FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a winker?

By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry Nora that felt weird. Don't look at your winks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I winked someone for the first time in ages the other day because I couldn’t bring myself to message them

I haven’t heard anything back. I’m not doing that again

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Sorry Nora that felt weird. Don't look at your winks!

Hahaha. I just did

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I winked someone for the first time in ages the other day because I couldn’t bring myself to message them

I haven’t heard anything back. I’m not doing that again

Hahaha. Maybe they’re like me and don’t look!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first "

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message? "

Affirmative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do.

I wink to see if they wink back, if they do I'll message them.

I view it as a non invasive way to say hey I like the look of your profile, if I get one back I assume the feelings mutual. Then I'd message.

Works the other way round too.

Sometimes I skip the wink and just go in like a cold caller. Not my best move to be be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I winked someone for the first time in ages the other day because I couldn’t bring myself to message them

I haven’t heard anything back. I’m not doing that again

Hahaha. Maybe they’re like me and don’t look!

I hope that’s the reason

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message?

Affirmative "

That’s a good way of doing it

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yes I do.

I wink to see if they wink back, if they do I'll message them.

I view it as a non invasive way to say hey I like the look of your profile, if I get one back I assume the feelings mutual. Then I'd message.

Works the other way round too.

Sometimes I skip the wink and just go in like a cold caller. Not my best move to be be fair."

Bet I’ve missed some proper hotties!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I don’t think I’ve often winked first. But if I like the look of a profile, I will wink back.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message?

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That’s a good way of doing it "

Though I find most people wink me then do anything after I wink back. Then wink again 3 weeks later or so. Usually results in me ignoring or messaging asking why are you winking twice

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message?

Affirmative

That’s a good way of doing it

Though I find most people wink me then do anything after I wink back. Then wink again 3 weeks later or so. Usually results in me ignoring or messaging asking why are you winking twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message?

Affirmative

That’s a good way of doing it

Though I find most people wink me then do anything after I wink back. Then wink again 3 weeks later or so. Usually results in me ignoring or messaging asking why are you winking twice

Waiting to see who blinks first.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I will occasionally wink and if they wink back it shows at least they are interested.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I wink if am winked first. I see it as a means of showing interest in messaging. Though I never wink people first

Ah so if someone winks who you like then you wink back and then hopefully they then message?

Affirmative

That’s a good way of doing it "

I do this too. Though I wink first if I like a profile.

Its just a quick show of interest that if it's not mutual is less effort and time used.

Eyes meeting across a room type of thing. An indication that conversation/first message will be replied to (though not guaranteed!).

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By *hunkyBuggaMan
over a year ago

Devon

I wink.

I use it as a test the water type thing, maybe as I’m not sure we match (distance maybe etc) but I fancy them …. See if they take a look at my profile and go from there

If I think I match someone I’d rather try a message as I feel that would more likely get a response than a wink

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We use them a lot! Great way of showing interest without agonising over that first message just to find there is no reciprocated attraction.

It says hey we like the look of you, if you like the look of us wink back and then we will always message with pics etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love winks!

They’re a good way to show interest without sending a message. So if we wink then we wait to see if we get one back and then we message. Or if we get a wink we then message them

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"Yes I do.

I wink to see if they wink back, if they do I'll message them.

I view it as a non invasive way to say hey I like the look of your profile, if I get one back I assume the feelings mutual. Then I'd message.

Works the other way round too.

Sometimes I skip the wink and just go in like a cold caller. Not my best move to be be fair."

Same as how we use winks

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Winks usually for couples only, if we get a wink back then start a conversation.

But, in the bio we specifically ask single men not to just wink or we delete it.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I rarely wink, because most of the time I can't!!, I'm soooo bloody old lol.

But it's lovely when I receive one. X

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Yes I do.

I wink to see if they wink back, if they do I'll message them.

I view it as a non invasive way to say hey I like the look of your profile, if I get one back I assume the feelings mutual. Then I'd message.

Works the other way round too.

Sometimes I skip the wink and just go in like a cold caller. Not my best move to be be fair.

Bet I’ve missed some proper hotties!

Same here

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yeah I do occasionally, usually to a friend or when participating in a thread. I will also send a wink to someone new if i fancy putting my penis inside her.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I do occasionally but most winks I receive are from men so I ignore them

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By *r GLTMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

I send out quite a few winks to ladies and couples i fancy, even if i've sent a message i sometimes send a wink. No reply or interest etc then it's End Ex.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I can only wink with my left eye. Will that matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

Feel like it breaks the ice a bit and shows interest, works well if both use it. Otherwise I’ve typed a message for nothing

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By *lmost TouchingMan
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat.

I wink at someone when I have read their profile and like what I see.

If our interest are aligned, I send a friend invite. (I don’t understand why people are so precious about sending a friend invite prior to chatting)

If I have something to say beyond the aforementioned expression of interest I then send a message. Sometimes to request connecting and other times to simply compliment someone.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yes I/ we like a good wink. It's a simple show of interest for us, if there's mutual winking then we'll send a message. We've had quite a few instances of receiving winks and returning them then hearing nothing back, even after a message too

Is this a new for of attention getting?

LvM

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham

I tend to use it as an expression of interest to chat, especially when there is very little text to go on with their profile.

Single guys get more or less instantly judged based on their first line of their first message so if there is little to no information to go on then a wink gives the indication and also an opportunity for the other party to start the conversation based on something on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

we wink rather than message if were interested but less sure if they'd be interested in us. we message more if theres alot more in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can only wink with my left eye. Will that matter? "

Do it in front of a mirror for that right eye experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink if i am brave enough,

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’ve had winks turn into beautiful friendships (and great shags). But most just go in the bin.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I can only wink with my left eye. Will that matter?

Do it in front of a mirror for that right eye experience."

Good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But i will always wen i can reply with a thank you if i am lucky to get winked at.

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By *erseus1968Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

Yes, I'm a winker.

Shows interest and I wait to see if it is returned before messaging

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We wink to show an interest, or to acknowledge we like their profile.

If we get a wink back we’ll message.

If nothing then we assume they’re not interested.

Some of our best friendships have started from a simple wink.

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By *aidbacklover2021Man
over a year ago

perth

More a fabber than a winker x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very shy about sending out messages so I prefer to send winks. Just as long as the person isn't against winks

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

I(mr) wink primarily as a means of gauging interest, if we get a wink back then we will strike up a conversation, if not then so be it.

It can be a useful tool.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"More a fabber than a winker x"

I don’t look at those either. I’m crap at fab

. I need to make more effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winking is basically “I’m not wasting time crafting a witty funny response if you won’t even see it, let me know you’ve seen this wink and at least think my profile is decent enough for a reply, and I’ll throw an opening message together”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a proactive winker

I think if a profile gains my interest enough the couple of minutes to scribe a message is a worthwhile investment

If someone winks me, I message a brief message back

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Thanks for taking the time to comment people. It’s interesting x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Thanks for taking the time to comment people. It’s interesting x"

Notice how we make effort! Now maybe you should with your winks!

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Thanks for taking the time to comment people. It’s interesting x

Notice how we make effort! Now maybe you should with your winks!

I will!! But now I’m wondering if people are just winking me coz of this thread

I’ll start tomorrow

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"But now I’m wondering if people are just winking me coz of this thread

I certainly just winked you because of this thread.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Thanks for taking the time to comment people. It’s interesting x

Notice how we make effort! Now maybe you should with your winks!

I will!! But now I’m wondering if people are just winking me coz of this thread

I’ll start tomorrow "

Because of my thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always happy to receive winks, I see it as a welcome compliment - like a fabbed photo.

If I think they're a good match I'll typically message in response but I do sometimes wink back as a thank you.

I only tend to send winks if I find their profile appealing but I'm not sure I'm what they are looking for. The ball is then in their court to decide whether to instigate a conversation or not. I prefer that to sending them a message saying "I'm probably not your type but..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others I wink and if get a wink back I send a message.

If I'm winked and interested I wink back.

I do find that I get winks from couples and singles, wink back and nothing. I'm guessing they are expecting I message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

I use it as a way to show an interest and then gauge an interest back….but that’s after I’ve checked their profile and seen whether or not they check winks….pointless to send if they done haha!!

So essentially….I’m a massive WINKER

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Thanks for taking the time to comment people. It’s interesting x

Notice how we make effort! Now maybe you should with your winks!

I will!! But now I’m wondering if people are just winking me coz of this thread

I’ll start tomorrow

Because of my thread! "
oh I just saw yours!

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By *r_GreyscaleMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

Love giving a cheeky wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

So essentially….I’m a massive WINKER

Dont**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do bob the occasional wink out there when I’m unsure if someone would be interested, and the profile isn’t clear enough to discount me from their search.

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Love giving a cheeky wank

Me too

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

Yes. Too shy to message!

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

I am a winker.

It’s not because I am shy or lazy. I don’t wink to everyone either in a hope of someone to reply.

Single ladies and couple as far as I was told are flooded with messages. I don’t want to be another message they didn’t read because there are too many. I wink to gauge initial interest. If I get wink back or fab on any of my pic I’ll surely send a message.

It’s like in a real world, everything starts with eye contact, wink or a smile. You don’t come to people you fancy there with big meaningful speech how great they look and how great fuck you are holding your dick pic.

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

I send winks usually only if there's a wink someone you fancy thread or if their profile mentions they like winks. In my experience, it's very likely I'll be writing the first message anyway (because of wink backs) but it's a good way to know they're potentially interested. Statistically, I've received more first winks than first messages for sure.

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By *odders88Man
over a year ago

Northampton

I wink as a sign of interest instead of jumping into DM’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wink at profiles but I prefer people to wink me if they're interested so that I can decide whether to make the effort to send the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wink as a sign of interest instead of jumping into DM’s

Same here

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

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Mostly a few minutes before messaging, then I watch the reactions.

Fabing photos before the wink usually.

Some wink back or check me out, but some blocks me.

Rather have a wink ignored, than a message.

Sent message read and deleted immediately is the crusher, so usually I block them for many reasons.

Never wink blank profiles/everyone.

Never send dick pics, unless asked.

Kind of gave up in my area, so just hanging out on the forum.

Hope it helps with your research.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

The only time I use winks is in a forum game.

Rarely check if I had any either.

Just check my winks now and had 3 in 24hrs, which is perfect for me.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
over a year ago

Thurrock

A wink is a good sign of interest we don’t mind getting them gives us chance to check out the profile then message if we like them too, saves the time of writing out a message that won’t be replied to if there’s no interest.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

Occasionally. Most of the time if we make the first move we’ll message but occasionally will wink if we really like the look of a profile but not sure we’re what they look for.

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

I am now

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Belfast

I'll wink if I see a profile that has pretty much nothing on it and it leaves me with nothing to ask, but their profile pic catches my eye. Or if someone catches my eye but I'm not quite what they ate looking for.

Saw a profile that had the headline "Read the profile" but the profile had no text. If they'd had a pic, I'd have winked.

Oh and always up for a forum game wink!

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By *ora the explorer OP Woman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"The only time I use winks is in a forum game.

Rarely check if I had any either.

Just check my winks now and had 3 in 24hrs, which is perfect for me.

Your new pic is beautiful btw. I saw it this morning x

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By *ady SuzieXXXWoman
over a year ago

Chichester

Yes. It breaks the ice and show’s my interest. If returned then we can chat.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I just wink friends on winky Wednesdays sometimes

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

I wink at absolute hotties

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"The only time I use winks is in a forum game.

Rarely check if I had any either.

Just check my winks now and had 3 in 24hrs, which is perfect for me.

Your new pic is beautiful btw. I saw it this morning x"

Thanks Nora

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By *olvespairCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

We like the wink system, it's a show of interest from either party. If it's mutual we send a message - a great way to open a conversation

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I never send them myself; pressing that button is just toooo much effort

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I have a couple of times but don't bother now.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I wink at people, I think of it as catching someone's eye across a crouded room and smiling at them, if they look away you just move on but if they were to smile back at you you'd go and at least try to talk them. Well that's my philosophy for using winks.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"Yes I do.

I wink to see if they wink back, if they do I'll message them.

I view it as a non invasive way to say hey I like the look of your profile, if I get one back I assume the feelings mutual. Then I'd message.

Works the other way round too.

Sometimes I skip the wink and just go in like a cold caller. Not my best move to be be fair."

This is how I use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the odd wink both giving and receiving. It’s a hard one, women get so many messages, so I like to send a wink to gauge if there would be an initial interest. Of course more than happy with effort in a first message. I guess a fine balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink, it’s like an informal hi, if you wink back I’ll usually reply with a message and chat. Hopefully.

I understand people might dislike them, I don’t see what’s to dislike though. Some people get so shouty on profiles about not liking them and I’ve read in threads before about them not being welcome.

But If life’s to hectic you can’t just accept a wink and maybe check out a profile after receiving one then you’re to busy to be on here in the first place.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think winks are underused and sadly underrated as as a system.

We all have profiles and we all (I assume) don't like wasting time. To me a wink is purely an efficient way of someone saying I've seen your profile, I like it, check mine out and if you like what you see let's chat.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I'll wink at someone if they've winked at me first and i'm interested. Only very rarely have i sent the first wink because i'm a scaredy cat.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I wink, mostly after receiving them.

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

I only wink if winked at. So many people say they won't respond to them I don't bother. I think as others have said it's a good way to express interest but people don't seem to like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think winks are underused and sadly underrated as as a system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part time winker, full time wanker!!!!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

I love the wink feature. I wink, then immediately forget who I winked at. They usually message me. And if they don’t, I don’t remember who it was that didn’t.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

In theory I think the wink feature is great. It’s expressing an interest without the need to overthink an initial message.

I don’t look at them because I’m not meeting. Plus anyone that knows me will appreciate what an absolute dick I’d look if I actually winked at anyone. As a pan faced non flirt it’s not something I’d ever use.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

I use wink often, it express interest.

If someone winks at me and I am interested, i wink back and follow up with a message x

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Yes. It breaks the ice and show’s my interest. If returned then we can chat.

You're back on my hot list. Good to see you back again! X

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

I wink when I don't have the time to write a message or when the profile has nothing I can pick up on.

Sometimes I just feel like it.

Don't understand why women and couples on here get so riled up about them. It's a great way to show interest without having to fill up their inbox. They can take a look, if htey like you, too, they wink back and then you can write a message. But alas! They are not very appreciated in these parts

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

I’ve been called worse

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I don’t use winks, unless I’m playing a forum game but that’s only that, a game.

Nothing ever happens after a wink, even a mutual one anyway, I found.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

"I don’t use winks, unless I’m playing a forum game but that’s only that, a game.

Nothing ever happens after a wink, even a mutual one anyway, I found."

Are you really saying that you never got a follow up message to the mutual winks? Hard to believe.

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We are winking but sometimes it feels like they disappearing

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I am not. I can't wink in person so I don't do it on here

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I don’t use winks, unless I’m playing a forum game but that’s only that, a game.

Nothing ever happens after a wink, even a mutual one anyway, I found.

Are you really saying that you never got a follow up message to the mutual winks? Hard to believe."

Very rarely.

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London

"Yes. It breaks the ice and show’s my interest. If returned then we can chat.

This ..

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

No . Winks mean nothing on here. Not like it used to

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm a real winker lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if.somwonw can't be arsed to message me I aren't responding to a wink.

Likewise I don't wink guys I like, I message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a winker

I see or should be seen as form of interest thus allowing the recipients to look and decide to wink back or send message ...

I guess chiff from the chaff very difficult in snake infested pit

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I am sorry to say that I often don't see any winks until a lot later as they are not as evident when they arrive as messages are. I get a few and do the odd one too. They are just little ice brrakers I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. It breaks the ice and show’s my interest. If returned then we can chat.

This

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Do you use the wink button?

I never look at winks but I’m going to start looking at them.

Why do you wink? Too shy to message? Hoping they’ll start a conversation? Wink everyone in the hope at least someone will message?

Do tell. I’m intrigued

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I look at them but don't send them

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By *rownhotnessMan
over a year ago

Cheshire/London/Midlands

I use a lot but never get any back

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

I wink , if I get a look back out of it/fab I message ...or get a wink back then even better ..

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I like a wink - it is a good shorthand way to express an appreciation of a profile. Had more than a couple of very good meets that were started by a wink - inbound and out.

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I wink nice photos xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like a wink & had a great meet that started with a wink.

However when people wink is if I wink back I've never had a follow up message & that baffles me so I don't tend to wink back much.

Mrs

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By *ord500Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Only wink to appreciate tasty or horny pics,and show my interest in playing!!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

"I like a wink & had a great meet that started with a wink.

However when people wink is if I wink back I've never had a follow up message & that baffles me so I don't tend to wink back much.

Mrs "

Don't understand the logic. Why stop winking back just because the majority doesn't follow up on it? It's not any effort.

Some may, and then it worked. Or do you only want to show interest when you can be almost 100% sure that it will be successful? Don't really see the risk of winking someones profile back tho.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
over a year ago

York

Quite happy to give and receive winks.

It's a great way to show interest.

A wink doesn't automatically mean we want to play with someone but it's a good indicator that maybe we have some common ground. location, shared kinks or looking for similar experiences.

I don't quite understand the vehement way some people get over winks. However those people we know to avoid. If you're going to get mardy about a legitimate function on here, what else will you get mardy about?

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes, we like to wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see any problem with sending a wink. Either people look at them or they don’t.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Oops, just had one, contemplating response

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I like a wink & had a great meet that started with a wink.

However when people wink is if I wink back I've never had a follow up message & that baffles me so I don't tend to wink back much.

Mrs

Don't understand the logic. Why stop winking back just because the majority doesn't follow up on it? It's not any effort.

Some may, and then it worked. Or do you only want to show interest when you can be almost 100% sure that it will be successful? Don't really see the risk of winking someones profile back tho."

Because if I'm interested in whoever winked I'll message rather than wink back with no follow up.

Mrs

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Yup I’m a winker

I use it as a way to initiate a conversation, I ma not being lazy doing it. Just don’t always want into someone’s in box immediately . If they check out my profile and wink back then all good, if they don’t I will leave it be for a while, maybe send a message depending on how I feel

Very much dammed if you do dammed if you don’t

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By *tsMyPleasure.Man
over a year ago

near Stirling

I use the wink button in the first place to see if the other person might be interested. I used to just send messages, but when you take the time to write something and do t get a reply it can be really frustrating. A wink seems a good way to register interest - unless people don’t check them of course!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink first to show my interest, rather than dive straight in eith a message.

Probably the wrong thing to do as a lot of people's say winks will be ignored. But feel it's a lot simpler than writing out a paragraph to be ignored anyway

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