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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences | |||
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"Indeed. No-one's heard of the terms because I've had to make them up (unless anyone else has), which underlines the point. I know, of course, that it's because of the imbalance. Women can be very choosy and can easily afford to be rude and arrogant. I, on the other hand, have got no chance, so I just have suck it up." How are women being rude or arrogant? Why shouldn't anyone be choosy? | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.. Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences " How are guys actively discouraged? | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.. Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences How are guys actively discouraged?" The comment above you is suggesting any guy with a physical preference must have a small penis It writes itself sometimes | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things "No more than the obvious inference that a lady asking for it has a baggy vagina to need such things  | |||
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"I know. Unfair. I do only mean 'some' women. We're all different. But it both amuses and frustrates me that these 'some' women know/think that it goes without saying that they be so proscriptive, and most (I think) men know that absolutely cannot." But they can! They just don't have the balls to because they don't want to upset someone that isn't their type at all but they still might get sex from. | |||
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"I know. Unfair. I do only mean 'some' women. We're all different. But it both amuses and frustrates me that these 'some' women know/think that it goes without saying that they be so proscriptive, and most (I think) men know that absolutely cannot." It’s not unfair Men make their own bed by letting women act that way. If they had some self respect and wouldn’t fuck anything that moved they wouldn’t have to play to their rules | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.. Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences "  | |||
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"I know. Unfair. I do only mean 'some' women. We're all different. But it both amuses and frustrates me that these 'some' women know/think that it goes without saying that they be so proscriptive, and most (I think) men know that absolutely cannot. But they can! They just don't have the balls to because they don't want to upset someone that isn't their type at all but they still might get sex from. " It's ridiculous how many messages we get that bend or outright break their preferences and often stated wants, just for a chance to fuck Lou. You're right, it's absolutely a case of not having the balls to be honest about just wanting to fuck someone, anyone. | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things
No more than the obvious inference that a lady asking for it has a baggy vagina to need such things "Correct. But men are much more concerned about the perception of the size of their penis. That aside, I've seen several threads about how people prefer vaginas to look. The inside is a lot more variable. Excitement and certain stimulus will tremendously increase wetness and decrease how 'tight' if feels at that moment. | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things " Because people asking for big cocks has a massive vag/ arsehole to fill. | |||
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"Because women don't care if they put off guys by having preferences. " Well you said it, and this is a main nub of my point. We all know that this is an interview process, and with SO many male candidates, the vacancy being advertised by a lady can be as outlandish as anything, knowing that 1 in 1000 might make the grade. A chap applying similar criteria in his vacancy advertisement will be laughed off FAB. | |||
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" Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences " There is a benefit. Why does it matter what everyone else is doing? What do you want? I don't like receiving one line messages. Whenever I get a message with just hi I ignore. I'm aware it probably works for loads of guys but I know right away what conversation would be like and I'm not interested. | |||
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"I know. Unfair. I do only mean 'some' women. We're all different. But it both amuses and frustrates me that these 'some' women know/think that it goes without saying that they be so proscriptive, and most (I think) men know that absolutely cannot. It’s not unfair Men make their own bed by letting women act that way. If they had some self respect and wouldn’t fuck anything that moved they wouldn’t have to play to their rules " I don't see it as "letting" or following rules. Anyone can have criteria without it being ego/arrogance. They simply know what they want. There is plenty of any hole's a goal perpetuated by men... You can see that in profiles of "straight" men seeking women, men, transtypes. Men often display a sense of entitlement as if fab is a sex site. When they learn it isn't, and they find it difficult to get meets, we often see in the forum, women being blamed for having preferences that rule them out. Examples: BBC, VWE and the such like. | |||
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"I don't think men are actively discouraged as you put it. But most just want sex and don't care where they stuck it. Having boundaries is cool, I just assume men that seek a tight pussy don't understand that it is a muscle, and can be tightened and loosened accordingly. Plus if she's that tight... She doesn't want to fuck you lol. " Saves me pointing out the accommodating features of a vagina  . | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." Hahaha. What a requirement. Well I'd encourage you to do that if it is what you're looking for. You would probably get some takers. It's a big site with lots of options and will save you the hassle of an overflowing inbox. How would you define or verify without meeting though? I don't think there's anything wrong in women, men or couples stating their preference. | |||
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"Because women don't care if they put off guys by having preferences. Well you said it, and this is a main nub of my point. We all know that this is an interview process, and with SO many male candidates, the vacancy being advertised by a lady can be as outlandish as anything, knowing that 1 in 1000 might make the grade. A chap applying similar criteria in his vacancy advertisement will be laughed off FAB." Nah, just ignored. If I wasn't fussy I'd be knee deep in dick. But I am and happy about it. If I want an orgasm, then I'd pick my wand over any man. If I want a decent interaction, then I stick to my criteria.  | |||
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" If I wasn't fussy I'd be knee deep in dick." I just tried to imagine what being knee deep in dick would feel/look like. They'd have to be disembodied because, how else. It's a terrible thing. | |||
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"I don't hear men being referred too as fuk Bois or pussy ferrets nearly as much as I hear women being called sluts or slags either" They use the term fuck boy in Indonesia often. Often it's one of the first few questions the girls would ask foreign Caucasians there. Actually OP, if you wanna see the tables turned - just go abroad. I'll say this though, the demographic of what they used to like Vs what they like now has changed - it used to be "white men" .. now it's "Korean pretty boys". | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." Probably because there's no sky remote equipment to measure. My pussy will be tight to some sized cocks and not to others. My pussy also changes size depending how turned on I am. Where and when would you like me to measure it? Or shall then Mr just shout and see how much of an echo he gets? Mrs | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things "I agree so I need a VVVTP | |||
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"I don't hear men being referred too as fuk Bois or pussy ferrets nearly as much as I hear women being called sluts or slags either" I've never heard of the term "pussy ferret", it's going into my top ten fab terms. Thank you.  | |||
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" Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences There is a benefit. Why does it matter what everyone else is doing? What do you want? I don't like receiving one line messages. Whenever I get a message with just hi I ignore. I'm aware it probably works for loads of guys but I know right away what conversation would be like and I'm not interested." There’s no benefit to the ones that’ll fuck anything The ones that like curvy but will fuck a slim women if he hasn’t had any in a few weeks, so won’t openly state his preference in case it puts someone off when he’s in need. Rein it in guys, have some self respect. Otherwise your just wanking but with extra steps | |||
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" Guys are actively discouraged on having strong physical preferences on here by the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given Plus, plenty of guys will just take whatever they’re given, so there’s no benefit to stating your true preferences There is a benefit. Why does it matter what everyone else is doing? What do you want? I don't like receiving one line messages. Whenever I get a message with just hi I ignore. I'm aware it probably works for loads of guys but I know right away what conversation would be like and I'm not interested. There’s no benefit to the ones that’ll fuck anything The ones that like curvy but will fuck a slim women if he hasn’t had any in a few weeks, so won’t openly state his preference in case it puts someone off when he’s in need. Rein it in guys, have some self respect. Otherwise your just wanking but with extra steps "  | |||
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" If I wasn't fussy I'd be knee deep in dick. I just tried to imagine what being knee deep in dick would feel/look like. They'd have to be disembodied because, how else. It's a terrible thing." Thanks for the image | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things
I agree so I need a VVVTP"Keyhole suit you?  | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things
I agree so I need a VVVTP
Keyhole suit you? "As opposed to glory hole | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." When we’ve been on previously we were very particular and it said so in our profile. That was for both sexes. Nothing wrong with stipulating what you like to save time really. | |||
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"The legend of baggyvag." I liked the sequel, The Rise of the Punched Lasagne | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things
I agree so I need a VVVTP
Keyhole suit you? "Different spin on the Lloyd Grossman show? I like it | |||
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"The legend of baggyvag. I liked the sequel, The Rise of the Punched Lasagne " Deep impact. | |||
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"The legend of baggyvag. I liked the sequel, The Rise of the Punched Lasagne Deep impact." Remember the absolute classic ‘These Woman Must Have Fannies Like Buckets’? | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD" Isn't it just? Men can and should have whatever preferences they want. Ask for whatever you like. | |||
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"The legend of baggyvag. I liked the sequel, The Rise of the Punched Lasagne Deep impact. Remember the absolute classic ‘These Woman Must Have Fannies Like Buckets’? " Armageddon aroused by all this talk of vag. | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." Thing is, you can state that and not one woman is going to care. You could, in fact, give an entire specific list of requirements eg: Slim Big boobs Vtp Long legs Long hair Blue eyes That is absolutely fine and it is your choice to do so. Literally no one is going to care that you've done that. Any man can do that. The problem this creates for you (or other men) what do you do when none of the women you've contacted, whom meet your criteria, reply? When no woman matching those requirements contact you? Do you hold to your list of wants and choices whilst waiting hopefully for the day some woman turns up? MrsAbz | |||
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"Considering when a vagina gets aroused it is called "tenting" we should use terms associated with tents to express the size. " I just learnt a thing  | |||
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"Considering when a vagina gets aroused it is called "tenting" we should use terms associated with tents to express the size. " . Yeah, like, one man, two man or Scout Troop | |||
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"I just wanna know how you’re measuring it, and what is classified as TP/VTP. Dicks is easy- length, possibly girth. All standardised units. Are we talking the depth? The diameter of opening? " Tuna can.  | |||
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"Measure your CirCUMferences girls." Well done that man! | |||
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"Probably because it gives the impression that the person asking for it has a tiny penis to need such things "Does that mean women looking for men with huge Hamptons have large pussies? | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD" Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. | |||
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"Considering when a vagina gets aroused it is called "tenting" we should use terms associated with tents to express the size. I just learnt a thing "Oh! Can we have tenting Tuesday/Thursday now? | |||
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"Considering when a vagina gets aroused it is called "tenting" we should use terms associated with tents to express the size. . Yeah, like, one man, two man or Scout Troop "Haha exactly! | |||
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.. Thing is, you can state that and not one woman is going to care. You could, in fact, give an entire specific list of requirements eg: Slim Big boobs Vtp Long legs Long hair Blue eyes That is absolutely fine and it is your choice to do so. Literally no one is going to care that you've done that. Any man can do that. The problem this creates for you (or other men) what do you do when none of the women you've contacted, whom meet your criteria, reply? When no woman matching those requirements contact you? Do you hold to your list of wants and choices whilst waiting hopefully for the day some woman turns up? MrsAbz " | |||
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"Considering when a vagina gets aroused it is called "tenting" we should use terms associated with tents to express the size. I just learnt a thing
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"I actually really like large clits but I wont limit myself to large clits only " "I like big clits and I cannot lie" | |||
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"Anyone wanna measure my vag, specifically someone ugly so I don't get turned on and it'll be super tight? Mrs "I'll be round with my plug gauges, presently.. | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. " It's not used enough. You don't even see it. 
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given""Most women I know, myself included, don't want to be with a man who is just there because he can't get anything "better" (in his eyes anyway). It would be much more preferrable for a man to state what he wants so he can be avoided and no time wasted on him. I fail to see how this is women having a fragile ego? Your preference is not me ergo I do not entertain you. Simple. We all go about our lives and live happily ever after MrsAbz | |||
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"OP, what criteria have you got for the tightness of a pussy? And how are we supposed to check whether we're very tight, tight, just ok, slightly baggy or cavernous? It's not like a vagina is an organ visible to all, like a penis. Also, women don't get as hang up on the size of their vaginas as men are about their penises. " They might if loads of men specified it as a requirement. I haven't got criteria for pussy tightness, nor a suggested way of measuring it. There might be a gap in the market, here. Some sort of insertable pressure gauge. Hmm.. | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given""And therein lies the problem. Mr DD | |||
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"OP, what criteria have you got for the tightness of a pussy? And how are we supposed to check whether we're very tight, tight, just ok, slightly baggy or cavernous? It's not like a vagina is an organ visible to all, like a penis. Also, women don't get as hang up on the size of their vaginas as men are about their penises. They might if loads of men specified it as a requirement. I haven't got criteria for pussy tightness, nor a suggested way of measuring it. There might be a gap in the market, here. Some sort of insertable pressure gauge. Hmm.." You mean like boobs and mens proclivity for the bigger the better and so on? MrsAbz | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given""That’s not misogyny | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny"“It's not used enough. You don't even see it” | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”"If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used "You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry. Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women. If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say. Mr DD | |||
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"The legend of baggyvag. I liked the sequel, The Rise of the Punched Lasagne " Then there is the sequel to the sequel. “Oh no , not another punched lasagne “. I read they changed director though and cast | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used
You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry.
Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women.
If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say.
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." TP great for ulcers | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used
You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry.
Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women.
If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say.
Mr DD
Absolutely, nothing else to say. Misogyny has been expanded to mean literally anything women don’t like, even valid criticism of negative behaviours "Please clarify the negative behaviour? Women state preferences. This is fine and acceptable. Men state preferences. This is fine and acceptable. What exactly is your point? Who is behaving in a negative manner? MrsAbz | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used
You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry.
Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women.
If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say.
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"OP, what criteria have you got for the tightness of a pussy? And how are we supposed to check whether we're very tight, tight, just ok, slightly baggy or cavernous? It's not like a vagina is an organ visible to all, like a penis. Also, women don't get as hang up on the size of their vaginas as men are about their penises. " Well said! I’ve asked the same about nipples - when is it big or very big, how do we size?! And absolutely right it’s mostly men hung up with size not women - far more important to me if you know what to do with your fingers and tongue
That’s said, what I love about Fab is that there is no rules. Every person can decide what criteria they want to use when looking for a lover - I choose chemistry, good conversation and a nice smile, if you want to measure organs go for it! Who cares right? It’s all personal preference. I might not agree with your method but for me swinging is all about not judging others for their proclivities! | |||
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"I’m not sure some men on here realise how much they sound like incels. Trust me boys, crying about how unfair you think fab is really isn’t going to get you laid. Incels now too. Haha right you are " So women can repeatedly say this on threads (and a few guys) but you just don't believe us? Haha right you are. | |||
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"I’m not sure some men on here realise how much they sound like incels. Trust me boys, crying about how unfair you think fab is really isn’t going to get you laid. Incels now too. Haha right you are So women can repeatedly say this on threads (and a few guys) but you just don't believe us? Haha right you are. " No... I think there is a very serious problem with misogyny and also with misandry.. And also with incels. I don't think misusing or even abusing a term, an emotional label, does that any favours at all. But we can all have an opinion. It doesn't instantly make anything misogyny to disagree. | |||
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"I’m not sure some men on here realise how much they sound like incels. Trust me boys, crying about how unfair you think fab is really isn’t going to get you laid. Incels now too. Haha right you are So women can repeatedly say this on threads (and a few guys) but you just don't believe us? Haha right you are. No... I think there is a very serious problem with misogyny and also with misandry.. And also with incels. I don't think misusing or even abusing a term, an emotional label, does that any favours at all. But we can all have an opinion. It doesn't instantly make anything misogyny to disagree. " No see I think you’ve got it wrong Women (and a few guys) are repeatedly saying it. That means it’s true Now let’s see what other things lots of men say about women on fab, they must also be true by the logic | |||
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"I’m not sure some men on here realise how much they sound like incels. Trust me boys, crying about how unfair you think fab is really isn’t going to get you laid. Incels now too. Haha right you are So women can repeatedly say this on threads (and a few guys) but you just don't believe us? Haha right you are. No... I think there is a very serious problem with misogyny and also with misandry.. And also with incels. I don't think misusing or even abusing a term, an emotional label, does that any favours at all. But we can all have an opinion. It doesn't instantly make anything misogyny to disagree. No see I think you’ve got it wrong Women (and a few guys) are repeatedly saying it. That means it’s true Now let’s see what other things lots of men say about women on fab, they must also be true by the logic "You're not equating the same things. I and others saying there's misogyny and to a lesser extent incel attitudes on the site is NOT the same as criticising all women for a characteristic you say they possess. Or a behaviour you say they all exhibit. I'm not trying to say all men are misogynists. I But I witness misogynistic comments and behaviour on the site daily. | |||
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"I just wanna know how you’re measuring it, and what is classified as TP/VTP. Dicks is easy- length, possibly girth. All standardised units. Are we talking the depth? The diameter of opening? Tuna can. "Then any fishy smell, you can blame the can | |||
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used
You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry.
Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women.
If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say.
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used
You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry.
Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women.
If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say.
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"Your misogyny is showing boys. Mr DD Misogyny?! That's tongue in cheek right? Sadly that word is used way to much on here. It's not used enough. You don't even see it.
"the fragile ego of women that get upset at the idea a guy won’t just take whatever he’s given"
That’s not misogyny
“It's not used enough. You don't even see it”
If we keep saying it enough, it’ll be true
That’s a big issue facing tackling misogyny, the word is thrown around so carelessly many people choose to ignore it these days, because literally everything and anything is misogyny
If saying some women have fragile egos that get bruised when men state a preference that isn’t what they are is misogynistic, then truly the words lost its meaning and I’m not surprised many are choosing to ignore when it’s used
You don’t see that it’s a pattern of behaviour and language? Men are assertive but women are bossy, men are passionate but women are angry.
Sexism and misogyny, like racism, has to be viewed through the context of power dynamics. Men traditionally hold the power in society, this has been the case for thousands of years, but now things are changing ever so slightly and as the old saying goes “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. Women are expressing preferences and it is being treated like men are being oppressed, they’re not, they’re just having to face up to the fact they don’t have all the power. That’s when we see language about women having fragile egos being used. Yet it’s a constant flow of men on the forums whining about how life is unfair that we see, not women. All I have seen on this thread is women encouraging men to have preferences, yet men continue to say that it’s not the case and that the problem lies with women.
If you can’t see that is misogynistic then there’s nothing else really to say.
Mr DD
Absolutely, nothing else to say. Misogyny has been expanded to mean literally anything women don’t like, even valid criticism of negative behaviours "So this thread, bemoaning of women wanting big dicks is a negative behaviour? That's toooooooo funny. I bet the men with big dicks aren't complaining | |||
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" So this thread, bemoaning of women wanting big dicks is a negative behaviour? That's toooooooo funny. I bet the men with big dicks aren't complaining "We must be reading different threads. OP never bemoaned a big dick preference They’ve bemoaned the difference in treatment of the sexes when expressing preferences | |||
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" So this thread, bemoaning of women wanting big dicks is a negative behaviour? That's toooooooo funny. I bet the men with big dicks aren't complaining
We must be reading different threads. OP never bemoaned a big dick preference
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"Funny how the negative behaviour (by women) hasn't been elaborated on. I did request earlier that the negative behaviour be expanded upon but got no answer. Oh well MrsAbz " To be fair your first post of the day was openly admitting to being in a bad mood and looking to argue. Why would anyone want to respond to you | |||
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" So this thread, bemoaning of women wanting big dicks is a negative behaviour? That's toooooooo funny. I bet the men with big dicks aren't complaining
We must be reading different threads. OP never bemoaned a big dick preference
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"Funny how the negative behaviour (by women) hasn't been elaborated on. I did request earlier that the negative behaviour be expanded upon but got no answer. Oh well MrsAbz To be fair your first post of the day was openly admitting to being in a bad mood and looking to argue. Why would anyone want to respond to you " Yet, I have been nothing but polite on this thread. I asked politely for clarification on what the actual negative behaviour was. That I was grumpy earlier is utterly irrelevant to this thread. MrsAbz | |||
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" So this thread, bemoaning of women wanting big dicks is a negative behaviour? That's toooooooo funny. I bet the men with big dicks aren't complaining
We must be reading different threads. OP never bemoaned a big dick preference
They’ve bemoaned the difference in treatment of the sexes when expressing preferences "They've bemoaned the fact that due to the number of men vs the number of women here, they don't get to express a preference. That's not true though. They absolutely can and should express a preference if they want to. J | |||
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" So this thread, bemoaning of women wanting big dicks is a negative behaviour? That's toooooooo funny. I bet the men with big dicks aren't complaining
We must be reading different threads. OP never bemoaned a big dick preference
They’ve bemoaned the difference in treatment of the sexes when expressing preferences
They've bemoaned the fact that due to the number of men vs the number of women here, they don't get to express a preference. That's not true though. They absolutely can and should express a preference if they want to.
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"Indeed. No-one's heard of the terms because I've had to make them up (unless anyone else has), which underlines the point. I know, of course, that it's because of the imbalance. Women can be very choosy and can easily afford to be rude and arrogant. I, on the other hand, have got no chance, so I just have suck it up." Here. Literally the third post in the thread and second post by the OP. Imbalance... Women being choosy, rude, arrogant... The usual resentment
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"Indeed. No-one's heard of the terms because I've had to make them up (unless anyone else has), which underlines the point. I know, of course, that it's because of the imbalance. Women can be very choosy and can easily afford to be rude and arrogant. I, on the other hand, have got no chance, so I just have suck it up. Here. Literally the third post in the thread and second post by the OP. Imbalance... Women being choosy, rude, arrogant... The usual resentment
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"You need to consider the asymmetry between genders as well as within genders. A few men hold a lot of power, most men very little. Even in recent events you can see how men get called up to go and fight in wars while the women and children are seen as precious and worthy of protection. It's not wrong, there have always been biological / evolutionary reasons for this. I can see how discussions on this topic end up being a mess because they get treated as one-dimensional. Men are the top and the bottom of the patriarchy. Women are kind and gentle, men are wimps. You can always play word games. Life is unfair, some of it you have to accept, some of it you should speak out against and fight to change. Guess putting my tent up didn't take that long "I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination. A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism. No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that. Male privilege is a very real thing. | |||
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"You need to consider the asymmetry between genders as well as within genders. A few men hold a lot of power, most men very little. Even in recent events you can see how men get called up to go and fight in wars while the women and children are seen as precious and worthy of protection. It's not wrong, there have always been biological / evolutionary reasons for this. I can see how discussions on this topic end up being a mess because they get treated as one-dimensional. Men are the top and the bottom of the patriarchy. Women are kind and gentle, men are wimps. You can always play word games. Life is unfair, some of it you have to accept, some of it you should speak out against and fight to change. Guess putting my tent up didn't take that long
I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination.
A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism.
No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that.
Male privilege is a very real thing."It turns in to the oppression Olympics where everyone is neatly placed in a category based on their attributes and told how tough their life is or how easy it is compared to other You example above makes it sound like a man could never experience sexism This kind of thinking is all part of the current culture war because it’s signed to keep everyone in their box of oppression instead of realising we are all unique individuals with our own wants needs and struggles and we are all capable of being discriminated against, and no one else’s level of discrimination makes your own mean less | |||
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"You need to consider the asymmetry between genders as well as within genders. A few men hold a lot of power, most men very little. Even in recent events you can see how men get called up to go and fight in wars while the women and children are seen as precious and worthy of protection. It's not wrong, there have always been biological / evolutionary reasons for this. I can see how discussions on this topic end up being a mess because they get treated as one-dimensional. Men are the top and the bottom of the patriarchy. Women are kind and gentle, men are wimps. You can always play word games. Life is unfair, some of it you have to accept, some of it you should speak out against and fight to change. Guess putting my tent up didn't take that long
I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination.
A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism.
No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that.
Male privilege is a very real thing.
It turns in to the oppression Olympics where everyone is neatly placed in a category based on their attributes and told how tough their life is or how easy it is compared to other
You example above makes it sound like a man could never experience sexism
This kind of thinking is all part of the current culture war because it’s signed to keep everyone in their box of oppression instead of realising we are all unique individuals with our own wants needs and struggles and we are all capable of being discriminated against, and no one else’s level of discrimination makes your own mean less "Oh my gosh you're so close to getting it I can almost taste it | |||
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"You need to consider the asymmetry between genders as well as within genders. A few men hold a lot of power, most men very little. Even in recent events you can see how men get called up to go and fight in wars while the women and children are seen as precious and worthy of protection. It's not wrong, there have always been biological / evolutionary reasons for this. I can see how discussions on this topic end up being a mess because they get treated as one-dimensional. Men are the top and the bottom of the patriarchy. Women are kind and gentle, men are wimps. You can always play word games. Life is unfair, some of it you have to accept, some of it you should speak out against and fight to change. Guess putting my tent up didn't take that long
I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination.
A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism.
No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that.
Male privilege is a very real thing.
It turns in to the oppression Olympics where everyone is neatly placed in a category based on their attributes and told how tough their life is or how easy it is compared to other
You example above makes it sound like a man could never experience sexism
This kind of thinking is all part of the current culture war because it’s signed to keep everyone in their box of oppression instead of realising we are all unique individuals with our own wants needs and struggles and we are all capable of being discriminated against, and no one else’s level of discrimination makes your own mean less "Everyone can be discriminated against, yes but some groups of people are discriminated against on a far more regular and institutionalised basis. Men can be r*ped but women are r*ped far more often. In the same way men are discriminated against but women are discriminated against far more. It’s not a competition, it’s just accepting reality. Like I said, male privilege is a very real thing, we both have it. Mr DD | |||
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"I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination. A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism. No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that. Male privilege is a very real thing." The reason I say it is dimensional and not intersectional is that some of the advantages of being male only apply to some males, so you can't simply add up privilege in a linear fashion. Being male is a disadvantage for some males, and in some situations. You're saying it's a mixed bag because an individual is a member of many groups, I'm saying it's a mixed bag inside a single group too. Rich men send poor men off to die. Women have less money, but don't get drafted. If you only ever see being a member of a group as an advantage or disadvantage, then you're missing part of the picture. | |||
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"I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination. A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism. No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that. Male privilege is a very real thing. The reason I say it is dimensional and not intersectional is that some of the advantages of being male only apply to some males, so you can't simply add up privilege in a linear fashion. Being male is a disadvantage for some males, and in some situations. You're saying it's a mixed bag because an individual is a member of many groups, I'm saying it's a mixed bag inside a single group too. Rich men send poor men off to die. Women have less money, but don't get drafted. If you only ever see being a member of a group as an advantage or disadvantage, then you're missing part of the picture." When was the last time anyone in this country was drafted for anything? Also, all combat roles have been open to women for 5 years now. I will say it again “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. You have no idea what a poster boy for male privilege you are, and I doubt you ever will. Mr DD | |||
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"I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination. A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism. No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that. Male privilege is a very real thing. The reason I say it is dimensional and not intersectional is that some of the advantages of being male only apply to some males, so you can't simply add up privilege in a linear fashion. Being male is a disadvantage for some males, and in some situations. You're saying it's a mixed bag because an individual is a member of many groups, I'm saying it's a mixed bag inside a single group too. Rich men send poor men off to die. Women have less money, but don't get drafted. If you only ever see being a member of a group as an advantage or disadvantage, then you're missing part of the picture." No you see that’s far too complicated, it’s better to just say girls rule boys drool | |||
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"Funny how the negative behaviour (by women) hasn't been elaborated on. I did request earlier that the negative behaviour be expanded upon but got no answer. Oh well MrsAbz " Ditto, but not as directly as you. | |||
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"Has any woman on the thread said men can't have preferences?
Quite right, if a man wants to only shag women with tight pussies, he's welcome to wank with whichever hand he prefers " | |||
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"When was the last time anyone in this country was drafted for anything? Also, all combat roles have been open to women for 5 years now. I will say it again “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. You have no idea what a poster boy for male privilege you are, and I doubt you ever will. Mr DD" I thought with Ukraine it might have been a clear example, but if you don't like it, as long as you understand the point I was making I'm sure you could come up with other examples. That said, missing the difference between being able to join the armed forces and being drafted is a pretty good demonstration of what I mean by missing part of the picture. I don't know how to add up all the points are work out who's worse off, and I don't much care to, because you can look at each issue one by one and try to make things better. You might disagree with me, that's fair. Nothing in your response said to me that you understood the idea I was trying to convey though. | |||
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"You need to consider the asymmetry between genders as well as within genders. A few men hold a lot of power, most men very little. Even in recent events you can see how men get called up to go and fight in wars while the women and children are seen as precious and worthy of protection. It's not wrong, there have always been biological / evolutionary reasons for this. I can see how discussions on this topic end up being a mess because they get treated as one-dimensional. Men are the top and the bottom of the patriarchy. Women are kind and gentle, men are wimps. You can always play word games. Life is unfair, some of it you have to accept, some of it you should speak out against and fight to change. Guess putting my tent up didn't take that long
I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination.
A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism.
No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that.
Male privilege is a very real thing.
It turns in to the oppression Olympics where everyone is neatly placed in a category based on their attributes and told how tough their life is or how easy it is compared to other
You example above makes it sound like a man could never experience sexism
This kind of thinking is all part of the current culture war because it’s signed to keep everyone in their box of oppression instead of realising we are all unique individuals with our own wants needs and struggles and we are all capable of being discriminated against, and no one else’s level of discrimination makes your own mean less "My vag is not an equal opportunities employer, so I'll discriminate and there's not a sausage anyone can do about it. However, that statement is good to go for every single member (although some may want to swap vag for dick) | |||
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"You need to consider the asymmetry between genders as well as within genders. A few men hold a lot of power, most men very little. Even in recent events you can see how men get called up to go and fight in wars while the women and children are seen as precious and worthy of protection. It's not wrong, there have always been biological / evolutionary reasons for this. I can see how discussions on this topic end up being a mess because they get treated as one-dimensional. Men are the top and the bottom of the patriarchy. Women are kind and gentle, men are wimps. You can always play word games. Life is unfair, some of it you have to accept, some of it you should speak out against and fight to change. Guess putting my tent up didn't take that long
I don't think anyone is disputing that men also suffer from discrimination such as classism or homophobia, or indeed the results of toxic masculinity but you need to consider intersectional discrimination.
A working class white man will be discriminated against through classism; a working class woman will be discriminated against through classism AND sexism. A working class black woman will be discriminated against through classism, sexism, AND racism.
No one is saying working class men don't have it tough, what we are saying that working class women have to contend with the same things as a working class man AND sexism on top of that.
Male privilege is a very real thing.
It turns in to the oppression Olympics where everyone is neatly placed in a category based on their attributes and told how tough their life is or how easy it is compared to other
You example above makes it sound like a man could never experience sexism
This kind of thinking is all part of the current culture war because it’s signed to keep everyone in their box of oppression instead of realising we are all unique individuals with our own wants needs and struggles and we are all capable of being discriminated against, and no one else’s level of discrimination makes your own mean less
Everyone can be discriminated against, yes but some groups of people are discriminated against on a far more regular and institutionalised basis.
Men can be r*ped but women are r*ped far more often. In the same way men are discriminated against but women are discriminated against far more. It’s not a competition, it’s just accepting reality.
Like I said, male privilege is a very real thing, we both have it.
Mr DD"Pale, male, stale... Yep white, male, middle-aged privilege. | |||
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"When was the last time anyone in this country was drafted for anything? Also, all combat roles have been open to women for 5 years now. I will say it again “when all you have known is privilege, equality feels like oppression”. You have no idea what a poster boy for male privilege you are, and I doubt you ever will. Mr DD I thought with Ukraine it might have been a clear example, but if you don't like it, as long as you understand the point I was making I'm sure you could come up with other examples. That said, missing the difference between being able to join the armed forces and being drafted is a pretty good demonstration of what I mean by missing part of the picture. I don't know how to add up all the points are work out who's worse off, and I don't much care to, because you can look at each issue one by one and try to make things better. You might disagree with me, that's fair. Nothing in your response said to me that you understood the idea I was trying to convey though." I absolutely appreciate that men can experience discrimination and there are some things they experience more than women, but I’m afraid being drafted to go to war doesn’t really stack up against millennia of oppression. Women experience discrimination simply because they are women so regularly that we men cannot conceive of it. Poor men get sent to war not because they are men but because they are poor. If you cannot see the difference then I shall have to conclude that you just don’t want to. Also, when was the last time anyone was drafted for anything in this country? | |||
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"I just wanna know how you’re measuring it, and what is classified as TP/VTP. Dicks is easy- length, possibly girth. All standardised units. Are we talking the depth? The diameter of opening? Tuna can.
Then any fishy smell, you can blame the can "Exactly.  | |||
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"I absolutely appreciate that men can experience discrimination and there are some things they experience more than women, "
"but I’m afraid being drafted to go to war doesn’t really stack up against millennia of oppression." Like I said, not point scoring. If the Almighty Spaghetti Monster in the Sky has added up all the cosmic discrimination points and says women have it worse, happy to agree. "Women experience discrimination simply because they are women so regularly that we men cannot conceive of it." Stands to reason that the same is true in reverse. Women have said things to me that show they lack understanding of men, and I've struggle to understand things from women's point of view at times. "Poor men get sent to war not because they are men but because they are poor. If you cannot see the difference then I shall have to conclude that you just don’t want to." ...but not poor women. "Also, when was the last time anyone was drafted for anything in this country?" At the risk of repeating myself, I thought of that example because when civilians were leaving Ukraine it was the men who were turned back at the borders and told to go fight. The thread was about sexual preferences so I'm not sure why we'd want to get into the s about some random example I picked or why it matters that I thought of Ukraine instead of UK. If we agree that men can face discrimination, and I've already said that I'm not trying to point score or question that women might have it worse in the grand scheme of things, what are we arguing about?
Is it that, if you believe women have it worse, you can never discuss issues facing men? I hope that's not what you meant.
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"It's fair and common game for a lady to specify WE or VWE gentlemen, but I've never heard of a chap daring to specify TP or VTP, as a requirement in the ladies. In these days of supposed sexual equality, this should be encouraged, surely. I don't want to sleep my way through FAB, either. Unsolicited pussy pics will result in immediate blocking etc.." TP = Tight pussy? VTP = Very tight pussy ? | |||
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"I absolutely appreciate that men can experience discrimination and there are some things they experience more than women,
but I’m afraid being drafted to go to war doesn’t really stack up against millennia of oppression.
Like I said, not point scoring. If the Almighty Spaghetti Monster in the Sky has added up all the cosmic discrimination points and says women have it worse, happy to agree.
Women experience discrimination simply because they are women so regularly that we men cannot conceive of it.
Stands to reason that the same is true in reverse. Women have said things to me that show they lack understanding of men, and I've struggle to understand things from women's point of view at times.
Poor men get sent to war not because they are men but because they are poor. If you cannot see the difference then I shall have to conclude that you just don’t want to.
...but not poor women.
Also, when was the last time anyone was drafted for anything in this country?
At the risk of repeating myself, I thought of that example because when civilians were leaving Ukraine it was the men who were turned back at the borders and told to go fight. The thread was about sexual preferences so I'm not sure why we'd want to get into the s about some random example I picked or why it matters that I thought of Ukraine instead of UK.
If we agree that men can face discrimination, and I've already said that I'm not trying to point score or question that women might have it worse in the grand scheme of things, what are we arguing about?
Is it that, if you believe women have it worse, you can never discuss issues facing men? I hope that's not what you meant.
Think I'll go back out to my tent Maybe someone else reading the thread can figure out why we seem to be talking past each other."You need to acknowledge your privilege first. I think that’s how these things work “White straight male acknowledging my privilege, permission to speak?” | |||
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