FabSwingers.com forum: advicing your 20 yo self

By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

If you had 1 Min to advice your 20 year old self, what would you say?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Don't continue using heroin.....but I wouldn't have listened.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

You're fucking awesome. Stop worrying about trying to be normal and socially acceptable

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

"If you had 1 Min to advice your 20 year old self, what would you say?"

You will never be truly happy until you love yourself.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Buy property!!

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By *erebraljaguarMan
over a year ago

North West…

I’d draw three things and tell him to understand them better and save a few years of learning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bitcoin

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

It’s ok to run away and never look back. They might be the same blood but they are not your tribe. Run.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Join the royal marines.

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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago

Stowmarket

Carry on, your making a decent job of it.

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

Buy houses before the property boom.....mine bitcoins before the price increase......take over your dad's business and make big bucks.....move abroad when you get the opportunity....join fabswingers and make some new fun friends.....and overall just enjoy yourself

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

Start meeting other guys!

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By *uxuriantCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall

Sleep around more..

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I’d tell me “I hope you NEVER fit in” because those are the people who never change anything!

…and give me the address of my wife so we could loving each other 3years sooner

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By *r X46Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Do more shagging.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Listen the fuck up. Listen to your friends, you should not be letting her treat you like that. She is physically and psychologically abusing you.

The drugs are no longer hedonistic pleasure. They are a maladaptive coping strategy to deal with the trauma from your CSA. Those memory fragments you have, the door, the hiding in the cupboard. That go away when you get high? Why do you think they happen when she abuses you and gaslights you? Why do you feel frozen and can't respond, when it's happening?

It's not your fault. You don't deserve it and you need to respect yourself. Your real friends are trying to tell you that.

Probably wouldn't listen though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’ll be ok. It’ll get better. You got this.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Oh..... and don't smoke.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

For me I would say. You are sacrificing a lot and these are the best years of your life you will never get back. People will drift. Others will see you as an aquantence don't be surprised. Life is hard at the best of times does not mean it's not enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stay away from men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d tell me “I hope you NEVER fit in” because those are the people who never change anything!

Absolutely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stand up straight and take your hands out of your pockets.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Stop dicking around pretending to be a scientist and tsin to be a sparkie

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

I don’t think a minute is enough, my main regret in life is spending 15 years with someone but undoing that would mean I haven’t got my kids so not sure how advise that maybe to not take her back in 2014 when she ran off for 6 weeks leaving me with the kids an ms maybe life would be a lot better now

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"I don’t think a minute is enough, my main regret in life is spending 15 years with someone but undoing that would mean I haven’t got my kids so not sure how advise that maybe to not take her back in 2014 when she ran off for 6 weeks leaving me with the kids an ms maybe life would be a lot better now "

I'm sorry to hear this

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

My twenty year old self was a bit of a mess. I was studying too hard, working too hard and partying too hard. Trying to prove I could do something whilst trying to do everything.

Yet with all of that, I wouldn't change any of it. I wouldn't have the people in my life I do now if it wasn't for who I was back then.

My only advice would be - hug that close friend of yours a bit tighter because one day he'll be words on a bench near your favourite studying spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None, I’d have to gone further back than 20.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing at all. Life is what makes us. I'd not be me if I did stuff differently and didn't learn from life's experiences. And I think I'm pretty awesome right now.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Nothing at all. Life is what makes us. I'd not be me if I did stuff differently and didn't learn from life's experiences. And I think I'm pretty awesome right now.

What she said.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Duck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bigger than you think

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

In 3 years time you will go on a rugby tour to Denmark.

FFS whatever you do, on the first night of the tournament in town - stay with your friends.

In 4 years time you will go to Ecuador. Don't gate crash the beauty competition or you will fuckin shit yourself at the consequences.

The rest of your life you will enjoy. And you at least live into your 50s but with some close scrapes.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Get your hair cut and become more outgoing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When your boss asks you what you really think……lie.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

London or Bedford

*Don’t chase the dream, chase the money

*Avoid a girl called Lindsay

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Choose a good sector , pharma, tech, telecom not retail or hospitality. Then just do the grind - any job required. Don’t work for companies or people you wouldn’t volunteer for & work for free. Don’t tell lies. Live generously and audaciously and take loads of risks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing.

The 20 year old turned into me, and I quite like me.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"My twenty year old self was a bit of a mess. I was studying too hard, working too hard and partying too hard. Trying to prove I could do something whilst trying to do everything.

Yet with all of that, I wouldn't change any of it. I wouldn't have the people in my life I do now if it wasn't for who I was back then.

My only advice would be - hug that close friend of yours a bit tighter because one day he'll be words on a bench near your favourite studying spot. "

This is beautiful.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Nothing at all. Life is what makes us. I'd not be me if I did stuff differently and didn't learn from life's experiences. And I think I'm pretty awesome right now.

This is true. Butterfly effect and all. I think a lot of people have regrets, sand from those regrets they may have learnt life lessons.

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Stop putting off and get on with it now.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Stop worrying about what other people think, start enjoying your life.

As for crossdressing, you look good in a dress and lingerie, work on your make up. Get out while you still have the figure to be more convincing.

Don't give up cycling, you were good at it.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

These are all powerful personal responces. And thabk everyone who shared there reflections with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be cool, be kind, enjoy life...coz it can go tits up anytime.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Take the Grey Nicholls sponsorship deal not the Duncan Fearnley one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your own government will screw you over so move country and get screwed by another government with better weather

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"I’d tell me “I hope you NEVER fit in” because those are the people who never change anything!

Absolutely this."

Xx ty

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"When your boss asks you what you really think……lie."
oh god DON’t lie …make sure EVERYONE hears and walk out like you just bosses it BECAUSE YOU JUST DID!!

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Follow your gut feelings....they are,rarely wrong

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"My only advice would be - hug that close friend of yours a bit tighter because one day he'll be words on a bench near your favourite studying spot. "
I choose this!… RIP Tony, I fucking love you buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id probably say dont measure your worth by what you think others think of you. Be yourself, be open about what you like and embrace that being different isnt a bad thing per se.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admit your true feelings to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're doing great, be more proud and less scared

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your instinct is always right make a smart move

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By *ensman100Man
over a year ago

Hounslow

"If you had 1 Min to advice your 20 year old self, what would you say?"

Don't be so shy and sleep with that gorgeous blonde who was practically begging you to do so!

Oh well.. lol

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Spend more time going out to clubs and pubs and meeting girls instead of card schools hoping to meet the Queen’s of diamonds, hearts , clubs and spades.35 years later I still haven’t learnt a fucking thing.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

Dad has cancer, get him to a Dr

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Work out who to trust, get some talking therapy and never be afraid to ask. Question the experts: they are wrong, face those demons and narcissists' and join FAB and a sun club ASAP, to meet your future partner and discover those wive changing gloves.

Discover once a day sun-tan-lotion

(A few more lines like this and Baz lurman will be in touch)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When your boss asks you what you really think……lie. oh god DON’t lie …make sure EVERYONE hears and walk out like you just bosses it BECAUSE YOU JUST DID!!"

Well that cost me two promising careers……

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

"If you had 1 Min to advice your 20 year old self, what would you say?

You will never be truly happy until you love yourself. "

Maybe stop loving yourself quite so much....

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By *eddfmyd11Man
over a year ago

Towcester

Ask to be taken off your current meds, they're one of the main sources of your depression. Actually leave your room to go out and try to socialise, at least occasionally - you'll find out that not everyone hates you. Try to make some friends. Talk to people. Stop self harming... Long list really tbh.

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

At 20 it was already too late for life changing advice, but all I would say is "just be yourself, and follow your passion"

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

Oooo ,and also make sure you're heard, because really don't understand

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"When your boss asks you what you really think……lie. oh god DON’t lie …make sure EVERYONE hears and walk out like you just bosses it BECAUSE YOU JUST DID!!

Well that cost me two promising careers……"

Me too #NoRegrets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't buy betamax

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

Don't take uni so seriously, do some deeper socialising as well

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By *ubbyDommeCouple
over a year ago

chester

Stop being an equal and use your femine traits to gain attention from the males

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