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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

Hey. Hope you’re ok. I’ve never experienced loneliness so can’t give advice except to say that exercise, good sleep and cutting down alcohol are useful tools when battling any form of depression.

Do you have good mates you can talk too?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Find someone to fuck, gives me a fix for a while.

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

"Find someone to fuck, gives me a fix for a while. "

That’s very kind of you to offer. Will you be driving up or catching a train?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

I'm going to say get out and talk to people if you can. It'll take time because not everyone you talk to will be friendly or the type of person you want to interact with. It's not easy or a quick fix.

What do you do in your spare time?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I distract myself.

Sometimes it isn't something I can fix, so I cope as best I can by keeping busy. (I'm not saying that's what you should do. I'm saying if it's difficult to fix, it can be overcome)

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Find someone to fuck, gives me a fix for a while.

That’s very kind of you to offer. Will you be driving up or catching a train? "

I've had a fix recently.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"Find someone to fuck, gives me a fix for a while. "

He has limited options cos' he's lonely so might have to just have a wank & bang one out.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"Find someone to fuck, gives me a fix for a while.

That’s very kind of you to offer. Will you be driving up or catching a train?

I've had a fix recently."

Congratulations

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

Just go & find someone that annoys you by the way they look & troll them, takes your mind of things.

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By *neForCouplesMan
over a year ago

Portugal, Bahamas, Barbados

I have moved to the Bahamas last year and live on own

It’s hard sometimes specially after work when you find yourself alone and end up stuck at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either find someone to gett naked with and hang out with.

I go pick something like an exhibition I want to go to and go hang out there instead. Gives me something to look forward to and I often end up talking to people anyway.

Last time I was at an exhibition I held a gate open for someone who the chatted, he turned out to be a really good artist and I got his social media name to view more.

All I did was hold a gate open.

Go out if you can.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"I have moved to the Bahamas last year and live on own

It’s hard sometimes specially after work when you find yourself alone and end up stuck at home

??"

Get a hobby

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

get yourself a nice dog

mans best friend true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True talk the world isn’t coming to your door. If you’re feeling lonely get out and find ways to meet people. Get a hobby, a dog, a fuck buddy (not to be confused with dog), do socials, start a militant political rag paper, marry a ladyboy in Thailand, whatever it is. Just don’t sit there staring at daytime tv wondering why you’re lonely.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"True talk the world isn’t coming to your door. If you’re feeling lonely get out and find ways to meet people. Get a hobby, a dog, a fuck buddy (not to be confused with dog), do socials, start a militant political rag paper, marry a ladyboy in Thailand, whatever it is. Just don’t sit there staring at daytime tv wondering why you’re lonely. "

Good advice

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

Going out even if just to a cafe or for a walk just don't stay in the house all day be around people

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Just don’t sit there staring at daytime tv wondering why you’re lonely...

Key words.. Especially abroad or wherever tbh ..

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Going out even if just to a cafe or for a walk just don't stay in the house all day be around people "

Agree

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Dunno i tend to attract people to me like ticks on a dog its really annoying other people irritate me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going out even if just to a cafe or for a walk just don't stay in the house all day be around people

Agree

Agree re getting out

But sitting somewhere where most others are with people sometimes makes it worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Going out even if just to a cafe or for a walk just don't stay in the house all day be around people

Agree

Agree re getting out

But sitting somewhere where most others are with people sometimes makes it worse "

Yeah good point well do what you can to socialize hobbies etc

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

I'm use to being on my own because nobody likes me...

Very hurtful (

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you? "

He could try gay sheds. Or wine bars as we call them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t follow the advice of finding someone to fuck to fill the loneliness given on here. That’s unhealthy behaviour, bad advice from unhealthy people

Focus on quality relationships with family and friends. Make things happen. Arrange a night out or a meal. Don’t wait for others to do it for me.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

Good friends are hard to come by but that doesn't mean people aren't open enough to say hello or to chew the fat with. Hobby's, local events, interests, volunteering, anything that gets you out of the house all help build an activities with people of a similar mindset.. from woodwork to canoeing to photography

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you?

He could try gay sheds. Or wine bars as we call them

Just dont step on the hoe

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Hey OP, I don’t really feel lonely as such but I’m very aware I’m someone who enjoys more solitude than us probably healthy. I joined a food waste app and now collect every Saturday from a supermarket and list them for locals to request and collect. I’ve met some lovely people who come to me week after week and pass the time with a bit of chat. And it’s doing a bit of good too. I can highly recommend that for just seeing new people and building confidence if it’s suitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish you the best OP. Some sound advice here.

There are groups out there tailored for lonely people, it's actually a more common thing these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you?

He could try gay sheds. Or wine bars as we call them

Just dont step on the hoe

Hoes that fall over are lino and get walked on. It’s the way.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"Going out even if just to a cafe or for a walk just don't stay in the house all day be around people "

I have a few elderly customers who live alone.Going outside for something,anything,is important,whether it's a newspaper or a walk around the market.Have a look for daytime events in your area,go to the library.Get out of the house is the most important starting point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I distract myself by doing things I should (housework) or want (go out) do. Failing that, I have a sleep.

Chin up OP, being alone is infinitely less lonely than being with the wrong person x

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

If real, best go get professional advice as we are all ametuers on a sex site!

Be happy..!

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By *neForCouplesMan
over a year ago

Portugal, Bahamas, Barbados

I appreciate your message and advice … but have any of you ever been down the Caribbean ? Specially Nassau ?

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"I distract myself by doing things I should (housework) or want (go out) do. Failing that, I have a sleep.

Chin up OP, being alone is infinitely less lonely than being with the wrong person x"

Sounds exhilarating

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

did you get your heartache and your head rush confused

have you been sleeping late cause you've been abused

are you alone

does it feel like those around want you to die

are you alive

did you grab your sleeping bag when you hit the floor

have you been feeling bad czuse you've been a bore

oh youre just lonely

and it feels like those around want you to die

but you're alive

was it loneliness that kept you or baby did you think it a curse

were you grateful for the pleasure or baby do you think this is worse

and it feel like those around want you to die

sometimes does it feel like just crying

youre still in love with me and you dont know why

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By *ICKEDMANMan
over a year ago

Harrow

Unfortunately for most blokes its not that easy to get laid especially on Fab Swingers. Like alot of dating apps its full of men chasing few ladies. So easy solutin for most women on here.

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By *ICKEDMANMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I have been there and still not fully free of being lonely and isolated. The best thing I can recommend is finding hobbies, self development, Meet Up.com to meet fellow people looking to meet up and hang out. You must get out of your reality and take action especially when it scares you. All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

There’s no easy answer to that question.

I don’t think any of us genuinely would admit to feeling happy at being alone (alone is such a loaded word).

I thin that being alone just creeps up on us as we transition from one phase of our lives to another. We move on and we tend to leave more people behind at the expense of making new friendships.

All I can suggest is don’t walk away from any opportunities that come your way, look for people who share your interests and don’t let your past dictate your future x

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"get yourself a nice dog

mans best friend true

Plenty of dogs here. "

Jeez poor guy is struggling and you give a string of inane comments.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently

What do you do in your spare time?"

Yep echo that advice to try to get out in the real world and talk to people and do things and hopefully things will get better. OP I know you talked about physical but that will probably only come once you feel better and more positive generally.

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By *otlips322020Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It’s hard when your lonely but you always have fab too entertain yourself with x x x

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you? "

What are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understanding the difference between being alone and lonely is a stone. Like saffron I prefer solitude once my social battery has run out to recharge. I’d rather be on my own then surround by people and still feel lonely. Find hobbies that you enjoy and you’ll meet people who also have the same interests

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Wank...job done.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you?

What are they?"

They're places men go to socialise while doing stuff like woodwork, upholstery etc. There's one in most big towns.

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Do you have hobbies? It's easier to make friends when you are younger. After you are in your 30s, the best way to socialise is to take up a hobby and join hobby groups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy a cat?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

Security is the fix for loneliness. You can be just as lonely in a relationship, or having lots of NSA, the moment it’s over the loneliness can come back & even busy and surrounded by ‘friends’

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I’ve been on my own all day I often go up to Starbucks. Sit in the car with my coffee, while watching the world go by.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"If I’ve been on my own all day I often go up to Starbucks. Sit in the car with my coffee, while watching the world go by. "

I nipped out at 11 last night to local sports bar to watch the rugby rather than sit in the apartment alone. I think I was bored and homesick rather than lonely.

It’s not something I’ve ever really done before, but I really enjoyed it and met whole bunch of single expat guys, of similar age and in similar position to me. I don’t need any new friends, but I ended up making a couple.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Do you use social media? Check out what's happening in your area on the community groups. There is a walking group aimed at men in my town, men just chatting and walking, it's popular

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"There is a wanking group aimed at men in my town, men just chatting and wanking, it's popular "

I bet it is

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By *hickchocolateMan
over a year ago

Ldn

I’m with you bro but it’s less the physical but emotional. No close friends, if any

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for the kind replies. Lots of good ideas for me to look into and thank you to everyone that has reaches out via messages.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Hey OP, I don’t really feel lonely as such but I’m very aware I’m someone who enjoys more solitude than us probably healthy. I joined a food waste app and now collect every Saturday from a supermarket and list them for locals to request and collect. I’ve met some lovely people who come to me week after week and pass the time with a bit of chat. And it’s doing a bit of good too. I can highly recommend that for just seeing new people and building confidence if it’s suitable. "

I like this. Volunteering is the best if someone is in a position to do it.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Understanding the difference between being alone and lonely is a stone. Like saffron I prefer solitude once my social battery has run out to recharge. I’d rather be on my own then surround by people and still feel lonely. Find hobbies that you enjoy and you’ll meet people who also have the same interests "

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m someone that spends vast amounts of time alone. I’m lorry driver and for weeks at a time I barely have any contact with family or friends.

I get lonely and it’s no shame in saying, I feel lonely.

Make the most of casual contacts. The woman in the supermarket, guy in the petrol station or even the call from the salesman. Just remember, one of those contacts may well turn into a friend.

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

"How do people deal with physical loneliness?

Really feeling alone recently "

Sorry to hear this OP. Like others have suggested there may be a Men’s Shed type of place near you which can be where carpentry and that kind of activity takes place or a Men’s social group. The social group near me, they meet in a local social club but no alcohol can be purchased so no one worries about temptation if they have had an issue with alcohol. Tea, coffee etc is available. They play pool and darts, and just chat.

I have 2 rescue dogs. I find loads of people chat to you if you’re out with a dog. If you can’t practically own one, there are organisations that let you borrow one when the owner is struggling to walk it.

Red

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you?

He could try gay sheds. Or wine bars as we call them

Just dont step on the hoe

Hoes that fall over are lino and get walked on. It’s the way. "

.Apart from the ones who manage to jump back up and bop you on the nose!

I'm just imagining jam jars full of multicoloured condoms. pt

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Do you have any 'men shed' type groups near you?

What are they?

They're places men go to socialise while doing stuff like woodwork, upholstery etc. There's one in most big towns."

There is a community centre near me that has 'fix it' day, you take in an old stool or some broken old headphones (as I am next time its on) and someone there will fix it, showing you how its actually done - and you can help too if you want to. I do things there myself too on a different level. Look at what is on locally (as regularly as you can - it's no good missing things!) and interact on a social level. Life is about meeting new people I think, even when that feels really hard to do. Even coffee shops. Met so many men and women doing this.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"There is a wanking group aimed at men in my town, men just chatting and wanking, it's popular

I bet it is

Trust you to lower the tone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Andy’s man club must have a meet near you? Good place to get stuff off your chest with no judgement and meet new folks at the same time.

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By *addy bareMan
over a year ago

lakeside

I can relate with this,as I suffer with loneliness too. I just try and get out as much as I can of a weekend,go to a pub and try and make some friends.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Societies don't have to be for one sex. I much prefer mixed groups and I get tired after a point with too much man chat. pt

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

Go swinging clubs, you'll make friends there I guarantee.

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

As a number of posters have said, just being out and about in company/public is often counter productive. There's only so much happiness you can watch from outside before you go back home and find you are already waiting for you.

With professional help, you can try to learn to like yourself enough to cope with your own company. Thankfully, there's also medication which might be useful. But that's for the professionals to decide with you.

You can't make people like you, so you have to move on from wanting the impossible to facing the hand that has been dealt for you.

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