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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just message them all again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up and close your fab account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your preference is.....female?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Messaged all the females in London?

Dude how much time do you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try Scotland or Yorkshire. Everyone is gagging for it there.

F

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By *irk_Dastardly.Man
over a year ago

Marlborough

Message again, this time with a dick pic. Can’t fail.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

..maybe you sound a little desperate in your messages...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all else fails, try that bird from the tempting twosome. Heard she’s well game.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Give up and close your fab account."

Yeah looking that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So your preference is.....female?"

Yes.

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By *odders88Man
over a year ago

Northampton

And I thought I was shit at this!!! Keep going dude, you won’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket…

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By *inky MelissaTV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Is a message a "hi howz u? , hot pics!" Or other short message? Or is it minimum a paragraph and referring to something specific in their profile, not just copy paste?

If it's the former, consider the latter. If its the latter, consider rewriting your profile and doing photos that might be conversation starters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Messaged all the females in London?

Dude how much time do you have? "

Dude I'vebeen on his site for a few months, and ignoring the profiles where I'm clearly not what they are looking for,then yes. I find more profile where I've already messaged then where I haven't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound like you’ve completed Fab mate, pick a new site and try and complete it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just message them all again."

And again. And .........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And I thought I was shit at this!!! Keep going dude, you won’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket…"

Lol true. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take....and sometimes you still miss 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So your preference is.....female?

Yes. "

We all have our preferences

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Wait for new people joining maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is a message a "hi howz u? , hot pics!" Or other short message? Or is it minimum a paragraph and referring to something specific in their profile, not just copy paste?

If it's the former, consider the latter. If its the latter, consider rewriting your profile and doing photos that might be conversation starters. "

It's normally a short para. Couple of lines about me, comments on their pics and what I'm looking for.

Your second suggestion is a good idea. Care to provide some pointers on my profile.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Is a message a "hi howz u? , hot pics!" Or other short message? Or is it minimum a paragraph and referring to something specific in their profile, not just copy paste?

If it's the former, consider the latter. If its the latter, consider rewriting your profile and doing photos that might be conversation starters. "

This one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months and you are complaining already?

It could be, I don't know, but you like groping?? That's maybe why your not having much luck?

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By *odders88Man
over a year ago

Northampton


"And I thought I was shit at this!!! Keep going dude, you won’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket…

Lol true. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take....and sometimes you still miss 100% "

Bang on mate…keep on trucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make you radius bigger and try that.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

So all the females in your area match what your looking for?

Any holes a goal right.

Mrs

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Broaden your age range maybe?

Just a suggestion.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"And I thought I was shit at this!!! Keep going dude, you won’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket…"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So your preference is.....female?

Yes.

We all have our preferences"

Lol sorry I misunderstood. But yeah it's pretty generic. 25-45, slim to curvy, white or asain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"3 months and you are complaining already?

It could be, I don't know, but you like groping?? That's maybe why your not having much luck?

"

Alright, point taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve avoided receiving the same message every other woman in London has received from you.

Winning!

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

Just attend a club or two and enjoy meeting people outside of the Fab online space (just a suggestion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 months and you are complaining already?

It could be, I don't know, but you like groping?? That's maybe why your not having much luck?

Alright, point taken"

Thank you for removing. I wish you good luck x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Perhaps change how you market yourself. New pics and profile text may elicit different results. If you're not blocked, then they've not closed the door at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!"

All the women? Including the ones you don't find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!

All the women? Including the ones you don't find attractive?"

Lol to clarify only the ones I find attractive and who have profiles and verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve messaged every woman in London then I'm guessing you’ve done a copy and paste job and blasted out tons of generic messages.

That’ll never work with anyone. Just take your time, be authentic. Chill. Don’t rush things and don’t care too much.

My advice would be to take some time out and focus on other things. Fab isn’t that important. Then when you feel ready, come back. Message just a couple of people until you find what works, and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give up and close your fab account."
I’m thinking of this .

OP, I’m where you are. Chances of meeting anyone in your local area feel extremely slim on this site.

I’m just here for the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve messaged every woman in London then I'm guessing you’ve done a copy and paste job and blasted out tons of generic messages.

That’ll never work with anyone. Just take your time, be authentic. Chill. Don’t rush things and don’t care too much.

My advice would be to take some time out and focus on other things. Fab isn’t that important. Then when you feel ready, come back. Message just a couple of people until you find what works, and take it from there. "

Or that based on filters he can’t message everyone so he’s messaged everyone that he can that he’s interested in. Which isn’t that far fetched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give up and close your fab account. I’m thinking of this .

OP, I’m where you are. Chances of meeting anyone in your local area feel extremely slim on this site.

I’m just here for the forums. "

I'm just here for those socks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!"

I find I get about 100x the success from the usual apps than on here. Took me like a year to get my first fab meet but I get 1-3 from apps every month.

Find what works. Ditch what doesn’t. Don’t keep trying on something that isn’t suited for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve avoided receiving the same message every other woman in London has received from you.

Winning! "


"I’ve avoided receiving the same message every other woman in London has received from you.

Winning! "

Ooh let me copy and past you!...joking.

Ok, maybe I've slight exaggerated how many times I'm seeing the same profiles again. But it is a lot. However from messages here, clearly I need to be less specific. Although I'm not copy and pasting. I usually write a short para and mention a line or two specific to the profie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!

I find I get about 100x the success from the usual apps than on here. Took me like a year to get my first fab meet but I get 1-3 from apps every month.

Find what works. Ditch what doesn’t. Don’t keep trying on something that isn’t suited for you "

I also find other apps a bit better but only because men on those apps tend to be more respectful whereas most of the men (who message me)(and in my experience) -before anyone jumps on me, I find 99% of them on here so disrespectful and/or think that you're in the wrong place because you don't want to be spoken to like a hole that just happens to have a body attached

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By *eductive_chaosWoman
over a year ago

Northumberland


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!"

You'll just have to relocate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!

I find I get about 100x the success from the usual apps than on here. Took me like a year to get my first fab meet but I get 1-3 from apps every month.

Find what works. Ditch what doesn’t. Don’t keep trying on something that isn’t suited for you

I also find other apps a bit better but only because men on those apps tend to be more respectful whereas most of the men (who message me)(and in my experience) -before anyone jumps on me, I find 99% of them on here so disrespectful and/or think that you're in the wrong place because you don't want to be spoken to like a hole that just happens to have a body attached "

That’s because the app’s ban by device now. Id your nasty and get banned your banned until you get a new phone

Tends to keep people in check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve messaged every woman in London then I'm guessing you’ve done a copy and paste job and blasted out tons of generic messages.

That’ll never work with anyone. Just take your time, be authentic. Chill. Don’t rush things and don’t care too much.

My advice would be to take some time out and focus on other things. Fab isn’t that important. Then when you feel ready, come back. Message just a couple of people until you find what works, and take it from there.

Or that based on filters he can’t message everyone so he’s messaged everyone that he can that he’s interested in. Which isn’t that far fetched."

That would still be thousands of people, which is pretty ridiculous within 3 months (the age of his profile)

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Bookmarking this for the comedy and slapstick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've won Fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember Robert the Bruce and the spider doors. Other folklore are available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a cock pic with a toilet in the background. That is bound to get them all replying. They love it. Lol

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Have a game of Battleships.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Twiddle my thumbs or suduko

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Send a cock pic with a toilet in the background. That is bound to get them all replying. They love it. Lol"

Only if they see a woman's dressing gown on the door lol

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Ever think maybe some things you should keep to yourself?

Before committing your post to the forum, did you not read through it and think how it might come across to others?

Have you perhaps considered how your post might make you look to others?

Desperate?

Not fussy?

Will shag anything?

Probably found yourself added to a few block lists with that one

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Fab? Completed it mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messaged all the females in London?

Dude how much time do you have?

Dude I'vebeen on his site for a few months, and ignoring the profiles where I'm clearly not what they are looking for,then yes. I find more profile where I've already messaged then where I haven't "

You're doing better than most men as you actually do read profiles.

If there's no-one else you fancy/ you're in their range then there's not much else to do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind op its how it is on here..

Are you saying those you do not message not attractive.. Looks are not everything.

Slim to curvy... Not me..

Am out

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Quit moaning about getting replies get out there and mingle my friend go to clubs and the organised socials make those connections first then maybe you'll find what you seek it's ultimately upto you on how you proceed you can quit give up and leave or you can preserver and carry on trying knowing that those few times you do meet are worth it all

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham


"Quit moaning about getting replies get out there and mingle my friend go to clubs and the organised socials make those connections first then maybe you'll find what you seek it's ultimately upto you on how you proceed you can quit give up and leave or you can preserver and carry on trying knowing that those few times you do meet are worth it all "

On second thought and after following the green arrow hmmm I retract my advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you looking for? If it's just hookups Fab is the least likely place you'll find them. T....r for example is way better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is a message a "hi howz u? , hot pics!" Or other short message? Or is it minimum a paragraph and referring to something specific in their profile, not just copy paste?

If it's the former, consider the latter. If its the latter, consider rewriting your profile and doing photos that might be conversation starters.

It's normally a short para. Couple of lines about me, comments on their pics and what I'm looking for.

Your second suggestion is a good idea. Care to provide some pointers on my profile. "

Do you tell them that you're married?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just attend a club or two and enjoy meeting people outside of the Fab online space (just a suggestion) "

Good idea. Iv never been to one, perhaps I'd look into it or find someone i can go with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps change how you market yourself. New pics and profile text may elicit different results. If you're not blocked, then they've not closed the door at all. "

Thanks. I'll do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm rapidly getting to the point where iv messaged almost all the female profiles in my area and I haven't gotten any replies back!

And my area is London so that's saying something!

Almost every profile I click now say "I messaged them X month/days ago". I very rarely message twice if no reply so I guess I'd be done with this site pretty soon.! Hahah

What's my next option. Start looking in the next closest city. I think I'll cover the entire country by the end of the year!

I find I get about 100x the success from the usual apps than on here. Took me like a year to get my first fab meet but I get 1-3 from apps every month.

Find what works. Ditch what doesn’t. Don’t keep trying on something that isn’t suited for you

I also find other apps a bit better but only because men on those apps tend to be more respectful whereas most of the men (who message me)(and in my experience) -before anyone jumps on me, I find 99% of them on here so disrespectful and/or think that you're in the wrong place because you don't want to be spoken to like a hole that just happens to have a body attached "

Hi do you have any suggestions for other apps or sites you can share? Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve messaged every woman in London then I'm guessing you’ve done a copy and paste job and blasted out tons of generic messages.

That’ll never work with anyone. Just take your time, be authentic. Chill. Don’t rush things and don’t care too much.

My advice would be to take some time out and focus on other things. Fab isn’t that important. Then when you feel ready, come back. Message just a couple of people until you find what works, and take it from there.

Or that based on filters he can’t message everyone so he’s messaged everyone that he can that he’s interested in. Which isn’t that far fetched.

That would still be thousands of people, which is pretty ridiculous within 3 months (the age of his profile)"

Ok I may have exaggerated a little (probably a lot). But I do see a lot of the same profiles, at least the ones I'm interested in. But listening to the advice here, there are a number of things I can do differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever think maybe some things you should keep to yourself?

Before committing your post to the forum, did you not read through it and think how it might come across to others?

Have you perhaps considered how your post might make you look to others?

Desperate?

Not fussy?

Will shag anything?

Probably found yourself added to a few block lists with that one"

Yes exactly this. You sound like a guy who is just desperate to have sex and any ‘female’ will do. And is surprised no one is interested.

Your profile isn’t the worst but you could do with a few more pics. So it must be the messages you send. I can tell if someone really finds me attractive or just want to hook up with anyone - and the latter is very off putting.

Remember ‘females’ are actually real people who have interests, desires, feelings etc. They are on Fab because of their own interests, not just to please men.

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By *man1Man
over a year ago

wigan

So it's not just me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Owwww. The opp has left fab. Anougher time waster has left the building. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And just like that he’s gone.

No doubt to return with a new profile and nothing for the green arrow to reveal

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

...bye

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