FabSwingers.com forum: Dating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else ever joined dating sites before and had success? I have been on some for a while now, messaged must be a few hundred now. Yet never get any interest. These sites have now made me lose all self confidence and has convinced me that I must be ugly! Who has had success and found them worth it?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well your certainly not ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well your certainly not ugly"

Maybe it's your style of messaging, or your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've spent a long time on the profile review forums on these sites, and tweaked them a lot to get them right. Supposedly I have a good profile and message style in the forums on these sites. Yet no one messages and takes an interest :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think guys still pretty much have to do the running. Waiting probs get you nowhere.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Go to the dancing,spot a hot chic,tell her she sent your eyes to heaven,and ask her if she would like a drink,then ask her for a dance.

So far so good.

then suggest your place for a night cap,put on some romantic tunes,then shag.

It'll keep your hand in,whilst you wait for a shag on here.

No need to thank me,I'm here to help.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Oops cancel everything,just noticed you can't accommodate,nor travel.

So your only meeting people who already live in your house,that's a fairly lean criteria,fingers crossed they ain't fussy.

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

"Go to the dancing,spot a hot chic,tell her she sent your eyes to heaven,and ask her if she would like a drink,then ask her for a dance.

So far so good.

then suggest your place for a night cap,put on some romantic tunes,then shag.

It'll keep your hand in,whilst you wait for a shag on here.

No need to thank me,I'm here to help.

" in other words - find a female and get her d*unk.."

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Go to the dancing,spot a hot chic,tell her she sent your eyes to heaven,and ask her if she would like a drink,then ask her for a dance.

So far so good.

then suggest your place for a night cap,put on some romantic tunes,then shag.

It'll keep your hand in,whilst you wait for a shag on here.

No need to thank me,I'm here to help.

" in other words - find a female and get her d*unk.."

Well it's always worked in the past.

You know how easy birds are, once they get that third drink down them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Oops cancel everything,just noticed you can't accommodate,nor travel.

So your only meeting people who already live in your house,that's a fairly lean criteria,fingers crossed they ain't fussy.

Priceless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oops cancel everything,just noticed you can't accommodate,nor travel.

So your only meeting people who already live in your house,that's a fairly lean criteria,fingers crossed they ain't fussy.

When people click 'can't travel' they mean they are restricted to public transport and can't go far for meets. Have u not read any of the many threas on the subject?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oops cancel everything,just noticed you can't accommodate,nor travel.

So your only meeting people who already live in your house,that's a fairly lean criteria,fingers crossed they ain't fussy.

When people click 'can't travel' they mean they are restricted to public transport and can't go far for meets. Have u not read any of the many threas on the subject?"

yes this is correct I can go places just not too far.

also I posting about dating outside of fab not a quick shag

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oops cancel everything,just noticed you can't accommodate,nor travel.

So your only meeting people who already live in your house,that's a fairly lean criteria,fingers crossed they ain't fussy.

When people click 'can't travel' they mean they are restricted to public transport and can't go far for meets. Have u not read any of the many threas on the subject?"

yes this is correct I can go places just not too far.

also I posting about dating outside of fab not a quick shag

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Go to the dancing,spot a hot chic,tell her she sent your eyes to heaven,and ask her if she would like a drink,then ask her for a dance.

So far so good.

then suggest your place for a night cap,put on some romantic tunes,then shag.

It'll keep your hand in,whilst you wait for a shag on here.

No need to thank me,I'm here to help.

Where is this dancing of which you speak??? I have dusted off my dancing shoes and ready to Rhumba...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have been on dating sites its not just about looks though, a lot of men arent interested in me because they think i am too quiet.

i am too old to change now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had lots of success on dating sites and social sites and I am nothing too look at but it can take time just like any other site

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If your quite happy to go to swingers clubs then surely you would be happy going to an ordinary club. Do what my son does, he goes up to a girl and just asks her to dance, he says if she was to say no he would move on to another one.

Your only young, there are plenty of places you can go to meet girls that maybe us old fogeys (well me) wouldnt like to go.

Go to a nice bar or something. As i said your not ugly, maybe trying to hard?

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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

I met my girlfriend on a dating site and we're been together for 6 years. A met a previous couple of girlfriends online too. Obviously, I've not been on one for a while but I always found them to work very well in the past.

The fact you say you've sent hundreds of messages rings alarm bells. Concentrate your efforts on contacting people you genuinely think you have things in common with and may be interested in you.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Dating sites are what you make it.. I am on 2 and rarely send a message. Why because in the dating world as well as the swinging world I am not everyones cup of tea.. I have sent a few out and some have lead to dates and one lead to a LTR.. It can work just don't become desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a thick skin and a positive mental attitude to survive dating sites, i got stood up on Saturday from a dating site date, altho hes also on here and posted for meets every day since lol.

Message every one you like with a short personal message about their profile, you will get there in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shame you're so far away. I would have been interesting in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A shame you're so far away. I would have been interesting in meeting."

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need a thick skin and a positive mental attitude to survive dating sites, i got stood up on Saturday from a dating site date, altho hes also on here and posted for meets every day since lol.

Message every one you like with a short personal message about their profile, you will get there in the end."

Thanks, it is what i'm trying. I suppose I'll get there just I think you get a bit down after you've been trying for quite some time. Guess someone may come along sometime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on a dress and tell everyone you're a woman, if it's anything like here the offers will come flooding in no matter what you look like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Put on a dress and tell everyone you're a woman, if it's anything like here the offers will come flooding in no matter what you look like

haha, I could but something tells me the vanilla world may not take a shine to that :p x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell everyone you're bi, haven't you learnt anything from being on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just tell everyone you're bi, haven't you learnt anything from being on here?

:p I thought that only worked if you were a lady. Didn't realise you'd have ladies on you if you let that on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're definitely not ugly.. you must remember most ppl on those sites are either married or attached.. or just lookin for quick entertainment. Then you've got the ones that ain't whom they portray. Don't give up, there is always someone out there for each of us. it just depends what you and they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're definitely not ugly.. you must remember most ppl on those sites are either married or attached.. or just lookin for quick entertainment. Then you've got the ones that ain't whom they portray. Don't give up, there is always someone out there for each of us. it just depends what you and they are looking for."

Thanks, I'll keep on fighting to find someone. It is nice to hear nice comments like that from people, does help me rebuild confidence. x

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