FabSwingers.com forum: Sick to death of this.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Then set your filters to block men from messaging you

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Then set your filters to block men from messaging you"

and that's the end of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only there was a way to block certain messages, hmmm

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

You can block single males.

The ones messaged you already still can message you. So need to block them individually.

Many straight men are desperate or bi curious.

Some have an attitude like: '' Hole is a hole, mouth is a mouth in the end of the day.''

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you, straight men always messaging me too.

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By *ohnnyTwoNotesMan
over a year ago

golden fields

"Then set your filters to block men from messaging you"

Maybe he wants to be contacted by blokes, but just not straight blokes?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

“Fab straight”

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

Daily occurrence for a lot of women on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What they all said ^^

Also gay men will be attracted to gay friendly photos, eg willy or arse pics. It’s kind of like a (not even subtle) subliminal message.

I (genuinely) haven’t checked out your profile but if you’re getting lots of attention from men I’m speculating that you have such pics, as I’ve seen similar threads on here and that’s usually the case

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If you don't want the fab straight men messaging, the wording on your profile could do with a touch up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they saying suck me off do you need to read their profile to know they aren’t straight?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I just leave them on unread. It does actually seem the most effective strategy to be honest.

They sort of have a conversation with themselves and it just stops.

Honestly, if I was a woman and I was getting a lot of messages. I'd probably use it as an initial filter.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Use your filters and block men op

If you do want to chat to another bloke ,you can still message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only get asked if they can suck me off. So I clearly give off top energy.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"I just leave them on unread. It does actually seem the most effective strategy to be honest.

They sort of have a conversation with themselves and it just stops.

Honestly, if I was a woman and I was getting a lot of messages. I'd probably use it as an initial filter."

Just out of interest only, why would you do that rather than block or indeed use the filters? That seems more effective to be honest in any context not just what the OP talkex about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only get asked if they can suck me off. So I clearly give off top energy. "

Op must be giving off bottom energy

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

...not rocket science this one!

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Then set your filters to block men from messaging you"

As above I get loads of looks from men and TVs but they are blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only get asked if they can suck me off. So I clearly give off top energy.

Op must be giving off bottom energy "
definitely

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality. "

If only there was a solution to this.....

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality. "

Why aren't you blocking single men in your filters?

Think you're just being a drama queen to be honest.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I just leave them on unread. It does actually seem the most effective strategy to be honest.

They sort of have a conversation with themselves and it just stops.

Honestly, if I was a woman and I was getting a lot of messages. I'd probably use it as an initial filter.

Just out of interest only, why would you do that rather than block or indeed use the filters? That seems more effective to be honest in any context not just what the OP talkex about. "

I haven't had the volume of messages to really sit down and think about that. I leave filters open, because it doesn't really bother me and I am happy for anyone to message me. Sometimes men do for other reasons than offering to suck my cock. Had a few interesting discussions. I don't like the idea of arbitrarily blocking anyone from messaging me.

I'll reflect on it though. Thanks for provoking the thought.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Then set your filters to block men from messaging you

As above I get loads of looks from men and TVs but they are blocked "

He was talking about messages. Why would a look bother anyone that much. Do we stop individuals looking at us in the street for any reason

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's the old "saying straight while being bi" thing that's pissing him of guys.

OP, 'bisexual' means hetero and homo sexual, and people can choose how they go about that (if they even can choose much in some cases). Which I'm afraid includes calling themselves straight.

As long as the term 'bi' exists (as much as bi is used officially I don't think it's for the ages) people are just going to have to accept that not everyone is going to use it all the time. Why should they?

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"I just leave them on unread. It does actually seem the most effective strategy to be honest.

They sort of have a conversation with themselves and it just stops.

Honestly, if I was a woman and I was getting a lot of messages. I'd probably use it as an initial filter.

Just out of interest only, why would you do that rather than block or indeed use the filters? That seems more effective to be honest in any context not just what the OP talkex about.

I'll reflect on it though. Thanks for provoking the thought."

I think if it is not a big issue for you, as you say people message re lots of other staff. I chat with a few very much straight guys on here just like I would in real life with absolutely no underlying tones at all. I would hope I am not unique at that.

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality. "

Yeah it's a fairly common thing. Should see the amount of straight guys on grindr. But it's also apparently a fetish so *shrug*

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Bisexual IS heterosexual!

Would people have a problem if they said they were gay?

It really is just like the mixed race people being seen as ok to call themselves black but not white thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality.

Why aren't you blocking single men in your filters?

Think you're just being a drama queen to be honest. "

'I do not want no drama.

No, no, no, drama' PMSL.

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I only get asked if they can suck me off. So I clearly give off top energy. "

I used to get both, but mostly offering BJ for nothing. My profile was set to straight those times.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality.

Why aren't you blocking single men in your filters?

Think you're just being a drama queen to be honest.

'I do not want no drama.

No, no, no, drama' PMSL.

Now I've looked at your profile dude you really should use a filter if this upsets you so much! It's clearly what they are there for.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Sorry OP this is a classic look at me thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear you, straight men always messaging me too."

And me too! What's all that about?

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"Sorry OP this is a classic look at me thread."

Precisely

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"I hear you, straight men always messaging me too.

And me too! What's all that about?

That's really shocking isn't it!

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

People spam all kinds of things on Fab, so you've got to use your filters if that totally cheeses you off.

You can always toggle your filter if you still want it for the forum etc, just like you can your profile being viewed (and your age restriction etc).

Fab isn't totally sex on a plate, it does need a bit of work too!

And if its a money thing (I can't remember) it's barely a few quid a month.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry OP this is a classic look at me thread."

It is working anyway, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh how I love those messages.. Not I am a woman and get those all the time. Block button is great Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men messaging me to say, for example.

'suck me off' or, 'do you fancy giving me a blow job'

And when you read their profile. Their profile states that they are 'straight' on their profile.

Obviously 'NOT' straight in reality. "

If you don't want to block these pesky straight men (for whatever reason...), you can just ignore the messages. You don't have to read them, you don't have to reply, you don't have to worry about them.

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By *inky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I just checked out your profile.

To be fair it looks either homophobe or really forced highlighting you're straight as an arrow. You mentioned it like 3 times.

Some might just be trying to piss you off on purpose.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Sorry OP this is a classic look at me thread."

Glad you said it. I must drop the tact

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Sorry OP this is a classic look at me thread.

It is working anyway, lol.

I'm sure it will, but you know it'll largely be men right? (despite who posts on the forum!).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just checked out your profile.

To be fair it looks either homophobe or really forced highlighting you're straight as an arrow. You mentioned it like 3 times.

Some might just be trying to piss you off on purpose. "

Alot of illiterate people on (Fab...).

Especially the 1's who can not read.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

"I just checked out your profile.

To be fair it looks either homophobe or really forced highlighting you're straight as an arrow. You mentioned it like 3 times.

Some might just be trying to piss you off on purpose.

Alot of illiterate people on (Fab...).

Especially the 1's who can not read."

Who cares

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Filters?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I just leave them on unread. It does actually seem the most effective strategy to be honest.

They sort of have a conversation with themselves and it just stops.

Honestly, if I was a woman and I was getting a lot of messages. I'd probably use it as an initial filter.

Just out of interest only, why would you do that rather than block or indeed use the filters? That seems more effective to be honest in any context not just what the OP talkex about.

I'll reflect on it though. Thanks for provoking the thought.

I don't think you are unique in that regard, which I mean in the most positive way. It's all in approach with me, if someone talks to me as you are: respectful challenge, openly expressing your thoughts and feelings - I'll be up for talking.

I think were I am reflecting is, I perhaps leave it open, as I am not automatically offended by someone objectifying me. I'm not by women, so it would be a dual standard just because of my heterosexuality. But the same applies, they'll need to drop that and engage with me as a human first.

Now I am also wondering if that's an aspect of male privilege that I don't need to be concerned about it. Or just that I'm not all that pretty

and I don't get so much attention for it to have a cumulative impact. Perhaps it's both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the question has got to be asked OP…..Are you going to block single men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the question has got to be asked OP…..Are you going to block single men?"

Of course not, that solution is far too sensible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the question has got to be asked OP…..Are you going to block single men?"

Don’t be ridiculous, that would solve the problem

The world must bend to his needs, not the other way around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight man gets objectified. Doesn’t like it.

News.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"I just leave them on unread. It does actually seem the most effective strategy to be honest.

They sort of have a conversation with themselves and it just stops.

Honestly, if I was a woman and I was getting a lot of messages. I'd probably use it as an initial filter.

Just out of interest only, why would you do that rather than block or indeed use the filters? That seems more effective to be honest in any context not just what the OP talkex about.

I'll reflect on it though. Thanks for provoking the thought.

Now I am also wondering if that's an aspect of male privilege that I don't need to be concerned about it. Or just that I'm not all that pretty

and I don't get so much attention for it to have a cumulative impact. Perhaps it's both. "

I will not comment on the prettiness aspect

as have not looked on profile but you are right. It is all about how people behave and respect others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fuck it op take the bj it’s only gay if you the one sucking

Look at it this way you have a different person suck your dick 7 days off the week for the next 5-6 years

Ok not serious jokes jokes jokes

If it bothers you that much op use filters and block all men from messaging you

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