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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

We received a message overnight from a hidden profile which just had one of our real names in (like "Gertrude..."). That's all it said.

It's freaked us out a bit as we don't use real names or have face pics up.

Not sure what the right course of action is... I know its hardly the crime of the century, but it is a bit unsettling.

Hidden our profile for now

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Just block them

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Simple…

Just change your name.

I do like Gertrude though

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Simple…

Just change your name.

I do like Gertrude though "
you'd have to get rid of the beard though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d block and keep my profile hidden for a while. A month or six weeks down the line, most will have moved on.

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"Just block them "

That does make sense but I suppose part of us wants to know what it's all about. Reasonably local profile, silver site member and verified.

I suppose we are wondering if there's any way it's not someone being a nobhead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they still in fab ?

I'd say very unnerving, very creepy.

Take screenshots, times ect and if it carries on contact the police, it's not on and they need to be told that. But imho don't engage with them at all, if you report to the fab mods they will just block you from seeing them but it won't solve the issue.

I guess it depends on how strong you both are as to how far you want to take things

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I had that one time, no idea who it was (woman) , I just blocked. Still no clue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just block them "

Good idea that

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I had this too it freaked me out, was someone who recognised us from a social media group.

It's always unnerving I'd either reply saying you have the wrong person, block or reply asking who they are and how they know your name.

Mrs

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"Are they still in fab ?

I'd say very unnerving, very creepy.

Take screenshots, times ect and if it carries on contact the police, it's not on and they need to be told that. But imho don't engage with them at all, if you report to the fab mods they will just block you from seeing them but it won't solve the issue.

I guess it depends on how strong you both are as to how far you want to take things "

It's a bit creepy, but in reality I suppose it's just poor form rather than any sort of "crime"... obviously it's got us thinking that our cover is blown now, at work maybe. Unsettling

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

The might be just guessing (is yours an unusual name?) but it's still creepy and a weird thing to do. I'd stay hidden for now.

Jx

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Just block them

That does make sense but I suppose part of us wants to know what it's all about. Reasonably local profile, silver site member and verified.

I suppose we are wondering if there's any way it's not someone being a nobhead."
Don't worry about it, they can't message again so sorted

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"The might be just guessing (is yours an unusual name?) but it's still creepy and a weird thing to do. I'd stay hidden for now.

Jx"

That was one of my thoughts, the first initial was shown and I suppose it might be the first female name you'd think of starting with that letter.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I had that one time, no idea who it was (woman) , I just blocked. Still no clue!"

Same for me. Just blocked also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all the people that say block and move on, it's a good call but we all know that those kind of sick individuals will just make another profile and start again. Not saying it will happen but it does happen.

And yes it's happened to me before

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Sad fuckers. Hunt them down and castrate them. Or, you could just block

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The might be just guessing (is yours an unusual name?) but it's still creepy and a weird thing to do. I'd stay hidden for now.

Jx

That was one of my thoughts, the first initial was shown and I suppose it might be the first female name you'd think of starting with that letter."

I'd say that's the most likely answer.

Also don't underestimate the small clues to identity that you can inadvertently give out or the number of people who have second profiles.

I'd say be prepared with plausible deniability should anyone question you and try not to worry.

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"

I'd say be prepared with plausible deniability should anyone question you and try not to worry. "

Stupidly, I replied with a message asking if we knew each other, which sort of gives it away if it was a guess. Can't delete sent messages so stuck with that now

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah I did this once myself super early days of being on here when I was being silly and I honestly didn't think I had done anything bad

But hindsight and knowing the content and breach of privacy etc makes me realise how dickhead it was. So publicly apology to them! Never meant in a sinister way just a oh hey you way!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP have you been to clubs or group socials ?

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"OP have you been to clubs or group socials ?"

Clubs before covid. 1st ever group social was Thursday night...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" 1st ever group social was Thursday night..."

I'm guessing maybe one of you called the other by your real name and were overheard ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that is awful! I hate when people try and play it all mysterious rather than being direct and to the point. It's a risk you take unfortunately but I understand why you're a bit unsettled.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm so sorry. That must be an awful feeling.

I used to have my initial up and people would guess, but they never got it right so it was easy to laugh it off. It'd be different if it was the right name, particularly with no other context

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


" 1st ever group social was Thursday night...

I'm guessing maybe one of you called the other by your real name and were overheard ?"

Yes, we probably did. We probably used our real names when talking to a few people too...

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By *hromosexuals OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"Ah that is awful! I hate when people try and play it all mysterious rather than being direct and to the point. It's a risk you take unfortunately but I understand why you're a bit unsettled."
I think if their profile wasn't hidden we'd be less unsettled by it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Block. Potentially use your message filters to screen new and unverified users from contact. I'd probably screen my public pics too, so nothing is likely to facilitate recognition.

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