FabSwingers.com forum: Define Swinging

By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

So many different opinions im thinking- whats the difference between swinging… and just casual hookups to you.. is there a difference for you… i want individual opinions - what it is for you and if it differs from a ONS or casual hookup - how?

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

Partners is the difference for me.

If I'm with a single woman, then it's a hookup.

If I'm with an attached woman (either on her own or with partners consent) then I'm swinging.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

If it involves an actual couple, then it's swinging. If not, then it's just a hook up.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

First you go back then forth then back then forth then back then forth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just sex innit?

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By *ose manMan
over a year ago

kells

Over and back ..

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I realise my definition’s different, but … Swinging’s a broader thing than just your regular dates or hookups. It’s about a wider palette of sexual activity. Threesomes, groups, clubs, kinks, different control dynamics, all sorts of things. All that stuff you pick from in your preferences list on your Fab profile. Swinging, to me, is a more liberated thing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's not going to be a consensus, but to me it's ethical nonmonogamy with less or no focus on romantic feelings in the nonmonogamy part.

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

There isn't a single definition. There are different ways of enjoying the lifestyle and everyone would have different approach It's what you want it to be

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

"There's not going to be a consensus, but to me it's ethical nonmonogamy with less or no focus on romantic feelings in the nonmonogamy part."

I like that description

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Partners is the difference for me.

If I'm with a single woman, then it's a hookup.

If I'm with an attached woman (either on her own or with partners consent) then I'm swinging."

This comes back to commonly held view that two singles can't be swingers if they're only meeting 1-2-1.

Why?

Many singles have 1-2-1 meets, whilst also enjoying threesomes or moresomes, clubs, parties and other events.

Do they switch off temporarily from being a swinger during 1-2-1's or are they not still the same person?

Everyone will have their own view, but to me it's a mindset and approach to life, rather than something defined by the number of bodies involved at any given time.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

This is what i was after - i dont expect consensus but it’s interesting to see if there are any commonalities- I always viewed swinging as there is a friendship connection where you sometimes just meet socially but also as mentioned there is a wider palette where you may decide to plan something together and/or with others - and a hook up is just a hook up.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I realise my definition’s different, but … Swinging’s a broader thing than just your regular dates or hookups. It’s about a wider palette of sexual activity. Threesomes, groups, clubs, kinks, different control dynamics, all sorts of things. All that stuff you pick from in your preferences list on your Fab profile. Swinging, to me, is a more liberated thing."

I would agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ENM is fucking around with strangers and a beautiful sharing thing.

Swinging is fucking around with strangers and really pretty seedy.

Casual hook ups is fucking around with strangers and absolutely disgusting.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No difference for us. We treat everyone we meet with respect as we did in our single, one night stand days.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

"ENM is fucking around with strangers and a beautiful sharing thing.

Swinging is fucking around with strangers and really pretty seedy.

Casual hook ups is fucking around with strangers and absolutely disgusting. "

Not seeing a definitive difference between swinging and hook ups … what determines swinging vs hook ups for you? Xx

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"There's not going to be a consensus, but to me it's ethical nonmonogamy with less or no focus on romantic feelings in the nonmonogamy part."

This^^

And again far more concisely than I could phrase it.

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By *abulousAvaWoman
over a year ago

Dainty Town

For me swinging is a couples pursuit, of sex and socialising, be it other couples, or female (that mythical unicorn)

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"For me swinging is a couples pursuit, of sex and socialising, be it other couples, or female (that mythical unicorn)"

Eh?

What about the couples that enjoy MMF/MFM? Or any other activity involving additional males?

Why are single women different to single men?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"For me swinging is a couples pursuit, of sex and socialising, be it other couples, or female (that mythical unicorn)

Eh?

What about the couples that enjoy MMF/MFM? Or any other activity involving additional males?

Why are single women different to single men?

We have willies

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t have a clue

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By *odgers and PartingCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

A social occasion first and foremost, it’s a reason for us (as a couple) to indulge ourselves in the dating thing again, the anticipation, the getting ready, the flirting, the being ‘us’ without the shackles of kids/ life etc, ideally with people who want to share experiences and push a few boundaries. I don’t see it as a quick hook up. There’s other sites for that. Seen this one become more of that over the years though.

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

south

Swinging for me is having consensual sex & fun with others nothing more I’m never looking for a hook up as I think that’s to personal the 1-1 thing & honestly they don’t do anything for me

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Swinging for me is having consensual sex & fun with others nothing more I’m never looking for a hook up as I think that’s to personal the 1-1 thing & honestly they don’t do anything for me "

Can you let me know when next door goes up for sale???

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Well you sit in this wooden or plastic board suspended in the air and move back and fore, back and fore wooshing through the air..... Oooohhhh

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Well you sit in this wooden or plastic board suspended in the air and move back and fore, back and fore wooshing through the air..... Oooohhhh

Saw your knickers!!

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

south

"Swinging for me is having consensual sex & fun with others nothing more I’m never looking for a hook up as I think that’s to personal the 1-1 thing & honestly they don’t do anything for me

Can you let me know when next door goes up for sale???

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

"Partners is the difference for me.

If I'm with a single woman, then it's a hookup.

If I'm with an attached woman (either on her own or with partners consent) then I'm swinging.

This comes back to commonly held view that two singles can't be swingers if they're only meeting 1-2-1.

Why?

Many singles have 1-2-1 meets, whilst also enjoying threesomes or moresomes, clubs, parties and other events.

Do they switch off temporarily from being a swinger during 1-2-1's or are they not still the same person?

Everyone will have their own view, but to me it's a mindset and approach to life, rather than something defined by the number of bodies involved at any given time."

Seems you are not differentiating between the act of swinging and being a swinger.

OP asked for opinions on definition of swinging and casual hookups.

I can meet up with a couple for a MFM, in which case I believe I am swinging.

I can also meet up with a single woman (I'm in an ENM relationship) for sex, in which case I believe I am having a hook-up.

In both instances I would still identify as a swinger. What I identify as doesn't change based on a given activity at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

F*cked if I know

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

All sounds remarkably similar to everyday life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples with couples for us.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I would say that it is only couples who swing, like swapping sexual partners, otherwise as others have said it is just sex meets

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It means whatever you want it to mean. It really is different especially if you’re a couple or a single but tbh if you’re smiling, enjoying life and doing your own thing then it’s all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is someone hanging out the back of you whilst your partner watches.

Hooking up is two people exchanging the sex with no expectations or commitment.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

It’s a lifestyle apparently!

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By *ickshawedCouple
52 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"It’s a lifestyle apparently!"

Like being homeless?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

moving back and forth or from side to side while suspended or on an axis.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"So many different opinions im thinking- whats the difference between swinging… and just casual hookups to you.. is there a difference for you… i want individual opinions - what it is for you and if it differs from a ONS or casual hookup - how?

Swinging is a lifestyle choice to involve others in your relationships, normally beyond sex on a regular basis. But of course everyone adds their twist to it. But it's more then a quick fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"It’s a lifestyle apparently!

Like being homeless? "

I can tell you've never been homeless I have ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I think about it like this :

You have your favourite meal, let's say Sunday Lunch

.... but you don't necessarily want to eat it every day

... So sometimes you might have a 'takeaway'... Pizza, or chowmein... You really enjoy it at the time and lick your lips

... But it doesn't detract from your enjoyment of Sunday lunch and you still look forward to having your favourite meal

... but maybe you'll add some gravy next time

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By *ogerroger69Man
52 weeks ago

West Yorks

"I think about it like this :

You have your favourite meal, let's say Sunday Lunch

.... but you don't necessarily want to eat it every day

... So sometimes you might have a 'takeaway'... Pizza, or chowmein... You really enjoy it at the time and lick your lips

... But it doesn't detract from your enjoyment of Sunday lunch and you still look forward to having your favourite meal

... but maybe you'll add some gravy next time

This is too funny!!!!!

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By *layfullsamMan
52 weeks ago

Solihull

My definition of swinging… send lots of polite thought out messages personalised to the other party

Receive no replies

The end

lol

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By *umagain58Man
52 weeks ago

London

I don’t tend to think about labels and what meet type am having. Can enjoy lots of different meets and fun. Some will call it different things. On the whole I probably use swinging most. Maybe that is what I am I used to as done for years

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

"My definition of swinging… send lots of polite thought out messages personalised to the other party

Receive no replies

The end

lol"

Ain’t that the truth

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By *aughty but nice...Man
52 weeks ago

Staffs

Being sexually liberated

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
52 weeks ago

East Sussex

Sexual activity with people. There are add ons that you can use according to your taste

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Well it is not sitting on a swing being pushed by several peers

Swinging was, Was for married couples in the history of swingers to wife swap.

Swinging can be whatever we please.

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By *andy CanesWoman
52 weeks ago

south

Sex no drama

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