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"We are all an object of desire until the male gaze becomes the male glaze and we are nothing more than a post-nut after thought." I saw "glazed...donut" then. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think a couple of days reading the fora gives this theory some credence " Hmm, it kinda does but I'm not sure all will agree! | |||
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"I think a couple of days reading the fora gives this theory some credence " This | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() Maybe, Yes, No We have moved a long way in terms of women's autonomy in terms of dress choice - much more choice as a counterpoint there is the whole question of hijabi type dressing either the complete no objectification or the very worst objectification depending on your viewpoint. Advertising is the very last bastion of sex sells objectification. On Fab women have so much control. They decide which images the post and project of themselves. There is a complete range from the artistic, through the devine to the grim, but ultimately the woman's choice. | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() As it should be, no? | |||
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"I'll come back to this. Going to try and reply without the standard rambling. ![]() I think many of us enjoy the rambling, but ok! | |||
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"Is there not a parallel theory about how the gaze is perceived linked to how the gazer is perceived by the gazee? In other words if they are attractive their gaze is less intrusive or unwelcome? " A parallel film theory or (presumably) something else? I don't know but I will look. I think the point of the theory was that the patriarchy is so embedded in our media that we barely notice that it's all designed for the male gaze. But I'm never great on theoretical ideas to be fair. | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() Yep. And as such, a discussion centred around the female gaze would be interesting to read Xx | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() Remember when the Full Monty came out ![]() | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits." I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() I don't think "built for the male gaze" means women have no choice does it? It implies the default is to benefit hetero men. | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() Absolutely, as it should be. One of the joys of Fab is the space it gives women to be their own sexy. | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits. I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you " That’s not very accurate. I complimented your tits which itself gives my post a point. | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() Women certainly have choice, the point I am making is in many ways women are free of that historical default if they choose. | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits. I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you That’s not very accurate. I complimented your tits which itself gives my post a point." "Nice hint of cleavage" now that would have been accurate... | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() But do they choose that here, or is the male gaze so prevalent that women default to what will satisfy the male gaze. "Fab if you'd like to lick it", stockings and garters etc. | |||
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"I think a couple of days reading the fora gives this theory some credence " . Unfortunately you do have to read the fora lol! I've learnt to just avoid certain threads.pt | |||
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"... Women certainly have choice, the point I am making is in many ways women are free of that historical default if they choose. But do they choose that here, or is the male gaze so prevalent that women default to what will satisfy the male gaze. "Fab if you'd like to lick it", stockings and garters etc. " I don't think I can answer that - one for the other ladies. | |||
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"The thing is … our entire culture has been shaped and moulded to satisfy/please the male gaze. To avoid it, to deny its influence, would be ridiculous. Even something like Erica Lust’s female-driven porn is still being created by and for women whose entire worldview has been shaped since childhood by that male-gaze-driven society. It’s just the world we exist in and I think it’s unavoidable. So the trick must be to stay aware of it. To be congnisant, not oblivious." I do agree, but RTG do you not think that this worldview is quite often vilified in the forums? Because it accepts that the patriarchy exists, and many don't. | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits. I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you That’s not very accurate. I complimented your tits which itself gives my post a point. "Nice hint of cleavage" now that would have been accurate..." You can’t dictate a bloody compliment lady!!! Jeez… chicks get more demanding by the day here. I’m glad I can normally appreciate the photographic merits from a safe distance. | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits. I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you That’s not very accurate. I complimented your tits which itself gives my post a point. "Nice hint of cleavage" now that would have been accurate... You can’t dictate a bloody compliment lady!!! Jeez… chicks get more demanding by the day here. I’m glad I can normally appreciate the photographic merits from a safe distance. " I was being pedantic, not dictatorial. I mean, I can do that too, but only on Thursdays. | |||
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"I think women are equal in the almost-biological system of patriarchy (which in and of itself means very little to me), they can completely vouch for it, thrive off it and can even get to the very top of the tree. pt" Women are equal within patriarchy? I'm at a loss how you can make that assertion. | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits. I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you That’s not very accurate. I complimented your tits which itself gives my post a point. "Nice hint of cleavage" now that would have been accurate... You can’t dictate a bloody compliment lady!!! Jeez… chicks get more demanding by the day here. I’m glad I can normally appreciate the photographic merits from a safe distance. I was being pedantic, not dictatorial. I mean, I can do that too, but only on Thursdays. " You’ve ruined my wank now! Dictating chicks in monochrome are my kink. | |||
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"What’s your point? Nice tits. I don't have one, and it would seem neither do you That’s not very accurate. I complimented your tits which itself gives my post a point. "Nice hint of cleavage" now that would have been accurate... You can’t dictate a bloody compliment lady!!! Jeez… chicks get more demanding by the day here. I’m glad I can normally appreciate the photographic merits from a safe distance. I was being pedantic, not dictatorial. I mean, I can do that too, but only on Thursdays. You’ve ruined my wank now! Dictating chicks in monochrome are my kink." Oh damn. I mean I hate to ruin a...oh wait. | |||
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"I do agree, but RTG do you not think that this worldview is quite often vilified in the forums? Because it accepts that the patriarchy exists, and many don't. " If anyone is trying deny the patriarchy exists, they’re just plain dumb. I can’t help there. That’s a belief system beyond rational argument. (And I’m now really annoyed at myself for misspelling ‘cognisant’ up there. Bloody typos.) | |||
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"I do agree, but RTG do you not think that this worldview is quite often vilified in the forums? Because it accepts that the patriarchy exists, and many don't. If anyone is trying deny the patriarchy exists, they’re just plain dumb. I can’t help there. That’s a belief system beyond rational argument. (And I’m now really annoyed at myself for misspelling ‘cognisant’ up there. Bloody typos.)" Can I tag you next time someone says the patriarchy doesn't exist and you can call them dumb? ![]() | |||
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"Can I tag you next time someone says the patriarchy doesn't exist and you can call them dumb? ![]() Gladly. I’ve never had a forum ban. Might as well get one for a decent reason. | |||
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"One reason it's true is that men are often more visually driven (on the whole, not all men, etc), so visuals will usually be aimed at the male gaze. And women who like men... like men. So they'll do things to attract men. Like make themselves as visually appealing as possible (on the whole, not all women, etc). Advertisers etc use that as well, because most of their advertising is visual." Why does visually appealing need to equal objectification of women though? Hmm | |||
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"One reason it's true is that men are often more visually driven (on the whole, not all men, etc), so visuals will usually be aimed at the male gaze. And women who like men... like men. So they'll do things to attract men. Like make themselves as visually appealing as possible (on the whole, not all women, etc). Advertisers etc use that as well, because most of their advertising is visual. Why does visually appealing need to equal objectification of women though? Hmm" It doesn't need to, but sex sells, and the idea of sex sells. Sex will always sell. Them's the breaks. | |||
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"I think it definitely can be applied here. Who's benefit is lingerie for?" I wear it because I like how it makes me look and feel. Same for when I do my hair and put make up on. I don't really take men's views into consideration. | |||
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"One reason it's true is that men are often more visually driven (on the whole, not all men, etc), so visuals will usually be aimed at the male gaze. And women who like men... like men. So they'll do things to attract men. Like make themselves as visually appealing as possible (on the whole, not all women, etc). Advertisers etc use that as well, because most of their advertising is visual. Why does visually appealing need to equal objectification of women though? Hmm It doesn't need to, but sex sells, and the idea of sex sells. Sex will always sell. Them's the breaks. " Who does sex overwhelmingly sell to? | |||
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"I think women are equal in the almost-biological system of patriarchy (which in and of itself means very little to me), they can completely vouch for it, thrive off it and can even get to the very top of the tree. pt Women are equal within patriarchy? I'm at a loss how you can make that assertion. " . Ok but Sally, you completely removed my whole (and pretty short no less) second paragraph, where I mentioned female in-equality, male chauvinism, feminism and the importance of Greer herself - then you lifted 'pt' to just below my first paragraph! You don't care much about how I look do you! And surely you can see how the two paragraph's connect? I didn't say my usual amount because although I have a right here to contribute in something that has always quite-profoundly interested me, I need to discuss this properly (eg with my text intact) not in a combative kind of way. But it's such an emotive subject though - I just hoped my second paragraph would explain how Greer could see that the devil is in the details! Patriarchy itself is just a pack structure we inherited before we could speak. The word is generally used in its pejorative (ie negative) form because... a) a lot of people simply don't need it's basic definition any more, and b) when people effectively enforce a patriarchal structure on people in any calculated or unnecessary way, inequality obviously happens. pt | |||
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"On here, of course it's for the benefit of the men. Or women, whoever you're trying to pull really. " Men. It's always about the men. | |||
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"I think women are equal in the almost-biological system of patriarchy (which in and of itself means very little to me), they can completely vouch for it, thrive off it and can even get to the very top of the tree. pt Women are equal within patriarchy? I'm at a loss how you can make that assertion. . Ok but Sally, you completely removed my whole (and pretty short no less) second paragraph, where I mentioned female in-equality, male chauvinism, feminism and the importance of Greer herself - then you lifted 'pt' to just below my first paragraph! You don't care much about how I look do you! And surely you can see how the two paragraph's connect? I didn't say my usual amount because although I have a right here to contribute in something that has always quite-profoundly interested me, I need to discuss this properly (eg with my text intact) not in a combative kind of way. But it's such an emotive subject though - I just hoped my second paragraph would explain how Greer could see that the devil is in the details! Patriarchy itself is just a pack structure we inherited before we could speak. The word is generally used in its pejorative (ie negative) form because... a) a lot of people simply don't need it's basic definition any more, and b) when people effectively enforce a patriarchal structure on people in any calculated or unnecessary way, inequality obviously happens. pt" I was replying to your statement in the first paragraph. No, I didn't see how your second para linked? Although I too am a Greer fan. It wasn't done for any other reason than keep the amount of text down for people to follow. | |||
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" think women are equal in the almost-biological system of patriarchy (which in and of itself means very little to me), they can completely vouch for it, thrive off it and can even get to the very top of the tree. What was (is) interesting about Greer's 'male gaze' is that it attempted to explain the workings of male chauvinism and got down to the nitty gritty. She's a real star of Feminism and the fight for female equality imo. pt Women are equal within patriarchy? I'm at a loss how you can make that assertion. ![]() Text returned. ![]() | |||
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"I think it definitely can be applied here. Who's benefit is lingerie for? I wear it because I like how it makes me look and feel. Same for when I do my hair and put make up on. I don't really take men's views into consideration. " I think that's a lie we tell ourselves to avoid the uncomfortable truth | |||
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"I was replying to your statement in the first paragraph. No, I didn't see how your second para linked? Although I too am a Greer fan. It wasn't done for any other reason than keep the amount of text down for people to follow. " . I didn't explain the distinction I needed very well first time around (ie in the 2nd para), but hopefully my second attempt was better.. I probably shouldn't have started my first effort with the paragraph on patriarchy, but that's me trying to be brief. It might make more sense read from the bottom up lol. All I wanted to do actually was give a thumbs up to Greer ![]() | |||
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"We are all an object of desire until the male gaze becomes the male glaze and we are nothing more than a post-nut after thought." Ha! Brilliant! That's going in my act... | |||
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"I think it definitely can be applied here. Who's benefit is lingerie for? I wear it because I like how it makes me look and feel. Same for when I do my hair and put make up on. I don't really take men's views into consideration. I think that's a lie we tell ourselves to avoid the uncomfortable truth " Not really, I've always bought nice underwear to make me feel good, I like how it looks and feels... I was celibate for 3 years, not a man in sight... Still wore the undies! | |||
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"I think women are equal in the almost-biological system of patriarchy (which in and of itself means very little to me), they can completely vouch for it, thrive off it and can even get to the very top of the tree. pt Women are equal within patriarchy? I'm at a loss how you can make that assertion. . Ok but Sally, you completely removed my whole (and pretty short no less) second paragraph, where I mentioned female in-equality, male chauvinism, feminism and the importance of Greer herself - then you lifted 'pt' to just below my first paragraph! You don't care much about how I look do you! And surely you can see how the two paragraph's connect? I didn't say my usual amount because although I have a right here to contribute in something that has always quite-profoundly interested me, I need to discuss this properly (eg with my text intact) not in a combative kind of way. But it's such an emotive subject though - I just hoped my second paragraph would explain how Greer could see that the devil is in the details! Patriarchy itself is just a pack structure we inherited before we could speak. The word is generally used in its pejorative (ie negative) form because... a) a lot of people simply don't need it's basic definition any more, and b) when people effectively enforce a patriarchal structure on people in any calculated or unnecessary way, inequality obviously happens. pt" Won't work Tugger Go back to the drawing board | |||
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"I think it definitely can be applied here. Who's benefit is lingerie for? I wear it because I like how it makes me look and feel. Same for when I do my hair and put make up on. I don't really take men's views into consideration. I think that's a lie we tell ourselves to avoid the uncomfortable truth Not really, I've always bought nice underwear to make me feel good, I like how it looks and feels... I was celibate for 3 years, not a man in sight... Still wore the undies! " I had a little browse about lingerie earlier. It seems that it's only in the last decade that lingerie started being marketed for women. There was quite a shift away from catering for the male gaze. I thought that was quite interesting and I have noticed a much bigger variety of lingerie in recent years. | |||
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"Don't women gaze at women?" It's worth reading the OP, I think ![]() | |||
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"Highbrow but very relevant - didn't think I'd see a discussion of post structuralist theory here! " Oh we’re a very cultured bunch ![]() | |||
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"Tom thinks it was Oscar Wilde who once said... There is only one thing worse than being gazed at and that's not being gazed at" Not a shock that a bloke said it... | |||
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"Highbrow but very relevant - didn't think I'd see a discussion of post structuralist theory here! " Tbh I didn't know it was post structuralist theory. ![]() | |||
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"Is there not a parallel theory about how the gaze is perceived linked to how the gazer is perceived by the gazee? In other words if they are attractive their gaze is less intrusive or unwelcome? " Someone can be easy on the eyes and still behave like a creep. | |||
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""In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire." Originally a film theory, but can be applied to how women dress, advertising and.....FAB? ![]() I don’t think any situation in the world is immune to this. | |||
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