FabSwingers.com forum: Messages straight from forum threads

By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Thoughts..

We have received some really nice ones.

Many in compliment of the content and attitude on the threads.

Some not so good and led us to change our message filters to prevent lude, unsolicited contact.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've only ever received positive messages from the forums to be fair

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never had a nasty message directly from a forum thread. Any I've had that way have been complimentary or to agree.

I did think it hilarious once though when a very productive and high profile forumite started a thread having a rant about people using this facility and how cowardly it was rather than posting publicly.

I'm not sure if she saw the irony when I commented on the thread and she messaged privately to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learned it's never wise to reply to pegging threads.

Or to post on threads in the middle of the night when all the single men's wives are asleep.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I've only ever received positive messages from the forums to be fair"

They're nice to receive aren't they.

Sure you can guess what style of messages caused our filter decision, we have had a few aggressive ones over the 2 years we've been on fab, telling us our feelings on a matter were wrong.. Easy block tbh..

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I've never had a nasty message directly from a forum thread. Any I've had that way have been complimentary or to agree.

I'm not sure if she saw the irony when I commented on the thread and she messaged privately to disagree.

pmsl!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones from people who never post on here are creepy though.. like who are you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're posting on a public thread, you're gonna get messages. Good and bad.

I swear some people think it only happens to them though

(That wasn't directed at you op!)

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

[Removed by poster at 04/11/23 08:44:08]

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Iv had a mix of happys and interfeering sods but i prefer the boobs

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You're posting on a public thread, you're gonna get messages. Good and bad.

I swear some people think it only happens to them though

(That wasn't directed at you op!)

Keep it to the thread please poster

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I have learned it's never wise to reply to pegging threads.

Or to post on threads in the middle of the night when all the single men's wives are asleep. "

100% "Single mens wives" HAHA!! (Skin to the 'couples' Mrs not meeting atm..)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve ever received a nasty message off the back of a thread.

I don’t mind them. I can reply to the ones I want to and ignore the ones I don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're posting on a public thread, you're gonna get messages. Good and bad.

I swear some people think it only happens to them though

(That wasn't directed at you op!)

Keep it to the thread please poster "

Oh the shame

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve had a few, I don’t really mind if

It’s to do with the thread. Get quite a few from lurkers who haven’t even commented. I just ignore those.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"You're posting on a public thread, you're gonna get messages. Good and bad.

I swear some people think it only happens to them though

(That wasn't directed at you op!)

Oh, yes understand that. (No worries on direction! x)

We just wondered others feelings as we see lot's of "keep it to the thread'.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I don’t think I’ve ever received a nasty message off the back of a thread.

I don’t mind them. I can reply to the ones I want to and ignore the ones I don’t. "

Utterly, we've appreciated the (by far) majority

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I’ve never had anything negative that I can remember. It’s an in for people so I don’t mind them.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s the people who send a message who haven’t even commented on the thread and it’s usually ‘my wife/my GF’ when they are single guys

- they are the ones that creep us out!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Messages from people on the thread?

Messages from forum regulars?

Messages from lurkers

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Had a few. Never negative

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I get a mixture of good and bad. Most of the ones that are bad I direct them to post on the thread - which they’ve normally not done. If they don’t take that hint then they get the full level of sarcasm

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By *ie n MashCouple
over a year ago

Back in Malice

Had some good chats off the back of private messages - some of an adult nature, a great one about music.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We send messages occasionally, depends on what the subject is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixture - mostly lurkers/odd (literally!) forumite

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Had a few mostly good messages . Maybe I’ve been lucky but I’ve not had a bad forum experience yet. Maybe I’m just too irrelevant for people to bother lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a few mostly good messages . Maybe I’ve been lucky but I’ve not had a bad forum experience yet. Maybe I’m just too irrelevant for people to bother lol.

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Dare to have a strong opinion on something - you’re bound to offend someone

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Thoughts..

We have received some really nice ones.

Many in compliment of the content and attitude on the threads.

Some not so good and led us to change our message filters to prevent lude, unsolicited contact.

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Yes me to only positive private messages as a result of threads forumites are really quite clever and would never send negative messages to your inbox

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yep, I now know not to comment on any small penis threads or any cock related threads in general, unless I want to pull out my eyeballs.

Mrs

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"The ones from people who never post on here are creepy though.. like who are you

Lurkers... Like I've never seen you comment on anything, yet you regularly msg a response. Wtf.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Yep, I now know not to comment on any small penis threads or any cock related threads in general, unless I want to pull out my eyeballs.

Mrs "

I always have to write the dreaded "keep replies to forum" on any Domme/pegging threads

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I get a mixture of good and bad. Most of the ones that are bad I direct them to post on the thread - which they’ve normally not done. If they don’t take that hint then they get the full level of sarcasm

You send me gorgeous pictures

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Single male, so I'm immune to negative forum to private messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are b@nned from the forums I can understand they might want to "join in" the discussion in another way. I've had plenty of those messages.

Could do without the smarmy type of message off the back of a comment I've made eg "you'd always have an orgasm with me, Sally".

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I've received a couple of nasty messages but not as a direct forum thread... all the forum thread messages ice received have generally been lovely

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"If people are b@nned from the forums I can understand they might want to "join in" the discussion in another way. I've had plenty of those messages.

Could do without the smarmy type of message off the back of a comment I've made eg "you'd always have an orgasm with me, Sally".

I'd guarantee you probably won't, but it might be worth the practice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had loads of nasty ones especially over in the virus section but we'll leave that over there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're posting on a public thread, you're gonna get messages. Good and bad.

I swear some people think it only happens to them though

(That wasn't directed at you op!)

Keep it to the thread please poster "

Oh dear, started already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're posting on a public thread, you're gonna get messages. Good and bad.

I swear some people think it only happens to them though

(That wasn't directed at you op!)

Keep it to the thread please poster

Oh dear, started already "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lewd comments on a public swingers site? I am both shocked and appalled…

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

I made the grave error of posting a thread in the Virus forum. Once.

Inbox lit up.

So many people happy to send their stupidity to the inbox rather than post on the thread. So much stupidity totally unrelated to the thread topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just idiots block and move on but keep the nice ones

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don’t mind getting forum messages from people who actually use the forums and contribute to the threads.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

I've had good and bad.

If you're posting on a forum and your filters aren't like fort Knox, you're gonna get unsolicited messages off the back of posts.

It is what it is, delete the unwanted and carry on.

Em x

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

I only ever have an older couple who don't message on forums who take the piss. They're pretty funny though to be fair

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

For some reason people who have been banned from the forums insist on messaging me to discuss the topics I post on.

I've taken to just blocking them lately

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I don’t mind getting forum messages from people who actually use the forums and contribute to the threads.

As long as they're not Jaffa cake addicts?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"For some reason people who have been banned from the forums insist on messaging me to discuss the topics I post on.

I've taken to just blocking them lately

Yes! Permanently banned people, I often wonder what they did.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I don’t mind getting forum messages from people who actually use the forums and contribute to the threads.

As long as they're not Jaffa cake addicts?"

You are very naughty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly positive, all the positive ones generally are the contributors to a thread. But I guess there’s lurkers who might directly message and could say something you don’t like, the threads that are directly set up to cause friction are always best to avoid as you’ll upset someone regardless of opinions

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It happens.. both good and bad. Weirdly I did it last night as didn’t want the conversation to take over the thread. I don’t think it’s a big deal

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I only ever have an older couple who don't message on forums who take the piss. They're pretty funny though to be fair

Is it your grandparents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never do it unless it was part of a forum game or I know them and we've messaged before, but usually anything I want to say to them, I can say on the forums without imposing on their inbox.

I have however, received messages off the back of forum threads and it's started some great conversations with lovely people who I still chat to so I reckon it's swings and roundabouts.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I don't mind them, if the sender is carrying on the discussion or making a good point.

I dislike the ones where its just an excuse to start getting pervy or arsey if they disagree, just say it on the forum.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Thoughts..

We have received some really nice ones.

Many in compliment of the content and attitude on the threads.

Some not so good and led us to change our message filters to prevent lude, unsolicited contact.

Yes me to only positive private messages as a result of threads forumites are really quite clever and would never send negative messages to your inbox

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They send them via their private groups

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've read comments in other threads where people on permanent forum bans are asking others to post on their behalf.

Some are happy to do so and run the risk of getting a ban themselves while others have called them out for doing so.

I've never had this experience but in the distant past I have had people who are already regular contributors asking me to post on their behalf in certain threads because they either don't want to be associated with the topic or are afraid of a backlash from certain others on the thread.

I've never seen the point of this and never done it.

I don't understand the benefit of having someone present your opinion as their own.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Generally positive, though I'd prefer to keep all discussions in the forum, for the benefit of all. The exception is typically the virus forum area

It shouldn't be an equal option to reply privately, to replying in the forum and users should be optionally able to enable it, if they want it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't mind them too much. I'm aware that certain threads are more likely to get those messages - like if I post about my love of cock worship or watching people wank.

So I either filter up or not get the hump about disembodied dicks messaging me about their raging hard on thanks to my words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, I now know not to comment on any small penis threads or any cock related threads in general, unless I want to pull out my eyeballs.

Mrs "

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I don’t mind as it’s generally to agree or want to chat more over something I’ve written. The only issue (certainly with the last message received) I generally only go on the site these days to give my Wordle score.

Today is one of the few days I’ve properly looked and engaged on the forum for some time.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Absolutely doesn't bother me at all. But unless I'm actually looking for a message I don't even open my inbox from one day to the next, and chances are I won't read a message anyway.

I think that anyone who has open filters can't really moan about getting messages off the back of a thread. Sometimes people just don't want to announce to the whole world whatever they want to say, sometimes they're conscious of not taking over a thread with a conversation, and sometimes they just want to start a private conversation. Which isnt a surprise, as people expect fabbers to be on fab because they are seeking connections.

No one minds a message if it is something from someone they like, be that in an attraction way or otherwise.

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By *jj2012Man
over a year ago

Barry

To date it's all been positive and good humoured banter

maybe my posts haven't been thought provoking enough to to get some negative ones lol

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