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"sounds like you got to avoid the drink when your with her. maybe a few meets without drink and honest chat could get her to open up and explain her motives. good luck mate. tell her how she makes you feel and that may resolve things . if she gets the nark thats a chance you gotta take but you was in the position of blowing her out anyway" | |||
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"If she was a true friend she shouldnt treat you like crap, or make you feel bad. Drink can change a persons personnality. Have you tried talking to her about her beaviour and how it makes you feel. Is the friendship worth the treatment she gives you? You have had a rocky ride lately my friend and deserve to be treated better. " This is so very true. Problem I have is I don't have many friends in Surrey and I am only really here coz of my lad who needs me | |||
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"If you think she respects you tell her about her attitude when she is d*unk, if she really does respect you and value your friendship, she should stop drinking in your company as a matter of choice! Mrs D " If d*unks thought logically, then what you say would work. Unfortunately, they don't. | |||
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"If you think real, true, loyal friends exist in fabland, maybe wake up, if its 28yrs or 28days, either way its not true dedicated friendship. Its everyone shopping around for the best deal,and if this week your not it, then your not it." seems a bit jaundiced... There are plenty of people who make good friendships that remain even if the sex doesn't. Perhaps it depends more on what type of connection you're looking for.. in the OP case, 28 years of friendship is unlikely to be just about sex... | |||
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"I feel your pain Van. I've had experience of this too, and it's pushed me to the edge. " Pushed who to the edge? Your a couple. | |||
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"If you think she respects you tell her about her attitude when she is d*unk, if she really does respect you and value your friendship, she should stop drinking in your company as a matter of choice! Mrs D If d*unks thought logically, then what you say would work. Unfortunately, they don't. " I am saying... mention it when the person is sober not d*unk. But then again did the OP say she was a d*unk as in a alcoholic. ? I might have read it wrong then she needs medical help and support. | |||
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"I feel your pain Van. I've had experience of this too, and it's pushed me to the edge. Pushed who to the edge? Your a couple. " precisely | |||
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"If you think she respects you tell her about her attitude when she is d*unk, if she really does respect you and value your friendship, she should stop drinking in your company as a matter of choice! Mrs D If d*unks thought logically, then what you say would work. Unfortunately, they don't. I am saying... mention it when the person is sober not d*unk. But then again did the OP say she was a d*unk as in a alcoholic. ? I might have read it wrong then she needs medical help and support." Theres a whole other thread,,, one drink a night or ten,,, still alcoholic type addiction. | |||
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"I feel your pain Van. I've had experience of this too, and it's pushed me to the edge. Pushed who to the edge? Your a couple. precisely" WE get yer point,,, | |||
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"If you think she respects you tell her about her attitude when she is d*unk, if she really does respect you and value your friendship, she should stop drinking in your company as a matter of choice! Mrs D If d*unks thought logically, then what you say would work. Unfortunately, they don't. I am saying... mention it when the person is sober not d*unk. But then again did the OP say she was a d*unk as in a alcoholic. ? I might have read it wrong then she needs medical help and support." You're wasting your time talking to them when they're d*unk, and when they're sober they can't see what the fuss is all about. It's hard trying to break the circle | |||
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"If you think she respects you tell her about her attitude when she is d*unk, if she really does respect you and value your friendship, she should stop drinking in your company as a matter of choice! Mrs D If d*unks thought logically, then what you say would work. Unfortunately, they don't. I am saying... mention it when the person is sober not d*unk. But then again did the OP say she was a d*unk as in a alcoholic. ? I might have read it wrong then she needs medical help and support. You're wasting your time talking to them when they're d*unk, and when they're sober they can't see what the fuss is all about. It's hard trying to break the circle" I agree with you on that, the OP never said she drank all the time, so I rightly or wrongly I thought he meant she was a occasional drinker. All I was trying to saying was, that if she drinks only at say the wkend or even once a week and she always turns nasty or horrible then she does have the choice not to drink. But she could also be on medication that alters her personality when she has a drink. | |||
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"I have a friend that keeps shitting on me I have known her 28 years. Yes we have had sex together on several occasions. She seems hell bent on really pushing me. She says she does not mean to do it but it only happens when she has a drink. Thinking of telling her to go blow as I don't like nasty d*unk women. I don't want to turn my back on 28 years of friendship but I also don't like the way she has treated me recently. Its like she wants to make me jealous. All it does is make me see she is d*unk and annoying lol. " Is this your wife Van ? friends you can get away from but if wife i would be worried for you as for a number of years i lived with a nasty d*unk it was my mum. | |||
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"Have decided after reading this and my own head says time to move on. Find new friends and enjoy life. " van just how close ? is this friend ? a wife or person you see now and again .. ? | |||
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"Have decided after reading this and my own head says time to move on. Find new friends and enjoy life. van just how close ? is this friend ? a wife or person you see now and again .. ? " Jo he has known her 28 yrs... not his wife but a friend who he has shagged on occasions... | |||
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"Have decided after reading this and my own head says time to move on. Find new friends and enjoy life. van just how close ? is this friend ? a wife or person you see now and again .. ? " A friend no not wife or girlfriend a friend who we have had a bit of an on off relationship. Friends with benefits was what she called it. | |||
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"Have decided after reading this and my own head says time to move on. Find new friends and enjoy life. van just how close ? is this friend ? a wife or person you see now and again .. ? Jo he has known her 28 yrs... not his wife but a friend who he has shagged on occasions... " I know ....... but some here call there wife's close friends and shag now and again too , lol Just if a close friend can easy move on even after 28 if not living together , lol | |||
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"I really struggle to understand someone hanging around to be humiliated. I left my husband, the father of my children after losing 80% of my sight, unsure whether it'd return or not. Stressing over a d*unken friend just doesn't make sense to me at all. Then again women that stay in abusive relationships etc perplex me also. " I used to think that till i started working with them. Women mainly stay in abusive relationships because the perpetrator spends years knocking down their self esteem, telling them that no one else would want them because they are worthless. It's a hard cycle to break unfortunately. But as to the ops original post I'd say move on hunny. Sell either see sense when she's lost your friendship and if she doesn't then hey you've lost nothing but someone that makes you feel bad!! | |||
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"I have a friend that keeps shitting on me I have known her 28 years. Yes we have had sex together on several occasions. She seems hell bent on really pushing me. She says she does not mean to do it but it only happens when she has a drink. Thinking of telling her to go blow as I don't like nasty d*unk women. I don't want to turn my back on 28 years of friendship but I also don't like the way she has treated me recently. Its like she wants to make me jealous. All it does is make me see she is d*unk and annoying lol. " You have known your friend for 28 years, do you really want to throw that away? Talk to her and tell her how you feel when she turns nasty, also she may have a few problems and that may be why she is turning to drink! I wouldn't throw away a 28 year friendship out the window, I would try and find out what was up | |||
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"I really struggle to understand someone hanging around to be humiliated. I left my husband, the father of my children after losing 80% of my sight, unsure whether it'd return or not. Stressing over a d*unken friend just doesn't make sense to me at all. Then again women that stay in abusive relationships etc perplex me also. " You do come across as a very strong, independant lady (not just down to your user name or Goliath ) But not everyone can be or are that strong. Some find it hard to walk away. As for women who stay in abusive relationships, especially in mentally abusive relationships do not always know its happening til they find the courage/strength to walk away. I know I didn't realise when it was happening to me. The OP seems to have had a hard time of it lately, and has admitted he doesn't have many friends where he is. Saying all that, Van, you either need to tell her you wont go near her when she's had a drink, and enoughs enough if she treats you like shit. Or just walk away. Whatever is said only YOU can make that decision. | |||
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