FabSwingers.com forum: Regrets...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’ve had a few.

Then again, too few to mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't beat yourself up Meli. I forgive you and have no hard feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ragretz Melz

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I am always right! Forsooth, the holy light of righteousness radiates from me like a particularly impressive fireworks display

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react.

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By *oadsafun1960Man
over a year ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

I think we can all be guilty of getting it wrong sometimes, maybe taking something the wrong way or being too quick to react without thinking it through.

I like to think if I make the wrong decision I will always own up, apologise and try to make it right.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Here? There have been a couple of occasions where in retrospect, things could've been said or handled differently. No one's perfect, after all.

For the most part I'm confortable with my conduct and behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non regret pais

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Including what you've posted on the fora."

We'd be here all day.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I own everything I do/say and I'm not to proud to admit being wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m guilty of saying things in the heat of the moment before thinking about it properly. It’s not until after I think I probably shouldn’t have said that.

I’m quite stubborn so naturally it’s difficult to admit when I’m in the wrong but if I know I’ve upset someone then I will own up and try to apologise.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I regret if I have misphrased or not fully/poorly conveyed what I've said.

I don't regret my intent behind what I've said.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I haven’t ever intentionally set out to hurt someone. But if I had, I’d be regretful.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I don’t deliberately try to upset anyone else’s feelings. Sometimes my opinions trigger someone else.

I don’t feel that this is something that I need to excessively apologise for. I am happy to say sorry, but ultimately others do need to take ownership of their own feelings.

If I have ever offended anyone, I sincerely apologise.

I can only see things from my perspective though and I believe others have the right to see things differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non, je ne regrette rien

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet. But it's early days.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"Non, je ne regrette rien"

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Don't beat yourself up Meli. I forgive you and have no hard feelings

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have responded to being gaslighted and an attempt at manipulation. Recently and in the the past.

It took a while for me to bite at times. But I did. I regret biting.

Am I always right, fuck no.

Do I regret? Yes, I regret that I saved someone else's reputation at my expense. When really my anger tells me I should have let my dark sided bitch out and absolutely ruined them.

My head tells me they weren't worth it.

I still feel sad at the outcome, still tearful at times. Still beating myself up, but still stand by my boundaries.

There's no coming back from it either way.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Yeah, frequently. Result of my wonky brain and misinterpreting people.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

I'm often right, but that's mostly down to the autism, a rediculous memory and a brain itch to always know the right answer (my Google search history is wild...)

I try not to live with regret...

My past actions and decisions have led me to the life I have now and the person I've become, sure I've failed and made mistakes but I try hard to learn from them and to grow.

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

Funny how I was thinking about this last night - you've taken my thread idea!

Of course I feel regret, I've been a bit rubbish sometimes (hopefully not too many times) and am not always right.

The phrase I was going to describe this is "going on tilt" - it is something I've heard in chess but apparently originates from the world of poker. The wiki definition is good: "a state of mental or emotional confusion or frustration in which a player adopts a suboptimal strategy, usually resulting in the player becoming overly aggressive".

In my case, I (thankfully) don't think I've ever been aggressive to anyone by lashing out or burning any bridges - I don't "hate" anyone and hopefully nobody hates me. What I have done (and what I regret) is when I'm feeling negative about a reaction, seeking validation from someone else. This is just shooting myself in the foot - because that's not their job and it makes it more likely I'll have 2 negative reactions!

A step I've taken once I've come to this realisation - I deliberately avoid communication when I know I'm on tilt. Better to digest those feelings and come up with a clearer root cause than to just rant / moan about it to someone who's dealing with their own issues.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react. "

You're a saint Ghandi, you really are.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I always act first, and then think.

I have all the regrets imaginable.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I am 53 and yea, I have made a few fuck ups in my time.

Been rude inappropriately when I wish I hadn't, done things that now make me wince and been an outright cunt to some which I really wish I could turn back time and change.

But a) I admit it b) try to make amends when I possibly can and c) try my best to never do the same things again.

If I have had the chance to apologies, I have.

Thank got I am not famous or I am sure I would be in the same predicament as Russel Brand is in right now.

But with experience can come wisdom and I believe I have tried to change and make sure I do not do the stupid, idiotic and quite honestly cuntish things I have done in the past.

Ohhh and I do own up to my sins and go by this prayer

"May god give me the serenity to accept the things I have done, The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference"

I would say that is my personal mantra

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react.

You're a saint Ghandi, you really are."

I know Meli, when I die I expect a grandiose tomb in Westminister Abbey, and a statue erected of me in my home town, these are very reasonably expectations I feel.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.

Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?

Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react.

You're a saint Ghandi, you really are.

I know Meli, when I die I expect a grandiose tomb in Westminister Abbey, and a statue erected of me in my home town, these are very reasonably expectations I feel."

Haha you said erected *giggle*

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I mostly post innocuous inane or humorous posts - on the odd occasion I get it wrong I’ll take ownership and rectify it if I can xx. Its a broad church on here and you should try to be sensitive to people and their sensitivities.

No one deliberately comes on here to upset others…. Do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I constantly question everything I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did I post that ?

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

On the few occasions where I've had to deal with something on here, usually in the chat room. I have no regrets. I did what I did. I said what I said. Or I ignored the comments,and just blocked and deleted.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Oh god. If regrets were food I could live off them. I regret something new every day.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never regret no! But if I'm wrong I will hold my hand up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm certainly not always right and I expect I've said things others won't like, maybe it even hits a nerve. However I've never purposely said anything to upset anyone.

So I have no regrets.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I regret not giving this ^ delightful creature a proper sustained hug when we last met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I can be a right dick sometimes. I do regret it when I am and I will always apologise when I recognise I've been out of line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regret not giving this ^ delightful creature a proper sustained hug when we last met."

We have a mutual regret there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- because I don’t believe in ‘wrong or right’, but rather that synergy is out of alignment, I don’t regret per se but might feel a slight fleeting sense of disappointment we weren’t synergized at that particular moment in time

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