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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I reckon I just sussed out a chap I knows wife, she messaged to say she was married but husband doesn't know.

My mind said .... Tell her you may know her husband. So I did. Now I'm blocked haha

HIVE MIND how would you have approached this situation?

I went with honesty!

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Probably would have done the same as you mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good to know, 1 for 1 !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Print screen and send it husband

He deserves to know

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

If you didn't think you knew her husband, would you have met her if you thought she was attractive to you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the one hand this can’t possibly be true, because as we know all the single women in here are genuinely single and not at all just as likely to be cheating as the men, but on the other hand I think you’ve done no wrong in what you said to her.

There’s a whole *different* thread about whether or not you should tell him, my view is that you shouldn’t interfere (but many will disagree with me!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Print screen and send it husband

He deserves to know "

Yeah maybe. But it's a bit Vegas this place imo so I'm a bit, meh ? Let people be kinda view on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On the one hand this can’t possibly be true, because as we know all the single women in here are genuinely single and not at all just as likely to be cheating as the men, but on the other hand I think you’ve done no wrong in what you said to her.

There’s a whole *different* thread about whether or not you should tell him, my view is that you shouldn’t interfere (but many will disagree with me!)"

Genuinely laughed at this ! But that's where my head is, you do you ! They may have been into the kink, who knows !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you didn't think you knew her husband, would you have met her if you thought she was attractive to you ?"

As a man, I would have met her either way. With my emotional depth of a tea spoon. Joking aside, yeah she seemed great, worth a meet for sure

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Having sex with a mate's wife behind his back.

Seems reasonable to me. None of his business really.

**Sarcasm**

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't have even replied and just blocked her

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I would have just disengaged. The messenger always gets shot.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You weren't 100% sure you knew him either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have just disengaged. The messenger always gets shot."

I think this is the lesson maybe to take forward!

I'm not here to judge!

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I would have just disengaged. The messenger always gets shot.

I think this is the lesson maybe to take forward!

I'm not here to judge!"

But you told her you might know her husband to make her uncomfortable and exposed ?

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

I'd have just blocked and moved on. Nothing to be gained by stirring the pot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having sex with a mate's wife behind his back.

Seems reasonable to me. None of his business really.

**Sarcasm** "

To be fair he didn’t say he was a mate, just that he knows him. He might absolutely hate the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have just blocked and moved on. Nothing to be gained by stirring the pot."

Exactly this

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If it was a man messaging me & admitted to cheating, I'd block anyway, never mind if I thought I might know his wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have just disengaged. The messenger always gets shot.

I think this is the lesson maybe to take forward!

I'm not here to judge!

But you told her you might know her husband to make her uncomfortable and exposed ?"

Not at all ! Just to be upfront and honest, I had zero other thoughts in my head bar. Oh shit, I think I might know this person's husband, I should probably tell her ?

Absolutely not to make her feel anything apart from not being lied to I guess ??

But this is a good point, that's probably how she felt, and again a point to take away from it. Thank you ma'am !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd have just blocked and moved on. Nothing to be gained by stirring the pot.

Exactly this "

Seems like the way ! Definitely didn't intend to stir the pot. But hive mind is doing it's thing

Appreciate the hindsight folks !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Are you concerned at being blocked?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you concerned at being blocked?"

Not event a little bit, it just gave me pause for thought. Should I have handled this differently.

Hive mind, and I'm inclined to agree, suggests I should have just not said anything and moved away.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"Having sex with a mate's wife behind his back.

Seems reasonable to me. None of his business really.

**Sarcasm**

To be fair he didn’t say he was a mate, just that he knows him. He might absolutely hate the guy "

Fair point. Yeah go for it OP do it out of spite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having sex with a mate's wife behind his back.

Seems reasonable to me. None of his business really.

**Sarcasm**

To be fair he didn’t say he was a mate, just that he knows him. He might absolutely hate the guy "

This is pretty accurate, Don hate him, at all I don't really hate anyone. What's the point ? But he's not my cuppa tea like ! Absolutely not a mate, just someone I think I know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having sex with a mate's wife behind his back.

Seems reasonable to me. None of his business really.

**Sarcasm**

To be fair he didn’t say he was a mate, just that he knows him. He might absolutely hate the guy

Fair point. Yeah go for it OP do it out of spite."

Genuinely laughed at this boomerang haha !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you were right to tell her you know her husband but don’t need to tell him about it. As others have said, you’ll get the backlash unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you were right to tell her you know her husband but don’t need to tell him about it. As others have said, you’ll get the backlash unfortunately "

Seems like the level headed approach! Appreciate the reassurance !

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

S'pose the question is, what did you gain? If you thought you knew her husband, have you achieved/gained anything by sending that reply? You only THOUGHT you knew him. Not 100%.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"S'pose the question is, what did you gain? If you thought you knew her husband, have you achieved/gained anything by sending that reply? You only THOUGHT you knew him. Not 100%.

"

This is a good point of view ! I just thought, oh should probably say. I'm fairly confident. Like 95% too many things matched up. Her original birth place, profession age etc.

But that's a good pov, what do I gain from saying this. Fits in with the hive mind consensus of say nuttin and move right along.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you were right to tell her you know her husband but don’t need to tell him about it. As others have said, you’ll get the backlash unfortunately "

Spot on, and so I hear it in other threads. Some women like to tear off foreskin with their teeth. And ma'am I would be very happy to avoid that.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I would probably have explained and blocked, just in case

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would probably have explained and blocked, just in case "

Solid suggestion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you were right to tell her you know her husband but don’t need to tell him about it. As others have said, you’ll get the backlash unfortunately

Spot on, and so I hear it in other threads. Some women like to tear off foreskin with their teeth. And ma'am I would be very happy to avoid that. "

Sellotape nick. Sellotape

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you were right to tell her you know her husband but don’t need to tell him about it. As others have said, you’ll get the backlash unfortunately

Spot on, and so I hear it in other threads. Some women like to tear off foreskin with their teeth. And ma'am I would be very happy to avoid that.

Sellotape nick. Sellotape "

I fear this may be a gorilla glue situation.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

You did nothing wrong, I can't stand cheating is totally disrespectful.

If a person wants to live a life in a way that they have to hide behind a partner or marital partner's back they shouldn't be with that person it's not right

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