fuck her anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes.

I'm as bad as the guy lying to his wife of 10+years whom he devoted his life to?

Am I fuck.

The ironic thing is, so many women on here commenting how bad it is knowingly chat and flirt to attached guys. But I guess that's ok.

I wouldn't knowingly engage with a married man/or someone cheating, ever.

Yes in my eyes, emphasis on me, someone that would get involved with a married man/woman is just as bad. Have some common decency and choose a single man/woman. Its really not that hard!!"

I know how it feels. I know what you say. Just do not entertain it is my moto. It is the wife or husband I feel for.

I have chatted to people on here then they go am attached or married simply block after they tell me. Saves me time enough to engage further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bloke on fab, cheating, will make it known. Total scumbag, and will have his arsehole torn wide open generally.

A woman on fab, cheating, you probably won’t know because she’ll be keeping it schtum from everyone. And if she did let the info out, it’ll be the blokes fault and most the guys will fuck her anyway. "

There is that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't realise we can't even talk to an attached person now. Is it catching? I don't sleep with men playing away, I fail to see how chatting or even being friends with them is problematic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t meet an attached man because I’ve had it done to me and it almost broke me. Women who meet men knowing they’re attached thinking it’s all on the man and they are blameless in wrecking families need to give their heads a wobble

This exactly for me too. If you are knowingly getting involved with a married man/woman, you are just as bad in my eyes.

I'm as bad as the guy lying to his wife of 10+years whom he devoted his life to?

Am I fuck.

The ironic thing is, so many women on here commenting how bad it is knowingly chat and flirt to attached guys. But I guess that's ok.

I wouldn't knowingly engage with a married man/or someone cheating, ever.

Yes in my eyes, emphasis on me, someone that would get involved with a married man/woman is just as bad. Have some common decency and choose a single man/woman. Its really not that hard!!

Yeah but, what if he's really hot?

Like super hot?

Then it's ok right?

"

Not for me but each to their own.

Hot.. Where

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"A bloke on fab, cheating, will make it known. Total scumbag, and will have his arsehole torn wide open generally.

A woman on fab, cheating, you probably won’t know because she’ll be keeping it schtum from everyone. And if she did let the info out, it’ll be the blokes fault and most the guys will fuck her anyway. "

People only tell if they want to. They pretend they are being open and honest lol- laughable.

Plenty of both sexes hiding it, and equally all scumbags lol.

If people are gonna be open about it they are gonna expect people with have opinions on it and act accordingly.

At least people openly advertising it allow for others to make a more informed choice.

I’d never meet someone cheating, but equally I play in sex clubs. I always ask but I’m not a detective ha

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Different people have different morals.

To me it's wrong and I won't get involved with anyone man or woman cheating, if they have that little respect for the person they are supposed to love what respect can I as a random meet expect.

Swinging is a bit of fun for us I've no desire to get into anyone's drama.

Mrs

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I have no opinion on what is happening in other peoples lives. I don't agree with cheating but would I cheat? Hopefully not but until you are in that situation really not something I can answer.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Cheating isn't swinging

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Tbh I couldn't give a toss about judging his marriage. I care when a coward cannot tell me upfront he is married and takes away my consent, to choose whether or not to participate In an affair with him. I will choose whether to invite drama to my door, not him...

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By *eterandJaneadventuresCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

If a person is prepared to loose all they have by cheating , that’s their penance. If they are cheating behind their partners back ( or plan to ) they need to be honest with who they ‘meet up with’ so that person can have the option to say no or yes ( as you will be the sole decision maker of your loss) . Just our view point

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

If its going to cause someone nom consensual pain and strife then it's wrong.

If its been agreed then it isn't cheating so....

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Don't agree with it

But what anyone else decided to do it's them not me...

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

People will use any excuse to justify getting their end's away.

Ultimately some want their cake and to eat it regardless of how happy they are at home,how amazing their partners are some are never satisfied.

How many footballers or film stars have we seen married to sexy wives or handsome husbands yet still play away.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"If a person is prepared to loose all they have by cheating , that’s their penance. If they are cheating behind their partners back ( or plan to ) they need to be honest with who they ‘meet up with’ so that person can have the option to say no or yes ( as you will be the sole decision maker of your loss) . Just our view point "

The problem being of course that they've already decided it's okay to lie to their spouse and keep them in the dark. How can you expect a casual encounter to be treated with more respect?

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

It's wrong to cheat....not a nice feeling being the victim. Nearly ruined me years ago .....don't do it folks

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

Cheating is disgusting, there is no excuse at all for it. It’s a heart breaking experience for the person that’s cheated on and the trust is shattered.

Break a mirror, glue it back together, it will never be the same again.

Mrs

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I am single so not cheating but I've met with men who are.

There are a lot of different reasons people cheat, I don't judge, but I know that there will be some of you judging me now.

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By *dinson1983Man
over a year ago

Wakefield

Just say no to the c word and I dint mean the 4 letter one.

People will do what they want regardless. Honesty is always best. But let's be honest a huge chunk of the fellas on here are all cheating, so are women. Just not as many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its wrong if anyone is getting hurt. There are people who cheat with knowledge and permission but its not on if its hurting the other partner

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Personally I don’t want to get sexually involved with anyone who is deceiving a partner. There are so many people in the world who are NOT cheating, whether they’re single or ENM.

I can’t speak to anything like that being UNIVERSALLY wrong. Dan Savage used to say “If you can’t leave for practical reasons - like having kids together - but you’re in an untenable situation, DO WHAT YOU CAN TO STAY MARRIED AND SANE.”

But it’s not for me.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"I am single so not cheating but I've met with men who are.

There are a lot of different reasons people cheat, I don't judge, but I know that there will be some of you judging me now. "

I’d judge him before I’d judge you. It’s not your marriage or relationship, it’s his.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"Its wrong if anyone is getting hurt. There are people who cheat with knowledge and permission but its not on if its hurting the other partner"

I wouldn’t consider that cheating. Cheating is breaking the rules of that particular relationship that you agreed on together, whatever those are. To my mind, anyway.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Its wrong if anyone is getting hurt. There are people who cheat with knowledge and permission but its not on if its hurting the other partner"

If it’s done with permission then it’s not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to cheat on my wife. Have done since first weeks of our marriage. Turns me on that I can do it.

Not a nice answer but an honest one.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Its wrong if anyone is getting hurt. There are people who cheat with knowledge and permission but its not on if its hurting the other partner"

I like this

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By *eorgesdad69Man
over a year ago

Long Eaton

A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X"

Ask a man’s wife if she thinks it’s cheating when she finds out her husbands fucking a guy

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X"

The gender or genitalia of the person they're cheating with doesn't change the fact that it's cheating.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X"

Well that’s a new one on me…

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By *eorgesdad69Man
over a year ago

Long Eaton


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X

Ask a man’s wife if she thinks it’s cheating when she finds out her husbands fucking a guy "

Hehe I was being a mischievous devil with my statement But in reality it wouldn’t be the cheating element that would piss off the wife it would be that he is bisexual ooer vicar haha

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X

Ask a man’s wife if she thinks it’s cheating when she finds out her husbands fucking a guy

Hehe I was being a mischievous devil with my statement But in reality it wouldn’t be the cheating element that would piss off the wife it would be that he is bisexual ooer vicar haha "

Lool

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby


"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

It's shades of grey for me.

For instance, my wife and I both know our limits for what is allowed when we swing (together or separately), but I've also had intimate encounters with a married lady whose husband didn't know (as far as I was aware) that she was on Fab.

I'm now wary of going with a (married) woman whose partner (husband) doesn't know about it, but each to their own.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


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There's loads of cheating sites. Baffles me why anyone would choose a swingers site to try to cheat on. "

I would hazard a guess that it's because this one's free.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I've arranged 10 meets at hotels and not one of them turned up!

So technically I haven't cheated

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X

Ask a man’s wife if she thinks it’s cheating when she finds out her husbands fucking a guy

Hehe I was being a mischievous devil with my statement But in reality it wouldn’t be the cheating element that would piss off the wife it would be that he is bisexual ooer vicar haha "

Maybe he should of been honest with her about being bisexual before they got together

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I've arranged 10 meets at hotels and not one of them turned up!

So technically I haven't cheated

"

Jeez

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By *eorgesdad69Man
over a year ago

Long Eaton


"I've arranged 10 meets at hotels and not one of them turned up!

So technically I haven't cheated

"

I would turn up for that cock! Lol but you’re straight so don’t think i would get an invite xx

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I've arranged 10 meets at hotels and not one of them turned up!

So technically I haven't cheated

I would turn up for that cock! Lol but you’re straight so don’t think i would get an invite xx"

Lmaoooo walked into that one didn’t he

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I love to cheat on my wife. Have done since first weeks of our marriage. Turns me on that I can do it.

Not a nice answer but an honest one."

This makes me feel so sad for your wife

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I love to cheat on my wife. Have done since first weeks of our marriage. Turns me on that I can do it.

Not a nice answer but an honest one.

This makes me feel so sad for your wife "

Wow! Your hot Lool

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends if you care what strangers think I suppose. I’m not really bothered what others do unless it affects me. Personally I don’t think things are black or white though when it comes to this subject. I know most people do. I don’t.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Depends if you care what strangers think I suppose. I’m not really bothered what others do unless it affects me. Personally I don’t think things are black or white though when it comes to this subject. I know most people do. I don’t. "

I like this

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X

Ask a man’s wife if she thinks it’s cheating when she finds out her husbands fucking a guy

Hehe I was being a mischievous devil with my statement But in reality it wouldn’t be the cheating element that would piss off the wife it would be that he is bisexual ooer vicar haha "

I couldnt speak for the wife in this situation, who knows how she would react.

We all have our own situations and do’s and don’ts and rights amd wrongs. I do my best not to judge but my expectations of receiveing the same in return are low.

Whilst cheating may not be swinging, swinging does fit most formal definitions of adulterly. Go figure. That said i bet most people have a miss on hitting all ten always.

Usually I try and walk a mile in someones shoes to understand them, hope the same applies to flip flops

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

It’s never right it literally destroys peoples lives and families

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge


"Depends if you care what strangers think I suppose. I’m not really bothered what others do unless it affects me. Personally I don’t think things are black or white though when it comes to this subject. I know most people do. I don’t. "

Oh Swiper keep swiping. Exactly this.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"A man having sexual encounters with another man isn’t cheating on his wife cos it’s not having an affair with a woman so not cheating LOL X

Ask a man’s wife if she thinks it’s cheating when she finds out her husbands fucking a guy

Hehe I was being a mischievous devil with my statement But in reality it wouldn’t be the cheating element that would piss off the wife it would be that he is bisexual ooer vicar haha

I couldnt speak for the wife in this situation, who knows how she would react.

We all have our own situations and do’s and don’ts and rights amd wrongs. I do my best not to judge but my expectations of receiveing the same in return are low.

Whilst cheating may not be swinging, swinging does fit most formal definitions of adulterly. Go figure. That said i bet most people have a miss on hitting all ten always.

Usually I try and walk a mile in someones shoes to understand them, hope the same applies to flip flops"

Good point, not judging people as who are we to judge

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I was once cheated out of a game of monopoly, it still hurts to this day.

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

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"What’s the score here?

Some people say cheating is wrong and there’s no excuse for it. Some people say different."

Depends if you have morals or you care at all about your other half’s feelings or you’re that arrogant you think I’ll never get caught.

in some circumstances although we don’t condone it but can under stand why people do it it for example if one half is bisexual and their feel their partner would never understand it’s hard to suppress the urges.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I was once cheated out of a game of monopoly, it still hurts to this day. "

Lmaooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's apparent from this thread that certain types of people obviously have a cheating kink, they got off, rightly or wrongly, and cant be changed, on the feeling of thrill, sneaking around and getting caught. Every negative associated with cheating just adds to their fantasy of it.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Some are ok with it. Some are not. If you’re cheating, you need to find the first. Otherwise, you’re good.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Some are ok with it. Some are not. If you’re cheating, you need to find the first. Otherwise, you’re good. "

I don’t understand

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast

Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cheated on my wife. Not something I ever thought would happen when we got married, but life throws some unexpected curveballs your way sometimes, at inopportune moments.

Not proud of it, not something I’d recommend to anyone, but life happens and hopefully we learn from it.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Some are ok with it. Some are not. If you’re cheating, you need to find the first. Otherwise, you’re good.

I don’t understand "

I’m not sure which part isn’t clear?

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Some are ok with it. Some are not. If you’re cheating, you need to find the first. Otherwise, you’re good.

I don’t understand

I’m not sure which part isn’t clear? "

You need to find the first what?..

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area "

Well that’s not true

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area "

I'm not a swinger and not married either

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast


"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area

Well that’s not true "

Why ? What you doing on here without your partners consent? If not cheating then trying to ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area

Well that’s not true

Why ? What you doing on here without your partners consent? If not cheating then trying to ? "

I’m not a swinger. So I must be a cheat?

Most people I know on here are single but not swingers. Rubbish

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast


"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area

Well that’s not true

Why ? What you doing on here without your partners consent? If not cheating then trying to ?

I’m not a swinger. So I must be a cheat?

Most people I know on here are single but not swingers. Rubbish "

O rite ok

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area

Well that’s not true

Why ? What you doing on here without your partners consent? If not cheating then trying to ?

I’m not a swinger. So I must be a cheat?

Most people I know on here are single but not swingers. Rubbish

O rite ok "

No problem

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"It is what it is "

Swings and roundabouts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two types of people on here swingers and married men/ woman here without their partners consent . That’s not swinging that cheating no grey area "

Fuck I've lost my husband again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Because ultimately it's just a fuck site so of course they will flock here"

And that’s where they make their first wrong assumption.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Everyone knows cheating is wrong

Not everyone has compassion or is selfless and this is where the problem is

Many would do what they feel they can get away with

I don't agree with anyone doing what they feel they can get away with. There's no excuse for it in any circumstance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets just say my views on what should happen to cheaters are so brutal even the CIA/ONI would say I was too brutal.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

As always when this subject comes up, there are going to be people massively against it and people who find it a turn on, and all the shades of grey in between.

In my opinion, unless you're living a person's situation it is unfair to judge them, as there are going to be details of their life that you don't know. And as it is impossible for anyone to live someone else's situation, well...

As I say, that's just my opinion, and everyone else is entitled to theirs. But nothing is entirely black and white.

And I've been cheated on by partners in the past. I know the heartache it can cause. I've also been in desperately unhappy relationships that I didn't have the ability to get out of at the time, and I believe that if someone had shown me positive attention I would have cheated.

But no one did, and it took me a long time to find the courage and confidence to end the relationships.

To answer the OP, I don't think "the score" is ever going to be simple.

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By *G T OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"As always when this subject comes up, there are going to be people massively against it and people who find it a turn on, and all the shades of grey in between.

In my opinion, unless you're living a person's situation it is unfair to judge them, as there are going to be details of their life that you don't know. And as it is impossible for anyone to live someone else's situation, well...

As I say, that's just my opinion, and everyone else is entitled to theirs. But nothing is entirely black and white.

And I've been cheated on by partners in the past. I know the heartache it can cause. I've also been in desperately unhappy relationships that I didn't have the ability to get out of at the time, and I believe that if someone had shown me positive attention I would have cheated.

But no one did, and it took me a long time to find the courage and confidence to end the relationships.

To answer the OP, I don't think "the score" is ever going to be simple."

You pretty much nailed it with this

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Fin

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Well said

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