FabSwingers.com forum: Soppy shit

By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes, it's a very unfortunate phrase to use as a title but it's also funny.

Anyway. I'm a pretty stoic person in general (not afraid of feelings, just don't emote constantly or expressively). However now and again things crop up be it life situations, talks or messages with friends, or even the odd forum post.

Do you often find yourself being surprised at a softer side to you that rarely sees much action in situations?

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I read this as Sloppy Shit at first glance

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I know I'm actually a big fucken softie underneath it all. I just don't like to show that side to most people

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Nope, I'm pretty much a softie full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sloppy shit here too

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm always being off for being cold with my emotions. This has changed a bit since having a child and I'm a little softer now

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I read this as Sloppy Shit at first glance"

As expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, i dont do emotion so im never surprised by it. Im neurodivergent so feelings just are not a feature in my life

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

This is no Bridget Jones.

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By *hunkyBuggaMan
over a year ago

Devon

"Sloppy shit here too

I think that’s a different issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sloppy shit here too

I think that’s a different issue

Too many prunes!

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By *oneybee1001Woman
over a year ago

Around and about

"I know I'm actually a big fucken softie underneath it all. I just don't like to show that side to most people

Same, I'm not afraid to be soppy with those who I care about and who care about me

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I know I'm actually a big fucken softie underneath it all. I just don't like to show that side to most people

I know, such a disappointment on the inside...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t show my softer side to just anyone..

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sloppy shit here too

You need more fibre!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am an unadulterated war machine. I exist as the final bastion of masculinity and power. I have no soft side. I am darkness incarnate. My real name is The Destroyer of Souls, Eater of Worlds. I bench press 60 ton Main Battle Tanks because nothing else sasiates my hunger.

There is no man greater in power than me. I was banned from the Worlds Strongest Man competition and Strongman championships because of my raw power.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Sloppy shit here too

Standard

That’ll be the leafy greens, cooked beans, corn, non-sugary cereals and grains, berries, apples and most other fruits and vegetables.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I am an unadulterated war machine. I exist as the final bastion of masculinity and power. I have no soft side. I am darkness incarnate. My real name is The Destroyer of Souls, Eater of Worlds. I bench press 60 ton Main Battle Tanks because nothing else sasiates my hunger.

There is no man greater in power than me. I was banned from the Worlds Strongest Man competition and Strongman championships because of my raw power. "

A little bit soppy then?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Urgh, since meeting the Mr I've turned into a cuddly soppy mess rather than the ice queen I was well known as.

I'm not sure I like it & constantly suprise/discust myself with it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no man greater in power than me. I was banned from the Worlds Strongest Man competition and Strongman championships because of my raw power.

A little bit soppy then? "
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NEVER, there isn't a single malm of emotion or soppyness in me.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

There is no man greater in power than me. I was banned from the Worlds Strongest Man competition and Strongman championships because of my raw power.

A little bit soppy then? #

NEVER, there isn't a single malm of emotion or soppyness in me. "

Your profile status is a bit soppy and I bet you have to bend it like Beckham to fit it in those tight knickers of yours

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Sometimes I scare the shit out of people without words.

I'm actually romantic, but ''fuck like a beast'' (Good song btw).

Gave serenade on the street with an acoustic guitar.

I feed the neighbor's cat while he's on holiday.

Drop 3.5 tears during an emotional movie.

Want to feed all the homeless, but I can't afford it.

Very few people sees it and I don't even hide it.

I'm pretty much honeycomb coated marshmallow.

If I'd be music, then mixture of Gary Moore and W.A.S.P. would describe me best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem showing affection with those important to me. Getting to the point your important to me...that's more tricky..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite an emotional person anyway, so can be soppy.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I'm hard on the outside so don't show a lot, but I'm soft and squishy in the inside, once you get passed the barriers

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I know I'm actually a big fucken softie underneath it all. I just don't like to show that side to most people

I know, such a disappointment on the inside...

Inside my heart maybe.

I was only planning on you getting in my throat. And cunt

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"This is no Bridget Jones."

I always fancied her.

Or maybe it was Renée Zellweger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a softer side that doesn't see much action, but half an hour on here and it gets a bit harder.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I have no problem showing affection with those important to me. Getting to the point your important to me...that's more tricky.."

Is it as tricky as the grammar?

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By *hatbiatchWoman
over a year ago

craigavon

"I know I'm actually a big fucken softie underneath it all. I just don't like to show that side to most people

Same, I'm not afraid to be soppy with those who I care about and who care about me

Same here, the ice queen exterior I try for is far too easily melted at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem showing affection with those important to me. Getting to the point your important to me...that's more tricky..

Is it as tricky as the grammar?

Ahh...I'm still thinking about the beating your arse is getting later

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I don’t have a soft side.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I have no problem showing affection with those important to me. Getting to the point your important to me...that's more tricky..

Is it as tricky as the grammar?

Ahh...I'm still thinking about the beating your arse is getting later

One track mind

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don’t have a soft side.

What about the boobs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem showing affection with those important to me. Getting to the point your important to me...that's more tricky..

Is it as tricky as the grammar?

Ahh...I'm still thinking about the beating your arse is getting later

One track mind

We've discussed this...it's a two track mind

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I don’t much like emotional stuff. I don’t like to feel vulnerable in that way. I’d much rather change the subject than discuss unless I’m very comfortable with someone.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

"I read this as Sloppy Shit at first glance"

As did I, thought it might be a thread on how to deal with your cats sloppy poo

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Other people crying makes me cry. I am ridiculously soppy.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

at the the title.- got my attention.

I've seen you comment about stoicism being 'vilified' I think that's fair.

I've had an interest in Ancient greek philosophy. Will sound silly but I learnt the most about stoicism on Dudeist groups and forums years ago. There's a lot of people who take that very seriously on there and many knowledgeable stoics. I'm actually an ordained Dudeist priest, I can conduct marriages in certain states

The central beliefs there (still an ongoing debate) are Epicureanism and Taoism. They resonate a little more for me than Stoicism.

I've learnt that being indifferent is unhelpful to me: being emotionally expressively is what enriches my life. It also gives me greater immediacy in recognising my emotions. Expressing emotions is itself a form of regulation. And one which can build resilience over time.

The reed that bends with the wind will never be uprooted.

So yes I can feel very deeply and be soppy at times. I've cried with people on these forums and for them. I experience huge amounts of empathy.

I'm also at times able to be incredibly emotionally resilient. Expressing ones emotions is not the same as lacking emotional awareness. Being surprised, by ones emotional responses is. I see it as a separation between mind and body and the goal is for the two to be in harmonious accord. Non-duality.

As they used to say on the Dudeist forums. Dude it's ok we all go 'full Walter' sometimes. 'Am I only the one around here who gives a fuck about the rules!!!'

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"One track mind

We've discussed this...it's a two track mind

I was going to argue three. But as discussed, two are actually just one so

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I am passionate when something means something to me.

Usually I’m middle of the road for a lot of things but when it’s something/someone I feel close to I can be very soppy.

I like tapping into my softer side and I have no problem showing my emotions at all.

I can go down rabbit holes watching soppy stuff on the book of face but can also be stern when needed too.

It’s served me well as I can see things from many view points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One track mind

We've discussed this...it's a two track mind

I was going to argue three. But as discussed, two are actually just one so

Haha...one track ...two openings

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

at the the title.- got my attention.

I've seen you comment about stoicism being 'vilified' I think that's fair.

The central beliefs there (still an ongoing debate) are Epicureanism and Taoism. They resonate a little more for me than Stoicism.

The reed that bends with the wind will never be uprooted.

So yes I can feel very deeply and be soppy at times. I've cried with people on these forums and for them. I experience huge amounts of empathy.

As they used to say on the Dudeist forums. Dude it's ok we all go 'full Walter' sometimes. 'Am I only the one around here who gives a fuck about the rules!!!'"

I think I just fell in love a bit!

The Dude abides

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I don’t have a soft side.

What about the boobs? "

What???

I have boobs? Shit. So I do…

Yeah they’re very soft to be fair.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

As they used to say on the Dudeist forums. Dude it's ok we all go 'full Walter' sometimes. 'Am I only the one around here who gives a fuck about the rules!!!'

I think I just fell in love a bit!

The Dude abides

No Walter you're not wrong... You're just an asshole!

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By *hiteWitchXXXWoman
over a year ago

North Wales

I have a hard shell thats difficult to crack (me and siblings where all raised to be quite hardened) but deep down I am a as soft as grease, just not many are privy to it

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I flip flop between an unfeeling robot to an emotional wreck.

On some occasions I am completely shut off emotionally and find it impossible to empathize.

On other occasions I get way to emotionally invested and can't shut it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I emote a lot, but I'm not at all sentimental. So I'd be surprised at myself if I went all soppy at an old babygro from one of my kids or their first tooth. (Yeah I kept them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been drained of emotions.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I've been drained of emotions.

I feel like that at times.

Others the slightest thing will set me off. Memories popping up on Facey. The wrong tune on the car radio. Other people being happy when I feel shit.

Life is a bloody rollercoaster at times.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Cats, dogs and animals in general. Garden birds are my free pets.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

Life has been a pretty tough rollercoaster so I've had to toughen myself but every so often something will set me off.

Go think about a tough break up, then listen to Estranged by Guns N Roses. If you aren't a blubbering mess by the end you must be dead inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been drained of emotions.

I feel like that at times.

Others the slightest thing will set me off. Memories popping up on Facey. The wrong tune on the car radio. Other people being happy when I feel shit.

Life is a bloody rollercoaster at times."

Bloody people

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I've been drained of emotions.

I feel like that at times.

Others the slightest thing will set me off. Memories popping up on Facey. The wrong tune on the car radio. Other people being happy when I feel shit.

Life is a bloody rollercoaster at times.

Bloody people "

Some people.....

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"(Mr)

Life has been a pretty tough rollercoaster so I've had to toughen myself but every so often something will set me off.

Go think about a tough break up, then listen to Estranged by Guns N Roses. If you aren't a blubbering mess by the end you must be dead inside."

Amazing Song tbf

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Sloppy shit….soapy shit… (I need to go to Specsavers!)

I can be a bit of a soppy shit; Disney films have a curious tendency to cause impromptu eye irritation in me…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been drained of emotions.

I feel like that at times.

Others the slightest thing will set me off. Memories popping up on Facey. The wrong tune on the car radio. Other people being happy when I feel shit.

Life is a bloody rollercoaster at times.

Bloody people

Some people.....

Alive people...

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