FabSwingers.com forum: "Do not touch list"

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

Do you have certain criteria (ignoring things that you specifically list which would be outside your 'looking for' criteria - gender, age range, etc) that would mean you would not 'do The Sex' with another fabster.

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it looks infected.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Action shots using no protection, with multiple people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it looks infected."

Ah, that is quite gross.

Might add the toilet in the background too, find that really offf putting!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Action shots using no protection, with multiple people. "

Indeed - made worse when there is no protection used in the images with the multiple partners.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Action shots using no protection, with multiple people.

Indeed - made worse when there is no protection used in the images with the multiple partners."

That's what I said lol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Attitude & photos both can be enough to put me off.

Mrs

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes loads. I don’t list it at all though. Apart from the beard and height thing. I think I may have mentioned that. Although I wouldn’t tell someone why, I’d just say I wasn’t interested.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

If we’ve gone so far as to arrange a social with someone, then we won’t go into it with boundaries. We may come away saying to ourselves, no way, but that will be based on how the social went. Whether we’d like to meet someone for a social or not will be mostly based on how they interact with us. Personality through messages. The content of their gallery is less important.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes loads. I don’t list it at all though. Apart from the beard and height thing. I think I may have mentioned that. Although I wouldn’t tell someone why, I’d just say I wasn’t interested. "

A beard appeared during Covid, but since that made me look ten years older and bore a striking resemblance to my dad, that came off (er, except not shaved for a few weeks now, so in need of rectifying)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list "

Not into jaffa cakes, but if they were addicted to doughnuts, custard, ambrosia rice pudding...(as per another thread) and they were expecting to have mine, they would immediately be struck off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Action shots using no protection, with multiple people.

Indeed - made worse when there is no protection used in the images with the multiple partners.

That's what I said lol"

Sorry! Sometimes I wonder if I don't read properly!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, for sure. I allude to it in my profile text and try to vet these things before I proceed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah, for sure. I allude to it in my profile text and try to vet these things before I proceed "

I dont like the sound of your tyrannical boss - I have a similar one, he has yet to try and sack me, though he describes me as unmanageable (I am wondering if I can take myself to a complaints panel or ACAS)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yeah, for sure. I allude to it in my profile text and try to vet these things before I proceed

HR are tearing their hair out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list "

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

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By *ylonseeker2023Man
over a year ago

Harwich

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list "

The original Jaffa cakes or does this include all the fake Jaffas, oh yeah, not just fake people ya know, there are some Fake Jaffas about....on every street market!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?"

What’s right with them?

Evil things that don’t belong in the biscuit aisle

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"Action shots using no protection, with multiple people. "

100000% this....

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

The original Jaffa cakes or does this include all the fake Jaffas, oh yeah, not just fake people ya know, there are some Fake Jaffas about....on every street market!

Aldi actually do nice fake Tunnocks wafers

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have met lots of people socially where I knew beforehand that it was never going to be any more than that but I liked them enough after chatting for a while to meet in person.

There were various reasons for not wanting to do the sex with them.

Some I simply wasn't sexually attracted to while others weren't attracted to me and a coffee was a happy option.

Some I felt were on a different journey to mine or were way more experienced than I was and I could never live up to previous encounters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Pretty much every woman who hasn’t given me permission to touch them….. yet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '"

I take that was Mr Nice objecting to being called a girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Heavily tattooed, genital piercings. Hairy men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

What’s right with them?

Evil things that don’t belong in the biscuit aisle "

What he says

Why is there no emoji for (sick) (vomit)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

What’s right with them?

Evil things that don’t belong in the biscuit aisle "

Good lord

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Did she actually use those words?

If it was me I'd cancel the social. People can be so shit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

I take that was Mr Nice objecting to being called a girl!

nobody has said that...to his face.

No it's me, it really puts me off an otherwise nice person. I overlooked it once and the subsequent meet was disastrous

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is."

Assuming married when only Mr wants to meet and not for both of them wanting meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is."

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already mentioned, the action shots are generally a turn off and I think any kind of photos where impact play is obvious with the bruises and redness is a turn off as well. At the social or even beforehand, I think if their personality comes on a bit strong then that can be quite overwhelming as I wouldn't be able to keep up with their vibe.

I can make exceptions though if I think we generally click well enough

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Anyone that uses knives, is an absolute no and block

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Did she actually use those words?

If it was me I'd cancel the social. People can be so shit.

No, she did not, she is way to polite (possibly stuck up if another misogynist thread is to be believed) - it was me that suggested I did not meet her criteria and I said that I would be on her 'do not touch list' - she had no such thing.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Inability to hold a conversation about anything other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

I take that was Mr Nice objecting to being called a girl!

nobody has said that...to his face.

No it's me, it really puts me off an otherwise nice person. I overlooked it once and the subsequent meet was disastrous

Ouch.

I would struggle if anyone called me daddy - not even sure my kids call me daddy (but then they are in their 20s).

Ah, I could probably therefore add to my 'do not touch list' anyone who is the age of my children - my age limits are set high enough anyway, so should be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Did she actually use those words?

If it was me I'd cancel the social. People can be so shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As already mentioned, the action shots are generally a turn off and I think any kind of photos where impact play is obvious with the bruises and redness is a turn off as well. At the social or even beforehand, I think if their personality comes on a bit strong then that can be quite overwhelming as I wouldn't be able to keep up with their vibe.

I can make exceptions though if I think we generally click well enough

Yep the pain and violence thing goes against my better instincts (or the way I was brought up).

I actually like someone with high energy - but I used to be off the scale on extrovert (my personality via Myers Briggs tests has changed somewhat because of the pandemic)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone that uses knives, is an absolute no and block "

So just spoon and fork or chopsticks then? How do they cut up steak?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Inability to hold a conversation about anything other than sex."

Politics and religion OK?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Lots of things. Well not lots because I'm not an utter bellend but yes, there are a few things. People. It's nice knowing firmly what doesn't work for me, saves me swallowing back bile as they fuck me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

Well you're just asking for it now are you. You'll end up on 'that' list you mention that name again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of things. Well not lots because I'm not an utter bellend but yes, there are a few things. People. It's nice knowing firmly what doesn't work for me, saves me swallowing back bile as they fuck me.

I laughed at the last sentence way too much.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

Well you're just asking for it now are you. You'll end up on 'that' list you mention that name again. "

am I like lord Voldemort to you? You're so silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

Well you're just asking for it now are you. You'll end up on 'that' list you mention that name again. "

I had to read what I had written again - but it made me giggle!

So no date then

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

Well you're just asking for it now are you. You'll end up on 'that' list you mention that name again.

am I like lord Voldemort to you? You're so silly

New username Brucey?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

Well you're just asking for it now are you. You'll end up on 'that' list you mention that name again.

am I like lord Voldemort to you? You're so silly

New username Brucey?"

I shall always think of him as Hazel!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

For us it’s more of the way people are rather than what they are into sexually just because they are into something that we are not don’t mean we have to do it ..

Anyone that directs all conversations towards me and ignores my husband is a definite no And anyone that assumes my husband is a cuck would turn me off.

We met a couple years ago for a social and we spent 2 hours listening to the cars they had the house they had the 6 holidays a year they went on it was the most boring 2 hours of our lives ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Do Not Touch List will include anyone that's married, and then there's my too hot to handle list which is people that bring drama.

Then there's my 'other' list but you can go fish if I'm sharing what that is.

You've changed your profile text again, the criteria for meets, FB, FWB and LTR made me assume you had a specific person in mind - clearly it was going to be FuckingBruce

Well you're just asking for it now are you. You'll end up on 'that' list you mention that name again.

am I like lord Voldemort to you? You're so silly

New username Brucey?"

Best suggestion yet.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

On fab behind someone's back is a big one for me & means I'd never play with them.

Also age is more than a number to me, so I wouldn't go under 35 or over 57 ish. If someone lies and changes their age to get wound filters, that's a deal breaker too.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Oh and not finding them attractive is a big one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum users

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forum users "
*unsubscribes*

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Anyone that uses knives, is an absolute no and block

So just spoon and fork or chopsticks then? How do they cut up steak?

Maybe I should have specified, during sex or foreplay, like Angelina Jolie when she was with Billy Bob Thornton.

I'll go as far as to say Angelina in her prime if she had offered me a 4 way with her, Scarlett Johanssen and Beyonce, but she wanted to use knives, I would have kicked all 3 out of bed with a huge "Nope, nope, fuck nope"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Forum users "
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=otCpCn0l4Wo

(MC Hammer - U Can't Touch This)

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

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Did she actually use those words?

If it was me I'd cancel the social. People can be so shit."

There was someone I met at a club who I got on well with. We'd both be happy to see each other, sit and have a chat, and never had sex. Fairly early on she did use words like that. And that was fine. I'm not her physical type, but not everything has to be physical.

I haven't spent time making an explicit list for myself. Each person will be either a yes or a no, for their own individual reasons. But even though the list doesn't exist, "family member of previous partner" is on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Forum users "

Elf was nicer!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anyone that uses knives, is an absolute no and block

So just spoon and fork or chopsticks then? How do they cut up steak?

Maybe I should have specified, during sex or foreplay, like Angelina Jolie when she was with Billy Bob Thornton.

Lorena Bobbit springs to mind (or was that scissors) - I have now crossed my legs!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Off the top of my head.

Indications that their interest was just casual sex / FB type deal.

Not a judgment at all just unlikely to be any sexual compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

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Did she actually use those words?

If it was me I'd cancel the social. People can be so shit.

Failed on the previous partner - went back to ex-FWB twice, but I believe I am safe now (fatal to say that, but like an ex-alcoholic saying they will never take another drink - plus I am a man and my brain is not that big!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never thought of it as a do not touch list. But partnered men are on it - whether they have permission or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Attitude & photos both can be enough to put me off.

Mrs "

This

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?"

*Shoves another one in my mouth "total eclipse"*

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

If their teeth look like they haven't seen a brush in a long time...

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've had messages over the years from couples offering to put me on their to-do list if I agreed to their list of demands. Their words not mine.

I will avoid anyone referring to another adult as chattel.

I've seen on various threads people posting about men they "had" or women they used to "have".

What happened to knowing someone rather than having them?

It might be pedantic but it reeks of entitlement and disrespect.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

*Shoves another one in my mouth "total eclipse"*"

Naughty

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've had messages over the years from couples offering to put me on their to-do list if I agreed to their list of demands. Their words not mine.

I will avoid anyone referring to another adult as chattel.

I've seen on various threads people posting about men they "had" or women they used to "have".

What happened to knowing someone rather than having them?

It might be pedantic but it reeks of entitlement and disrespect. "

I agree with you, also the use of the phrase 'the wife'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

*Shoves another one in my mouth "total eclipse"*"

Suddenly concerned about the size of Miss MR's mouth

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had messages over the years from couples offering to put me on their to-do list if I agreed to their list of demands. Their words not mine.

I will avoid anyone referring to another adult as chattel.

I've seen on various threads people posting about men they "had" or women they used to "have".

What happened to knowing someone rather than having them?

It might be pedantic but it reeks of entitlement and disrespect.

I agree with you, also the use of the phrase 'the wife' "

But using the term "her indoors" or "the little lady" I take is perfectly acceptable

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

A perceived lack of self respect is the main one for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never thought of it as a do not touch list. But partnered men are on it - whether they have permission or not. "

How about partnered women - whether they have permission or not? (I noted that your 'looking for' did not specify men, women, couples, TVs...)

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '"

What about 'young lady'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A perceived lack of self respect is the main one for me "

If you are referring to some who maybe refer to themselves as 'sluts' or 'cum dumps', etc and maybe display that in photos with the words written on their bodies, yep I get that.

However, if it is those who might have low self esteem or self worth, or just not really like themselves as they are, I have a lot of time for them.

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By *agondaMan
over a year ago

Witterings

Do not touch my ludicrous speed button

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

Oh bugger, that was the kind of comment my mum used on my sister if she did something wrong!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do not touch my ludicrous speed button"

Is that different to the 'cruise control' button?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Only if they were wearing socks and sandals together in their pics! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only if they were wearing socks and sandals together in their pics! X"

You've rulled out the entire British male population on holiday in the Med

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By *agondaMan
over a year ago

Witterings

"Do not touch my ludicrous speed button

Is that different to the 'cruise control' button?"

It is, cruising is bad

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Only if they were wearing socks and sandals together in their pics! X

You've rulled out the entire British male population on holiday in the Med

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never thought of it as a do not touch list. But partnered men are on it - whether they have permission or not.

How about partnered women - whether they have permission or not? (I noted that your 'looking for' did not specify men, women, couples, TVs...)"

I'm straight. And turn off looking for much of the time for an easier life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only if they were wearing socks and sandals together in their pics! X"

Poor Joe Beans...

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By *ive-DeliciouslyCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

There's lots we could list

Main bug bear is those who don't believe in sexual health testing as a standard routine & think it's only "dirty skanky people testing"

Multiple partners/swinging carries risks.

We nearly went to a local party, it was then cancelled due to an STI from former party goers reporting that they possibly got Gonorrhea there.

The party organizer's attitude & others was pretty strange.

Would have thought home test kits or clinic visits would be more the "normal standard" for those in this lifestyle.

But we've noticed flippant attitudes towards us when asking if they routinely test that they don't need to as only penetrate BB with each other for X yrs and don't seem to realize oral carries risk too. Makes us wonder if they got something that it could be left untreated for a long time & passed around, routine tests would lower the statistics.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"A perceived lack of self respect is the main one for me

If you are referring to some who maybe refer to themselves as 'sluts' or 'cum dumps', etc and maybe display that in photos with the words written on their bodies, yep I get that.

However, if it is those who might have low self esteem or self worth, or just not really like themselves as they are, I have a lot of time for them."

The former was what I was referring to. Each to their own but it’s not for me

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

*Shoves another one in my mouth "total eclipse"*

Suddenly concerned about the size of Miss MR's mouth

Perfect size for a whole Jaffa cake

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Battered, raw-looking cream pies. Rashes. Grease. Other signs of an apparent lack of self care.

Any kind of “Daddy” references.

Troublingly excessive dominance.

“Messy play”.

I don’t mind some body decoration, but if they clatter when they sit down that would put me off. I’ve already been caught in my own zip more than once, i’m not risking yours.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Any pics without safe sex is a no no to us.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Oh, and BO.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

Ugh yes... Or sweetheart/darling/princess

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

Ugh yes... Or sweetheart/darling/princess

Baby from someone younger than me or Hun too

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Any pics without safe sex is a no no to us."

Great video of you taking a cock in the arse bareback…

The lounge never fails to amaze me.

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

A pic profile with a cock next to a rule, TV remote, bottle or any comparison-size object. Worst if the bedroom in the background looks filthy and messy. Men wearing socks in their nudes. Nitid close-up of women's faces whilst they keep theirs hidden. Men saying they are straight but just having gay verifications. Anyone who calls me « babe » Sorry Im picky

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Great video of you taking a cock in the arse bareback…"

Yeah, but if it’s behind you….

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

"A pic profile with a cock next to a rule, TV remote, bottle or any comparison-size object. Worst if the bedroom in the background looks filthy and messy. Men wearing socks in their nudes. Nitid close-up of women's faces whilst they keep theirs hidden. Men saying they are straight but just having gay verifications. Anyone who calls me « babe » Sorry Im picky "

Neat close upI mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to say I have standards, but I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of imagination. I like the first meet to be somewhere public, with the tagline "dress like you want to be fucked"!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've had messages over the years from couples offering to put me on their to-do list if I agreed to their list of demands. Their words not mine.

I will avoid anyone referring to another adult as chattel.

I've seen on various threads people posting about men they "had" or women they used to "have".

What happened to knowing someone rather than having them?

It might be pedantic but it reeks of entitlement and disrespect.

I agree with you, also the use of the phrase 'the wife'

But using the term "her indoors" or "the little lady" I take is perfectly acceptable

Of course. Along with addressing me as 'young lady'. Practically guarantees a meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

See above

. I'm 67 years old for goodness sake

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone addicted to Jaffa Cakes. They would be on my social but, do not under any circumstances bonk, list

Jaffa cakes? What’s wrong with Jaffa cakes?

*Shoves another one in my mouth "total eclipse"*

Suddenly concerned about the size of Miss MR's mouth

Perfect size for a whole Jaffa cake"

Now worried that might be a pack of Jaffa cakes!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Oh, folk who use txt spk/ crayon / word salad to the extent you can’t tell wtf they’re on about.

“Lkn 4 cpl 4 2nite”

One couple or four? WHAT?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

Ugh yes... Or sweetheart/darling/princess

Baby from someone younger than me or Hun too

I quite like the colloquial use of 'hun' or 'duck' when I am in different parts of the country (I find it endearing - but then it is usually a female shop assistant using it when speaking to me, and not me using it)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All seems quite reasonable to me.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Not really into hard and fast rules. But vain, unkind selfish folks don't do a lot for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

See above

. I'm 67 years old for goodness sake

A mere wipper snapper

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, folk who use txt spk/ crayon / word salad to the extent you can’t tell wtf they’re on about.

“Lkn 4 cpl 4 2nite”

One couple or four? WHAT?"

Had to look up 'word salad':

“a jumble of extremely incoherent speech as sometimes observed in schizophrenia,”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smokers.

And misplaced arrogance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not really into hard and fast rules. But vain, unkind selfish folks don't do a lot for me. "

You better avoid Miss MR then, cos I think she has eaten all the Jaffa cakes - which some people may think is selfish, whereas I feel she is doing the world a service by getting rid of them

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Strange cryptic answers, monosyllabic conversation and that treat em mean bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Smokers.

And misplaced arrogance."

Personally I quite like the smell of cigarettes (don't like the sickly smell of a vape), and yet I have never smoked (I miss the smell of fags in a pub and the lingering smell on my clothes when I have left the pub).

With regard to the arrogance, I am often searching for it, cos I can never remember where I last put it down

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

Massive cocks they scare the hell out of me.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '

What about 'young lady'

Ugh yes... Or sweetheart/darling/princess

Baby from someone younger than me or Hun too

See I can't stand being called Hun in real life either, sets my teeth on edge.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

I’d say die hard Tory voters, but then I have a thing for posh totty and was also having a thing with a posh totty for a while, who had that political proclivity- and we got on fantastically well and had an absolute hoot over several years…which sometimes just goes to show if it’s just getting together for fun, maybe don’t be too dismissive….unless they smell like my manager, who seems to be unaware of soap and deodorant- don’t think I’ve ever been horny enough for the poission punani

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Massive cocks they scare the hell out of me. "

Are we talking Big Harold?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d say die hard Tory voters, but then I have a thing for posh totty and was also having a thing with a posh totty for a while, who had that political proclivity- and we got on fantastically well and had an absolute hoot over several years…"

Was going to ask if you had been seeing my ex-FWB, but she is outside your age range so unlikely. We were fine provided we did not discuss politics, the NHS, state schools, Brexit, social housing, local councils (particularly Labour ones).

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Nah! She was already married and could discuss pretty much any topic in a calm and thoughtful manner- deliciously intelligent and insightful (joys of a very high class education- daddy was rather wealthy ’old money’) and from a very different world to me, but one of those people where we just clicked and felt comfortable - really miss spending time with her

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just if I get that “iffy” vibe from them. Hard to explain really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m on top of most

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just if I get that “iffy” vibe from them. Hard to explain really."

Ah, a bit like the 'ick'.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

My “out of my league list” is much bigger than my “ do not touch list”

Most of the things that are a put off for me have already been listed by others tbh.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"There's lots we could list

Main bug bear is those who don't believe in sexual health testing as a standard routine & think it's only "dirty skanky people testing"

Multiple partners/swinging carries risks.

We nearly went to a local party, it was then cancelled due to an STI from former party goers reporting that they possibly got Gonorrhea there.

The party organizer's attitude & others was pretty strange.

Would have thought home test kits or clinic visits would be more the "normal standard" for those in this lifestyle.

In the great plague of London, they killed thousands of dogs and many more thousands of cats

. I'm wrongly intrigued by what the party goers' reactions were

. I hope no puppies or kittens didn't make it to adulthood

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I don't like to see the little men from the sea oozing out or all over a vagina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I pick up on tells that I can't articulate. Therefore someone could be ideal on paper but for some unfathomable reason I only want to be their friend.

Also if anyone refers to me as a 'girl '"

Seen that word used a lot lately

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

"Having had a conversation with another fabster I suggested that a social would be fine, but other than that I would be on her "do not touch list".

My immediate turnoff would be a post from a women inviting all and sundry to a gangbang they organise at some hotel or apartment.

Heavily tattooed, genital piercings. Hairy men. "

Ah that'll be me then... Lots of tats and 2 genital piercings lol

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Ah that'll be me then... Lots of tats and 2 genital piercings lol"

For every person that doesn't like tattoos and piercings, there's someone else that loves it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like to see the little men from the sea oozing out or all over a vagina. "

That is not a great image you have painted - and just before I am heading to bed too!

I think I better go to the nocturnals and get my G&T which I believe has been prepared for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on everyone's

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm on everyone's "

My favourite male forumite!

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