FabSwingers.com forum: STOP. THINK. !

By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rebel and send anyway.

They will notice me god dam it!!!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

Personally, I’d leave them alone.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I rebel and send anyway.

They will notice me god dam it!!!"

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"I rebel and send anyway.

They will notice me god dam it!!!"

Lol I like your style

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

One more dick pic can't hurt, right?

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you are wrong to try again. And again. And again. Etc

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

Personally, I’d leave them alone."

I do if the second message doesn’t get a reply, more than two tries is to much I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women lie. Our inboxes aren't that hard to manage with filters, they have read it so I wouldn't send a follow up.

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"One more dick pic can't hurt, right?

LvM"

Absolutely lmao

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I wouldn't bother making contact

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

Conventional Forum wisdom may be that you'd be the scum of the earth for sending again but I disagree providing it is polite.

I got through to a lady on the second go and been together pretty much ever since.

As you say messages often get missed and some people barely look at messages or block delete. Sometimes people are in the mood for contact and other times not. Also possible the second message relates to something different - like a status update, meet request, profile change, etc. I know from my couples profile much more likely to read and reply to a message from a man if looking to meet or arrange little party. Other times barely read them.

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"Women lie. Our inboxes aren't that hard to manage with filters, they have read it so I wouldn't send a follow up."

I don’t know some messages I send remain yellow not read. But good point you’re probably right

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd stop & not message.

The people who message us then continue to I remind they got a huge warning for a reason & if they want to get responses they should message people actually looking for them.

Mrs

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I’ve just tried this to reply privately to someone on this thread. I’d never noticed before but it automatically put’s STOP THINK in the message subject.,

I quite like that feature

And no i didn’t send a message because i don’t message again if I didn’t get a reply the first time.

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

Conventional Forum wisdom may be that you'd be the scum of the earth for sending again but I disagree providing it is polite.

I got through to a lady on the second go and been together pretty much ever since.

I’m always very polite and don’t always send a second message it’s only when you think wow they’re perfect for me (but I’m obviously not perfect for them) lol

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

PS saying that if nothing back after 2 or 3 polite decent messages then indeed give up

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah I’d say try again if you really like them. Especially it it’s unread. Sometimes I don’t even look at messages for weeks. Maybe no more than twice though.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Women lie. Our inboxes aren't that hard to manage with filters, they have read it so I wouldn't send a follow up.

I don’t know some messages I send remain yellow not read. But good point you’re probably right "

If I’m 50-50, I mark unread to come back to later. Or not.

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"Women lie. Our inboxes aren't that hard to manage with filters, they have read it so I wouldn't send a follow up.

I don’t know some messages I send remain yellow not read. But good point you’re probably right

If I’m 50-50, I mark unread to come back to later. Or not. "

Good insight, thanks

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

No harm in sending a 2nd message

If that fails, send a dick pic

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"Yeah I’d say try again if you really like them. Especially it it’s unread. Sometimes I don’t even look at messages for weeks. Maybe no more than twice though. "

Definitely no more than twice thanks for the insight

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"No harm in sending a 2nd message

If that fails, send a dick pic "

Good tip,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No harm in sending a 2nd message

If that fails, send a dick pic

Good tip,

Yeah for getting blocked

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"No harm in sending a 2nd message

If that fails, send a dick pic

Good tip,

Yeah for getting blocked "

It was a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No harm done in a second message I sometimes send a second message and I receive a reply sometimes I'm lucky I don't get many rude or shitty responses only happen on a 2 occasions

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

If they like you persistence won't matter to much. If they don't then nothing changed, things aren't going anywhere regardless.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Women lie. Our inboxes aren't that hard to manage with filters, they have read it so I wouldn't send a follow up."

Well you obviously have time to read and consider every message. Many don't and just check sporadically. Certainly the case on my couples profile. Often get a message from somebody and just read it and not reply at that time but not so bad as to delete or block. A few day or weeks or months later the same person or couple may align with what we want at that time and reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No harm in sending a 2nd message

If that fails, send a dick pic

Good tip,

Don't you send the whole dick, just the tip defeats the object

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

"Yeah I’d say try again if you really like them. Especially it it’s unread. Sometimes I don’t even look at messages for weeks. Maybe no more than twice though. "

Sometimes I just quickly tag through messages but then they get pushed down

I mean I would say if message is unread perhaps send one a couple of weeks later.

I had a couple last night message me 7 times and 2 times already this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it's worth sending a second message after a week or so.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Did you take the same approach to what the Green Cross Code man advised?

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By *layfullsam OP Man
over a year ago

Solihull

"Did you take the same approach to what the Green Cross Code man advised? "

Totally ignored him as kids we’d play frogger when crossing roads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get a lot of messages (strong filters) and I find it irritating AF when a guy sends several messages within a few hours. They seem like a toddler pulling at my trousers. I just block those guys.

Sending another message a couple of days later - there's no harm in it, I don't think? And you never know.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Depends if your correcting a typo and haven't given them chance to read the first one yet

'id like to carry you in my man bag' could easily auto correct to 'man vag'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying again is ok in my book as you say some get alot of messages but only once

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I wouldn't. I might even apologise if I'm double messaging a friend in an ongoing chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't. I might even apologise if I'm double messaging a friend in an ongoing chat."

I don’t think you’d have a problem with having to send a second message

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By *G TMan
over a year ago

birmingham

God loves a trier mate, apparently. Good luck Lool

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If its been a while since the first message, that's ok ie weeks.

Any sent very quickly after the first wasn't replied to, mean I tend to block as it looks pushy.

It doesn't seem to deter the ones who are hell bent on getting your attention though sadly.

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

I always send a follow up.

Here's ma dick.

They fuckin luv it son!

(Disclaimer - this is not what I do. Please refrain from contacting women. Don't do it it's not worth it)

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

If we don’t reply 99% of the time it’s because the sender has not read the profile and seen they don’t fit with what we are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we met on fab, it wasnt until the third message that she replied, and now weve been together 2 1/2 years and engaged. first 2 messages she didnt reply to, just deleted, the third message i made her laugh with and she replied, although she made me wait a day for the reply

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Does it eventually stop you from actually sending a msg after a certain number? When they don't get read.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think it doesn’t hurt to try again . But always use your private notes because that will stop you. It does for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

I guess if you have sent one msg and it hasn't been read, I would try again or be patient (shrug). She could have done a mass delete and it got caught in that or hasn't got round to reading it.

If she has read it though and no reply is given, either take it as a sign to stop and walk away, or think I need to step up my game. Especially if the previous msg was along the lines of a hi how are you? Try and stand out (this does not mean a dick pic, yours isn't more amazing than any body else's. All penis's are cool, its just for me, not appropriate introduction). Put together a decent message, and if she doesn't answer this time after being read, it's her loss. Youve taken time to introduce herself, she didn't reply despite reading the msg, although there maybe a male/female imbalance, there really are more fish in the sea and there will be one who appreciates you.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

99% of couples don't get hundreds of messages a day, that's a myth. Just leave them alone would be our advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've already sent xxxxxxx a message and not received a reply back.

Is the warning you get if you go to message someone you really like and you’ve already Messaged them previously.

I sometimes try again (just once)if I really like the profile and photos and think we’d be a good match.

Only because you hear that couples and single women get hundreds of replies daily so in my mind there’s a chance they’ve not seen the message.

So the question is am I wrong to try again, and what do you do if you get the STOP, THINK message ?

On here op if they not respond first time round.

Means to me not interested because you are not a match.

Considering this weeks rude messages for me.. Block. Move on.

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