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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

Think it the devil inside us !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do, annoyingly I've never been wrong.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I fight or suppress my gut instinct, due to wanting instant gratification if I go with that gut reaction, then this is taken away from me, and then I'm left with myself, which isn't always to most hospitality of places to be......

At times my heads like a bad neighbourhood, best not gone there alone.

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.


"We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

"

No, Petite.

It's because the angel on your left shoulder has fallen off.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It may stem from, in some part at least, in the belief (even if it be flawed) that reassurance from another source is likely to statistically up the probability of a given outcome/truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve ignored it in the past and never again will I ignore it. Even if you’re wrong about it at least you stuck to your guns and did what you believed to be right. It’s okay to get things wrong sometimes but having integrity towards yourself is paramount to building any form of confidence in my personal opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

No, Petite.

It's because the angel on your left shoulder has fallen off. "

Was it there in the first place?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

The brain gives you an alternative option. If only had one side of the brain might be possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety. I trust my gut instinct for the most part but I can sometimes think irrationally and need that advice to reassure me or I’d just never leave the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an introvert and have learned to follow my own guidance/intuition (had to, everyone in my family quite baffled by me so forced to forge my own path ) from a very early age and it works well for me

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

It is our sixth sense.. Never ignore it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is our sixth sense.. Never ignore it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that what we call instinct is really our subconscious sending us messages while it collates evidence we aren’t (yet) consciously aware we have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people tend to overthink a situation which can then lead to not trusting your instincts - as long as your balancing your gut feel with some fact based insight I believe you’ll get more right than wrong.

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.


"We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

No, Petite.

It's because the angel on your left shoulder has fallen off.

Was it there in the first place? "

Oh, I'm sure it was.

Basically, we go through life gaining experience and having experiences and seeing other people's experiences.

It then comes down tou our own personal risk averseness.

This determines how much you listen to your gut instinct.

Much of this is passed on to us by our parents and their actions in similar situations.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I like to listen to my gut instinct. But I also like to dissect it.

Why do I feel this way? What flags have summoned this feeling? Is this a justified response?

I'll still go with it whether I find a solid reason or not. But I like to know my rationale

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t think it’s a chore between gut instinct and seeking (wise) advice , they are for very different things.

I trust my gut on people because other peoples views aren’t relevant and I think I’ m pretty good at it. Plus I believe these issues aren’t binary , people are not just good or bad, there is synergy and influence.

If you’re often not following your gut instinct - or good advice - it most likely fear.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I usually regret it it I don't follow my gut instinct.

Sometimes you might think you're being silly or imagining that somethings off.

Or you really want to give someone the benefit of the doubt maybe .

I don't know ,but it's best to listen to it & trust that it knows when something's not quite right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s a chore between gut instinct and seeking (wise) advice , they are for very different things.

I trust my gut on people because other peoples views aren’t relevant and I think I’ m pretty good at it. Plus I believe these issues aren’t binary , people are not just good or bad, there is synergy and influence.

If you’re often not following your gut instinct - or good advice - it most likely fear.

"

Fear of what??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

No, Petite.

It's because the angel on your left shoulder has fallen off.

Was it there in the first place?

Oh, I'm sure it was.

Basically, we go through life gaining experience and having experiences and seeing other people's experiences.

It then comes down tou our own personal risk averseness.

This determines how much you listen to your gut instinct.

Much of this is passed on to us by our parents and their actions in similar situations."

But what if you've had a life full of trauma? Does your judgement get distorted somewhat?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

No, Petite.

It's because the angel on your left shoulder has fallen off.

Was it there in the first place?

Oh, I'm sure it was.

Basically, we go through life gaining experience and having experiences and seeing other people's experiences.

It then comes down tou our own personal risk averseness.

This determines how much you listen to your gut instinct.

Much of this is passed on to us by our parents and their actions in similar situations.

But what if you've had a life full of trauma? Does your judgement get distorted somewhat?"

Experience will always be present in how we feel, its often the lens we judge present day situations through. Which will kick off a neurological process, of memory retrieval.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gut tells the mind truths the mind doesn’t want to hear

Then the mind spins all kinds of stories to convince itself the stories it wants to be true are true.

Weird feeling about a guy? Seems off? Nah don’t be silly. He’s sweet, he’s just busy with work is all. He’s a good one, he even said so. I’m just being paranoid

Mind is the biggest gaslighter going

Trust the gut every time

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I can be wrong sometimes and right others, it's reading the situation and deciding from there.

Next time I will be one step ahead ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all told to trust it, and sometimes we don't, why is that?

What is it that's makes us doubt ourselves and seek the reassurance from others?

Is just a lack of confidence in reading a situation right? Or a lack of confidence overall? Or maybe pressure of what is considered right and wrong? Or is it that it just falls into a grey area so to speak?

No, Petite.

It's because the angel on your left shoulder has fallen off.

Was it there in the first place?

Oh, I'm sure it was.

Basically, we go through life gaining experience and having experiences and seeing other people's experiences.

It then comes down tou our own personal risk averseness.

This determines how much you listen to your gut instinct.

Much of this is passed on to us by our parents and their actions in similar situations.

But what if you've had a life full of trauma? Does your judgement get distorted somewhat?"
Gut instinct is never distorted, regardless. A person’s antennae might be out of sorts though and they’re ignoring/not trusting their own inner voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think another issue is we are weary of people calling us paranoid. Seems quite common for others to just brush it off with this phrase.

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Would have, could have and should have. All questions we ask ourselves after the effect.

Gut instinct help us to answer these questions before.

A person who has had a lot if bad experiences in their life will nearly always come back with the answer of what's the worst that could happen and compare it to their past, subconciously, and is more likely to go for it.

So yes. A traumatic life or experience, so far, is highly likely to slew a person's gut feeling.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I don’t think it’s a chore between gut instinct and seeking (wise) advice , they are for very different things.

I trust my gut on people because other peoples views aren’t relevant and I think I’ m pretty good at it. Plus I believe these issues aren’t binary , people are not just good or bad, there is synergy and influence.

If you’re often not following your gut instinct - or good advice - it most likely fear.

Fear of what??"

The normal things - change, epic failure, feeling stupid to others. Normal people care more about these consequences than the potential opportunities , risk takers don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what is in front of us to trust.

I trust myself but no one else too many asps and snakes.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Gut instinct is just 1 of the pieces of feedback and information that we have available to us. If we don't allow ourselves to gain the benefit of a more complete perspective, we're potentially short-changing ourselves.

Many people are also limited by chronic habits, some of which they may want to break free from. Gut instinct will typically kick in, if they try to venture into new territory.

What we ask ourselves and what we evaluate are important. We are able to do complex things and often have multiple, perhaps conflicting desires. People aren't brilliant at risk analysis but it's still often worthwhile to make reasoned assessments and evaluations of situations, to aid our choices and responses in a life that's frequently not simple. This isn't to knock gut instinct, just to open up our potential choices and control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually because we don't like the answer to what our gut is telling us. In my experience everytime I've gone against it or made allowances for people, I've regretted it. People thinks it's silly to listen to this almighty force but it's power and we need to listen to it more.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If I choose to ignore it, it's usually because I think it's just the anxiety at play... but, it rarely is.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

For me it's anxiety and maybe a little self esteem issues, I generally do trust my gut feelings but then there's times I'll overthink them and talk myself around to ignoring them which is always a bad idea, maybe I'm just thinking of the outcome I want or that's easier rather than the one I should do.

Mrs

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

My gut instinct is nearly always 'right'. In the sense something feels 'safe' or it doesn't to use the kids on the park vernacular. To be honest it's finely tuned.

There are certain situations where I am hyper-vigilant because of my past. And that confuses me and can trigger me. I tend to trust what I am told, make allowances etc. Hurts like hell when it turns out my gut was right. Especially, if the person knew my vulnerability. That used it against me feeling.

I got a good friend that looks out for me on that. She gets annoyed with me though. No no no... You know! why don't you just walk now? you always wait till you get hurt.

Not learnt that lesson yet, I'm getting there though. Maybe before I die, maybe not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gut instinct is usually bang on. I wish I went with it more often, but I'm learning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one time I ignored my gut instinct, but instead went with organisational policies and protocols, was the only professional mistake I ever made at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that what we call instinct is really our subconscious sending us messages while it collates evidence we aren’t (yet) consciously aware we have. "

This.

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