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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So obviously gents the male to female ratio on here is massively different so many more guys than girls and that’s cool part of the game

But do you ever feel sometimes the “what’s wrong with me” question pop in your head you send out some messages trying to engage but you get nothing back just read/deleted and it happens majority of the time

I know I’ve had it a fair few times and you think “is it my pictures” or “dose my bio suck” or “maybe I’m just ugly” I dunno any other guys get that thought every now and then I’m a pretty laid back happy go lucky guy never really bothered by stuff like that you is what it is by every now and then the thought does pop in

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Maybe its the dose thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe its the dose thing "

The dose thing? I’m confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be honest and say that I’ve never ever had that thought cross my mind. I’m fully aware that the vast majority of people here would/will/have said no to me. And that in no way means there’s something wrong with me.

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By *c_FingersMan
over a year ago

Stoke On Trent


"Maybe its the dose thing

The dose thing? I’m confused "

Dose it be confusing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly yeah this question does go through my mind alot. Being on here has severely damaged my self esteem that's for sure! Although to be fair all apps and sites like this do that to me. It's just part of life though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope as my dynamic is set up so I am never stuck

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Never noticed the ratio difference

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

The ratio doesn't say much depending how active per location then you have a different ratio and not based upon the whole on the site

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Not needy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I've only had a few messages on the time I've been on here. Maybe I'm not what people are looking for or maybe I should send the first message more "I dunno". Either way I'm not 100% this place is for me but we'll see.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Best way to look at things it's not about what might be wrong with you but them

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Yep, I've only had a few messages on the time I've been on here. Maybe I'm not what people are looking for or maybe I should send the first message more "I dunno". Either way I'm not 100% this place is for me but we'll see."

Hi pal

Remember messages are only one part of the site their is also chat rooms to mingle plus the meet section and obviously the forums so bounce around the site you never know what may cross your path

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Dose = does. People just being dicks mate, and taking the piss.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Dose = does. People just being dicks mate, and taking the piss."

Starts to grind you down sometimes

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Alot of the time looks etc is irrelevant, it can be something a simple as distance.

Even the guys who have got it all "6ft plus, gym bod, big dick" get turned down.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Alot of the time looks etc is irrelevant, it can be something a simple as distance.

Even the guys who have got it all "6ft plus, gym bod, big dick" get turned down."

Never said a big dick

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By *ianoSpankMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I come on to try to make someone smile but normally get told to do one. The moment you stop trying is the moment you fail. Keep the faith x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not needy "

Haha no my dude just a genuine question wanting to see how the other guys are doing on here all in good fun

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By *c_FingersMan
over a year ago

Stoke On Trent

Don't take it personal. Choosey, weary and way too many men competing for attention on here.

If it happens it happens.

I keep the faith like a previous post says and do chat with a few.

I love the challenge of gaining trust, giving a smile and working to a meet if it gets to that.

Don't be impatiant and insecure. It's just fun on fab at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I come on to try to make someone smile but normally get told to do one. The moment you stop trying is the moment you fail. Keep the faith x"

Keep doing your thing bro you seem like a nice dude

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So obviously gents the male to female ratio on here is massively different so many more guys than girls and that’s cool part of the game

But do you ever feel sometimes the “what’s wrong with me” question pop in your head you send out some messages trying to engage but you get nothing back just read/deleted and it happens majority of the time

I know I’ve had it a fair few times and you think “is it my pictures” or “dose my bio suck” or “maybe I’m just ugly” I dunno any other guys get that thought every now and then I’m a pretty laid back happy go lucky guy never really bothered by stuff like that you is what it is by every now and then the thought does pop in

"

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Resist it, if you are being normal enough it really is the ratio thing. Keep using Search and reaching out, remember these websites are only part of it all (the hardest not the easiest in some respects) and keep working on your profile - it can take years to polish for some people! You need to build contacts and have fun here, sometimes the meets (and shags) take time. Fab wasn't made to be a singles site remember, so look elsewhere too.

Btw, your BDSM interests might limit you of course (there are more of these sites aroudn too) but you will need to tick 'SM' for people to find you in Search. pt

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Alot of the time looks etc is irrelevant, it can be something a simple as distance.

Even the guys who have got it all "6ft plus, gym bod, big dick" get turned down.

Never said a big dick "

Ask anyone?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

you also can check SM interest in Browse/Search

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't take it personal. Choosey, weary and way too many men competing for attention on here.

If it happens it happens.

I keep the faith like a previous post says and do chat with a few.

I love the challenge of gaining trust, giving a smile and working to a meet if it gets to that.

Don't be impatiant and insecure. It's just fun on fab at the end of the day.

"

You have a good way of looking at things I like how you think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you also can check SM interest in Browse/Search"

I’m probably going to sound dumb what you mean by “SM”

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes, absolutely.

I can entirely understand that women and couples get swamped with offers and that replying (especially as some bods get REALLY shirty if they hear a No Thank You) is not possible.

But the constant sense of rejection can definitely get to me at times.

I understand that as a cis, het, white, middle-aged guy it's easy to get lost in the crowd. Although, seeing some of the guys in vids or pics I do often wonder, what have they got that I haven't LOL.

Clubs can be a better choice as it can be more obvious if someone is interested or not.

I can understand and accept getting deleted or just not read at all. It's if your mail just sits there as read that gets to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with me?

No, I never feel that way. I don't come here with expectations, and I never invest the time into making my opening lines "opening lines". I'm not at the extremes of the physical because I'm too lazy to invest my time there, so I'm never going to win on that front either.

I am who I am. Some people get to know me and realise I bring other things to the table. Others will never get the chance, and that's ok.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

At the beginning, when joined Fab ,I i put in the leg work , spent a lot of time searching , reading profiles ,making a note of the ones that were looking for blokes in my age range ,were local ,and who I felt attracted too.

Then I spent a lot of time constructing tailored messages to send. I did this for the first year of being a member ,all to no avail . Almost every message was deleted unread (which they are entitled to do ) . The odd one was read then deleted.

So I eventually stopped wasting my time ,knowing the time I spent searching and messaging was pointless . I was fully aware when joining that men vastly outnumbered couples and single women, so came on here with my eyes open .

The only thing that has surprised me in my year and a half on here is how only a handful of single blokes have any success on here . I read the forums daily ,and tend to click on profiles of single blokes to see if they are having any success ,and 99% are like me, with zero meet verifications.

Granted ,there are a few single blokes on here who have been very successful ,and I'm happy for them , but it seems the vast majority of us are flogging a dead horse .

I stopped sending messages because you can only keep banging your head against a brick wall for so long before you realise nothing is ever going to change. Why keep doing the same thing (sending messages ) ,and getting the same result everytime .?

There cones a point where the penny drops ,and you realise if messaging people hasn't worked after months ,then it's never going to work ,and maybe its time to accept that for 99%of us single blokes, will never be in the 1% who do have success on here .

When you cannot generate any interest through messaging ,you have very few other tools available . Yes , you can post a meet ,view meets posted by others, and post on the forums, but that's all you have .

I have also posted threads asking for profile advice ,and tweaked my profile after reading the advice given ,but there is only so much you can do with your profile bio and photos.

My view is ,the longer you are on this site, the more you learn about what sort of single blokes will get meets ,and which ones of us never will.

In my opinion Fab offers Three ways of connecting with other people ,three ways of trying to meet others.

1/ Sending Messages .

2/ Posting a meet .

3/ Searching meets posted by others.

But good luck in your search anyway .

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"So obviously gents the male to female ratio on here is massively different so many more guys than girls and that’s cool part of the game

But do you ever feel sometimes the “what’s wrong with me” question pop in your head you send out some messages trying to engage but you get nothing back just read/deleted and it happens majority of the time

I know I’ve had it a fair few times and you think “is it my pictures” or “dose my bio suck” or “maybe I’m just ugly” I dunno any other guys get that thought every now and then I’m a pretty laid back happy go lucky guy never really bothered by stuff like that you is what it is by every now and then the thought does pop in "

Nope never enters my head what's

Wrong with me .lol if they don't want to buy what im selling that's fine .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish guys wouldn't take this site too seriously, I know it's easier said than done but putting your worth on strangers is never going to end well.

When you send a message and get no reply it's not rejection. They don't know who you are or what you bring to the table, it's usually a split second decision based on preference. Also, knowing what you bring to the table is important too.. don't get into jumping through hoops for entitled women, the energy needs to be matched from both sides to make it work.

See fab as a bit of fun but guys please don't let someone else's preferences dictate your self esteem, that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also, knowing what you bring to the table is important too.. don't get into jumping through hoops "

This

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't sent a first contact message on here in almost 4 years but even back when I did send messages I was very selective in who I contacted.

If I sent one or maybe two messages a week that would have been about the height of it and I had a 50 percent return.

I deleted every message after sending so I had no way of checking if they were all read or not.

The only thought I ever had in regard to those who didn't reply was that my pics weren't great so I made a bit more effort with those and haven't given it a thought since.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No, but then I’ve never put myself in that position. I’ve sent very few messages , when I felt a real possibility or I’ve waited to be messaged.

When I was active if I met someone new once every 2-3 months that was fine , there’s real

life and dating apps if you want more volume.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Just wanna add OP, I put all my effort here into making my profile accurate rather than worrying about whether people like me.

That’s quite different trying to make your profile good. I’ve never asked for profile advice. It’s about really understanding who you are here, what you have to offer and what you want. When you get your profile, right women will contact you.

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"At the beginning, when joined Fab ,I i put in the leg work , spent a lot of time searching , reading profiles ,making a note of the ones that were looking for blokes in my age range ,were local ,and who I felt attracted too.

Then I spent a lot of time constructing tailored messages to send. I did this for the first year of being a member ,all to no avail . Almost every message was deleted unread (which they are entitled to do ) . The odd one was read then deleted.

So I eventually stopped wasting my time ,knowing the time I spent searching and messaging was pointless . I was fully aware when joining that men vastly outnumbered couples and single women, so came on here with my eyes open .

The only thing that has surprised me in my year and a half on here is how only a handful of single blokes have any success on here . I read the forums daily ,and tend to click on profiles of single blokes to see if they are having any success ,and 99% are like me, with zero meet verifications.

Granted ,there are a few single blokes on here who have been very successful ,and I'm happy for them , but it seems the vast majority of us are flogging a dead horse .

I stopped sending messages because you can only keep banging your head against a brick wall for so long before you realise nothing is ever going to change. Why keep doing the same thing (sending messages ) ,and getting the same result everytime .?

There cones a point where the penny drops ,and you realise if messaging people hasn't worked after months ,then it's never going to work ,and maybe its time to accept that for 99%of us single blokes, will never be in the 1% who do have success on here .

When you cannot generate any interest through messaging ,you have very few other tools available . Yes , you can post a meet ,view meets posted by others, and post on the forums, but that's all you have .

I have also posted threads asking for profile advice ,and tweaked my profile after reading the advice given ,but there is only so much you can do with your profile bio and photos.

My view is ,the longer you are on this site, the more you learn about what sort of single blokes will get meets ,and which ones of us never will.

In my opinion Fab offers Three ways of connecting with other people ,three ways of trying to meet others.

1/ Sending Messages .

2/ Posting a meet .

3/ Searching meets posted by others.

But good luck in your search anyway .

"

This site is just like real life, especially if you are only looking to have sex with women. Some men seem to be very lucky in love and some are less so, but not entirely unlucky. It just takes a little longer and a bit more effort. I imagine we all hoped this would be a sexual free for all but the women (and some of the men) are just as complex and choosy as the others we found in real life. Patience, kindness, and trying not be too weird, are probably key to some kind of 'success'. Good luck.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"At the beginning, when joined Fab ,I i put in the leg work , spent a lot of time searching , reading profiles ,making a note of the ones that were looking for blokes in my age range ,were local ,and who I felt attracted too.

Then I spent a lot of time constructing tailored messages to send. I did this for the first year of being a member ,all to no avail . Almost every message was deleted unread (which they are entitled to do ) . The odd one was read then deleted.

So I eventually stopped wasting my time ,knowing the time I spent searching and messaging was pointless . I was fully aware when joining that men vastly outnumbered couples and single women, so came on here with my eyes open .

The only thing that has surprised me in my year and a half on here is how only a handful of single blokes have any success on here . I read the forums daily ,and tend to click on profiles of single blokes to see if they are having any success ,and 99% are like me, with zero meet verifications.

Granted ,there are a few single blokes on here who have been very successful ,and I'm happy for them , but it seems the vast majority of us are flogging a dead horse .

I stopped sending messages because you can only keep banging your head against a brick wall for so long before you realise nothing is ever going to change. Why keep doing the same thing (sending messages ) ,and getting the same result everytime .?

There cones a point where the penny drops ,and you realise if messaging people hasn't worked after months ,then it's never going to work ,and maybe its time to accept that for 99%of us single blokes, will never be in the 1% who do have success on here .

When you cannot generate any interest through messaging ,you have very few other tools available . Yes , you can post a meet ,view meets posted by others, and post on the forums, but that's all you have .

I have also posted threads asking for profile advice ,and tweaked my profile after reading the advice given ,but there is only so much you can do with your profile bio and photos.

My view is ,the longer you are on this site, the more you learn about what sort of single blokes will get meets ,and which ones of us never will.

In my opinion Fab offers Three ways of connecting with other people ,three ways of trying to meet others.

1/ Sending Messages .

2/ Posting a meet .

3/ Searching meets posted by others.

But good luck in your search anyway .

"

What's your interpretation of success on fab?

This is my 4th profile in 7 years.

The first one was crap and I left after a really bad experience. The next one only lasted a few months because I decided it wasn't for me. The third profile had a better bio and pics and I joined a fab hiking group and had 30+ verifications before I deleted it.

This profile is more than 4 years old and similar to the last one in regards to effort on my part and verifications but again the vast majority of those are from a few group socials.

I'm 58 and there are many younger, fitter and better endowed men on here claiming they are struggling to get meets. I'm certainly not in the top 1 percent. In fact I'm not even in the top 50 percent.

I've had approx 80 meets across all 4 profiles in those 7 years. Is that classed as successful?

Out of those 80 meets less than 10 percent have gone beyond the coffee social stage and resulted in sex.

Is that still classed as successful?

I have to add though that the less than 10 percent part has been by choice rather than circumstance because I'm extremely fussy who I get naked with so as far as my expectations go I have successfully negotiated fab but many people reading this will think that 7 or 8 play meets in 7 years is a bit shit.

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By *andyman4uanddiscreetMan
over a year ago

oxford

This site is very tough for men, dont let it affect yourself esteem i have been trying with no luck by sending messages posting social meets and generally being a nice guy. Alot depends on where you live to as where i am is very quiet...i am on verge of giving up on here but persist op if its what you want but dont let anyone get you down

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Once a lady was kind enough to show me her fab inbox. The number of messages there was shocking. So I just tell myself that the competition is huge

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

OP dont ever take this site seriously..

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Yeah OP, in all honesty I've questioned wether I'm doing something wrong, or if I'm not attractive enough to compete with the huge amount of guys in my area. Even though I can't see their faces I've thought they must be better looking, or perhaps they're in better shape with bigger dicks. Then I look at the forums and realise I'm not the only 1 thinking like this at times and it settles me again.

It's not a race to get laid and, even though I'm perpetually horny, patience is a virtue

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Nope, multiple reasons

1) as you say ratio is high

2) I’m self aware enough to know I’m not gonna have hordes of women throwing themselves at me

3) even if ratio was 50:50 everyone’s tastes and preferences are different

4) spent too long in life beating myself up about self worth and know it’s a slippery slope. So I don’t allow myself to infer or assume anything like that any more. It’s just how it is.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"you also can check SM interest in Browse/Search

I’m probably going to sound dumb what you mean by “SM”"

.

SM is what Fab calls BDSM, you need to tick it (ie along with your other interests, which you have done) so people can find you in their Browse/Searches! You can search via interest you see - so you can search for women from x, into SM.... etc.

People need to use Search properly or Fab will never work best for them surely. I find using a PC or laptop (and the full website) helps, but it can all be done on the mobile site too.

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not aimed at anybody in particular but here’s what I’ve learned after years of Fab membership - on a previous profile as a couple, then as a single male and then with this profile.

If you’re a single man and come on fab to try to get laid, you will get frustrated.

I come on Fab to pass the time. I try to engage with people on the forum, the chat and through direct connection (messages and winks and fabs). I don’t come on Fab because I’m horny and want to get my end away.

Think of it as a business networking event. If I got to a networking event with the sole purpose of finding a new client at that event, I will fail. If I go with the attitude of ‘I might meet some interesting people, have some good conversations and maybe meet someone who might need my business in the future’ then I’ll be successful.

If Fab is your only outlet for trying to get laid, and you want to achieve that NOW, then you’re going to be disappointed. Realign your expectations and your goals.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I just think I'm not for them if no reply, I've made good friends here that I see regularly and I'm enjoying a good social life.

Yes the ratio is bad but that's just how it is and makes getting to meet someone better in my opinion

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By *oecutterMan
over a year ago

Clonakilty

Nope.

It’s their loss.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

There's always gonna be better men on here and probably in their DMs and so if there are, they focus on that. I get it. If the rules swapped and men had women societally accepted as 'hotter' in their DMS, they would neglect the ones more their level.

I know my profile is good but there's gonna be more ripped guys, bigger dicks, and ones who show their faces to anyone and everyone and they will get the attention more so, so I have accepted to rarely try

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"There's always gonna be better men on here and probably in their DMs and so if there are, they focus on that. I get it. If the rules swapped and men had women societally accepted as 'hotter' in their DMS, they would neglect the ones more their level.

I know my profile is good but there's gonna be more ripped guys, bigger dicks, and ones who show their faces to anyone and everyone and they will get the attention more so, so I have accepted to rarely try

"

Oh you try Brucey, you try really hard for that attention

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"There's always gonna be better men on here and probably in their DMs and so if there are, they focus on that. I get it. If the rules swapped and men had women societally accepted as 'hotter' in their DMS, they would neglect the ones more their level.

I know my profile is good but there's gonna be more ripped guys, bigger dicks, and ones who show their faces to anyone and everyone and they will get the attention more so, so I have accepted to rarely try

Oh you try Brucey, you try really hard for that attention "

On here jokingly flirting isn't actually expecting to have hot sex from it. Besides MOST that I would actually have sex with are great chat in DMS anyway so it's all cosy here, just meant actual messages to non forum users

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"There's always gonna be better men on here and probably in their DMs and so if there are, they focus on that. I get it. If the rules swapped and men had women societally accepted as 'hotter' in their DMS, they would neglect the ones more their level.

I know my profile is good but there's gonna be more ripped guys, bigger dicks, and ones who show their faces to anyone and everyone and they will get the attention more so, so I have accepted to rarely try

Oh you try Brucey, you try really hard for that attention

On here jokingly flirting isn't actually expecting to have hot sex from it. Besides MOST that I would actually have sex with are great chat in DMS anyway so it's all cosy here, just meant actual messages to non forum users"

You know I'm pulling your leg buddy

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I was going to say I thought everyone has those thoughts at some point, but clearly not from the posts above. I know I do, though; I don't send many messages, but someone not liking you (on here or otherwise) stings, and can lead to a bit of self-doubt.

But I also know there is nothing "wrong" with me, and enough people do like me, so it's being able to put those thoughts aside...hard as it might be sometimes.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"I was going to say I thought everyone has those thoughts at some point, but clearly not from the posts above. I know I do, though; I don't send many messages, but someone not liking you (on here or otherwise) stings, and can lead to a bit of self-doubt.

But I also know there is nothing "wrong" with me, and enough people do like me, so it's being able to put those thoughts aside...hard as it might be sometimes."

Women are rejecting you?!

Guys we are all fucked.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was going to say I thought everyone has those thoughts at some point, but clearly not from the posts above. I know I do, though; I don't send many messages, but someone not liking you (on here or otherwise) stings, and can lead to a bit of self-doubt.

But I also know there is nothing "wrong" with me, and enough people do like me, so it's being able to put those thoughts aside...hard as it might be sometimes.

Women are rejecting you?!

Guys we are all fucked."

Not fucked again till tomorrow evening when I see my fwb

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"I was going to say I thought everyone has those thoughts at some point, but clearly not from the posts above. I know I do, though; I don't send many messages, but someone not liking you (on here or otherwise) stings, and can lead to a bit of self-doubt.

But I also know there is nothing "wrong" with me, and enough people do like me, so it's being able to put those thoughts aside...hard as it might be sometimes.

Women are rejecting you?!

Guys we are all fucked."

We'll compare tales of woe one day, Brucey.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"I was going to say I thought everyone has those thoughts at some point, but clearly not from the posts above. I know I do, though; I don't send many messages, but someone not liking you (on here or otherwise) stings, and can lead to a bit of self-doubt.

But I also know there is nothing "wrong" with me, and enough people do like me, so it's being able to put those thoughts aside...hard as it might be sometimes.

Women are rejecting you?!

Guys we are all fucked.

We'll compare tales of woe one day, Brucey.

"

I would have thought some women here would have wanted an MFM with us Jesus...

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"So obviously gents the male to female ratio on here is massively different so many more guys than girls and that’s cool part of the game

But do you ever feel sometimes the “what’s wrong with me” question pop in your head you send out some messages trying to engage but you get nothing back just read/deleted and it happens majority of the time

I know I’ve had it a fair few times and you think “is it my pictures” or “dose my bio suck” or “maybe I’m just ugly” I dunno any other guys get that thought every now and then I’m a pretty laid back happy go lucky guy never really bothered by stuff like that you is what it is by every now and then the thought does pop in "

Nah i dont get them as im awesome , these thoughts maybe triggered by rejection etc, but the root I'd do much deeper.

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By *adore AnthonyMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

You’re not alone, it happens to the best of us. More heartbreaking when you look at the verifications and the guys they have met look questionable and you can’t even get a reply.

But we move

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By *olbornsubguyMan
over a year ago

london

I’m on here and on the gay site fabguys. Oddly I get more guys wanting to meet from here. Almost all say they’re straight but want an arse to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So obviously gents the male to female ratio on here is massively different so many more guys than girls and that’s cool part of the game

But do you ever feel sometimes the “what’s wrong with me” question pop in your head you send out some messages trying to engage but you get nothing back just read/deleted and it happens majority of the time

I know I’ve had it a fair few times and you think “is it my pictures” or “dose my bio suck” or “maybe I’m just ugly” I dunno any other guys get that thought every now and then I’m a pretty laid back happy go lucky guy never really bothered by stuff like that you is what it is by every now and then the thought does pop in "

Rejection is always hard and yes it really does make you doubt certain aspects of yourself and those feelings do creep into my mind….but I always try to remain positive about it…..a rejection elsewhere means there’s an opportunity to find someone who wants you and that’s where the energy should be concentrated on the search and then on the person who shows interest!!

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"So obviously gents the male to female ratio on here is massively different so many more guys than girls and that’s cool part of the game

But do you ever feel sometimes the “what’s wrong with me” question pop in your head you send out some messages trying to engage but you get nothing back just read/deleted and it happens majority of the time

I know I’ve had it a fair few times and you think “is it my pictures” or “dose my bio suck” or “maybe I’m just ugly” I dunno any other guys get that thought every now and then I’m a pretty laid back happy go lucky guy never really bothered by stuff like that you is what it is by every now and then the thought does pop in "

Its never really popped into my head as a negative thing. Although I was lucky that I had a freind I knew before fab who was on the scene, so I got an understanding about it before joining. I go to clubs on occasion and so sorry but many meets over the years the club scene did get me to meet people.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

If everyone..and this is mainly addressed to the females remember fab isn't a true representation of life things would be easier for the men on here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If everyone..and this is mainly addressed to the females remember fab isn't a true representation of life things would be easier for the men on here x"

I like this well said

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

I don’t worry about it. I’ve used fab off and on for over 10 years and it’s no different now to when I first used it. I don’t use fab for sex so I do t get frustrated by the dynamics. I find it quite amusing.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"If everyone..and this is mainly addressed to the females remember fab isn't a true representation of life things would be easier for the men on here x"

Why is it not? We're all real people. Not having a dig, I genuinely didn't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got ADHD and definitely feel rejection sensitivity at times. That said the rational part of my brain knows not to value my own worth based upon a single interaction with a stranger here.

We cant all be for everyone and I dont indiscriminately fancy every woman on the site.

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