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Are you afraid of getting older?

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not afraid of getting older as such, more afraid of not doing the things I won’t be able to do when I’m too old

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

In not afraid it's always going to happen, doesn't mean I like the extra wrinkles though

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew I'd gotten older the moment I tried to show my son how to do a roly-poly and stopped myself thinking I'd end up snapping my neck.

Oh, and when sliding down the stairs on your ass actually hurts.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

Dying doesn't bother me but getting old does

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Yep i guess so but for the same reasons as somebody has already said because of the things i want to do but won't be able to probably

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Just not being able to look after myself, being a burden.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,


"Just not being able to look after myself, being a burden."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am being honest getting older is one of my greatest anxieties. I dont want to be a burden to anyone; I have seen how cancer and dementia can ravage and hollow out people I really cared about and to top it all off I know I can be extremely vain at times.

Its something that morbidly I have been conscious of since I was considerably younger than I am now. Genuinely wish I could put it out of my mind.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I definitely think it’s preferably to the alternative, so no, I embrace it.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Is 61 old, I guess so but I got married late so it was only this summer I no longer had a child in primary school when most my age are grandparents by now or their kids have at least flown the nest.

Aches & a touch of arthritis caused by old motorcycles accidents mean sometimes I feel it for sure. I still ride but the 500+ mile days are long behind me.

The only time I ponder about “The End” is when someone else dies at say 73 & I think “Fuck thats only 12yrs away”. But then someone like Matthew Perry dies at 54, or one of my friends at 48 & I think “Meh, I’m doing ok”.

It’s the speed time passes now that I ponder & I guess scares me a little sometimes. For instance if I asked you “When was the last time Concorde flew?” Unless you were interested in aviation you might like me think 8,10 yrs tops. It was 20 yrs ago already & I find it hard to comprehend that it happened before I was even a dad.

Defiantly felt old this past weekend though, took the eldest & a friend to Cardiff so they could visit the Halloween/Goth market at Fuel bar. & he bought an “Ozzy” patch as he is a Sabbath fan. Told him I saw them at the Odeon Lewisham Oct 75 when I was 14.

Realised that was nearly 30yrs before he was born!

He was impressed though

S

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

Not afraid of getting older but i am worried about how fast the years are flying by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was young I was convinced I'd die before I got "old".

I'd rock being a granny though so bring it on.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yes. Though to be fair I've been worrying about this for 25 years.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Only since my mum got dementia. It absolutely terrifies me that I’ll get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not afraid of it nor do I give it much thought. It will happen regardless! I just get on with the present.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Getting old doesn't bother me. Being old, alone and incapable does, but then I've had to make the first phone call to have someone come round and help me do simple things like get out of the bath or get off the toilet a few times since my 20s due to back problems. So I see no difference there.

What's the alternative?

It isn't like we get a choice in these matters. So there is no point worrying about it. Just make the best of the time we have really is all we can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am already there

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

It doesn't bother me as such.... though..I really don't wanna be sticking around well into old age... when I have difficulty doing stuff etc.. it's just deciding when I've had enough.. and need to take that long walk off of that short pier..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m aware if it, very aware of it but not frightened by it. Yet. R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no I'm not afraid of it.

I do think sometimes how will it be, what might be round the corner, will my life change dramatically again or will it plod along the way it is and the way I like to keep it may I add. I really just want to keep my peace at this stage, I have a very rich fulfilling life but it is steady and I like that.

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

I'm not afraid of getting older or old.

However, I am more afraid of getting older and wishing I'd experienced things I stopped myself experiencing when I was younger, so I now think about what I want to try before it's too late.

Granted, putting myself first hasn't been an innate trait of mine, but getting older has made me realise I need to try releasing myself from the mental shackles I unknowingly put myself in whilst growing up.

(Ooof! That was a deep answer from me )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just not being able to look after myself, being a burden.

Exactly this "

+2

I was holding my dads hand when he finally died a few years ago at 82.

He had years of demise through vascular dementia.

I have no issues with death. I’d just rather it were sudden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Day to day it doesnt bother me but now n again I think about the fact that at best I've prob got 20yrs left. If it goes as quickly as the past 20 have gone, that scares me a little, possibly more so because I'm on my own but...not much I can do so I put it out if my head and get on with it.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

I wouldn’t say that I think about getting older more, but I’m aware of it more, and it feeds into my decision making.

Recovery times are slower, fitness is harder to build, but overall my fitness / strength etc are no different to 15 years ago … just takes a bit more care to get there.

In some ways I’m glad I’m older. Would be much more difficult for me to have the career I’ve had if I was starting out now, and I’m at a stage in life that I am really enjoying, in a way that would not have been possible 15 years ago.

I find that j value time, friends and family more now

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Not afraid of getting older but i am worried about how fast the years are flying by "

This ^^^ ... there's just not enough time to do everything on the to do list!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I am afraid of being older and in poor health or with poor mobility. I've seen what that looks like and it's not pretty.

I do what I can to mitigate it but there are some things you can't prevent.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not concerned about getting older as such though, after all it beats the alternative

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr "

come back in 20 years and tell me that

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I'm not afraid of getting older, as such. I'm more worried about being older and not being physically fit or able to do all the things we both want to do. I also worry about being in bad health and if I needed cared for. I would absolutely hate to not have my full independence.

Ruby

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm 69 so think that makes me older. Only problem I have are age related like not being able to do things I did 20yrs ago, also have a lot more aches and pains. At least I get a free bus pass

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr

come back in 20 years and tell me that "

Honestly if I make 70 I’ll not be happy, mainly because I’ll have to drive a Honda jazz

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

Stop thinking and over thinking enjoy life shag. Have a shag shag might make you feel younger haha

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow


"I am already there "

You should worry I'm 30 years past you....

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Que Sera, Sera

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m terrified of getting older. My family has a lot of health problems brought on by age and the thought of not being able to do all the things I want to scares me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr

come back in 20 years and tell me that

Honestly if I make 70 I’ll not be happy, mainly because I’ll have to drive a Honda jazz

The mr "

There is that of course along with the velcro fastening slippers and a cosy fleece. I think you should book your place on the ice floe now

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By *oontzMan
over a year ago

Nantwich

It's not necessarily getting old that bothers me, it's the issue of ageism that is so persistent and pernicious in our society. It is all too easy for many to accept the false narrative of ageing being a time of decline. Of course maturing has its challenges but it can also present many opportunities. But for me personally, one of the greatest advantages is that I care less about other people's opinions. I call it the Victor Meldrew syndrome!,

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ oh and if I make 70 I'll be bloody ecstatic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The unforeseen future of old age when those adverts come on and say over 50 life plan.. Used to say to myself that is 30 years time. Now it is 3 years after but, I do not care. Age is a number for me. I do not take pills for anything except pain.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’ve been old for too long now

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Out of interest when does one become 'old'?

I say it's always one year older than my current age

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By *as1098Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I'm 48 and went through a phase a few years back where I was scared of getting old, and although i didnt go sick from work, thought I had every ailment going. Realised that I couldn't live like this and quickly worked out that I had to change my lifestyle and became more healthy. Now I've never felt better but also that you have to embrace life and make the most of it.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I’m not afraid of getting older as such, more afraid of not doing the things I won’t be able to do when I’m too old "
That is good and I yes. I also think if that too

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By *lhr1061Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Don't worry about getting older, some people don't get the chance.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I’m intending to live until I’m 124, so I’m barely a third of my way through. I’m aware of getting older though, but I’m not afraid of it. My only concern is not having enough energy to keep up with my little one, so I take my health seriously. Yoga and functional movement will hopefully keep me mobile as I move into my 50s. As for everything else, I’m too busy to think about it x

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent


"Don't worry about getting older, some people don't get the chance."

This is a good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really no.

I try my best not to worry about things over which I have zero control.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

northumberland

Yes I hate it, scares me how fast the last 20 years have gone and know if next 20 goes as fast life will be practically over in blink of an eye. Turned 40 back in august and was depressed for about a month after tried to make everyone let the day pass by unannounced which everyone except my mother and kids did even now hate the fact not in 30s but to be fair handled it better than turning 30

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not afraid, just bloody annoyed that it has to happen. Head says do the things you did when you were in 20s/30s, body has a laugh and starts falling to pieces.

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By *hong80321967Man
over a year ago

Wakefield

Dont care but don't want to lose my sex drive !!!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I do but only because of the shocking care system!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm now 5 years older than my dad was when he passed away 36 years ago.

I'm also the last in my family line.

Those things come to mind now and again but I can't say I'm afraid of getting older.

I tend to take each day as it comes and can't plan very far ahead.

I've met people in recent months hiking mountains and going on 6 week cycling and hiking trips across Europe in their 70s and 80s and that's what I'm aiming for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm now 5 years older than my dad was when he passed away 36 years ago.

I'm also the last in my family line.

Those things come to mind now and again but I can't say I'm afraid of getting older.

I tend to take each day as it comes and can't plan very far ahead.

I've met people in recent months hiking mountains and going on 6 week cycling and hiking trips across Europe in their 70s and 80s and that's what I'm aiming for. "
Exactly this for me also

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By *929Man
over a year ago

northumberland


"I do but only because of the shocking care system!"

Id end my life before going into care

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

Its not the getting older as long as i stay fit and healthy and my parts still work im ok.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am loving getting older

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By *CExeCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln/Exeter

I'd say folks on Fab tend to have a slightly different outlook on things to most people. Life is for living and having fun, and we have the mindset that will enjoy life regardless of age. The worries of being a burden etc are entirely natural, but sensible planning can mitigate for it to some extent.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,


"Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr

come back in 20 years and tell me that

Honestly if I make 70 I’ll not be happy, mainly because I’ll have to drive a Honda jazz

The mr "

Don't despair, my sister is 77 and still drives her Porsche 911 with gusto

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr

come back in 20 years and tell me that

Honestly if I make 70 I’ll not be happy, mainly because I’ll have to drive a Honda jazz

The mr

There is that of course along with the velcro fastening slippers and a cosy fleece. I think you should book your place on the ice floe now "

Oh yeah, I forgot about those. I’ll have the swelled up ankles to match as well, yeah you’re really not selling old age to me.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm scared of losing the ability to do things for myself and I'm scared to see what the future holds for my child. But other than that, living to see an old age is a privilege. I've lost too many loved ones who died early in life and it completely changed my perspective on getting old.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Just back from the gym and I've seen my future in the changing rooms.

Saggy boobs saggy ball's liver spot's and take ten mins to put a pair of shoes on.

Then I realised I was looking in the mirror!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / Manchester / London


"I am loving getting older "

Me too. But I’m increasingly aware of there being a tipping point somewhere up ahead, when things start getting worse rather than better. I’m hoping I can hold that off as long as possible. At least another 20 years. And every day’s a bonus.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I am afraid of close family getting older...specially Mum and Dad.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

only the good die young, I will stick to old & bad

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

No and nor should anyone else be.

It's inevitable. Be wise and live in each day.

To fear a future over which you have no control stops you living.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I’m 54 and I look back on things, things I could off done better and things I should have done, feels wasted sometimes.

But when you have time to think about it you can’t change it anyway. I would say act and do the things that you feel for. I keep say ing I think and act like I’m 30 again, but the mirror tells the truth.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah. I look at old people (o.a.p’s) and think “ fuck that, if I ever get like that just do me in ) being old and decrepit doesn’t really sound like a future I could invest in, but in all honesty if I don’t die in my 60’s I’ll be well fucked off.

The mr

come back in 20 years and tell me that

Honestly if I make 70 I’ll not be happy, mainly because I’ll have to drive a Honda jazz

The mr

There is that of course along with the velcro fastening slippers and a cosy fleece. I think you should book your place on the ice floe now

Oh yeah, I forgot about those. I’ll have the swelled up ankles to match as well, yeah you’re really not selling old age to me.

The mr "

Its free...if you're lucky

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


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What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

I’m 59 in January. I’m in the prime of life - fitter and stronger than most men third of my age. I’m an outlier. I intend to be the fittest, strongest, and most mobile man in the graveyard.

So, no. It doesn’t worry me.

Bring. It. On.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am afraid of losing my independence. Once I can no longer take care of myself, I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I would say is I think I'm fortunate to have been born when I was. I believe ive lived through the best of times but then again, probably most generations would think the same?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I am afraid of losing my independence. Once I can no longer take care of myself, I'm done."

A lot of people say they're afraid of losing their independence. Sadly this often leads to them refusing help that would actually result in them maintaining more independence for longer.

I would say don't fear losing independence but do everything possible to maintain the independence you're able to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ a case in point is my dad. He refuses to use a walker because it makes him look old (he's 96) and he doesn't want to lose his independence. He will fall over one day using his home made walking stick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I would say is I think I'm fortunate to have been born when I was. I believe ive lived through the best of times but then again, probably most generations would think the same?"
- I doubt the current young generation will say this, bar a few exceptions. According to my 22yr old - my generation were the last to have it so good, and have f’d loads of stuff up

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"^^ a case in point is my dad. He refuses to use a walker because it makes him look old (he's 96) and he doesn't want to lose his independence. He will fall over one day using his home made walking stick."

I believe the word is 'stubborn'?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No.

I used to be scared of waking up every day. Now I just value the time I have. What will be will be.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I am afraid of losing my independence. Once I can no longer take care of myself, I'm done.

A lot of people say they're afraid of losing their independence. Sadly this often leads to them refusing help that would actually result in them maintaining more independence for longer.

I would say don't fear losing independence but do everything possible to maintain the independence you're able to. "

Can relate to the point about loved ones refusing help, almost becomes a self fulfilling prophesy because of the reluctance to take up what's out there..

'I'm alright I don't need anything '..

Perhaps it's a generational mindset from a generation who in the past certainly had it hard at times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I eat my greens my mum said you live to ripe old age.

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside

I’m working on immortality.

One day at a time

More seriously.

I am already old and fast approaching my three score years and ten but whilst I can still achieve a functional erection I figure life has some benefits.

More seriously still.

I have a multitude of grandchildren and a great grandson and I want to be around to look out for them and see their lives grow.

And finally.

If my health deteriorates to the point where I become a burden I have a plan involving a small tent and a disposable barbecue…

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

D is a decade ahead of me, the silver fox look is creeping in and for me he's even hotter than when we met!

However he shared his feelings on it.. "At 30, your likely to see the same time on this earth again, 40, fair chance again, 50, not so much..

We're very aware many don't have that luxury, having lost friends in each care every age care..

Maybe another side of why we all love the lifestyle..

Regret the things you didn't do.. Love, Mrs x

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

People in my immediate family die at the first avaliable opportunity so I've long given up worrying about it bc I don't think old will apply to me.

If I did happen to be old (whatever that means now). I'd worry about having to work right up until that point, never being able to retire and despite what my body might want or need, having to do so out of necessity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i am, i will be 65 in a few days and over the last few weeks or so its dawned on that i am soon to be a pensioner.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I am afraid of losing my independence. Once I can no longer take care of myself, I'm done.

A lot of people say they're afraid of losing their independence. Sadly this often leads to them refusing help that would actually result in them maintaining more independence for longer.

I would say don't fear losing independence but do everything possible to maintain the independence you're able to.

Can relate to the point about loved ones refusing help, almost becomes a self fulfilling prophesy because of the reluctance to take up what's out there..

'I'm alright I don't need anything '..

Perhaps it's a generational mindset from a generation who in the past certainly had it hard at times..

"

Possibly.

I think as long as adults are in possession of all their facilities I support their decisions even if I don't agree with them. I wasted too much breath trying to persuade my parents to accept more help while watching them struggle and my dad on the verge of a mental health crisis to think otherwise now.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

My body is about ten years older than I actually am.

A very hard first 45 year's, physically and emotionally.

Paying for it now slowly falling apart.

A serious head injury when I was 40 accelerated things and subsequent health issues.

Then covid having that has probably

Dropped my life expectancy considerably.

I'm not so much scared of dying but sacred of leaving my loved ones.

I still feel like I have a lot of living to do before I shuffle off this mortal coil.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^^faculties

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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago

Colne

I'm not afraid of getting older. The older I have got the better things have become for me.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost both parents in May, but I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. That’s how I know I feel old at the moment.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

I'm already there

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I hold some trepidation as to how my health will be but otherwise I'm looking forward to retirement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 63 and don't worry about age or getting older. I understand I can't do stuff that I could many years ago, but I still live life to the max.

I view getting older as an opportunity to share my experiences and knowledge. But of course a younger me wouldn't listen and go head first like a bull in a China shop.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I am afraid of losing my independence. Once I can no longer take care of myself, I'm done.

A lot of people say they're afraid of losing their independence. Sadly this often leads to them refusing help that would actually result in them maintaining more independence for longer.

I would say don't fear losing independence but do everything possible to maintain the independence you're able to.

Can relate to the point about loved ones refusing help, almost becomes a self fulfilling prophesy because of the reluctance to take up what's out there..

'I'm alright I don't need anything '..

Perhaps it's a generational mindset from a generation who in the past certainly had it hard at times..

Possibly.

I think as long as adults are in possession of all their facilities I support their decisions even if I don't agree with them. I wasted too much breath trying to persuade my parents to accept more help while watching them struggle and my dad on the verge of a mental health crisis to think otherwise now."

Agree, one can only say so much before it gets to a point of being over bearing or interfering..

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

...actually I'd rather get older than the alternative

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's good to plan but I'm not afraid of something that's inevitable, if I remain alive long enough.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"The unforeseen future of old age when those adverts come on and say over 50 life plan.. Used to say to myself that is 30 years time. Now it is 3 years after but, I do not care. Age is a number for me. I do not take pills for anything except pain. "
Hi becs, yes and you are right there and also that age is just a number too

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

Remember growing old is mandatory, however growing up is optional.

Life is what you make it no matter what age you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dying doesn't bother me but getting old does "

I’m the opposite- getting older doesn’t bother me but I am scared of dying and cannot stop thinking about it these days!!

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


" Hi becs, yes and you are right there and also that age is just a number too "

Age is not just a number. If it was then we’d have 500 year old people walking around.

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By *ggchaser01Man
over a year ago

bridgwater

When you’re young and you’re given a packet of fruit pastilles, you quickly gobbled up the first half but then when you got to the halfway point, you began to take your time with each one, savoring the flavour, making them last as long as possible.

At 41, you’d be at about the halfway point of that packet and are now being more considerate of the value of time left - it’s much more front and centre cos it’s the down slope now….

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

You should all have a listen to the new version of 'Time' by Roger Waters. The original was written when he was young. Now he is old it is even more relevant.

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

I don't worry about getting older per say. I worry about not being able to function. I have always been an active person and kept in good shape. The last 6 months I have really been taking care of myself both physically and mentally. I feel fitter and stronger tha I did I my 40's. So I will keep doing what I am doing and hopefully there will be a good few more decades left in me...

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's inevitable. There's nothing that can stop it. Sure, there are cosmetics and procedures. But they do nothing more than mask the outside. Inside the clock is still ticking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not afraid of getting older but I am afraid of getting to a certain age without achieving the things I want to.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

OK here my take old.I've been around forever.seen so many things chang e.there life cycle.sadly no one tell you about it.or the things you can do to exstend that life and live the longest.and if they did most people wouldnt believe it.they carry on doing the same shit.that shortens their lives and makes the I'll.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We get old so fast.

I can see the changes in myself as each year passes.

Going more to the gym now to help later on in life.

Mr

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'm old. Still moving along, still loving life. Embrace the changes and learn to live with it

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


".

At 41, you’d be at about the halfway point of that packet and are now being more considerate of the value of time left - it’s much more front and centre cos it’s the down slope now…."

Only by choice.

The inevitable decline usually starts around 65. At 75 it tends to go off a cliff.

At 41 you have more than two decades to build a solid foundation. Most don’t bother.

Sucks to be them at 60.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"It's not necessarily getting old that bothers me, it's the issue of ageism that is so persistent and pernicious in our society. It is all too easy for many to accept the false narrative of ageing being a time of decline. Of course maturing has its challenges but it can also present many opportunities. But for me personally, one of the greatest advantages is that I care less about other people's opinions. I call it the Victor Meldrew syndrome!,

"

“False narrative” that old age is a time of decline?

I would love to believe that physical / mental decline wasn’t a fact of life in old age … but it is.

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


"

“False narrative” that old age is a time of decline?

I would love to believe that physical / mental decline wasn’t a fact of life in old age … but it is. "

Exactly this.

That said we CAN do a lot to live better for (much) longer.

No guarantees, obviously, but in general there’s a lot we can do.

But most simply choose not to.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


" Hi becs, yes and you are right there and also that age is just a number too

Age is not just a number. If it was then we’d have 500 year old people walking around.

"

Agreed. “Age is just a number” is a fantasy / delusion. Ageing and decline are inevitable. We can improve our quality of life somewhat through good diet and exercise, but these bodies don’t last forever.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"

“False narrative” that old age is a time of decline?

I would love to believe that physical / mental decline wasn’t a fact of life in old age … but it is.

Exactly this.

That said we CAN do a lot to live better for (much) longer.

No guarantees, obviously, but in general there’s a lot we can do.

But most simply choose not to.

"

Agreed. There are no guarantees, but putting real effort into diet, flexibility and exercise does improve our chances and improve our quality of life.

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


"Agreed. There are no guarantees, but putting real effort into diet, flexibility and exercise does improve our chances and improve our quality of life. "

Definitely. Chap I know had a heart attack on Tuesday. Almost died, and has a long road to recovery ahead, assuming he lives that long.

Overweight, sedentary (taxi driver), and a heavy smoker. He’s only 55.

Play stupid games…

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Agreed. There are no guarantees, but putting real effort into diet, flexibility and exercise does improve our chances and improve our quality of life.

Definitely. Chap I know had a heart attack on Tuesday. Almost died, and has a long road to recovery ahead, assuming he lives that long.

Overweight, sedentary (taxi driver), and a heavy smoker. He’s only 55.

Play stupid games…

"

A friend of mine had a heart attack when he was 50. Changed diet, gave up smoking, took up cycling, got fit, plays golf a few times a week … is now fitter, healthier, more active, 10 years down the line.

Not everyone is lucky enough to get a second chance like that, but he grabbed it with both hands and the results are remarkable

Sorry to hear about the bloke you know, good luck to him

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Agreed. There are no guarantees, but putting real effort into diet, flexibility and exercise does improve our chances and improve our quality of life.

Definitely. Chap I know had a heart attack on Tuesday. Almost died, and has a long road to recovery ahead, assuming he lives that long.

Overweight, sedentary (taxi driver), and a heavy smoker. He’s only 55.

Play stupid games…

"

Beautiful spot, clonakilty … have had many enjoyable stays at inchydoney

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I am 30 next year and I am absolutely freaking out about it

K

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Not really. Especially on here, think I'm gonna hit my prime after 40

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

Not afraid.. Yet.. Maybe that comes. But really not liking it. And if Im honest try not thinking too much about it. Does make me realise how shitty we are towards olduns in our country

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I am 30 next year and I am absolutely freaking out about it

K"

Why?

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

Too late for me to start worrying about it

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

I used to be, I think it was more a fear of death. But I sat with my Mum a lot when she was terminally ill and was with her at the end. That has made me stop being afraid.

My Dad was very young when he died, in his 30s, so I appreciate that I’ve lived longer than he had chance to as well. Getting older is actually a gift not everyone receives.

Red

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I am 30 next year and I am absolutely freaking out about it

K

Why? "

Because I'm supposed to have my life together by now, and I'm still just as clueless as I was 10 years ago.

K

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By *ovit2TV/TS
over a year ago

pimperne

Just be thankful to reach old age, many dont...

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Yes I hate it, scares me how fast the last 20 years have gone and know if next 20 goes as fast life will be practically over in blink of an eye. Turned 40 back in august and was depressed for about a month after tried to make everyone let the day pass by unannounced which everyone except my mother and kids did even now hate the fact not in 30s but to be fair handled it better than turning 30"
Yes, the time goes very quick too

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Not thrilled about the baggage that can come with ageing, but there’s nothing I can do about that. I just try to stay fit and in the best possible health.

Up till recently I was passing for 10 years younger on this site. I stopped doing that very recently and it’s liberating

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Is 61 old, I guess so but I got married late so it was only this summer I no longer had a child in primary school when most my age are grandparents by now or their kids have at least flown the nest.

Aches & a touch of arthritis caused by old motorcycles accidents mean sometimes I feel it for sure. I still ride but the 500+ mile days are long behind me.

The only time I ponder about “The End” is when someone else dies at say 73 & I think “Fuck thats only 12yrs away”. But then someone like Matthew Perry dies at 54, or one of my friends at 48 & I think “Meh, I’m doing ok”.

It’s the speed time passes now that I ponder & I guess scares me a little sometimes. For instance if I asked you “When was the last time Concorde flew?” Unless you were interested in aviation you might like me think 8,10 yrs tops. It was 20 yrs ago already & I find it hard to comprehend that it happened before I was even a dad.

Defiantly felt old this past weekend though, took the eldest & a friend to Cardiff so they could visit the Halloween/Goth market at Fuel bar. & he bought an “Ozzy” patch as he is a Sabbath fan. Told him I saw them at the Odeon Lewisham Oct 75 when I was 14.

Realised that was nearly 30yrs before he was born!

He was impressed though

S"

You've hit that bang on.

I feel exactly the same. I'm a few years older, but yes, an old dad. I've got a 17 year old at home, who loves me so much, and I'm soooo scared of dying and his heart will be broken.

I too amaze the youngsters with my tales of seeing stuff, Led Zep, Thin Lizzy and loads more live and original line up, and the '66 world Cup!!

My mates funeral tomorrow too, same age.

Where is that bullet with my name on, and how long?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've decided I'm bowing out before I hit 50.

I don't wanna be one of those annoying people holding everyone up in Tesco.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've decided I'm bowing out before I hit 50.

I don't wanna be one of those annoying people holding everyone up in Tesco.

"

Only Tesco? Noted!

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Not afraid of getting older, that's a privilege.

I am very worried about losing function and freedom hence why training is a none negotiable for me. I think people that just lay down and let their body go to shit are insane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be 50 in 18 months. And although I don’t think I’m old I’m reminded that I’m getting older.

I stopped playing rugby and I miss it. But I ache for days afterwards.

I still train and keep very active.

But it’s more a chore than for gains.

But generally all is good

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Not at all! Although my back been hurting last few days! Spose it's inevitable at my age! Been lucky all these years! My biggest fear ever is the wind ! Not the butt sort lol! Went to bed feeling quite sick at thought of those winds coming our way! X

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I’ll be 50 in 18 months. And although I don’t think I’m old I’m reminded that I’m getting older.

I stopped playing rugby and I miss it. But I ache for days afterwards.

I still train and keep very active.

But it’s more a chore than for gains.

But generally all is good "

Trust me you still miss the rugby... For ever. But what does happen is... As the years pass... You appreciate the team mates more.... And start saying things like... In my day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be 50 in 18 months. And although I don’t think I’m old I’m reminded that I’m getting older.

I stopped playing rugby and I miss it. But I ache for days afterwards.

I still train and keep very active.

But it’s more a chore than for gains.

But generally all is good

Trust me you still miss the rugby... For ever. But what does happen is... As the years pass... You appreciate the team mates more.... And start saying things like... In my day. "

Haha yeah I think I’m there already from my army days

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I’ve been spending a lot of time organising care for my very elderly parents, and so I’ve been reflecting.

Most of their generation (in my family) only just made it to retirement.

I’m nearly 50. I’ve had a few health scares. It’s heavy on my mind just now. Especially as I’ve been warned that my quality of life is likely to deteriorate unless I take steps to address it.

Anyone know where the last 20 yrs went?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes never used to think about it til i started working in a care home now it scares the shit out me

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

I’m suspicious of anyone who claims not to be scared of getting older. Closer to death, closer to being less able, having not accomplished everything one hoped to accomplish. Isn’t that why most religions and philosophies create some way to believe we’re part of something eternal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little bit. I turn 28 soon and realising I'm nearing thirty, I wonder how my early and mid-twenties went by so quickly and suddenly worry that it'll only feel quicker as I get older feeling like I'm not making the most out of life. Add to that the certain health issues and body breakdown that can happen and it does make me worry a bit.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun


"A little bit. I turn 28 soon and realising I'm nearing thirty, I wonder how my early and mid-twenties went by so quickly and suddenly worry that it'll only feel quicker as I get older feeling like I'm not making the most out of life. Add to that the certain health issues and body breakdown that can happen and it does make me worry a bit."

Wait til you get to my age then

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By *oveboyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes as I get left out as people think to old and boring. I still do a lot of things sex wise .given chance

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm often surprised by the attitude towards aging and older people and I wonder if that's why some people are bothered by aging.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Embrace it, alot of good people never made it this far. Growing old is a privilege

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little bit. I turn 28 soon and realising I'm nearing thirty, I wonder how my early and mid-twenties went by so quickly and suddenly worry that it'll only feel quicker as I get older feeling like I'm not making the most out of life. Add to that the certain health issues and body breakdown that can happen and it does make me worry a bit."

You have time to prep mate. By the the time you’ll need anything new you’ll probably be able to grow a new part.

Don’t overtrain, listen to your body telling you when to take a break and rest and travel. Your mind being rested is as important as the body

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’m suspicious of anyone who claims not to be scared of getting older. Closer to death, closer to being less able, having not accomplished everything one hoped to accomplish. Isn’t that why most religions and philosophies create some way to believe we’re part of something eternal? "

I'm not scared of it. I'm not looking forward to it but I'm not frightened.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"I've decided I'm bowing out before I hit 50.

I don't wanna be one of those annoying people holding everyone up in Tesco.

"

It's normally younger people, glued to their phones, holding people up in supermarkets.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London


"I’m suspicious of anyone who claims not to be scared of getting older. Closer to death, closer to being less able, having not accomplished everything one hoped to accomplish. Isn’t that why most religions and philosophies create some way to believe we’re part of something eternal?

I'm not scared of it. I'm not looking forward to it but I'm not frightened. "

So if you’re not scared but not looking forward, how would you describe your feelings towards getting old? (Not suggesting those are the only two possibilities.)

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m not afraid to get older, neither I’m scared of dying.

What I’m really afraid of is living an unfulfilling life and it’s not a good feeling to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m suspicious of anyone who claims not to be scared of getting older. Closer to death, closer to being less able, having not accomplished everything one hoped to accomplish. Isn’t that why most religions and philosophies create some way to believe we’re part of something eternal? "

I don’t think there’s any reason to be suspicious. Why worry about something you have no control over. Life is short so live it. If you’re putting things off for another time… then you’re wasting life.

I haven’t achieved much as in career wise. But I’ve travelled and worked all over the world, had adventure tires in far off places. And enjoyed life. Now I get to enjoy being a dad and hopefully pass on a life of experience, and hopefully spark a passion for travel and adventure in her.

I’m not scared if getting old or worried, I’m just enjoying everyday that comes.

And I don’t care about religion. But if you’re suspicious of me that’s cool, it’s a good filter that’s all

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I work with younger women. I have noticed they use age as a weapon when they’re angry over something- usually being pulled up over chatting instrad of working etc. I’ve been called menopausal, old bird, mutton dressed as lamb etc….

I organised an event online and as soon as they found out how old I was, half of the group pulled out. I have to admit that dented my confidence a bit…. Ok,a lot.

But you know what? I wouldn’t change my age for the world. I wouldn’t change the era when I grew up- the 80s, so mythical to many, for me it was the time I grew up…. I think I am at the best time in my life. Sometimes insecurity sets in, not going to lie, but I give myself a pep talk.

I am worried about getting older and losing my health, my independence and my mobility. So need to hit the gym again to keep being mobile and in shape!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I not worried about getting old as am already getting there, still fit and healthy, retired and enjoying life, my days are my own with in reason come and go as I please.. Have my own house and garden and not debt, thought about life and saved for the time now.. so no worries, also will end with my sexual life is better than ever.. Take care and enjoy your days

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’m suspicious of anyone who claims not to be scared of getting older. Closer to death, closer to being less able, having not accomplished everything one hoped to accomplish. Isn’t that why most religions and philosophies create some way to believe we’re part of something eternal?

I'm not scared of it. I'm not looking forward to it but I'm not frightened.

So if you’re not scared but not looking forward, how would you describe your feelings towards getting old? (Not suggesting those are the only two possibilities.)"

Reluctant acceptance maybe. I watched my mum's health deteriorate from mid 70s and her quality of life was horrible. I'm doing my best to avoid that. I have also watched my dad remain fit, mobile and in full possession of his faculties, he's 96 now but I've also seen him become increasingly lonely as all his friends, siblings and wife have died.

I think worrying about or being afraid of getting older serves no purpose, being aware and trying to remain as fit as possible is the best you can do.

Extreme old age is no place for sissies.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"I work with younger women. I have noticed they use age as a weapon when they’re angry over something- usually being pulled up over chatting instrad of working etc. I’ve been called menopausal, old bird, mutton dressed as lamb etc….

I organised an event online and as soon as they found out how old I was, half of the group pulled out. I have to admit that dented my confidence a bit…. Ok,a lot.

But you know what? I wouldn’t change my age for the world. I wouldn’t change the era when I grew up- the 80s, so mythical to many, for me it was the time I grew up…. I think I am at the best time in my life. Sometimes insecurity sets in, not going to lie, but I give myself a pep talk.

I am worried about getting older and losing my health, my independence and my mobility. So need to hit the gym again to keep being mobile and in shape! "

How hateful. I’m sorry you have to work with people who act like that.

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


"I’m suspicious of anyone who claims not to be scared of getting older. Closer to death, closer to being less able, having not accomplished everything one hoped to accomplish. Isn’t that why most religions and philosophies create some way to believe we’re part of something eternal? "

Suspicious?

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

I shouldn't be alive! I have partied since I was 16 almost every weekend.

Went on holiday to ibiza every year and was doing like it was a cup of tea. Done bodybuilder ING, various martial arts, cage fighting and pro wrestling.

I've had back surgery, neck surgery and 3 concussions. I've also had Meningitis twice and 2 severe bouts of covid.

My body aches every day and fought painkiller, valium and cocaine addition.

I'm not the person I was and feel like a broken down piece of meat. I'm 47 but everyone thinks I'm about 35.

If I was a cat I'd be in my overdraft!

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton


"I shouldn't be alive! I have partied since I was 16 almost every weekend.

Went on holiday to ibiza every year and was doing like it was a cup of tea. Done bodybuilder ING, various martial arts, cage fighting and pro wrestling.

I've had back surgery, neck surgery and 3 concussions. I've also had Meningitis twice and 2 severe bouts of covid.

My body aches every day and fought painkiller, valium and cocaine addition.

I'm not the person I was and feel like a broken down piece of meat. I'm 47 but everyone thinks I'm about 35.

If I was a cat I'd be in my overdraft!"

Oh and my 54 year old brother didn't wake up 3 weeks ago. Died in his sleep from a clot in his brain, no warning.

He lived a very healthy lifestyle

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By *iss_LayedWoman
over a year ago

nearby


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

It's too late for me. I've arrived at older!

I have started yoga again as I've noticed my balance and flexibility are waning

Missy x

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

I am enjoying getting older, but shit is starting to happen now. I've just given up running because it keeps hurting my body but you just have to adapt I guess.

The problem is we edge closer to the shit bits like Dementia, Alzheimer's and mobility issues but I guess it's a numbers game and always will be with nothing much you can do about it and just enjoy what you've got while you've got it.

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By *afftypeMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If I am being honest getting older is one of my greatest anxieties. I dont want to be a burden to anyone; I have seen how cancer and dementia can ravage and hollow out people I really cared about and to top it all off I know I can be extremely vain at times.

Its something that morbidly I have been conscious of since I was considerably younger than I am now. Genuinely wish I could put it out of my mind."

Exactly the same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

I'm 65 and love life even though its harder to get meets and dates

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


"I am enjoying getting older, but shit is starting to happen now. I've just given up running because it keeps hurting my body but you just have to adapt I guess.

The problem is we edge closer to the shit bits like Dementia, Alzheimer's and mobility issues but I guess it's a numbers game and always will be with nothing much you can do about it and just enjoy what you've got while you've got it. "

There’s a lot you can do about mobility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

I'm not afraid as such of getting older. However, I am affriad of getting lonely and being unable/find it tricky to socialise or do things in general that I take for granted today.

I also I am terrified of loosing my faculties and being a burden. I am doing different things to combat this, going for regular walks and swimming to keep my fitness up, learning a new language (Bona Serra ), I want to learn to play an instrument, and I have a new hobby in archery too. So I am trying to keep my mind and my body (I'm not doing marathons btw) active to combat this

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

This is something I think about all the time. It isn't so much about the years but what I can and can't do.

I like to keep active, not just going to the gym or cycling. I do find myself slowing down and taking longer to do things that were no problem just 10 or so years ago.

I am starting to realise life isn't a race and I do things at my own pace now.

As for the new aches and pains every day!

I'm the only one of my immediate family left so I took the decision to retire and enjoy doing what I do.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I am 30 next year and I am absolutely freaking out about it

K

Why?

Because I'm supposed to have my life together by now, and I'm still just as clueless as I was 10 years ago.

K"

So when you were 21, 30 sounded like a really mature age, and everything would be sorted by that age?

30 is 12 years into about 60 or 70 years of adulthood … why would you expect to have everything sussed to early? Adulthood has barely begun.

Don’t beat yourself up. Enjoy 30, have a blast.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"I am enjoying getting older, but shit is starting to happen now. I've just given up running because it keeps hurting my body but you just have to adapt I guess.

The problem is we edge closer to the shit bits like Dementia, Alzheimer's and mobility issues but I guess it's a numbers game and always will be with nothing much you can do about it and just enjoy what you've got while you've got it.

There’s a lot you can do about mobility. "

Yes there is. Low impact (rowing for me now), vitamins and diets then that packs in there are mobility scooter shops popping up everywhere.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Oh I forgot to add, my motorbikes keep me feeling young.

It amuses the youngsters when I remove my helmet, and there's a 66 year old pensioner on his Fireblade staring back!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly too late for me

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

No because it's happening to me already

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By *oopy Lou 666Woman
over a year ago

Heaven.....………. I came down from Heaven


"I had an an interesting discussion about it, it was about if you would be afraid of getting older.

I am 41 and I am not afraid of getting older, but I would say that I am thinking a bit more about it how it is to be older.

In comparison to when I was younger when I didnt think about it, it seems that the older you get, the more you think about it.

What is your view about it, are you afraid of getting older or do you just think about how it is to be older? "

make the most of it once you hit 40 time flys........i`m now 66 and I don`t think about it and not afraid of getting that bit more older........may be an old fart but my mind and body still think young....it`s what you do with it to keep it going x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nope im old already

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty


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Yes there is. Low impact (rowing for me now), vitamins and diets then that packs in there are mobility scooter shops popping up everywhere."

Plus dedicated exercise regimes.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Not frightened, but concerned. My mobility is already shit and so I worry what will happen when I can no longer self propel and need actual help to do things like get dressed etc. It's bad enough now with feeling like I'm a massive burden and I don't want it to get worse.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

Too late now. I'm planning on living the second half like I'm on fire

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes. Incredibly now. More than ever. To the point where I feel incredibly precious with my time. Average experiences aren’t appealing anymore. Want as much variety as possible.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun


"Yes. Incredibly now. More than ever. To the point where I feel incredibly precious with my time. Average experiences aren’t appealing anymore. Want as much variety as possible. "

You're still a spring chicken!

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

There's no point in being frightened of something that's going to happen anyway, but as others have said, it's a reason to get on and experience as much as you can before you can't.

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By *on jamesMan
over a year ago

wells

I am fit as a butchers dog ! I get more energetic with every day , I work full time , have a fantastic sex apetite , and I can keep it up for ages , bath in red wine , burn the candle both ends ! I have never worried or even given a thought to my age ! I still got all my own teeth , never had a filling and can literally watch my hair grow ! Nothing worries me and I do not get stressed ! Must have some pretty good genes I reckon !!

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Yes. Incredibly now. More than ever. To the point where I feel incredibly precious with my time. Average experiences aren’t appealing anymore. Want as much variety as possible.

You're still a spring chicken!"

It’s fuelled by an anxiety that the world is not heading in an upward direction and I’m scared it might be a slightly awful place in 10 years time.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I have done a new thread that we can continue on

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