FabSwingers.com forum: God loves a trier

By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Had this discussion the other day. Well I say discussion, it was a poor attempt at explaining.

Anyway, Enthusiasm!

It's not always a good thing is it. A quiet, internal enthusiasm that is shown through what you are doing. We all like that right?

While an over the top enthusiasm, is disliked. You know the kind. Their attempt at doing something is both hindered and also overshadowed by the enthusiasm of doing it.

Enthusiasm alone can't make up for it all can it?

How do you feel about enthusiasm? Do you think it has two sides to it?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

There's 'enthusiastic' and 'over enthusiastic'.

The difference is key.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I'm enthusiastically disinterested

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By *agebunWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I think too much enthusiasm with no ability to back it up is probably when it's bad!

Enthusiasm can't make up for something being terrible

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

There's people on death row with more enthusiasm than me

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on what it is I think. Enthusiasm to learn e.g. in the workplace, is far better than someone lazy who knows how to do the job. But enthusiasm to the point they're nagging you constantly drives me demented.

So I guess there's a fine balance between being keen and an absolute load, so you actively try and avoid them. Maybe enthusiasm that doesn't drag others into it is the best kind?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I think this is exactly why my boss chose the word enthusiastic yesturday at my review… I drive him bonkers.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Enthusiasm coupled with optimism (and a skill set in the correct context) is good.

Over enthusiasm however, can be somewhat irksome to those around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you be too enthusiasticly shagging

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I think the only time enthusiasm really matters to me is when it comes to consent.

Though I suppose, I want the people I play with to be enthusiastic about me, in as much as not just a selection of willing orifices. But I'm a fairly stoic and unexpressive person a lot of the time, even when I'm super keen, so I don't expect a constant overexcited demonstration of the enthusiasm, I just need to know it's there

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Oh for sure. There are guys who come across as desperate rather than enthusiastic. With enthusiasm they will match your efforts more. With desperation they overwelm with messages and get all upset if you haven't replied immediately.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

There's a fine line between enthusiastic and pestering.

Tread wisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can be enthusiastic about something without becoming this joyful bouncy irritating force. I prefer subtle enthusiastic people, you know how to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Enthusiasm in itself is not a bad thing… I think some of the issues are people in effect just try to hard rather than just being themselves

People who just are so loud they can be overbearing…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enthusiasm isn't in my vocabulary

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Enthusiasm isn't in my vocabulary "

want a hash brown?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Enthusiasm isn't in my vocabulary

want a hash brown?"

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Enthusiasm isn't in my vocabulary

want a hash brown?

No"

she said with enthuiasm

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Enthusiasm isn't in my vocabulary

want a hash brown?"

I'll take the Hash browns thanks

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I like people who are enthusiastic. Passionate about something. Reading another's enthusiasm more often than not makes me smile, it's nice when people can be open about what it is that sparks joy for them.

Of course, over enthusiasm can be grating. I'd much rather see the odd glimmer of enthusing than it being constant, almost a facade of it.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I like people who are enthusiastic. Passionate about something. Reading another's enthusiasm more often than not makes me smile, it's nice when people can be open about what it is that sparks joy for them.

Of course, over enthusiasm can be grating. I'd much rather see the odd glimmer of enthusing than it being constant, almost a facade of it."

Yes!

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"There's 'enthusiastic' and 'over enthusiastic'.

The difference is key.

This

Em x

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Had this discussion the other day. Well I say discussion, it was a poor attempt at explaining.

Anyway, Enthusiasm!

It's not always a good thing is it. A quiet, internal enthusiasm that is shown through what you are doing. We all like that right?

While an over the top enthusiasm, is disliked. You know the kind. Their attempt at doing something is both hindered and also overshadowed by the enthusiasm of doing it.

Enthusiasm alone can't make up for it all can it?

How do you feel about enthusiasm? Do you think it has two sides to it?"

I'm too enthusiastic clearly. I'm gonna go more quietly sexy mode

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Had this discussion the other day. Well I say discussion, it was a poor attempt at explaining.

Anyway, Enthusiasm!

It's not always a good thing is it. A quiet, internal enthusiasm that is shown through what you are doing. We all like that right?

While an over the top enthusiasm, is disliked. You know the kind. Their attempt at doing something is both hindered and also overshadowed by the enthusiasm of doing it.

Enthusiasm alone can't make up for it all can it?

How do you feel about enthusiasm? Do you think it has two sides to it?

I'm too enthusiastic clearly. I'm gonna go more quietly sexy mode "

Shush. Not enough you go quiet but enough that you don't type such nonsense. Your enthusiasm is endearing.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Shit

Enthusiasm is literally my USP.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

See I’m enthusiastic about everything too! But I can’t quite grasp the concept of being over enthusiastic to a point where it’s a problem

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

Think of it a bit more like "show, don't tell" or similar to quiet confidence.

You can tell if somebody is enthusiastic about something. It shows through their enjoyment.

But some people go about enthusiasm, at least in terms of sex, which can be expressed in such a way that it ruins the moment. They are enjoying something but the expression of that enthusiasm overshadows the enjoyment.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

See I’m enthusiastic about everything too! But I can’t quite grasp the concept of being over enthusiastic to a point where it’s a problem

Same. Is it the enthusiasm that's the problem or the fact that they're crap at whatever it is? And even if someone else would be better at doing something, how do you learn without trying?

I think I'm misunderstanding the example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

Think of it a bit more like "show, don't tell" or similar to quiet confidence.

You can tell if somebody is enthusiastic about something. It shows through their enjoyment.

You mean like making really loud porn star noises?

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

Think of it a bit more like "show, don't tell" or similar to quiet confidence.

You can tell if somebody is enthusiastic about something. It shows through their enjoyment.

You mean like making really loud porn star noises?"

Yes but no. That's fake enthusiasm.

This isn't the best way to explain it either but when their effort is shifted so much from actually enjoying it, to almost make a point to show how enthusiastic they are in enjoying it.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

Think of it a bit more like "show, don't tell" or similar to quiet confidence.

You can tell if somebody is enthusiastic about something. It shows through their enjoyment.

Ah, the Sex. Still a bit confused. Do you mean they're overly vocal or descriptive?

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I’m still not hugely sure I understood this so I’ll sit quietly and take notes

I'm a bit confused too. I tend to only be enthusiastic about things I have the slightest hope of being good at or enjoying.

Apart from that time I had a go at a potter's wheel. I was so excited to try that and was utterly deflated when I was shit. Still salty.

Think of it a bit more like "show, don't tell" or similar to quiet confidence.

You can tell if somebody is enthusiastic about something. It shows through their enjoyment.

You mean like making really loud porn star noises?

Yes but no. That's fake enthusiasm.

This isn't the best way to explain it either but when their effort is shifted so much from actually enjoying it, to almost make a point to show how enthusiastic they are in enjoying it. "

I can't help being a noisy fucker

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Yes but no. That's fake enthusiasm.

This isn't the best way to explain it either but when their effort is shifted so much from actually enjoying it, to almost make a point to show how enthusiastic they are in enjoying it. "

Starting to get it. I mean it could be that whatever was happening before didn't do it for them so they *really* want you to know you're getting it right now. (general you not personal you)

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

It doesn't apply to me. I struggle to be noisy enough during sex due to years of very light sleeping children

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