FabSwingers.com forum: Does age matter in relationships?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My opinion is no. But what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes is a massive gap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes is a massive gap."

* if

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No I don't think it does... I have always had a think for the older gentleman.. Though sometimes its difficult as most have had the snip and kids is something I would like if lucky enough...

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

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By *ouldyou2Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"Yes is a massive gap.

* if"
ageism rules ok lol why do loads of people put 18 to 99 then say you're too old ? It's not as tho a 99 year old would be on here ! And yea I know I have lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

Need some cough mixture there ?

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

Need some cough mixture there ?

A dose of medicinal brandy will suffice

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By *ouldyou2Man
over a year ago

west Midlands

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

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oooh a woman scorned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes is a massive gap.

* if ageism rules ok lol why do loads of people put 18 to 99 then say you're too old ? It's not as tho a 99 year old would be on here ! And yea I know I have lol "

I don't but the question is about a relationship not who you'd shag, plus have seen a 80 yr old on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me no, as my OH is 12 years older than me.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think it soooooo depends on the individuals concerned, the age gap and their aspirations regarding the relationship, ie whether they were looking for fun or long term.

It can be a divisive factor ... and then again it can be part of the glue that holds relationships together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it matters, he's got no sex drive, mines in overdrive! But that's only my experience, dont crucify me

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?"

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who r in or want relationships where there is a big age gap don't have a problem with it, its just everyone else that does and its sad

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

oooh a woman scorned "

you recognise the signs...... well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me."

I'm with you on this.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"People who r in or want relationships where there is a big age gap don't have a problem with it, its just everyone else that does and its sad

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I can agree with that - it is at the end of teh day about how those who ARE in the relationship feel about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is but a number life is for enjoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're both happy and willing, no..

...however, and I know it's wrong, I always have a little question when it's a very young woman with a much older man.. and also when it's a younger man with a woman who's maybe ten years or so older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me."

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

I doubt that was cos of his age tho

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me.

Same here

For me personally that would be about right plus or minus 10 years either side of my age is about right.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me.

Same here

For me personally that would be about right plus or minus 10 years either side of my age is about right. "

I panicked then and had to check your age, it's ok I made it inside the figures

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

well ive been in my relationship six years. i just hope those that dont like big age gaps are as happy as us. we fit like a jigsaw and compliment each other and i couldnt really care what anyone else thinks but it does make me smile

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me.

Same here

For me personally that would be about right plus or minus 10 years either side of my age is about right.

I panicked then and had to check your age, it's ok I made it inside the figures

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Haha good job I changed it back from 76 then ...;-)

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By *ooty and suuCouple
over a year ago

barnsley

It all depends how both people feel about the age gap

if theyre happy whats it got to do with anyone else

we been together for 12yrs then got married so whats all the fuss about

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"It all depends how both people feel about the age gap

if theyre happy whats it got to do with anyone else

we been together for 12yrs then got married so whats all the fuss about "
My own parents were divorced and remarried, both to a partner where the age gap was 13 and 15 years respectively - and they are/ were very happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will not have sex with any woman under the age of 25 as for being older it doesn't matter her age just as long as she is large fun and out going

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"My opinion is no. But what do you think?

Yes, for me it does: extremes are unstable to me. A man old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son is a no from me.

Same here

For me personally that would be about right plus or minus 10 years either side of my age is about right.

I panicked then and had to check your age, it's ok I made it inside the figures

Haha good job I changed it back from 76 then ...;-)"

All I can say is your only as old as the person you feel, fancy feeling fourty three again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought it would, but it became apparent that the 11 yrs between myself and my ex was too much when he banned me from watching X Factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

I doubt that was cos of his age tho"

It was all to do with my husbands age .... he thought he was 26 the same as his girlfriend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how you feel and who else is involved in this relationship, personally i would never get into a relationship with someone who was say 21 ish as i have kids and i know my kids would be embarrassed if i was walking round with someone that age and as they are a part of my life and their feelings count i would take things like that into consideration before getting into a relationship, i wouldnt get with anyone my kids would feel ashamed about

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I had a longish relationship with someone 18 years older than me. At the time I was terribly upset when he left me for an older woman. Now that I am the age he was then I know why.

I now operate a 10 year either side guide but if I ever met the right person I would decide at that time.

It can work but it really about both people being emotionally in the same place and wanting the same things. The same as any relationship.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It does if the other half is a lying; cheating; up-his-own-arse, womaniser ( cough cough, I speak from experience )

Need some cough mixture there ?

A dose of medicinal brandy will suffice

Go with Covonia - it tastes better than Brandy.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I'd say for fun then no it doesn't age is just a number but for a relationship it can be a massive factor. As someone above said a good relationship is more about both parties being in the same place in their lives and what they want out of life rather than what their age is. Having just been hurt by getting involved with a much younger guy and despite both wanting more the realisation of the impossibility of a relationship hurt like hell but the actual age difference was never a factor in it!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

No but then I would say that

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

In a previous Fab incarnation I was half of a wide age gap couple. I was twice her age.

It suited us both.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Jay and Is age has never been a factor in our relationship. Outside of fab its not spoken about the biggest factor was the differernt way in which we grew up, class wise. He has taught me so much about life with his 22 years more experience with me, but mentally he is the same age as me, ok i might like lady gaga and he might like classic fm but the differences are pretty minor. We think the same on important stuff and we understand each other. Age was never a factor when we got together as neither of us had any thoughts about getting together we just started off as being very good friends. Everyone excepts him, no one comments on his age and we have no negativity shown towards us.

I can see he is getting older and he doesnt like driving much these days, surely a relationship is about two people being compatable whether they are the same age or not. However, i am going to be hypocritical here and say i couldnt imagine myself with someone alot younger as i dont know what i would have in common, they wouldnt have had the life experiences that i have had.

So outwardly there may be a alarge age difference between us but inwardly there isnt. In fact on more than one occassion hes accused me of being the old fashioned one in our relationship lol.

He gets on with younger people because he has a young mind

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I think it soooooo depends on the individuals concerned, the age gap and their aspirations regarding the relationship, ie whether they were looking for fun or long term.

It can be a divisive factor ... and then again it can be part of the glue that holds relationships together.

Having been with someone older (by 12 years) & younger (by 8) this sums it up for me

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside

Whatever floats your boat, personally iv always gone for older men when I was 22 I was going out with a guy who was 35 kinda age range but the extreme age gaps are for a more niche crowd I think.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It seems it matters more to the people outside of the relationship.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Age does matter. Not for feelings to each other or anything like. Age matters for your natural body clock. When I was younger I was a bit wild. I liked going out with may mates and partying hard. Now I am bit older there is now way I could do what I did in my younger days. So for example if I was seeing a girl in her twenties no way could I keep up with her physically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 48 and Sammi is 35 so NO age does not matter to us! It's only a number after all.

Billy

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

"Jay and Is age has never been a factor in our relationship. Outside of fab its not spoken about the biggest factor was the differernt way in which we grew up, class wise. He has taught me so much about life with his 22 years more experience with me, but mentally he is the same age as me, ok i might like lady gaga and he might like classic fm but the differences are pretty minor. We think the same on important stuff and we understand each other. Age was never a factor when we got together as neither of us had any thoughts about getting together we just started off as being very good friends. Everyone excepts him, no one comments on his age and we have no negativity shown towards us.

So outwardly there may be a alarge age difference between us but inwardly there isnt. In fact on more than one occassion hes accused me of being the old fashioned one in our relationship lol.

He gets on with younger people because he has a young mind"

Very similar to us, 19 years between us and we have been together 10 years now, we both compliment each other in different ways. Friends and family do not give it a second thought, they take us as we are a very loving and in love couple. We know others think differently and have openly had the question asked is he loaded! Our answer is no he is hung like a horse!

We have been criticised in emails because we state we only play with guys under 40 yet he is nearer 50 but again our reply is I have an older man at home so fancy a change! At the end of the day we are very happy together and the age difference is never really in our thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No definitely not. Well as long as its over consenting age! Its about how a person carries themselves and maturity.. For me anyway !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My heart wants to say no s it's just a number but just recently seen two large age gap marriages fail because the young women are restless etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much so and prefer my own age group, would never ever consider half my age, maturity doesn't come into it; the age is enough to put me off, nor would I consider some say 20 yrs older, possibly because I don't feel old but wouldn't want to be with someone who looked more like my dad or granddad

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Mind you, if someone posted about a 16 or 17 year old girl in a relationship with a 35 year old guy I think the posts on this thread would be different.....

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr. and Mrs. Hugh Hefner!

Hefner, 86, married fiancée Crystal Harris, 26, in front of family and a few close friends at the Playboy Mansion in Los Angeles ............. Now if he was a normal everyday 86 year old do you think she would have married him .? 26 lovely and should be with others her age 10/20 years i maybe could cope with. But as a mum no matter how much fame money i would hate to think he was even touching her. sorry but thats how i feel. YES love you cant pick who you love and are in love with at times i know.

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By *ooty and suuCouple
over a year ago

barnsley

depends on the couple we think

sod what other people think

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