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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is a tad embarrassing but thought I would get some people’s thoughts

I’ve just recently got a fuck buddy and she gave me the best orgasm ever! But ever since I can’t cum. This was like a month ago and she has tried everything, riding me, sucking me, playing with me, it all feels amazing but I just can’t release.

Any remedies welcome

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Can you still do it on your own?

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Tell her to stick a finger up your bum during BJ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can do it on my own but takes a lot longer than usual

And absolutely nothing going up my bum haha just a personal preference

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

M1 J22

Concentrate on giving her a few orgasms and don’t try to hard for one for you. See what happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Concentrate on giving her a few orgasms and don’t try to hard for one for you. See what happens. "

Done that already, she is in the lead 15-1

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

A finger or thumb up the bum to give the penis a treat

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"I can do it on my own but takes a lot longer than usual

And absolutely nothing going up my bum haha just a personal preference "

Well at least you know your knob still works

All I can assume is that you broke your pleasure threshold and now the stimulus required to bring you to orgasm needs to be more intense.

(that's just some shit I made up right this second, it's probably bollocks)

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Still get an erection with no problems?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Try some pelvic floor exercises

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can do it on my own but takes a lot longer than usual

And absolutely nothing going up my bum haha just a personal preference

Well at least you know your knob still works

All I can assume is that you broke your pleasure threshold and now the stimulus required to bring you to orgasm needs to be more intense.

(that's just some shit I made up right this second, it's probably bollocks)

"

Hard all the time just nothing else haha

How do you get the intensity up haha I don’t know if it’s because the more time goes on the more I’m thinking about it too much but I can’t switch off

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

You might need to go for a prostate check.

Bad news is the doctor will definitely stick a finger up your bum.

Just pray for a petite female doctor with tiny fingers.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Your penis is bored.

Tell her you're sorry but your zub craves variety.

Next!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You might need to go for a prostate check.

Bad news is the doctor will definitely stick a finger up your bum.

Just pray for a petite female doctor with tiny fingers.

"

Whiiiit now I’m panicking haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your penis is bored.

Tell her you're sorry but your zub craves variety.

Next!"

Savage haha

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

What did she do exactly to give you the best orgasm ever?

Has she tried doing it again, or doing something similar but a bit more intense?

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey

Yes agree with the prostate thing. Chronic prostatitis is where the nerve web covering it switches on & off without reason or warning. Kills the sensation to your penis glans when you least need it to. Try nipple stimulation to get you over the line, often a taboo thing with guys. I learned to use bullet vibes & nipple clamps to recover enough sensitivity to cum. Enjoy, you won't look back afterwards & hope you get sorted. Don't get hung up, adapt & experiments. Might be a sign of kidney stones agitating the prostate. If your pee flow force is erratic, it's a very good clue.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Yes agree with the prostate thing. Chronic prostatitis is where the nerve web covering it switches on & off without reason or warning. Kills the sensation to your penis glans when you least need it to. Try nipple stimulation to get you over the line, often a taboo thing with guys. I learned to use bullet vibes & nipple clamps to recover enough sensitivity to cum. Enjoy, you won't look back afterwards & hope you get sorted. Don't get hung up, adapt & experiments. Might be a sign of kidney stones agitating the prostate. If your pee flow force is erratic, it's a very good clue."

Chronic prostatitis is a swelling of the prostate or the nerves around the prostate, it doesn’t switch the nerves around the prostate on and off, in fact it does the opposite as it causes a lot of pain in that area so the nerves are very much switched on and working hard, it doesn’t affect the sensitivity of the nerves in the penis, although i should imagine the pain it causes can out weigh any feeling of pleasure from penis stimulation. I’m not sure what you mean by ‘penis gland’….testicles are glands so is that what you mean? But if that is what you mean then I’m not sure what sensation you’re on about that gets killed…I assume you mean that prostatitis kills the signal getting to the balls to tell them to release semen when we orgasm but that’s absolute nonsense, the signal still gets sent but there can be muscle damage that prevents it happening. I think that if he had prostatitis he would be more concerned about the intense pain around his prostate and when he pees rather than not being able to cum (which isn’t even a common symptom).

Sorry to be picky, and I’ll probably get in trouble from the mods for being overly critical, but you’re giving out medical advice that is completely inaccurate, and that’s dangerous. I’m just repeating what I read on google and not claiming to know anything about it but you appear to have just made up symptoms that don’t exist and are anatomically impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your knob is useless and now you're a shell of a man, just accept this new state of being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like your far too in your head about it.

If you have both done everything you can think of sexually or what your willing to do, then get medically checked out.

If all clear it's physiological and may take time to get over the hump ha.

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

massage the prostate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a psychological problem. Take the pressure off, stop overthinking it and it will most likely come back naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes agree with the prostate thing. Chronic prostatitis is where the nerve web covering it switches on & off without reason or warning. Kills the sensation to your penis glans when you least need it to. Try nipple stimulation to get you over the line, often a taboo thing with guys. I learned to use bullet vibes & nipple clamps to recover enough sensitivity to cum. Enjoy, you won't look back afterwards & hope you get sorted. Don't get hung up, adapt & experiments. Might be a sign of kidney stones agitating the prostate. If your pee flow force is erratic, it's a very good clue.

Chronic prostatitis is a swelling of the prostate or the nerves around the prostate, it doesn’t switch the nerves around the prostate on and off, in fact it does the opposite as it causes a lot of pain in that area so the nerves are very much switched on and working hard, it doesn’t affect the sensitivity of the nerves in the penis, although i should imagine the pain it causes can out weigh any feeling of pleasure from penis stimulation. I’m not sure what you mean by ‘penis gland’….testicles are glands so is that what you mean? But if that is what you mean then I’m not sure what sensation you’re on about that gets killed…I assume you mean that prostatitis kills the signal getting to the balls to tell them to release semen when we orgasm but that’s absolute nonsense, the signal still gets sent but there can be muscle damage that prevents it happening. I think that if he had prostatitis he would be more concerned about the intense pain around his prostate and when he pees rather than not being able to cum (which isn’t even a common symptom).

Sorry to be picky, and I’ll probably get in trouble from the mods for being overly critical, but you’re giving out medical advice that is completely inaccurate, and that’s dangerous. I’m just repeating what I read on google and not claiming to know anything about it but you appear to have just made up symptoms that don’t exist and are anatomically impossible. "

She hasn't said anything dangerous. You have given similar information.

OP- go see a doctor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds like your far too in your head about it.

If you have both done everything you can think of sexually or what your willing to do, then get medically checked out.

If all clear it's physiological and may take time to get over the hump ha."

Exactly what I was going to suggest! Pop to the GP - but if nothing physical you are just trying too hard. Have some time playing without the aim of cumming, just cuddle, tease and don’t make it about the orgasm

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Put your knob down for a few weeks and go out and get some fresh air,drink plenty of water avoid porn and even fabs, see some friends or family.

Practice meditation and chill.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I can do it on my own but takes a lot longer than usual

And absolutely nothing going up my bum haha just a personal preference

Well at least you know your knob still works

All I can assume is that you broke your pleasure threshold and now the stimulus required to bring you to orgasm needs to be more intense.

(that's just some shit I made up right this second, it's probably bollocks)

"

That may be not too far from reality.

It is likely going to be psychological even if you don't realise it, chasing the high that was the last orgasm.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You both have put too much pressure on you to perform. Focus on something else and it’ll happen.

If you can cum when alone then it’s unlikely to be anything medical so it’s going to be psychological.

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again thank you everyone for the advice

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Great Scott! The game is afoot Watson! She may be a genuine, orgasm stealing Succubus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your now a bottom boy and need to have some cock in you.

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Did you get an appointment with the GP for a prostate check?

I'm seriously suggesting that.

You still will be sort of airtight from 1 finger for 5 seconds.

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