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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’m flighty.

But I forgive quickly too. Hot and cold.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

One unfortunate picture? There's me fucked then lol pt

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Like the flick of a switch. Instant ick and I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m flighty.

But I forgive quickly too. Hot and cold."

I'm fickle

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

These days it takes very little to put me off of someone, regardless of the how much I like them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like the flick of a switch. Instant ick and I'm done."

Same. And once I'm done I'm done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what part of my menstrual cycle I'm in.

F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I find out they're a closet Tory or Brexiteer. Ewwwww

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Not consciously but maybe unconsciously. I can usually get brought back around though if they do something hot for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One moment can completely ick me out. Recently I was completely icked out by someone I’ve liked for ages.

I am sure my comments put people off too. It’s just life.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I don't get the ick very easily but I am put off by things like unreliability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a timesaver I start with fuck off then shuffle backwards a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what part of my menstrual cycle I'm in.

F"

Also, I do purposely post certain pictures or random status' to jog people's icks. Weeds out people now and then

F

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Very quickly x

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

"

You do realise that this not real life and no one on here really cares. This post put me off you so I have blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what part of my menstrual cycle I'm in.

F

Also, I do purposely post certain pictures or random status' to jog people's icks. Weeds out people now and then

F"

Yeah them lipstick pics are testing my attraction to you

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

In the blink of an eye in some cases

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what part of my menstrual cycle I'm in.

F

Also, I do purposely post certain pictures or random status' to jog people's icks. Weeds out people now and then

F

Yeah them lipstick pics are testing my attraction to you"

I'm going to do bright green tomorrow.

F

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Very

Fucking

Quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what part of my menstrual cycle I'm in.

F

Also, I do purposely post certain pictures or random status' to jog people's icks. Weeds out people now and then

F

Yeah them lipstick pics are testing my attraction to you

I'm going to do bright green tomorrow.

F"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally if I like them then I'm far more tolerant of the things I may not agree with. It's all about balance and if they're amazing traits outweigh the things I don't agree with, then I find it easy to look past

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

If I like someone then I'd stick around. I take everything with a pinch of salt on here. Words can be misunderstood or tongue in cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

"

Really quickly

Scarily so sometimes

I can be obsessed with someone and one small thing and I'll be put off them for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes very quickly and sometimes not quickly enough. It's frustrating when they go off me first

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

With a casual partner, then it could be instant, if they introduce something that's massive and a major turn off

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Fine! I can take a hint

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I can be turned off someone pretty easily on here.

That's why I chat for a good while first ,if they're pretending the real side of them will usually come out lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not consciously but maybe unconsciously. I can usually get brought back around though if they do something hot for me "

I'm not doing that

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Very

Fucking

Quickly.

"

Soz. I really thought you'd like those pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"Not consciously but maybe unconsciously. I can usually get brought back around though if they do something hot for me

I'm not doing that"

But you already do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

You do realise that this not real life and no one on here really cares. This post put me off you so I have blocked you. "

Is this just real life?

Is this just fantasy?

Easy come

Easy go

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

It REALLY doesn't take much, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past it's been the opposite for me. Most of my best friends are people I couldn't stand when I first met them. Then I had a moment of "you're not the cunt I thought you were"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying. "

Oh I get this. They seem normal, they're hot and boom. They go and say it.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying. "

I know right? I was so into you until you talked about white chocolate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying. "

Just doing some mental gymnastics to make sure I never say the wrong thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fine! I can take a hint "

Bring me Coco pops and I'll forgive you

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Quite quickly, I’m afraid.

I was a bit worried but looks like I’m not in a minority here.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying. "

It was the hot dog thing wasn't it?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Depends on how capricious they are. I can often blow hot and cold if they're going to be tepid and lukewarm with me.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

The key to me is *how* you go off people. You might lose attraction (we all do it), but do you also then lose respect for everything they say or do?

In real life I think that is a characteristic a lot of people are quite wary of, because it lacks a certain integrity. Like the ended relationship where someone immediately blocks the phone (post relationship ghosting?) and throws out the unwanted clothes - all after a pretty-mundane parting of ways in the name of 'looking forward'.

Or perhaps that person at work who really 'doesn't suffer fools'? They seem to me to rarely get to see other people for who they really are, because people so often tend to put some form of mask on with them.

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually other way round for me, I start off disliking everyone until they change my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying.

Oh I get this. They seem normal, they're hot and boom. They go and say it.

"

Yep! There’s no coming back from it either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually other way round for me, I start off disliking everyone until they change my mind "

Oh I've done this once or twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

You do realise that this not real life and no one on here really cares. This post put me off you so I have blocked you. "

Lol?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The key to me is *how* you go off people. You might lose attraction (we all do it), but do you also then lose respect for everything they say or do?

"

They just don't even register on my radar anymore. When I'm done I'm done!

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

All of the above, one slight thing that’s me put off and they’ll be blocked.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually other way round for me, I start off disliking everyone until they change my mind

Oh I've done this once or twice."

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Depends on the thing. Sometimes it's a long process, sometimes it's a one time strike out.

Again, sometimes people redeem themselves, sometimes they are shut out forever.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

It’s like a drip, drip drip with me.

Then all of a sudden massive ick & it’s gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying.

Just doing some mental gymnastics to make sure I never say the wrong thing "

I make exceptions for certain people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, all it takes is for them to say the wrong thing and it puts me off completely which is really fucking annoying.

It was the hot dog thing wasn't it? "

Yes. You’re just too weird!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very little for every 1000 we get one good message. So when you think you have sorted something then they fuck it up. Coming out with shit. We end up at a club time and time again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s like a drip, drip drip with me.

Then all of a sudden massive ick & it’s gone. "

Oh it's instant for me. Just one little thing is all it takes.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"It’s like a drip, drip drip with me.

Then all of a sudden massive ick & it’s gone.

Oh it's instant for me. Just one little thing is all it takes. "

I wish it was for me sometimes. It would be so much simpler.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'll have to start treading lightly in the forums from now on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One patronising comment or narrow minded opinion…instant fuck off!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pretty frequent that I or another person just loose interest.

Building a rapport over the written message on a clunky messaging format is just not conducive to a good connection.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll have to start treading lightly in the forums from now on."

Oh don't become one of "those"

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"One patronising comment or narrow minded opinion…instant fuck off!! "

•

"instant fuck off!" - does that come in powdered form?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It’s like a drip, drip drip with me.

Then all of a sudden massive ick & it’s gone.

Oh it's instant for me. Just one little thing is all it takes. "

I get either of those... but once the dripping starts the ick isn't going away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I'd have to know them first to go off them.

It'll take a while if it is someone I like. Depends how they treat me.

Snap judgments off forum posts etc... meh. I tend to focus on things I like not dislike, seems a better expenditure of energy to me.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them."

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All fine until games start being played... not talking about monopoly either lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them."

It's little things for me, mainly comments. And I'm sure I take them meaning more what is intended but i just don't have the energy to waste on people I know aren't for me.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Very quick to cut people off, go from liking to you're dead to me, in some heartbeat....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile."

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block "

It could be anything, I stopped caring a long time ago.

Maybe they don't like my feet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block

It could be anything, I stopped caring a long time ago.

Maybe they don't like my feet."

I like your feet it's all good.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

"

I think it has do with certain things, because nobody is perfect of course, and people can put up with loads of 'little things' when they are in love (or even just into it) etc. But certain things can seem to do it for some people! It's all about the extremity of that turned-off feeling though. That feeling that there is no turning back.

I can't help feeling though, that when feelings run really deep and over many different areas, these things might perhaps diminish when it comes to that special person a lot of people are after in life. When we are young we can throw things away, but the older we get the more we realise we need to invest more I think. But of course I'm talking about love here, which is something aside from all this perhaps.

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very tolerant but fuck me over and you’re dead to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

It's little things for me, mainly comments. And I'm sure I take them meaning more what is intended but i just don't have the energy to waste on people I know aren't for me. "

That's fair enough, you can't force a connection so if enough of those little things don't get you onside then it makes sense to cut it off. Would it generally be one comment or a bunch of them?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block "

I find it's generally when I start talking about tarps, shovels and arranging meets in the woods

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I think it has do with certain things, because nobody is perfect of course, and people can put up with loads of 'little things' when they are in love (or even just into it) etc. But certain things can seem to do it for some people! It's all about the extremity of that turned-off feeling though. That feeling that there is no turning back.

I can't help feeling though, that when feelings run really deep and over many different areas, these things might perhaps diminish when it comes to that special person a lot of people are after in life. When we are young we can throw things away, but the older we get the more we realise we need to invest more I think. But of course I'm talking about love here, which is something aside from all this perhaps.

pt"

Yeah don't be bringing love on to this thread thank you very much!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"I’m very tolerant but fuck me over and you’re dead to me."

See this is actually what I meant.. ^^^

very much this.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"I find it's generally when I start talking about tarps, shovels and arranging meets in the woods "

Look, I told you I was okay with helping but that we must NEVER SPEAK OF THIS AGAIN.

Loose lips, dude.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I find it's generally when I start talking about tarps, shovels and arranging meets in the woods

Look, I told you I was okay with helping but that we must NEVER SPEAK OF THIS AGAIN.

Loose lips, dude. "

Shoot yourself in the foot why don't ya, remember I told u. No comment is your best friend

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

It's little things for me, mainly comments. And I'm sure I take them meaning more what is intended but i just don't have the energy to waste on people I know aren't for me.

That's fair enough, you can't force a connection so if enough of those little things don't get you onside then it makes sense to cut it off. Would it generally be one comment or a bunch of them?"

Only takes one thing. Fab is extra for for most swinging couples. So why would they take any chance. If it does not feel right move on to the club always works for us.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


""

Bit late there RTG, you see how many people now have to be silenced....

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I took 4 years

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block

It could be anything, I stopped caring a long time ago.

Maybe they don't like my feet.

I like your feet it's all good."

They are critically acclaimed mens feet to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

It's little things for me, mainly comments. And I'm sure I take them meaning more what is intended but i just don't have the energy to waste on people I know aren't for me.

That's fair enough, you can't force a connection so if enough of those little things don't get you onside then it makes sense to cut it off. Would it generally be one comment or a bunch of them?

Only takes one thing. Fab is extra for for most swinging couples. So why would they take any chance. If it does not feel right move on to the club always works for us."

For me I'm not desperate and "looking" for anything. So if you annoy me/piss me off/make me throw up a little, I aren't gonna look past it and carry on. Luckily I seem to move on easily.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block

It could be anything, I stopped caring a long time ago.

Maybe they don't like my feet.

I like your feet it's all good.

They are critically acclaimed mens feet to be fair "

I'm not sucking a toe

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

I get what you mean, especially over text when things can be so easily read in a different tone than it was meant. It is intriguing to know what nonsense I've said that immediately made a conversation stop dead or caused a block

It could be anything, I stopped caring a long time ago.

Maybe they don't like my feet.

I like your feet it's all good.

They are critically acclaimed mens feet to be fair

I'm not sucking a toe"

No just kiss the foot a little. That's all!

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Its rare i get on em to go off em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One patronising comment or narrow minded opinion…instant fuck off!!

•

"instant fuck off!" - does that come in powdered form? "

Hahahahah if you like

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By *unnybunsWoman
over a year ago

Between here and over there

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile."

It's not unreasonable

Should someone go and ahead and sex with someone who has said or done something they don't like because they don't want to be seen as "unreaseonable"

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

It's not unreasonable

Should someone go and ahead and sex with someone who has said or done something they don't like because they don't want to be seen as "unreaseonable" "

No, obviously not. Don't do anything you don't want to do kindergarten!

But is it unreasonable to completely assume someone's a piece of shit because of one comment (if it wasn't anything super horrific/racist/sexist/homophobic etc)

In my opinion yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's honestly so interesting to hear that that one little thing can put people off where you go from fancying them to never wanting to see or hear from them again. I wonder what those things are and why they seem to be apparent red flags even you like most of the other things about them.

I mean it's obviously unreasonable because things can have been worded badly accidentally but to be honest, I think just be yourself and if people hate you for it, cool! It's honestly no drama. Just less sexy innuendos with another profile.

It's not unreasonable

Should someone go and ahead and sex with someone who has said or done something they don't like because they don't want to be seen as "unreaseonable"

No, obviously not. Don't do anything you don't want to do kindergarten!

But is it unreasonable to completely assume someone's a piece of shit because of one comment (if it wasn't anything super horrific/racist/sexist/homophobic etc)

In my opinion yes. "

No one said anything about thinking someone is a piece of shit Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's gradual for me, little things adding up UNLESS they call me hun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

"

I take time to like someone. When I first meet people it tends to be more often a no, for whatever reason. But some people there is no gut negative feel so will give them a chance. So once they are in my like mental pile then it is hard to get out.

That is unless they say something stupid, ie racist or sexist or against certain sexualities or have really weird view in general. Or just show they are not nice. Also if they post a meme or a photo again showing this, I have no problem holding up my hands and saying 'Ive made a mistake, no thank you, please don't speak to me again'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm extremely tolerant. So it will take something big or bad for me to go off someone.

I think I'm quite a good judge of character so if I've taken time to like someone then I'm prepared to overlook certain things about someone I like, after all no one is perfect. Give and take.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends on how invested I am in a person. With some people it's a simple thing and that's it. Vag dry. Other people it accumulates over time and then they become a walking no. Once it's happened, it's happened. I can't refancy someone.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It can be quite quick, depends how well I know them I think, people on here that I don't really chat to it can be a simple comment or something, people I do chat to then it would probably take more.

Mrs

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

I'm getting the feeling that 'like' in this post is very superficial and means no more than fancy. In that case I could change my mind about someone who changed the fantasy I had about them because that is all it would have been - just thought and fantasy.

If i actually knew them and liked them and they were a reality to me then it would take more than a pic or update to put me off...... at the very least i'd talk to them and ask what their thinking was behind the 'out of character' stuff. REAL people would deserve that.

In the end it's all about our own values not the values of others.

"

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If I like them I like them, it would take an awful lot to change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite quickly. Especially if they give me a reason to doubt them, I can't shake that off. But any form of lying, game playing, breadcrumbing etc.. turned off like a light switch. Men think it makes us want them more, no instant ick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

I'm getting the feeling that 'like' in this post is very superficial and means no more than fancy. In that case I could change my mind about someone who changed the fantasy I had about them because that is all it would have been - just thought and fantasy.

If i actually knew them and liked them and they were a reality to me then it would take more than a pic or update to put me off...... at the very least i'd talk to them and ask what their thinking was behind the 'out of character' stuff. REAL people would deserve that.

In the end it's all about our own values not the values of others.

"

For me on here, liking/fancying them is as far as it will ever go. Even after meeting them in person.

That's maybe why I'm so easily put off

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

In that case. I'm with you. I could go off someone in an instant, even if i'd had great sex with them. In fact - it's happened. There has been times when i've thought - ewww you are not who I thought you were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how invested I am in someone if I'm completely honest.

If you're just someone I like then I can cut you off instantly for the slightest thing and you'll not be able to redeem yourself easy at all.

If you've been a dickhead, brought unnecessary drama, sent a shitty message to who I'm invested in, and directly caused a problem in my life then yep I'll cut you off no matter how much I liked or fancied you. And sometimes that's a real shame as theres always some that I think I would have got along with and had things in common with if they weren't such a hypocritical wanker. There's no redeeming because if you cross me there's no coming back from that.

But whey I'm invested in someone I can choose to overlook some things which has been my utter downfall and I need to tolerate a lot less than I do.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m terrible. It can be one word and I’m gone.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I can get the ick very easily if someone is racist, homophobic, unempathetic or just generally cunty.

I don’t totally consider myself Demi but I definitely go that way once I chat with people.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

To us there can be a number of reasons, but our pet hate is ignorance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they covid vaccinated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it’s about being respectful and not thinking they can just message me behind hubbies back, that’s really put us of before when we have been talking to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how invested I am in someone if I'm completely honest.

If you're just someone I like then I can cut you off instantly for the slightest thing and you'll not be able to redeem yourself easy at all.

If you've been a dickhead, brought unnecessary drama, sent a shitty message to who I'm invested in, and directly caused a problem in my life then yep I'll cut you off no matter how much I liked or fancied you. And sometimes that's a real shame as theres always some that I think I would have got along with and had things in common with if they weren't such a hypocritical wanker. There's no redeeming because if you cross me there's no coming back from that.

But whey I'm invested in someone I can choose to overlook some things which has been my utter downfall and I need to tolerate a lot less than I do.

"

Lol at "getting along with them if they weren't a hypocritical wanker"

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Certain things instantly put me off, bigotry in any form and dishonesty can turn a 10 into a 2 real fast,

I like to get to know people a little and have a connection but once I like someone on the whole I'm not put off by much.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

The older I guess the less tolerance I have for bull crap of any type. But I probably wouldn’t make a decision based upon a single thing ( unless it was a major thing) more likely to decide based on a pattern of behaviour

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

In most cases, if I have met someone in person, and got on well with them, it takes quite some effort to put me off them. But once they're in that zone, their chances of ever coming back to even just "friends" zone are minimal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How quickly do you go off people?

If you like someone is that it, your minds made up and nothing changes?

Or is all it takes is one little comment, one status update, one unfortunate picture and that's it? Done.

"

I don't fall out with people I just remove myself from them. No time for negative energy.

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