FabSwingers.com forum: Profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

be honest....Do you read them?

I know from the messages and photos we get then probably 80% never read our profile.

I have to admit that no profile, a one liner or a profile that is too long tends to get ignored.

What about you?

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We read a profile providing it’s not a book.

Your profile is interesting

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By *ndtheswingersMan
over a year ago

colchester

If I sent you a message saying "hi, you OK" and a picture of my cock, I'd be blocked (see, I read!)

As a single bloke, I have to give myself the best chance and not waste either of our time if we are not what each other wants.

Takes 2 minutes to read a profile x

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"be honest....Do you read them?

I know from the messages and photos we get then probably 80% never read our profile.

I have to admit that no profile, a one liner or a profile that is too long tends to get ignored.

What about you?"

I read them. But have to admit I tend to ignore the blanks, the shorts, the longs and the weirdly specific and demanding ones.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

London or Bedford

Yeah, I read them.

I pride myself on my well-crafted ice-breakers.

Also I know the way I look isn’t for everyone, so I gotta know that I’m not wasting anyone’s time

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes I always read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I read them it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read them and the verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"be honest....Do you read them?

I know from the messages and photos we get then probably 80% never read our profile.

I have to admit that no profile, a one liner or a profile that is too long tends to get ignored.

What about you?

I read them. But have to admit I tend to ignore the blanks, the shorts, the longs and the weirdly specific and demanding ones. "

As above

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I read them unless it's a wall of text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them as long as its worth getting to the end. If I see something I don't like half way through I won't carry on. Or if it's 5000 words long I don't bother as I already know they are demanding.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

I never read profiles I just scroll to the bottom of the page to find the secret word they've put on to make sure you've read it ...

.word of advice hide the secret word in the middle of the profile..

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By *ittleshit-SteveMan
over a year ago

Devon

I read them if they are well layed especially if they include subtitles! As personally I struggle to read a solid block of text

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send messages so I don't really need to read profiles and rarely do.

If someone sends me a message I will read their profile to see if we have anything in common before deciding how to respond.

My profile text hasn't changed in a few years simply because I had to write it that way to make sure that others read it before getting in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible for reading them, I can be messaging someone for a few weeks before I finally get round to it.

From the messages I ger I'd say most read mine, I think as a female if you have naked pics men get distracted and don't read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profiles I always have. I know some may not see the point but there is a point. I can tailor my message and also get an idea if I am what they are seeking and vice versa. I think it is a shame that many people do not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"be honest....Do you read them?

I know from the messages and photos we get then probably 80% never read our profile.

I have to admit that no profile, a one liner or a profile that is too long tends to get ignored.

What about you?"

Yep, I'll usually read a profile. Unless Its Stupidly Long Or Every Word Is Capitalised And Theres No Punctuation.

That was actually really hard to type like that!

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Always read them . If i message I personalise a message to the bio

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I read a profile fully before I even open a message from someone new. If it’s not what I’m looking for, the message gets deleted (or occasionally a sarcastic response if I’m in a mood, which I’m not proud of).

If someone can’t even be bothered to right a handful of considered sentences and take a couple of up to date pictures for the opportunity to get sex, our effort and energy levels aren’t a match.

It’s a pretty good filter x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use all information contained in someone’s profile to determine if we’d be a match. Text, photos, verifications if available (they show me the type of people met previously).

Why wouldn’t I give myself the best opportunity at positive outcomes?

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We like when the profile has more than two lines and we read them before reach out.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We definitely read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profile and generally have a quick look at them. I just want to out any weird ones or ones I don't see any common ground.

But I know many don't even look at mine except the photos and I know off the bat they haven't as they do exactly as I've asked not to in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never read profiles I just scroll to the bottom of the page to find the secret word they've put on to make sure you've read it ...

.word of advice hide the secret word in the middle of the profile..

I do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the pictures first and if I like them I’ll read the profile, if it’s not paragraph after paragraph.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I read em. Got to see if i fit what they want

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By *cott73Man
over a year ago

brighton

"I read them as long as its worth getting to the end. If I see something I don't like half way through I won't carry on. Or if it's 5000 words long I don't bother as I already know they are demanding."

This. The moment it starts sounding like a job application, I'm out.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

As a Tgirl definitely read profiles and ensured mine was worth reading also. However the majority of winks or messages I received generally had profiles with one or two lines.

Those guys (yes mainly men and a few couples) just didn’t think it was worthwhile creating something interesting to read or look at (pictures generally their knob).

It’s a shame as some of my best meets on here, were with those who’s profiles captured my attention right away.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I do read profiles.

I find them interesting reading sometimes. Not often though.

Some profiles can be very well crafted, but then they seem incapable of crafting interesting messages or conversations. I guess chat GPT can only go so far.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m an avid reader and I like to read profiles, some tell the whole story, whereas some don’t.

I read them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read em. Got to see if i fit what they want

Whaaaaat? A man who understands it's not just about what *he* wants to fuck?!

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"be honest....Do you read them?

I know from the messages and photos we get then probably 80% never read our profile.

I have to admit that no profile, a one liner or a profile that is too long tends to get ignored.

What about you?"
yes always can't read yours anyway

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I can read a bio so just look for buzz words at a glance. If there I may read fully

Otherwise I can grasp the gist from the quick scan

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yes I read them. They tend to be a good gauge of a person's personality, but especially keeping an eye out for those "requirements" they may have and smoking status which would stop me messaging in the first place.

LvM

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Ah I'll be honest, usually it's a skim reading job. Even then, that's only for people I haven't already interacted with in some way.

None of my messages are FAF right now. It's usually more you seem awesome and good chat + those pics are really hot so if you wanna say hey, please do. Usually works for everyone bar single women to be fair.

They can just be SO LONG and we really get distracted by visuals...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I like to see if they have a "legal" warning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m new so I try and read every profile of anyone i may have an interest in. I’m a conversationalist so it gives a good starting point (mostly). I need to do some work on my own as I find my feet a little more.

What does everyone feel is more important, the text or the pictures?

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I always read the profile, if I see something I like or they are looking for then I will message

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

I always read a profile as I want to get a sense of how they view theirself and rarely get in to conversation with people who who don't have at least a few lines about theirself (not just thier wants) unless I have met them at a social or interacted with them on the forum.

I don't actually expect someone to read my full essay before messaging but if they haven't at least skimmed a little of it then it is usually pretty evident.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I read em. Got to see if i fit what they want

Whaaaaat? A man who understands it's not just about what *he* wants to fuck?!

I have a little style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read a profile as I want to get a sense of how they view theirself and rarely get in to conversation with people who who don't have at least a few lines about theirself (not just thier wants) unless I have met them at a social or interacted with them on the forum.

I don't actually expect someone to read my full essay before messaging but if they haven't at least skimmed a little of it then it is usually pretty evident."

What is a sunk cost fallacy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read em. Got to see if i fit what they want

Whaaaaat? A man who understands it's not just about what *he* wants to fuck?!

You mean a man that understands that women read the forums and knows what to post.

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By *ndtheswingersMan
over a year ago

colchester

"What is a sunk cost fallacy?"

A bit like being pot committed to a poker player x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"be honest....Do you read them?

I know from the messages and photos we get then probably 80% never read our profile.

I have to admit that no profile, a one liner or a profile that is too long tends to get ignored.

What about you?"

Yes, I do read profiles. Without reading I cannot guage anything op

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Read a profile earlier that said the woman could also conversate intellectually.

Got my synapses sparking I must say.

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We do yes, but agree we think 80% of our messages are from people who haven't look at ours at all x

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

What is a sunk cost fallacy?"

Where you keep putting time or effort or money into something mainly because you have already put time, money or effort into it not because you actually still want it or believe in it.

Like reading my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profiles but I don't think many people read mine. Some say they do but the things they come out and say, I know they've either not read it or not taken a blind bit of notice.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I do read profiles. When I was meeting I'd read the text first and would only DM if I fit what person was looking for.

The odd profile would have way too much text that I couldn't be bothered with it all. Those profiles wouldn't interest me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I read them. Not all of them. Sometimes I get bored. Then I know they aren't for me

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If we are browsing fab then no we just look at the photos but if we are actually looking to meet another couple then yes we read the profile fully to make sure we are all looking for the same thing.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It depends if I like the photos then yeah I'll read the profile, if I don't I won't.

Mrs

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I like it when there’s more than a line or two and do read them. If it’s more than one phone screen worth of scrolling I might scan a bit. But I’d rather see a longer profile than …

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I always read them before replying as no point otherwise. If it says meet 18-99 or usuals one liners I know they aren’t for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a sunk cost fallacy?

Where you keep putting time or effort or money into something mainly because you have already put time, money or effort into it not because you actually still want it or believe in it.

Like reading my profile

Aha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very long profile but I think it says more about me than all the pics. If someone is prepared to spare a few minutes bothering to read it then it bodes well.

Likewise I like to read others profiles.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep always read them ,so I know if they're someone I'd be interested in.

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
over a year ago

carluke

Always read them, and always read before looking at any pictures!

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

Always read them saves wasting time if I was to message anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them all the time.

I won't necessarily follow the rules though (stand on one leg, pat your head while stroking your cock, and put "I'm an idiot" in the subject heading of your message to know you've read my profile.) Fair game if I get blocked I figure.

I also read veris. And check the profiles of veris. Gives me a better picture of who this is and whether I should say something or whether the pictures and descriptors are as sexy as I thought.

Rarely get a response and that's ok. I know how inundated most are. Most interactions I have are because of chat/forums where people get to know a more rounded me.

Some profiles are a work of art and I think I'll update mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read them all the time.

I also read veris. And check the profiles of veris. Gives me a better picture of who this is and whether I should say something or whether the pictures and descriptors are as sexy as I thought.

Rarely get a response and that's ok. I know how inundated most are. Most interactions I have are because of chat/forums where people get to know a more rounded me.

Some profiles are a work of art and I think I'll update mine."

Thanks for the tip. Added.

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

"We read them and the verifications "

I do this, I also read other women's profiles as some of them are hilarious

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

I always read the profile or at least attempt to - but some of them are so long that you can't pick out the pertinant bits!

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I always read profiles but i know from the messages I get that others don't. The bios can offer good ways of starting a conversation with someone .

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Profiles are there to stop you wasting your time messaging someone who is not looking for the same as you.

You save your time and theirs if you read them first.

My profile is a little long but mainly just basic bullet points of what I want and what I don't.

It's an easy read but I get messages everyday from people asking for stuff my profile clearly states I'm not into.

Then they tell me I'm rude for not replying. Why would I reply when the message sender can't spend 2 minutes reading my profile and respecting my wishes?

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Profiles are there to stop you wasting your time messaging someone who is not looking for the same as you.

You save your time and theirs if you read them first.

My profile is a little long but mainly just basic bullet points of what I want and what I don't.

It's an easy read but I get messages everyday from people asking for stuff my profile clearly states I'm not into.

Then they tell me I'm rude for not replying. Why would I reply when the message sender can't spend 2 minutes reading my profile and respecting my wishes?"

It's a long profile but the way you've laid it out makes it easy to spot the necessary information to decide whether or not to send a message. Some profiles are just a single huge block of text.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

My literature ambitions are limited to postcards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the tip. Added.

I took a peek, do let me know how many idiots read it to the end

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Profiles are there to stop you wasting your time messaging someone who is not looking for the same as you.

You save your time and theirs if you read them first.

My profile is a little long but mainly just basic bullet points of what I want and what I don't.

It's an easy read but I get messages everyday from people asking for stuff my profile clearly states I'm not into.

Then they tell me I'm rude for not replying. Why would I reply when the message sender can't spend 2 minutes reading my profile and respecting my wishes?

It's a long profile but the way you've laid it out makes it easy to spot the necessary information to decide whether or not to send a message. Some profiles are just a single huge block of text."

I did try to make it easy but still get messages daily from people who have clearly not bothered.

Right at the top it says I don't do phone sex or cams yet I get requests for both on a regular basis. They then get rude and abusive when I don't reply to their requests. This is why my blocked list is so long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the tip. Added.

I took a peek, do let me know how many idiots read it to the end

So far, all of them. No messages!

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

People read them, or read them enough I find. And will come back to it later too.

Chancers typically don't, but so what? Chancers are a large part of this site so it's just the way it is on that front.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"be honest....Do you read them?"

Yes. It's usually a make or break moment.

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By *emma200Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Absolutley… cuts out a lot of wasted time … and it’s polite too x

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Yes, I always read them when they land in my inbox. The exception being if she's sent an insipid monosyllabic introduction. Then I discard it or look at the profile a week later if I have nothing better to do.

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Only reqd them if I like the pictures and want to find more out qbout them.

The ones whos states says plz read profile first tho. i never do as I'm a rebel and dont like being told what to do

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I always read the ones I write to and try to craft an appropriate, interesting and relevant reply. I then usually ask if they will delete my initial message if they have no interest in chatting.

Quite often, my message is read. It is clear from reading it that I read their profile, but they cannot even be bothered to delete the message if not interested.

So, as an adjunct to the "read my profile you ignorant fuckers" please add delete if no interest.

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