FabSwingers.com forum: Dates which are just meh

By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Had a date yesterday, nothing particularly wrong, just meh. Got a third date on Monday with someone else and all I could think of was that it wouldn’t be much more fun!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Why you going on a 3rd date if you aren't looking forward to it?

Mrs

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By *erald 1999Man
over a year ago

carmarthen

Could you not be inventive and make it more fun ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have cut it off by now if it isn't exciting meat all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the spirit!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I would have cut it off by now if it isn't exciting meat all. "

Exciting meat is what's on every girls mind...

But seriously OP, isn't it at least partly YOUR responsibility to make the date exciting?

Couldn't you take her somewhere different, and show here a new experience?

Cal

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?

Did you plant it up?

Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.

You didn't have sex with them (

people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).

I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?

Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You sound jaded

Perhaps cancel the upcoming date as it doesn't sound like it would be much fun for the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh well

There's plenty more fish in the sea

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Why you going on a 3rd date if you aren't looking forward to it?

Mrs "

Different person! Sorry I didn’t explain!

3rd date person is very interesting and on my level!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?

Did you plant it up?

Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.

You didn't have sex with them (

people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).

I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?

Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off."

I didn’t plant it up. 1st date person is very grown up and kinda serious. I didn’t get much flirt feel like I did from L who I’ve had two dates with

Kitty (wife) dates still have that zing maybe I’m just spoiled by her after 2,500 dates

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Did you make a wee typo on the OP and mean that all you could think about was the third date 'would' be much more fun rather than wouldn't?

It can be hard when you know you connect well with someone putting the same into meeting others. Sometimes you just need to take a step back and focus energies on less is more even when the temptation is to try everything at once.

Hope you have a lovely date on Monday

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Did you make a wee typo on the OP and mean that all you could think about was the third date 'would' be much more fun rather than wouldn't?

Hope you have a lovely date on Monday

You know me and typos!

Yep third date person is much more fun!

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"Did you make a wee typo on the OP and mean that all you could think about was the third date 'would' be much more fun rather than wouldn't?

Hope you have a lovely date on Monday

You know me and typos!

Yep third date person is much more fun! "

It's early - I'm surprised I noticed

Sometimes it's hard dating others when you know you have people you really connect and enjoy time with. Probably why I rarely feel like making the effort to make myself look human for someone unless I'm 100% sure it's worth it

But it's learning - I you have a better idea now who you do and do not get on with for future dates!

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Had a date yesterday, nothing particularly wrong, just meh. Got a third date on Monday with someone else and all I could think of was that it wouldn’t be much more fun! "

It takes two to make an effort, just hope the lady in question doesn't read this.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?

Did you plant it up?

Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.

You didn't have sex with them (

people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).

I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?

Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off.

I didn’t plant it up. 1st date person is very grown up and kinda serious. I didn’t get much flirt feel like I did from L who I’ve had two dates with

Kitty (wife) dates still have that zing maybe I’m just spoiled by her after 2,500 dates"

I think comparison can be the thief of joy; to a certain degree you need to take people as they are. Sometimes there's no spark and it's meh and that's fine. It happens. It doesn't mean either of you are in the wrong or bad. It does mean it wasn't for you.

I wouldn't compare closer dynamics/relationships with someone you've just met though. I do think if you're enjoying something a lot, it's okay to not be dating lots of others. Focus your energy where you really want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be horrified if someone I went on a date with made a public thread about how ‘meh’ it was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me a social just means coffee and a chat and I guage a 2nd meet/social from that first meeting.

Bit like a job sounds good on paper in reality would not touch it like a barge pole.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I think its very disrespectful to post about it on here, imagine if she was reading this? I also think it takes two people to make a date 'interesting'....

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Had a date yesterday, nothing particularly wrong, just meh. Got a third date on Monday with someone else and all I could think of was that it wouldn’t be much more fun!

It takes two to make an effort, just hope the lady in question doesn't read this. "

Why? I’ve not said anything terribly bad, just that it was a bit meh?

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?

Did you plant it up?

Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.

You didn't have sex with them (

people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).

I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?

Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off.

I didn’t plant it up. 1st date person is very grown up and kinda serious. I didn’t get much flirt feel like I did from L who I’ve had two dates with

Kitty (wife) dates still have that zing maybe I’m just spoiled by her after 2,500 dates

Very true Meli. In all honesty I think it’s just one of those things where we’re not totally compatible.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a fucker for going on dates for the sake of it. It rarely bares fruit these days, but on the reverse, you never know if there's a shiny shimmery sparkle until you meet someone face to face.

I don't go on third dates if I'm just not fussed though! Are you just bored?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t sound like you’re that interested in anymore dates with either person so in that case I’d not bother wasting their time.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Be nice to have a social date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in doubt ... make sure there are dogs ...

Okay, it gets in the way if you're looking to get things hot and heavy quickly...

But life is always good when there's dogs.

And also, anyone who doesn't like dogs needs to be viewed with suspicion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I'd hate to be whoever you had that date with right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be nice to have a social date

Would it just! While others complain

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God I'd hate to be whoever you had that date with right now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating is fully meh/fake imo - much better when things happen and two (or more!) people get together organically, just walking down the street/shopping. I set myself a dating spree recently - had loads of dates, but left feeling meh at all of them #notforme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a fucker for going on dates for the sake of it. It rarely bares fruit these days, but on the reverse, you never know if there's a shiny shimmery sparkle until you meet someone face to face.

I don't go on third dates if I'm just not fussed though! Are you just bored? "

A lot of people are bored.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Maybe your meh date is thinking the same? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d be horrified if someone I went on a date with made a public thread about how ‘meh’ it was. "

Here here it so rude and disrespectful Op. Good bad and keep your thoughts to yourself, if that was me I be fuming.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’d be horrified if someone I went on a date with made a public thread about how ‘meh’ it was.

Here here it so rude and disrespectful Op. Good bad and keep your thoughts to yourself, if that was me I be fuming. "

I don't think it's rude, and I highly doubt the op would post this post if they were regular forumites. But we all read things in our own viewpoint

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By *rancois Du Bois OP Man
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I’m confused as to why people think this is rude to say it was meh?

I’ve not said anything disparaging or insulting.

And the first post contains a typo, as detailed later in the thread.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

If someone who I went on a date with described it as being meh it wouldn’t really bother me theirs a lot worse things that could have been said .

I would just take it to mean we didn’t click and their was no spark .I’m sure we have been on socials where people have though the same and so have we..

I’m sure it’s probably quite rare to go on 1 date and feel a connection some people just don’t click and other people grow on you after time.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Maybe you bored her in the 1st minute and she decided not to put effort into it?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some people keep to a bland programme of dates, rather than including doing exciting things together and having variety. Show your personality on a date by having it reflect you, not tradition

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