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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?

We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so

My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530

But a sixth sense told me not to go through it

He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No; if you don’t feel it’s right then call it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you didn’t do anything wrong at all. No one has to do anything they don’t want to, your safety comes first

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

You can withdraw consent at any point.

If you felt something wasn't right then not going ahead with it was the right choice

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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If your spidey senses are tingling? Don't go through with it. Why put yourself in a position where you'll feel uncomfortable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust your instincts.

And next time give them your street or nearby but not precise address, tell them to call you when they are on your street for precise address.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, if you communicate it to him. Not necessarily why but just so he knows

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Intuition is a very powerful thing.Listen to it.. always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re perfectly fine to change your mind.

Just as a security thing……consider not being home, or having someone with you should he knock at your door.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Go with your gut feeling it's there for a reason, you're absolutely well within your rights to cancel at any time....

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

We always insist on a social,if it's Mrs alone then it's definitely a public place and never ever give complete strangers our address.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?

We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so

My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530

But a sixth sense told me not to go through it

He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "

Trust your gut instinct, it's something I need to do more because it's never been wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He’s taken it very well … but I’m glad I cancelled … thank you everyone I feel so much better now x

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"No you didn’t do anything wrong at all. No one has to do anything they don’t want to, your safety comes first "

Fluffy, I'll be interested in what certain parties have to say about this though!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were right to call it off, always follow your intuition. Re: him knowing your address - if he starts getting creepy, make out you’ve male relatives staying over and if need be, vary your routes to shake him off. (Better safe than sorry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He’s taken it very well … but I’m glad I cancelled … thank you everyone I feel so much better now x"

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"He’s taken it very well … but I’m glad I cancelled … thank you everyone I feel so much better now x"

well done x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have a gut feeling that something is off you should listen to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DO NOT MEET.. your gut feelings are usually right...

Be polite but make sure he knows another man will be there.. a relative or friend.

Never give your address out until you have met in a public place more than once and be happy but it is easy to say that now.

This site is all about you and if you don't want to meet then don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust your instincts.

And next time give them your street or nearby but not precise address, tell them to call you when they are on your street for precise address. "

Such good advice! You're more than entitled to change your mind OP and hopefully he'll respect that but please keep the above in mind for future meets.

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

You did the right thing if you felt uncomfortable but 1st.meet id recommend local coffee shop.

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By *UIETELLE2052Couple
over a year ago

Dundrum/Rathfarnham

We had an mmf meet set up a few months back. Day of meet he started demanding bareback which is a deal breaker for us. Cancelled straight away to torrents of abuse here and on WhatsApp. That was clear cut but if anything even slightly off happened we would not meet

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By *UIETELLE2052Couple
over a year ago

Dundrum/Rathfarnham

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"He’s taken it very well … but I’m glad I cancelled … thank you everyone I feel so much better now x

well done x "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"He’s taken it very well … but I’m glad I cancelled … thank you everyone I feel so much better now x"

I'm glad he's taken it well ,you did right to cancel if it felt off to you.Maybe consider meeting people in a public place op,so they don't have your address straight away.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Just hope he doesn't read the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, safety is always number 1 and you should trust your gut

Here’s a tip I hope more people follow

Never give your full address, just the street, that way if they don’t show up, or you cancel, you don’t need to worry about unwanted visitors and you’ll feel more safe

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By *andDfwbCouple
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Yes, call it off if you arent happy.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?

We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so

My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530

But a sixth sense told me not to go through it

He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "

You definitely did the right thing if you didn't feel comfortable.

Not sure what his questions were. Maybe they were innocent on his behalf.

I once arranged to meet one half of a couple. I innocently asked who would be in? This took her back a bit and asked me to explain. For me I just wanted to know what to expect when I got there. For her it probably rang alarm bells. Sometimes things can be misunderstood over text. It may be worth getting them to explain what they meant by the things they've said.

I would always advise meeting somewhere public first though

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"Trust your instincts.

And next time give them your street or nearby but not precise address, tell them to call you when they are on your street for precise address. "

I 1000% agree with this!!! Never give your full address. Walking a short distance to meet someone is a small price to pay for your safety & no, even the very last second is nit too late to cancel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is probably a sister thread to this one - what to do when meets go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your P your rules.

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By *hatBeardedChapMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

god no not with the weirdo's out there..I ain't meeting anyone without it starting social in a public place..not looking to end up in a bathtub full of ice missing organs or worse

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By *ighlandguy007Man
over a year ago

inverness/Bournemouth

It’s never wrong or too late to say no. And you have given him your reason and that should be enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No you didn’t do anything wrong at all. No one has to do anything they don’t want to, your safety comes first

Fluffy, I'll be interested in what certain parties have to say about this though!!!!"

Oh I’m sure they’ll be along when they wake

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By *tacy.TWoman
over a year ago

luton

You can definitely say no if your feeling uncomfortable about it!

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By *ouise_KWoman
over a year ago

leicester

Absolutely not wrong for cancelling. Everybody has the right to do so, especially if the reason is the person is making them feel uncomfortable. Listen to your intuition, it’s not wrong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you dont feel safe or feel the person is a bit creepy cancel better to be safe than sorry. Karen

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Intuition is a very powerful thing.Listen to it.. always"

I fully agree here

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Never ignore your gut feeling!

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby


"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?

We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so

My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530

But a sixth sense told me not to go through it

He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "

Trust your gut - you aren't wrong for cancelling. He may be disappointed and that's understandable but if you aren't comfortable, you shouldn't feel coerced into something.

I'd recommend going out for the evening if you can though as he has your address. Some people do not take the clear "no thank you, I've changed my mind"'

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Cancelling is much better than ghosting a person or giving false hope xxx

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare


"Am I wrong of cancelling last minute because I felt uncomfortable meeting with the guy ?

We are supposed to meet later today but his questions and attitude made me feel uncomfortable and I told him so

My problem is I had give him my address as he was due to arrive here around 530

But a sixth sense told me not to go through it

He’s veried a couple of times but made comments that made me feel something wasn’t right … he wasn’t rude or impolite but some strange questions he asked just didn’t sit well with me "

Never feel bad about cancelling if you're concerned. I've also given my address when first joined and didn't realise how dangerous that was as was getting on well through messages and phone calls. Now just give road name and go and get them when they're there. Handy to have a full length coat if you happen to be i your underwear

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By *oodlesMan
over a year ago

fobbing

If your senses or telling you that you don’t feel comfortable. Stop. Reevaluate at your own pace. You shouldn’t feel pressure into anything.

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

I always have a social first now though and you can always take them home if you're happy to

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I take it he didn't turn up last night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take it he didn't turn up last night?"

I was wondering the same. Other women have said men turn up again uninvited at any point, day or night.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If we're honest and don't mislead someone, or not inform them, when we can't or don't want to complete a meeting, then we're doing what we can.

We must look after our safety and wellbeing. If there's anything that indicates that we're not right to meet, then cancel, potentially to rearrange.

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