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"I think the need is often more "primal" for some men, majority of the time. So they care less about the person and more about fulfilling the act. Some women are only less picky when the hormones are raging "Yep. When I'm ovulating my standards are on sale. | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one!" You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. | |||
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"For a man, any holes a goal. Don't come at me with your "connection" crap. It's amazing any guy I message, I'm suddenly exactly their type. Really??? Men have an inability to say no. Women can't be arsed saying yes. I forgot what the question was now. " Exactly this!! | |||
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"For a man, any holes a goal. Don't come at me with your "connection" crap. It's amazing any guy I message, I'm suddenly exactly their type. Really??? Men have an inability to say no. Women can't be arsed saying yes. I forgot what the question was now. " To be fair if it wasn't for your hair, butt, waistline, humour...I would probably not wanna shag you...? | |||
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"It’s biological Sex carries a greater risk for the woman " Tattoos are not biological | |||
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"For a man, any holes a goal. Don't come at me with your "connection" crap. It's amazing any guy I message, I'm suddenly exactly their type. Really??? Men have an inability to say no. Women can't be arsed saying yes. I forgot what the question was now. To be fair if it wasn't for your hair, butt, waistline, humour...I would probably not wanna shag you...?" So what's wrong with my boobs? Legs? Face?????? | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. " Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? "yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point! | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point! "I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh.. This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about... Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look? | |||
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"I have specific looks/things I want. But I sometimes find myself liking guys that aren't any of those. I think the only requirement I insist on is having a penis. " I’m telling you , you could write Carlsberg commercials  | |||
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"I think the need is often more "primal" for some men, majority of the time. So they care less about the person and more about fulfilling the act. Some women are only less picky when the hormones are raging "Men can be picky and primal but we are a but a number here… EBay for the ladies | |||
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"Boils down to supply and demand really… Men = in high supply, low demand. Women = low supply, high demand As a man, if/when you’ve been pursuing something (the act of sex in this instance) for a long time to no avail, then desperation can kick in and you’ll take any attention rather than specific attention. Women on the other hand don’t really have to do the pursuit because they’re usually flooded with attention/offers. Not always offers they want to take up or attention from those who give it to them as these individuals do not meet their needs and wants. " Also why some "straight" men will meet other men. Anything is better than nothing. | |||
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"It’s biological Sex carries a greater risk for the woman Tattoos are not biological "Ohhh right, you mean in that regard Well, women tend to be a lot more about personality than looks, although looks still matter So if you make it just sex where you can’t really get to know a persons personality that much, suddenly the looks requirement becomes much much higher because there’s nothing else to go on. So they end up needing the be extremely physically attractive to get past the less personality | |||
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"Could anyone provide me feedback about my profile please. I know it’s a crowded market on here but I want to try to stand out. Thanks in advance" Decent pics, bio okay. Very samey | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point!
I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh..
This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about...
Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look?"Do you know why I think when women do it, it gets loads of attention? Because there are more men, so they start more threads and this something some men get wound up about. If it's not a negative thread, why did you choose the word picky, Brucey? | |||
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"Could anyone provide me feedback about my profile please. I know it’s a crowded market on here but I want to try to stand out. Thanks in advance" Sure. Great pics  description shows your personality. I'd lose this sentence personally but your call "as you ladies get lots of msgs.. us poor fellas send out a fair amount, it’s a woman’s world on here after all."
Having 18-99, discreet and can't accommodate are often seen as red flags here so maybe worth rethinking? Best of luck! | |||
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"I mean it's fact isn't it surely that men are less picky than women? Why in the grand scheme of the world do you think this is? I'm talking sexually here not loveeee. Away from forums, many ladies profiles are like looking for brunette men with short back and sides and a beard with green eyes and a six pack with a tattoo above the nipple. Has anyone seen a man be picky like this? Or boys, do we just like...hot women?
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point!
I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh..
This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about...
Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look?"I'm definitely very specific about the eye colour, blue is always the thing for me (it's almost an obsession). And that's on and off Fab. And I will always prefer clean shaven faces. It's very much about a certain attributes, I've tried meeting people who don't tick certain boxes and the attraction just isn't there. I want to meet someone who's different from all the men I see walking by every day and in the pub at the end of the road. Is that a more detailed answer? | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point!
I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh..
This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about...
Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look?
Do you know why I think when women do it, it gets loads of attention? Because there are more men, so they start more threads and this something some men get wound up about. If it's not a negative thread, why did you choose the word picky, Brucey? "Picky isn't a bad thing. I'm picky about what takeaways I'm like. That's not fussy, it's picky. I'm also controversially pickier than I think most would assume here (that ninja emoji I don't know how to use) | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point!
I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh..
This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about...
Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look?
I'm definitely very specific about the eye colour, blue is always the thing for me (it's almost an obsession). And that's on and off Fab. And I will always prefer clean shaven faces. It's very much about a certain attributes, I've tried meeting people who don't tick certain boxes and the attraction just isn't there. I want to meet someone who's different from all the men I see walking by every day and in the pub at the end of the road.
Is that a more detailed answer? "Yes. That is a good answer as well. (Puts on contacts) | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point!
I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh..
This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about...
Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look?
I'm definitely very specific about the eye colour, blue is always the thing for me (it's almost an obsession). And that's on and off Fab. And I will always prefer clean shaven faces. It's very much about a certain attributes, I've tried meeting people who don't tick certain boxes and the attraction just isn't there. I want to meet someone who's different from all the men I see walking by every day and in the pub at the end of the road.
Is that a more detailed answer? "You’re telling me this now | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends " Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure  | |||
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"It's not about having a type, it's about being so attached to the idea of something so specific! And I wonder if it's just their super ideal or if they really don't find anyone attractive outside of it you know?! That's the point of this one! You're making a fairly big assumption that every woman here has very specific preferences and that men don't. I think some women and men will have them (which you describe as "picky") and some won't. There are much fewer women on the site - it perhaps seems more imbalanced than it is. If a man's profile specifies no redheads or prefers small boobs - no problems, I'm not for him. Many people see this as a site where they can live out a fantasy - I see nothing wrong with being specific about that unless it's racist or phobic in some way. Have any men's profiles said no redheads or no smaller boobs though? yeah I see smaller boobs mentioned a bit as a preference. Think you're missing my point!
I'm not, I'm thinking everyone's missing mine tbh..
This isn't a woe is me thread which I think Mimi got. This is about...
Are women really only attracted to one very specific thing that mention such specific criteria? Or is it more a place where they can find their perfect fantasy/fantasies so only acknowledge men who fit the very specific look?
Do you know why I think when women do it, it gets loads of attention? Because there are more men, so they start more threads and this something some men get wound up about. If it's not a negative thread, why did you choose the word picky, Brucey?
Picky isn't a bad thing. I'm picky about what takeaways I'm like. That's not fussy, it's picky.
I'm also controversially pickier than I think most would assume here (that ninja emoji I don't know how to use)"Picky means "fussy and hard to please" Brucey | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure "We are, we're not usually anyone's top pick | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure
We are, we're not usually anyone's top pick "I'm a fake Weasley these days. I don't advertise it, but then I can't be arsed to advertise anything! | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure
We are, we're not usually anyone's top pick "I've gone out with two redheads! But that's what I mean! Hot people are hot. Doesn't matter ethnicity hair colour etc! | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure
We are, we're not usually anyone's top pick
I've gone out with two redheads!
But that's what I mean! Hot people are hot. Doesn't matter ethnicity hair colour etc! "Yeah, I mean I'd never been with a ginger either, before I joined Fab. But they often have the best eyes. | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure
We are, we're not usually anyone's top pick "And blue eyed irish men aren’t for everyone either … subtitles available on request | |||
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"I can be very picky at times. If they haven't got short/long, blonde/brunette hair between 5-6ft and big/small tits then generally I'm not interested. Sometimes I'm happy to hook up with a ginger though, so it just depends Gingers are very grateful, I'm sure
We are, we're not usually anyone's top pick
I've gone out with two redheads!
But that's what I mean! Hot people are hot. Doesn't matter ethnicity hair colour etc! "But what's hot is pretty personal, surely? I'm attracted more to personality than looks. | |||
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