FabSwingers.com forum: Do you think men and women get jealous

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Of other men and women?

I have heard people say that about men a lot. They’re probably jealous of some other guy which is why they hate on them. And I’ve heard the same about women that hate on other women.

What do you think? Do you really believe that? I’m not sure I do

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sadly Steve, I see it , I believe it.

Hate is born of fear and harms the hater. I just wish they'd work out what they are scared of and stop hating.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

If someone is insecure in their relationship and not satisfied wholly. I think its natural for people to look elsewhere for points of comparison... instead of using what they see to better things with their own relationship, they instead focus on what they have or don't have. This is where I feel jealousy lies.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

'satisfied wholly' ...... snort

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Do you mean on here...like if someone disagrees with someone else then they hate them because they're actually jealous of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This world has no place for jealousy if you are the jealous type then this world isn’t for you

You just pose a danger to others

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I see no point in jealousy x

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Jealousy is often the result of insecurity, be that within a relationship or within the individual. And one thing we have been excellent at doing in our in thoroughly modern society is shattering everything that makes people feel secure. To be honest, I think people who aren’t jealous are the exception, not the rule. Even on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've experienced men that can't be nice about other men I have any involvement with, whether that's platonic friends or more.

They do them down, find things to pick on, say they wouldn't do what they do, adopt pet names for them. It bloody awful.

Can't speak for women I just know that some find me fucking annoying, eye roll when my name is mentioned etc.

But I think the guys wind them up in the first place and play women off against each other to quell their need for a jealousy hit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you mean on here...like if someone disagrees with someone else then they hate them because they're actually jealous of them?"

I think it’s more than disagreements I’m thinking. I don’t know that what you’re describing actually happens in real life. Maybe only in films.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've experienced men that can't be nice about other men I have any involvement with, whether that's platonic friends or more.

They do them down, find things to pick on, say they wouldn't do what they do, adopt pet names for them. It bloody awful.

Can't speak for women I just know that some find me fucking annoying, eye roll when my name is mentioned etc.

But I think the guys wind them up in the first place and play women off against each other to quell their need for a jealousy hit."

Eurgh guys do this. The amount that I talk to that would say oh "xyz has just messaged me" knobs.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I'm certain of it. It may be that some people experience more jealousy than others.

My personal view is that if you deny the possibility of experiencing a feeling, you are more predisposed to it influencing your behaviours without realising it.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

I know for sure I can experience jealousy about other women. It is rare for me but I do. In reality the thing I experience jealousy about is almost never the actual thing/person that is the problem and I just need to delve into the feeling a bit deeper.

I have experienced it deeply twice in in the last 6 months the most recent just last night. On both occasions it was absolutely related to poor communication leading to a lack of clarity. So then I can deal with the actual issue and the jealousy disapates.

If others experience jealousy in relation to me but won't talk about it then that is a line in the sand for me.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

I think it's normal to be jealous of others.

It's how you control it that matters.

One women I care about, maybe too much but chose to break contact with as she was always on a downwood spiral.

It started getting me down, I don't get jealous now of other guys seeing her, just wish they treated her better

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"But I think the guys wind them up in the first place and play women off against each other to quell their need for a jealousy hit."

Yes they do. I repeatedly told an ex that me having a disagreement was nothing to do with him. He repeatedly said otherwise. Tried to make it a thing when it wasn't a thing. I don't know why. It's really daft and sad behaviour.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

When I was younger, I used to get a lot of hate that I didn't really understand. Some of those people reached out years later and apologised for it and blaming jealousy.

I think it was a lot more of a thing when I was younger, both because I'm less of a threat as I hurtle towards 40 and because the people around me are older and more mature now. It probably still happens, but it's been water off a duck's back for decades now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we are swinging whether it be on a private meet or at a club I never feel jealousy over anyone.

I love the feeling of everyone having a hedonistic time.

In everyday life I never hate on anyone, however if a woman was paying my partner a little bit too much attention I might feel a bit miffed.

Strange how different the two situations are!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sure they do but not everyone will, it's weird for those whom do but normal for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure it happens but it's not something I choose toindulge in

I concentrate on what I have and the people who are important to me.

Although I do know someone with a venator customs paddle ....and yes...I'm jealous

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