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Checking through partner’s phone

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By *olf and Red OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

Would you feel the need to look at your partner’s mobile phone ? Or track their location ?

Was watching a Tv programme where this man’s gf was unhappy when he wouldn’t let her track him any more. Plus she checked his messages as well.

Personally never looked at Wolf’s and he’s never felt need to look at mine either.

Red

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope. Never. If I felt the need to do that then I shouldn’t be there

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

Would not ever look, respect my wife's primacy. 0

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"Nope. Never. If I felt the need to do that then I shouldn’t be there "

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By *andA250Couple
over a year ago

London

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, never felt the need or urge to. Nowt to hide from Mrs Wick, and vice versa.

We do agree to occasionally use the find my phone function on nights out. In case phones get lost/nicked, or if I just wanna ensure Mrs Wick is getting home safely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel the need to track your partners every move there’s big issues in your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you feel the need to look at your partner’s mobile phone ? Or track their location ?

Was watching a Tv programme where this man’s gf was unhappy when he wouldn’t let her track him any more. Plus she checked his messages as well.

Personally never looked at Wolf’s and he’s never felt need to look at mine either.

Red "

A good level of trust you have there. I been on socials and this fabber kept looking at his phone..

Said it was for time. Not in a couple relationship to have any level of trust.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I think that's best personally to respect privacy.

Some people take that 'nothing to hide nothing to fear' principle too far.

There's also an element of taking responsibility for trusting a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't trust eachother then you shouldn't be together.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No, there has to be trust in a relationship or what's the point.

Once that's gone totally there's no coming back.

If I had an issue with something or felt the need to look I'd ask and explain why I felt the need and have a discussion around it.

Mrs

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

When I was married I wasn’t even alowd to pick up my wife’s phone - however I had to give her a one hour notice before I left the house and same before return if I forgot this on return I would have to park in next street for an hour . I would have to ask check with her every 2 hours and tell where I was and what I was doing

However she would go missing for a whole weekend without any explanation

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Nope, though we do track each other e.g. If one of us I collecting the other from the train station etc.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We’ve got nothing to hide so it’s a non question really.

She’s welcome to look at my phone anytime, same with me.

We generally wouldn’t but then again it wouldn’t be any issue if either did.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Nope, though we do track each other e.g. If one of us I collecting the other from the train station etc. "

It’s very handy to use find my for these purposes

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By *sername already in useMan
over a year ago

manchester

Only if I suspected them of murder.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

No, I think if you're to a point where you're snooping, you need to evaluate whether your relationship is working and perhaps seek help, whether that's personal therapy, couples therapy or even ending the relationship.

For us, we know eachother pins, we could I guess look at eachothers phones etc we just choose not to because personal privacy matters and we don't feel we need to.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

You know what I'll share this.

There's one time I did. After she died. I had to get passwords and things mostly for the girls video game accounts. It felt awful.

She'd been so open and truthful to me. Not a saint but she hid nothing that she knew was important from me. Inspired me even after death.

Some people are truthful and they are keepers. You can't know though it doesn't work that way. It takes faith.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

If you feel the need to track your partner’s location or check their messages then you are with the wrong person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always have location shared because I travel a lot for work and feel a lot safer knowing that he knows where I am. But we don’t use it in a negative, “I need to know where they are at all times” kind of way.

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By *inkyfuckery69Couple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

That is a massive red flag .

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No if i didn't trust the person i wouldn't be with them.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I checked my ex husbands phone once when I was certain he had been having an affair for about 9 months and he had made me feel I was going insane.

I also checked his laptop... emails and Facebook account.

He had, in fact, been having an affair for 9 months and 4 days, and even when I presented him with the hard evidence I'd found on both devices he denied it.

Until she phoned him while we were having the discussion (he should have been on the way to work, which was always when she rang him) and I answered... from what she said she was certainly not expecting me to have answered the phone.

I was in entirely the wrong relationship, I wasn't even bothered about the affair. I was just angry about the lying and the fact he had made me feel crazy.

I wouldn't do it again though, and I'd never suggest anyone else did it.

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By *inacolada3Couple
over a year ago

kettering

If you have to do this then the trust is gone , time to get out.x

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By *utterfly64Woman
over a year ago

Raynes Park

I don’t feel a need to look at his phone. But know how to unlock it in case of emergency

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Would you feel the need to look at your partner’s mobile phone ? Or track their location ?

Was watching a Tv programme where this man’s gf was unhappy when he wouldn’t let her track him any more. Plus she checked his messages as well.

Personally never looked at Wolf’s and he’s never felt need to look at mine either.

Red "

If you feel the need to look at someones phone then maybe it's best to end it because there is no trust there anymore.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We use each others phone sometimes. But we don't feel the need to go through them. If you need to do that what trust do you have a in your relationship?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would have never wanted to check my Ex Wifes phone. Its not in my nature in the slightest. However (as I foumd out) My ex wife was a great gass lighter and compulsive lier. To the extent that when I'd stumbled up on her infidelity she made me feel like I was going completely fucking crazy and feeling horrible guilt for questioning her. As things when on more questions than answers kept coming up. I thought I was going completely insane, yet a little voice kept saying something is iffy. I needed answers for my own sanity. I also needed concrete evidence so definitive I could present to her that she could not dispute, spin or flat out lie to my face. I knew if I gave her any room or ambiguity she would again twist and distort it and say I'm mental. Although I didn't necessarily look through here phone per se I started digging and discovering. Then came the point I busted her with the other guy. I had closure, proof I wasn't mental, proof she was a vile manipulator and a situation she couldn't deny or talk her way out off. I was heart broken, felt completely stupid, but it was the end of a torturous period I was made to believe I was mental and a horrible person. I needed that truth.

I think as a rule it's not something that should exist in a healthy relationship. It's often a thing of a horrible insecurity and/or controlling nature. However I understand from my own experience there are times that people need answers for perfectly valid reasons.

Luckily now I am with the right Woman and my trust is well placed and not abused.

Mr

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I think that if I was ever in so much doubt about their honesty, it would be too far gone to salvage regardless of what was on the phone.

Location sharing makes sense for safety sometimes, but I wouldn't be happy to have it as a constant.

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By *ojo2joWoman
over a year ago

Penclawdd

Only once when an ex left his phone in the bathroom and I saw a message pop on screen suggesting my partner was buying drugs.

When I looked I found he was buying a lot of drugs and also planning to move out. Fortunately I was able to push before jumped.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"If you don't trust eachother then you shouldn't be together."

I checked once as I didn’t trust them. I’m not proud that I did it but it had niggled me for 4 months. And I was right. I asked them to leave 2 days later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Never. If I felt the need to do that then I shouldn’t be there "

I would say 2 things.. 1) if you feel need to check, then you clearly don't trust them, so it ain't going anywhere

2) If they have issue then that's a clear indicator neither of you are right for the other one.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No I don't, after all we're both on here & can meet separately.

If I had any suspicions, maybe, but he knows my stance on cheating & that it would never end well.

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