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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Except I can't. Sorry.

So, body image. Earlier I had a mini epiphany that I don't hate my body at all. The past few months I've really rediscovered some confidence. Happiness. It's taken time but it's nice not hiding away constantly.

How do you feel about your body at the moment? What boosts your body image/confidence?

Have you found that the older you get the less you give a f*ck?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I wish folks wouldn't spend so much time looking inwards and dwelling on how they see themselves.

Look up and out and enjoy living.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I've recently started to make a point of looking at myself naked and appreciating the parts I like instead of focusing on the parts I don't.

It's been nice. I spent a long time not appreciating the body I have. And that was very silly of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have "mild" spina bifida and always conscious of my wonky body. Stone has given me so much more confidence over these past years, so I'm not too worried about what people think anymore.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I wish folks wouldn't spend so much time looking inwards and dwelling on how they see themselves.

Look up and out and enjoy living.

I think the nature of the forum means that threads are going to be more erm... inwards looking? The topics will be.

Enjoying living is part of why I realised it today - spending more time with people and doing things that bring me joy has helped me feel less... meh about myself.

It's a good time to post whilst I wait for my ankle to heal.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve spent the last 2 1/2 years struggling with mobility to the point where I can’t go out without crutches. I’ve consoled myself with ice cream and I’ve never felt less confident than I do right now. Menopause is not helping one little bit. But I know it’s temporary so not giving myself too much of a hard time. I’m just not socialising anytime soon.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Except I can't. Sorry.

How do you feel about your body at the moment? What boosts your body image/confidence?

Have you found that the older you get the less you give a f*ck?"

You may laugh but I have taken to repeating positive affirmations to myself morning and night.

It seems to be working when those negative body image thoughts come in, I can stop them by saying actually "I like my bum/boobs/tum" whatever it is.

So, um, I guess its a bit odd but it is making me feel better

MrsAbz

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I have more confidence in my body than I did as a younger man. But I’m not sure that’s about ageing so much as it is about experience (if you can separate the two, and I think you can).

For me, it’s because I tend to react to others. To partners. And the more people who I know like my body, the more I like it too. So I feel better about myself when a gorgeous, intelligent woman wants to sleep with me. Or compliments me. Or even just fabs my photos. I don’t think that’s rocket science. Just positive reinforcement.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

And so you should be happy Melster, you look fantastic. Hot hot hot

Me? I don't think I've ever been truly unhappy with my body. Sure, there are bits that I curse occasionally, usually when clothes shopping and the lovely cigarette trousers won't go over my thunder thighs, everything is baggy around the waist, or yet another pretty dress hits my boobs and just hangs like an 80s maternity frock. Trust me, hourglass figures aren't all they're cracked up to be

But through trial and error I've learnt what suits me.

And naked? I'm not perfect, but nobody is. If I'm naked with someone and they're not vomiting at the sight of me, then I'm far too busy enjoying the moment to worry about any wobbly bits.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's a god damn fucking rollercoaster. Part of that is due to health reasons playing the current part.

Some days I'm happy with my body or my mind. Some days both, some days neither. It's a process.

I find I manage to get to a target body image I am happy in myself with, and then health issues kick in and that hard work takes a big hit. Then I adjust to be happy but eventually I feel I need to get back what I had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think on one hand it’s annoying to think certain physical characteristics I have no control over play a really big role in how the opposite see view me

But then I’m reminded that not only can I not change that, letting it negatively impact me is going to be unattractive to those that don’t even care about those physical characteristics

So by caring about it I’m fucking myself over doubly

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm getting better tbh the Mr taking some pics for fab recently helped, looking at them made me think I'm not actually as bad as I think.

I don't take to change well & my body changing makes it feel a little alien to me, but I'm slowly starting to accept it.

However I do love my new tits there's a bonus of putting on a few stone.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Except I can't. Sorry.

How do you feel about your body at the moment? What boosts your body image/confidence?

Have you found that the older you get the less you give a f*ck?"

Sex lovers gives us confidence and compliments..

I am not okay when I see body shaming posts.

It is distasteful and a fab rule not to

I can only speak for myself in which case everybody is body beautiful.

Sure, I am not body perfect and no I do not want to change my body. Everything is fine as it is.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’m happy with my body. She has played a part, both in terms of confidence/zero fucks & also I have improved with age. And learned to dress for my shape.

In terms of looking inward. When I have a “wobble” which I did yesterday & am just coming out of. I don’t ever blame my body for being rejected, or something going wrong. I always assume it’s my personality. So actually looking inwards all the time can be equally as bad for you as looking outwards.

We need to learn to love the whole package I think.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I've recently started to make a point of looking at myself naked and appreciating the parts I like instead of focusing on the parts I don't.

It's been nice. I spent a long time not appreciating the body I have. And that was very silly of me

It was very silly indeed! I think appreciating doesn't mean hyperfixating. You can look at yourself with kindness and love and not just become all about your physicality. I'm happy you're there Prey.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

I rather like your body too Melipoos….what was the question again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a body.

It works.

It fits in the clothes I own.

It moves me around.

It keeps me alive.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Body, face, genitals. No. I dislike the lot. And nobody else seems particularly keen. If I cover it all up to the point where I can be somebody else then I can live with it. Still nobody else particularly keen on it.

Bollocks. Yup, they're particularly ugly.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I actively avoid looking at my body dressed or undressed as I just don't like what I see. But that is not necessarily anything to do with size or shape. It's just I don't like it which had stayed pretty consistent from a young age. I don't ever looking in a mirror and being happy so I avoid them. I know the only thing that can change this is myself.

It frustrates me more because I know I am lucky to have a reasonably healthy and functioning body

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I have "mild" spina bifida and always conscious of my wonky body. Stone has given me so much more confidence over these past years, so I'm not too worried about what people think anymore. "

Oh that's lovely.

Sometimes people can really remind you of who you are. Boost that confidence. Whilst I'm all for self esteem, others can be wonderful for aiding a general better view of oneself. I hope it continues for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a huge fan of my body at the moment but it’s ok.

I like your body Meli.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm generally happy and comfortable with it, and have been for some time. There are occasions I feel it should be more toned or I should put more effort in, though to be fair I'm better than most of my peers.

She lusts after it which is enough for me

I'll agree with Lily. You're looking mighty fine in your new pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you are finding your confidence OP.

IMO true confidence comes from within, it is an inside job. I do my best to look as good as I can and accept I am not what I was in my youth.

A lot of people have body issues beyond the aging process and it’s hard work to feel comfortable in their own skin.

We need to feel good about ourselves and embrace our differences.

You will always be someone’s cup of tea unless you’re a complete arsehole.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’ve spent the last 2 1/2 years struggling with mobility to the point where I can’t go out without crutches. I’ve consoled myself with ice cream and I’ve never felt less confident than I do right now. Menopause is not helping one little bit. But I know it’s temporary so not giving myself too much of a hard time. I’m just not socialising anytime soon."

That's understandable Saff(ron in case you dislike the habit of shortening names!).

Don't give yourself a hard time, you've really been through it and that can definitely have a knock on effect of how we view ourselves. I hope you're on your feet again soon, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be not very confident but overtime I realised my body’s not bad and people don’t really care. Got a nice face and good dick.. also I can just go back to gym and get it to a good shape in a few months but I’m lazy!!!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I just get on with it regardless. I know some men will hate it others like it so I'll just concentrate on those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment, I hate it. Though to be fair it's been like that for a good few years now.

Nothing anyone can say or do would change that though. In fact compliments just piss me off as they don't mean them.

But I can with it.

Looking awesome by the way op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the moment, I hate it. Though to be fair it's been like that for a good few years now.

Nothing anyone can say or do would change that though. In fact compliments just piss me off as they don't mean them.

But I can with it.

Looking awesome by the way op.

U look gross (if compliments don’t help maybe an insult does)

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No one has run away screaming when I've got naked, so I take that as a good sign.

I like my boobs more, only plus to putting weight on.

Always had a nice bum.

Easy to accentuate the good parts, so yeah pretty much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the moment, I hate it. Though to be fair it's been like that for a good few years now.

Nothing anyone can say or do would change that though. In fact compliments just piss me off as they don't mean them.

But I can with it.

Looking awesome by the way op.

U look gross (if compliments don’t help maybe an insult does)"

It kinda does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the moment, I hate it. Though to be fair it's been like that for a good few years now.

Nothing anyone can say or do would change that though. In fact compliments just piss me off as they don't mean them.

But I can with it.

Looking awesome by the way op.

U look gross (if compliments don’t help maybe an insult does)

It kinda does."

I hate you

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm feeling ok about my body currently. What makes me feel better is loosing weight. I'd put a lot on due to illness and returning to my normal weight, well makes me feel more myself. Dance class always helps, as we all support each other and dressing up etc for heels class is just fun as.

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