FabSwingers.com forum: Face pic demands

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont demand anything if we arrange a meet then its up to the people who were waiting for to turn up. Karen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally if someone says 'send face pics' or 'face or no chat' I get put off because I don't like being told what to do haha. And i feel like if they are asking for a pic they should send one first ? Or am I being too petty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I dont demand anything if we arrange a meet then its up to the people who were waiting for to turn up. Karen"

So you agree to meet up without knowing what they look like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never asked, it's always been the guy that's brought it up.

I can message for a while without knowing what they look like, then if they aren't for me the conversation stops. It would probably be easier to know from the off but I don't like sharing my face so I get it can be hard for some people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never asked, it's always been the guy that's brought it up.

Yeh that's fair, feel like we are on the same page with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its worked for us so far. our profile says it all so i trust they read it. Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I initiate a conversation, I’ll send a pic’.

If not, it’s up to them if they wanna send a pic or not. I don’t ‘demand’ anything.

I know the conversation will probably fizzle out if I don’t see a pic early on though.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I've never asked, it's always been the guy that's brought it up.

You should share it more often.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I never ask for a face pic, I don't really like sending mine I do but its the main reason I'm not that bothered about seeing someone else's face pic early on.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No. I don't do well with demands and I refuse to make them of others. Sometimes there's a bit of an awkward skirting around the face picture chat, that's fine.

I think people are more comfortable with their body than their face sometimes? If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send pics so can understand if they don't want to share theirs. I'd chat for a while and then ask. Always them first though. If they weren't happy with that then oh well.

If they got abusive about me wasting their time I'm happy because it was no time wasted for me meeting an abusive person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't demand a face pic, that's covered by our request for current passport, NI number and the credit check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd not demand a face pic right away but I'd have to establish an attraction if im thinking about meeting someone. I'd definately not meet without seeing who I'm meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t demand anything but I like to swap face pics early on in the conversation to establish if there’s any attraction there. I’ve never had any issues in the past asking for one and I’m more than happy to share mine first if asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t demand but I will ask and not arrange a blind date with anyone. I do believe the etiquette should be that if you ask for a face pic then you should send one first.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

Nah I like to play a little game called, fab blind meet. Where I meet a silhouette and see what happens

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

I don't demand but no face pic no meet. I'm so done with the downlow/discrete lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. But if we do have an inkling we may want to meet for activities then a face picture will happen at some point. Whether that's us sending one and offering them the chance to escape whilst they still can, or asking if they're happy to share face pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people seem to think its there right to demand things like face pics. before you know its the custom of many to think this is right its not. when fab makes it part of the rules then you have the right to move to another site or stay here. Karen

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Personally if someone says 'send face pics' or 'face or no chat' I get put off because I don't like being told what to do haha. And i feel like if they are asking for a pic they should send one first ? Or am I being too petty "

I think you're right. If they fancy you they should send a picture. That might cement the deal!

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

No. If we've been chatting for a bit and they send their own, then we will generally return. Or if we're looking to move toward some sort of in-person meet up then we'll look to swap pictures to confirm attraction. I can't imagine much worse than turning up blind to a meet

LvM

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"I've never asked, it's always been the guy that's brought it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. If we've been chatting for a bit and they send their own, then we will generally return. Or if we're looking to move toward some sort of in-person meet up then we'll look to swap pictures to confirm attraction. I can't imagine much worse than turning up blind to a meet

LvM"

Oh, that's why you kept saying you needed to go to the car but I told you to just wait?

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

" Some people seem to think its there right to demand things like face pics. before you know its the custom of many to think this is right its not. when fab makes it part of the rules then you have the right to move to another site or stay here. Karen"

It is their right, surely, just as it is your right to refuse, and go fuck someone else. There is a weird vibe about this stuff. Can't quite articulate it yet...

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

We don't demand anything from anyone but we do ask to see who we are talking to.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

LvM

Oh, that's why you kept saying you needed to go to the car but I told you to just wait?

I just needed to grab some brown paper bags out of the glove box was all

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t demand but I will ask and not arrange a blind date with anyone. I do believe the etiquette should be that if you ask for a face pic then you should send one first. "

Agree 100% if you ask you should first

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

I will ask for a face pic if there's intention to meet so I know who I'm looking for, I will send face pics as well so they know what I look like, would never want anyone to feel I've catfished them lol

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I have had guys asked for a face pic, which I find odd as they are a few on my profile.

As for receiving a face pic, I look at it if you are serious about meeting up they will send a face picture at some point, if they don't then changes are it just a fantasy chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can i ask one thing is it Fabs policy you must send face pics? Karen

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Send my face in first message. Saves the faff later

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By *oftandgentleMan
over a year ago

South London

If I massage first, I always send a face pic, it's the right thing to do. I expect others to do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never asked, it's always been the guy that's brought it up.

What?

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

"Can i ask one thing is it Fabs policy you must send face pics? Karen"

No it's not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you. Karen

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I've never asked, it's always been the guy that's brought it up.

What?"

Think he wants a face pic

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Thank you. Karen"

Hey. Karen. Please don't get mean. Your every response rings alarm bells for me. I would not meet with you (I don't care if you think I am a disgusting troll or whatever)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So telling the truth is now mean i`ll ask you this is it fabs policy to demand face pics?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

" So telling the truth is now mean i`ll ask you this is it fabs policy to demand face pics?"

No of course its not. that's down to individual choice, if you share a face pic or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your the mean one for saying ask to speak to the female if its a no there fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asking that question and telling people its not fabs policy to demand a pic. Karen

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I don't demand a face pic straight away & will engage with profiles without them,as long as they have some public pics though.

If I hit it off with someone ,I'd expect us to swap a recent face pic sooner rather than later though ,save wasting our time.

I don't chat to blank profiles or meet without swapping a face pic .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What i`m saying is its not fabs policy that gives you the right to demand. Karen

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Allways prefer a face pic before chating yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't demand, we request a face pic from single men in the first message. Savage I know. We send ours immediately when asked. Some men stopped a chat when saw my face lol. Saves time for both parties. Yes , it's shallow but I need to like all of a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it fabs rule that you demand? or are you asking for a face pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you you request a face pic. Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See who is mean i would not meet you . Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very often someone will include a face pic in their first message to me.

If I reply they will be offended that I haven’t responded with a pic in return.

If I’m getting on well with someone I have no issue with exchanging face pics but that certainly won’t happen from the get go.

For me there’s got to be a physical as well as mental attraction so if they’re not willing to

send one it’s not going to go anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't demand anything from anyone.

If someone doesn't want to send fave pics I respect that but I won't meet them

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I think demand is a strong choice of word. I'll ask though as I don't particularly want a blind date.

But if they don't want to swap face pics then that's cool too. I just probably won't meet them. Everyone has got their own reasons, so it's not something to get worked up about.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats all i was saying request is not a deamand. Karen

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Nope. Often dont ask until we are about to meet. But most men send one anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facial attraction is very important to me, no amount of personality is going to make up for a face I don't find attractive. Therefore my profile requests a face pic on first message. If they message something vaguely interesting but without a face pic I do ask for one.

No point wasting either of our times if the attraction is not going to be there.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If someone demands one right off the bat I check out. If I wanted my face available to anybody it already would be.

If someone asks politely after we've been chatting and it feels like there could be something there I'm happy to send one as long as they provide one of their own.

I think the only time I've ever asked is when I was about to head out to meet someone for coffee and realised I should probably know roughly who to look for, as the distinguishing features I would potentially recognise weren't likely to be on show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A request is not a demand plus if someone says no it does not make them fake. Karen

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

Not immediately but if the conversation moves towards meet then we ask for face photos and apply the general rule of who asks for a face photo first has to be the one to send first.

If somebody will not send us a face photo we will not meet them.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

I’d wanna see face pics in the first few messages as I’m publicly out!

When I was new here with the wife Kittydagger, we waited till we were about to meet someone before doing facepics and when we did we were not attracted at all. It was very uncomfortable and unfortunate as the person became a bit abusive.

So now we always get face pics in the first few messages, as do I on my solo account.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

I don't ask for face pics straight away. But I would definitely want them if I felt the conversation was going to go somewhere.

Often I am asked first if they haven't asked I just say "fancy swapping face pics?" If I get a yes then I will send mine first. I would then expect a face pic in return. (Or an end to the conversation if I was not for them).

No one owes me a face pic. But I also don't owe anyone my time. If we don't have overlap in this area I figure we are just not a good match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have it on my single profile to send a face pic with the first message. I hate exchanging messages for weeks and then not even having an attraction when the photo does appear.

I suppose for me it's the difference between a hookup site and a dating one.

Here I want to decide if I want to fuck you, not know your mother's cat's sister's owner's brother's favourite colour.

Face pic first means I can engage with people I'm attracted to, to find out if they're a match, and not waste everyone's time

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you requset or demand?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I demand and expect nothing on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if its not fab policy what gives you the right to demand?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"We don't demand a face pic, that's covered by our request for current passport, NI number and the credit check."

We also include blood group and a DNA sample as well as Bank details.

Just to be sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol thats a good one i`ll give all my details too . Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if its not fab policy what gives you the right to demand?"

People can do what they want.

Don't like then move on to someone else.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I have never asked for a face photo. It's usually attached with the opening message or, through the early stages of nascent messaging, tends to land in my inbox eventually.

For those who enjoy chatting aimlessly without purpose or any 'end game' I treat them with the same contempt they've afforded me.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never once asked for a facepic in almost 8 years here and I rarely if ever share one even when asked.

I've had personal experience of those sharing individuals and chatgroups so will only ever share a facepic if and when I've agreed to meet someone and we need to be able to recognise each other on the day.

It's not needed for general conversation as I don't meet people based on whether or not I think we are going to have sex and need to be physically attracted to one another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Fabs says you must give face pics thats the rule you cant break that rule . no one has the right to demand nothing on this site. this is all down to a few people who say i demand and if you dont do that your fake. you could request a face pic thats in the rules. Karen

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Just doing some surveys.

Do you demand a face pic before engaging in any sort of conversation with someone?

Some people have some people have been fine with chatting to see if there's a connection first and then swap face pics. I can see the merit in both ways just wondering what your thoughts are

I wouldn't chat with someone who had no pics on their profile at all but if I do get into conversation with someone without face pics, I usually ask for one reasonably soon so I'm not wasting anyone's time, although in your case, OP I'd definitely make an exception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't respond to anyone without a face pic generally, sometimes I do but I'll ask for a face pic, if they won't send I stop talking

This because of one guy who has multiple profiles and tried to catch me with one of them deceptively when I wasn't responding to the first. He then told me he has a third.

So I have to make sure it's not him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t demand as such but would want to see one before getting to the meet stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you. Karen

Hey. Karen. Please don't get mean. Your every response rings alarm bells for me. I would not meet with you (I don't care if you think I am a disgusting troll or whatever) "

Why does Karen's response rings alarm bells, I've read the posts but can't see an problem ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone ask Fabs what there ruling is on people demanding face pics that should settle this argument. Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Can someone ask Fabs what there ruling is on people demanding face pics that should settle this argument. Karen"

There isn’t one.

After all the responses, arguing, etc……..folk can demand, the responders choose whether to comply or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which means its not a fab rule so dont demand. Thats what i was saying from the very beginning . Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Can someone ask Fabs what there ruling is on people demanding face pics that should settle this argument. Karen"

There isn't a rule.

People can do what they want.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

" Which means its not a fab rule so dont demand. Thats what i was saying from the very beginning . Karen"

People can make whatever demands they want to.

If people don't want to adhere, they don't have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Can someone ask Fabs what there ruling is on people demanding face pics that should settle this argument. Karen"

If it was a rule to demand then I'll be breaking that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Which means its not a fab rule so dont demand. Thats what i was saying from the very beginning . Karen"

Whether it’s a rule or not is irrelevant. That doesn’t stop anyone from asking/demanding/requesting/whatever you want to call it for anything here.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

In the past, when engaging with someone where clear mutual interest was present, face pics would be exchanged early on.

If there was disappointment on either side, at least it would be early on before any significant investment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not petty at all. I've seen several profiles from women on here that say "will not reply without a facepic" yet have public photos of their own & if they do it's not of their face. I get people might want to remain anonymous until they get to know that person better but why would I share mines instantly just to get to know you?

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

Don't demand but do like one early on.

Saves wasting time chatting to someone you aren't sexually attracted to. I've found having a nice conversation but having to say no thank you further down the line comes across mean. I don't mean offense but I wouldnt fuck anyone I didn't fancy and I wouldn't want to be someone's pity fuck either

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By *iggingMan
over a year ago

Oldham

I like to see face pics...one of my mifs is when someone not showing face pics demand one ..I get people have to root out the fakes or otherwise but if you aren't prepared to show before blocking or ignoring I find rude.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"I like to see face pics...one of my mifs is when someone not showing face pics demand one ..I get people have to root out the fakes or otherwise but if you aren't prepared to show before blocking or ignoring I find rude."

There are very good reasons why someone will want to see a face pic before sending one. Refusal is a red flag for me as it's not only about attraction but also my protection. I know that people can post fake pics but a reverse image search partly helps solve that issue & it helps sort out the weirdos & fantasists. I had a guy that I firmly told 'no' who went on to approach me on 5 or 6 different profiles in the following couple of years. His unwillingness to share a face pic made me suspicious enough to dig deeper & find out who he was...yes, attraction is vital but as a single woman on Fab, so is my safety!

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By *iggingMan
over a year ago

Oldham

I would never refuse sending a face pic just don't get why sometime it's one way..I am not ashamed to show my ugly mug.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I can message for a while without a face picture but I wouldn't meet not knowing what someone looks like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never refuse sending a face pic just don't get why sometime it's one way..I am not ashamed to show my ugly mug."

It will be because you're the person who is messaging first.

If you're messaging me, wanting my attention, then I'd like to see what you look like. If I'm not attracted to you, why would I bother sending one back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My modus operandi..

If I message a lady that interests first I send my mug shot usually first message,

If a lady contacts me first the onus is on her to send first

I'm happy to chat message without exchanging pictures, for meeting in person this ain't blind date

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't demand one... I ask nicely for one. But if they don't, I won't engage with them.

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