FabSwingers.com forum: Do you believe in fate?

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Destiny or whatever you want to call it.

Do you believe that things happen the way they are supposed to or is everything totally chance ruled by chaos.

I'm not talking about a higher power like God.

But I do believe that the universe decides for us.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'd like to, but it's not working at the moment

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not sure, I kind of don't want to....I've had some terrible things happen in my life and I don't think I can understand in any way that it was ment to be, if it was I must have been Hitler in a past life because I dam well sure didn't deserve it.

But....

There are things that make me question it, things that if that didn't happen then this wouldn't and I wouldn't be where I am now.

I still don't know if I can allow myself to think those awful things happened to me for a reason though because no one is that cruel!

Mrs

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

I believe the beginning and end are pre determined, the rest is for us.

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By *hoc TitanMan
over a year ago

Peterborough/ London

Apparently we all have a plan as why we are here

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think the universe is intrinsically random but you can change where the randomness is likely to fall on occasions. That’s not what I would consider to be fate though - nothing is preordained (apart from Fab threads blowing up

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I believe the beginning and end are pre determined, the rest is for us."

I like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

I believe in what I can control, everything else just happens.

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By *oss25Man
over a year ago

Flitwick and Fakenham

I sort of do but really hope that the decisions we make do actually have an impact on how everything turns out.

Some of my decision choices have had disastrous results others unexpectedly great!

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

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"Nope.

I believe in what I can control, everything else just happens. "

But that's what does my nut in.

Everything else that just happens always has an outcome.

I think I need to go and realign my chakras or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in something more than we can define. Fate idk, deja view I get so strongly sometimes, so that I can predict without fail the next series of events to take place before me. As if I've lived the moment before, or had premonition... But like I say, Idk if its fate, or reality blending with another universe's time line. Or that we live in a cyclical time line that keeps going around and around.

Perhaps the expansion and disputed contraction of the universe over and again is a thing in which time just repeats itself... Who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of yes kind of no. Some things I don’t think you can stop happening or not happening, other things you can definitely influence

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes 100% dave told me we wont win the lottery he was band on. Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch Manifest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is real whoever decided my fate needs a good talking to!

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I don't believe either one or other , our destiny is completely comes from our decisions and by everyone else decisions . Everything is interconnected. What i do believe is who is in power usually have more influence in people's lifes , no matter if politicians , kings , Queens ,boss or alfa friend , is part of life nature , survival.

I don't even know what i'm talking about is all nonsense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until just recently I was in the process of purchasing a house with my now ex. This sale was delay after delay after delay through one thing or another but long story short, those delays saved me from making a huge mistake. I couldnt even imagine the headache if we had exchanged before breaking up and being trapped in that situation. I never believed in the universe interfering but this 100% I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....turn a different corner,we never would have met....

George Michael song..

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think it’s 50/50

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Destiny or whatever you want to call it."

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I think it's destiny when Brucey creates a thread.

I think it's density when it goes down like a lead balloon.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Things happen for a reason, they say there's no such thing as coincidence, events happen or people come onto our lives when we need them.....

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By *rBlue469Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"I believe the beginning and end are pre determined, the rest is for us."

Totally agree. The decision’s we make only determine the now. Can’t change the ending.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Yes have had many things happen over the years

Most recent was last year I was really low one Saturday night as the ex who had moved out a few months prior after saying she was coming back had changed her mind and said she wasn’t. Had no mates available to go out with and didn’t really want to go out and wasn’t going to buy did in the end, met someone who became friends with, a few months later when I thought I just had a really sickness bug she showed up at my house and forced me to go to hospital, when I got there they got me an emergency ambulance and said you were really lucky as body was starting to shut down was having a heart attack and any wouldn’t have had much longer. Had I chose to stay in that night I’d certainly have died on the sitting room floor that day but something told me to go out

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By *appyhippoWoman
over a year ago

coventry

I think everything happens for a reason. Whether it be good or bad. What’s meant to be will be.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I absolutely believe in fate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because whats the point of anything if its all predestined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe the beginning and end are pre determined, the rest is for us."

If the end is predetermined how would you have free will between that and the beginning?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I believe it was fate/destiny meeting C.

I joined FAB and I couldn’t post on forums for 2 weeks. I seen C on the forums on the first day I could post on the forums and messaged her.

C had 3 guys in her stable and 1, who was her ‘local’ guy was wanting a relationship and she didn’t want one, so he walked away.

I sent my message at the right time as any other time/day she’d have not bothered reading it as she was happy with her stable.

She also couldn’t meet her other two guys due to Covid restrictions which meant we just focused on each other.

I mean after chatting then the rest was pretty much down to us connecting but it needed that that spark of fate/luck/destiny to connect us in the first place.

We lived 2 hours away from each other so there’s no way we’d have ever met otherwise.

I think you can also make your own path too - it depends on how much you want it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No. Everything is just random matter floating about in space and time. Sometimes things collide, sometimes they move in parallel, sometimes they move apart. Fundamental rules govern how the particles that make up matter behave, but beyond that, nothing is predestined, nothing is pre planned or set out in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Life is shit enough without anything else intervening

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't think there are magical forces at work that cause predestined stuff to happen

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It's comforting the idea that we are the masters of our destiny, or that it is all predetermined. There's some inherent order.

Doesn't sit right for me. I think we create meaning, because the alternative is just a little too difficult to stomach sometimes: there's no rhyme or reason.

There are moments in life though where it feels like there could be. They can be quite significant and make me wonder. Then I laugh ironically at my self-importance.

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By *rBlue469Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"I believe the beginning and end are pre determined, the rest is for us.

If the end is predetermined how would you have free will between that and the beginning?"

You do have free will between. It comes down to only having 2 answers. Yes or No. Right or Left which we have the choice to do. But no matter what we choose it always ends up being a path to the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Destiny or whatever you want to call it.

Do you believe that things happen the way they are supposed to or is everything totally chance ruled by chaos.

I'm not talking about a higher power like God.

But I do believe that the universe decides for us.

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Karma my relationship has been uncannily weird. To the point of how did this happen. Too many factors attributed to my happiness to not have some weird explanation.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Chaos but we can find meaning and direction in that chaos.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I used to until i realised it was just a way for me to excuse my failure so tried to defy it its better to take life 6 foot at a time in my 6 foot world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's meant for you, won't pass you by.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Destiny or whatever you want to call it.

Do you believe that things happen the way they are supposed to or is everything totally chance ruled by chaos.

I'm not talking about a higher power like God.

But I do believe that the universe decides for us.

No...

I think that stuff happens for absolutely no reason what-so-ever, there's no mystic forces or universal script being played out, life is just a series of outcomes based on the choices we make and those made by everyone that we interact with... Obviously everyone who we interact with is also influenced by the myriad of interactions that influence their lives too.

Cal

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

My yoga teacher in Indonesia, said something once, and it all makes sense for about one second.

She said I’m a caged bird that’s meant to fly , led by the limits that matter has placed on me. So every now and then I shake it off.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I do for sure, you make your bed you lie in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fate is 100% fact, I have so many things that have happened, can not be a coincidence

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Yes have had many things happen over the years

Wow! That is very lucky .. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe fate creates scenarios. But we get the chance to steer them.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The universe move from order to chaos. Believing in the universe is simply not believing in yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts are, we are fated in some ways, for example in who, how and where we are born and the people we meet. Free will is what we do with that, the choices we make and the path we follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the people using example of extreme coincidences as their reason to believe in fate...

7 billion people on this planet, even if it's a 1 in a billion chance that it happens.... it happens to 7 people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For the people using example of extreme coincidences as their reason to believe in fate...

7 billion people on this planet, even if it's a 1 in a billion chance that it happens.... it happens to 7 people "

Those odds are way too low

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Free will vs determinism is a topic I have been thinking a lot about. The science seemed to be confident about determinism until Quantum physics came in and opened up the question again. For me personally, I love the idea of having a choice in my life.

Even if it's an illusion, I enjoy making these choices and see how they turn out. Not a big fan of leaving things to fate.

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

No!

We would have no free will if everything was determined for us. There would be no point in a conscience or sense of right and wrong.

People like Poo-tin (and every other evil person) would have to be forgiven because it’s not their fault, the universe made them do it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"What's meant for you, won't pass you by.

When the silver fish flies along side the tractor of plimsoles you will see and you will know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Free will vs determinism is a topic I have been thinking a lot about. The science seemed to be confident about determinism until Quantum physics came in and opened up the question again. For me personally, I love the idea of having a choice in my life.

Even if it's an illusion, I enjoy making these choices and see how they turn out. Not a big fan of leaving things to fate."

Many branches of science are embracing new theories on how the universe works, such as cosmology and quantum physics. The most recent thoughts are that the universe is composed of 4% matter, 23% dark matter and 73% dark energy but there is much we still don’t understand such as black holes and a host of other cosmic phenomena.

We have a lot to learn

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Even if it's an illusion, I enjoy making these choices and see how they turn out. Not a big fan of leaving things to fate.

We have a lot to learn

Thanks for that. Do you believe in fate ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's meant for you, won't pass you by.

When the silver fish flies along side the tractor of plimsoles you will see and you will know."

Getting this as my next tattoo.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Destiny or whatever you want to call it.

Do you believe that things happen the way they are supposed to or is everything totally chance ruled by chaos.

I'm not talking about a higher power like God.

But I do believe that the universe decides for us.

I believe in both.

FATE = out of my control.

DESTINY = the result of the choices I make.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"What's meant for you, won't pass you by.

When the silver fish flies along side the tractor of plimsoles you will see and you will know.

Getting this as my next tattoo.

Might as well - it sits perfectly amongst the scented candles and psychobabble plaques , not to mention things my mother told me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fate is how people explain away good or bad things that happened to them that they didn’t control for

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Fate is how people explain away good or bad things that happened to them that they didn’t control for "

Yep. It’s up there with karma for me. Tosh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if it's an illusion, I enjoy making these choices and see how they turn out. Not a big fan of leaving things to fate.

We have a lot to learn

Thanks for that. Do you believe in fate ?"

Yes my dear I said further back, we are fated in some ways I.e. our circumstances we are born into but it’s our free wil or choice how we deal with that. You’ve pretty much said that though, smart lady

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

We ARE the universe.

Our arrogance is that we see ourselves as separate from the world , superior and in control. The pathetic attempts of people to fan the flames of 'global warming' speak so clearly.

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By *octor ProdMan
over a year ago

working Overseas

Everything is pure chance, the decisions you make at the time change your path and nothing. Its like coincidences; statiscally a coincidence will happen even if its 100 million to 1 chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We ARE the universe.

Our arrogance is that we see ourselves as separate from the world , superior and in control. The pathetic attempts of people to fan the flames of 'global warming' speak so clearly."

We are all stardust in the cosmic soup, life has existed way way wayyyyyy before humans and will exist way wayyyy after us. The arrogance of man to think he is the only form of intelligent life has a name … hubris - noun (in Greek tragedy) excessive pride towards or defiance of the gods, leading to nemesis. xxx

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

100% belive in fate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"100% belive in fate x"

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fate of what..

Does nature bring fabswingers together..

No people bring themselves together it is not rocket science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DESTINY = the result of the choices I make.

But that would take away the ability to choose. You aren't doing anything other than following the preset routine destiny had set for you. Nothing is your fault ever. Its predetermined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are all fabswingers fated then op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing is destiny in my opinion and world.

We make choices good or bad.

No one dictates or controls me period.

Oh but destiny put us together, what is destiny? Op

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Fate is what life revolves around whether good or bad unexpectedly, pure chance by the decisions people make

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

DESTINY = the result of the choices I make.

But that would take away the ability to choose. You aren't doing anything other than following the preset routine destiny had set for you. Nothing is your fault ever. Its predetermined "

I defined destiny as the choices I make.

Choices 'I' make. Therefore I chose. Therefore there are choices for me to make.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

Exactly this x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

Exactly this x"

So what or who is making those decisions for us all ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Fate is what life revolves around whether good or bad unexpectedly, pure chance by the decisions people make "

I'm with you up until 'pure chance by the decisions people make....

If someone decided to do something then it cannot be 'chance' and certainly not pure chance......... tho i'll accept that decisions followed bring the unexpected with the expected

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed ) "

Not sure I can put me finger on it! But just do! It's like when u start thinking to much! For example if I'd not had my first job where I did would not have met first hubby! Had my oldest 3 kids! Not have my grandkids/great grandkids! All that from just getting a job in a particular place! I see it as what was mapped out for me! Same as everything in my life! The good and the unfortunately bad shit! Enjoy Yr cuppa I'm sitting on balcony in rome over looking the colouseum with my coffee! One of the good moments in fate! X

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Douglas:

Space: what is it? The simple answer is, we don't know. Or at least we didn't know until now. Hello, I'm Douglas Reynholm, and I'm not a scientist, but I do have a better understanding of what space is than any scientist living today. Where did I gain these insights? From this man, the founder of Spaceology. Beth Gaga Shaggy - no relation to Lady Gaga or Shaggy - is the founder of Spaceology, a religion, not a cult. In other words, when it comes to space, he's the man with his head screwed on tight. This is what he told me when I met him on holiday two weeks ago.

Beth Gaga Shaggy:

Space is invisible mind dust, and stars are but wishes.

Douglas:

I mean, think about that! That means every star you can see in the night sky is a wish that has come true. And they've come true because of something he calls Spacestar Ordering. Spacestar Ordering is based on the twin scientific principles of star maths and wishy thinking. If you'd like to know more, there are thousands of Spaceology centres all over the UK. If that doesn't convince you, well, then, maybe you just don't deserve to get what you want

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

Exactly this x

So what or who is making those decisions for us all ?"

Depends in what u belive?

For me god x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no fate but what we make for ourselves…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choices 'I' make. Therefore I chose. Therefore there are choices for me to make.

Thats just outcome. Destiny means predetermined

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Thanks Candy

Rome ..... sigh ..... Did fate choose Rome for you ? And pay for it too ? (serious Q )

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Choices 'I' make. Therefore I chose. Therefore there are choices for me to make.

Thats just outcome. Destiny means predetermined "

Not always. If you take the meaning destiny from a religious stance then you will accept the definition as predetermined.

I don't hold faith and don't believe that there is any God or divine hand in the choices I make.

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Douglas:

Beth Gaga Shaggy:

Space is invisible mind dust, and stars are but wishes.

Douglas:

IT Crowd

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Thanks Candy

Rome ..... sigh ..... Did fate choose Rome for you ? And pay for it too ? (serious Q )

Yes! Via my lovely daughter treating me! But yes deffo fate as someone above said predetermined! X

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I believe in 'Sod' s Law', is that the same thing?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Thanks Candy

Rome ..... sigh ..... Did fate choose Rome for you ? And pay for it too ? (serious Q )

Yes! Via my lovely daughter treating me! But yes deffo fate as someone above said predetermined! X"

BTW! My daughter would wholeheartedly 100% disagree with that! And feel insulted by that! She does not belive in fate or destiny and certainly not God! X

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

So ... recent stabbings are fate? That person was going to die anyway. The person that stabbed them had no choice , it was their destiny, it was written on the stars ? They should take no blame and we can put it down to fate......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get nothing in this group that is fated, fatefull but some think I should be gratefull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always. If you take the meaning destiny from a religious stance then you will accept the definition as predetermined.

I don't hold faith and don't believe that there is any God or divine hand in the choices I make. "

No destiny is specific in that means predetermined, nothing to do with religion.

If you belive there are no divine hands in the choices you make, you don't belive in destiny...

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

Exactly this x

So what or who is making those decisions for us all ?

Depends in what u belive?

For me god x"
Yes and same here, it depends what one believes in too

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Thanks Candy

Rome ..... sigh ..... Did fate choose Rome for you ? And pay for it too ? (serious Q )

Yes! Via my lovely daughter treating me! But yes deffo fate as someone above said predetermined! X

BTW! My daughter would wholeheartedly 100% disagree with that! And feel insulted by that! She does not belive in fate or destiny and certainly not God! X"

I once went to Rome with my daughter. Years ago tho ... By chance and choice tho. Not by fate. She had a row with the new hubby and I filled the gap on the trip they'd booked that she wouldn't let him go on.

They weren't destined to break up either. She had a shit attitude to life and an entitled air about her which led to difficulties....... she made really shitty choices growing up. I don't think God or the universe got them together and gave them a bad time..... She saw , she wanted , she twisted his arm up his back and presto. A marriage went ahead. Quite a beautiful manoeuvre to watch in all it's glory and if God did all that then he was very sick for a good ten years.

Enjoy Rome

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Not always. If you take the meaning destiny from a religious stance then you will accept the definition as predetermined.

I don't hold faith and don't believe that there is any God or divine hand in the choices I make.

No destiny is specific in that means predetermined, nothing to do with religion.

If you belive there are no divine hands in the choices you make, you don't belive in destiny..."

I'm more than happy for you to hold that Western religion based meaning for destiny. It's very different for none believers or those that equate it with karma and human spirituality. There is room for both definitions and more. Much of western dictionaries are based western meanings which are based partially othough not entirely on christianity.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Thanks Candy

Rome ..... sigh ..... Did fate choose Rome for you ? And pay for it too ? (serious Q )

Yes! Via my lovely daughter treating me! But yes deffo fate as someone above said predetermined! X

BTW! My daughter would wholeheartedly 100% disagree with that! And feel insulted by that! She does not belive in fate or destiny and certainly not God! X

Enjoy Rome

I am very much so it's amazing and beautiful! And agree god can b a sicko at times! Shall certainly be having words when I get there over some of the truly horrific shit in mine/loved ones lives! Of to pompeii tomoz!all mapped out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always. If you take the meaning destiny from a religious stance then you will accept the definition as predetermined.

I don't hold faith and don't believe that there is any God or divine hand in the choices I make.

No destiny is specific in that means predetermined, nothing to do with religion.

If you belive there are no divine hands in the choices you make, you don't belive in destiny...

Oh I see so when you read the word destiny you didn't think it was the dictionary definition. It was the version you use specifically. That makes sense

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

No. Ish.

I believe you need to give yourself opportunities to be lucky.

But I don’t believe I’m in a real-life video game.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes. Sometimes no.

I think fate can be incredibly cruel at times, but I also belive some things are just meant to be.

I think we make our own way in this world and that for the most part it isn't predetermined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also destiny is a right arsehole. Really hates African kids

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Fate is what life revolves around whether good or bad unexpectedly, pure chance by the decisions people make

I'm with you up until 'pure chance by the decisions people make....

If someone decided to do something then it cannot be 'chance' and certainly not pure chance......... tho i'll accept that decisions followed bring the unexpected with the expected "

Split decision spur of the moment kinda thing last minute decision, choice not aware of the impact ( fate)

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By *illiam101000Man
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Flying on Friday 13th so I'll see. Lol

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Basically fate rears its ugly head but chances of it being positive picky

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Fate is what life revolves around whether good or bad unexpectedly, pure chance by the decisions people make

I'm with you up until 'pure chance by the decisions people make....

If someone decided to do something then it cannot be 'chance' and certainly not pure chance......... tho i'll accept that decisions followed bring the unexpected with the expected

Split decision spur of the moment kinda thing last minute decision, choice not aware of the impact ( fate)"

decision

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Fate is what life revolves around whether good or bad unexpectedly, pure chance by the decisions people make

I'm with you up until 'pure chance by the decisions people make....

If someone decided to do something then it cannot be 'chance' and certainly not pure chance......... tho i'll accept that decisions followed bring the unexpected with the expected

Split decision spur of the moment kinda thing last minute decision, choice not aware of the impact ( fate)

decision"

Example: inundated messages. Fate by sending a message expecting a reply fate if you get a response

joing a swinging site fate expecting to be full in gunge. Doing a good/bad deed. None is written as you choose to or not choose to change your mind Fate which is at the corner of every decision making

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes I believe in fate it would be easier not to, without understanding...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The results of fate are around us everywhere so yes.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Yeah but that’s just life not fate. I met my husband in a nightclub in 1991. He wrote my number on an empty packet of Rothmans. If he’d have lost that or left it in a cab my life would have been totally different and I wouldn’t have my kids etc. That kind of thing happens to everyone.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"Destiny or whatever you want to call it.

Do you believe that things happen the way they are supposed to or is everything totally chance ruled by chaos.

I'm not talking about a higher power like God.

But I do believe that the universe decides for us.

Yes i think something's will happen in life no matter what or where we are, not sure why

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

No fate...we are but lumps of flesh,if one person doesn't believe in fate then it can't exist for anyone

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

What about people who are born into a blessed life, never know hardship or stress breeze through life.

Whilst others struggle their entire lives go through all kinds of shit.

I guess some people are destined to have it easy whilst others aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The universe is under no obligation to make any sense tho I do wonder sometimes if it's all a simulation

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason (and there’s a positive to every negative) and that people also come in and out of our lives as they’re meant to.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What about people who are born into a blessed life, never know hardship or stress breeze through life.

Whilst others struggle their entire lives go through all kinds of shit.

I guess some people are destined to have it easy whilst others aren't."

It's a life test how one nourishes it wisely/choose not to. The ability to make wise decisions that suddenly the likely hood will be a positive impact. And never bang their big toe by accident by choice thoughtfully done

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"100% belive in fate x

What makes you believe in fate Candyflosssssss ?

(i'm just gonna brew up n bring it back to bed )

Yes fate! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am an atheist but fate is something I do believe in.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"What's meant for you, won't pass you by.

When the silver fish flies along side the tractor of plimsoles you will see and you will know."

No silverfish in this house!! How pleased I am

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

So why do we punish people who do things like murder, r@pe etc? It's pre destined. They can't stop destiny, right?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

So why do we punish people who do things like murder, r@pe etc? It's pre destined. They can't stop destiny, right? "

Because they had to make a decision, how best to provide protection and make a profit from Ill gotten gains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, because in theory it doesn't matter what you choose, or don't, because that is what is destined.

It's kind of cheating really.

And sometimes it's pretty ok to take some decisions off your hands to lighten the load when all options don't appeal.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Yes I do and also that you dont have free will, in the sense that everything you do and say is already decided

So why do we punish people who do things like murder, r@pe etc? It's pre destined. They can't stop destiny, right?

Because they had to make a decision, how best to provide protection and make a profit from Ill gotten gains "

But Shag said there's no free will. If there's no free will and everything is preordained, there are no true decisions, right?

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

The future is not set. There is no fate, but what we make for ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my mind the future is determined by the very nature of it being an unknown, which means no matter what, it is in itself predetermined irrespective of what we do.

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By *myAndScottCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

I do believe in free will, however I think every now and then the universe gives us a little nudge in the right direction.

I've had too many weird things happen in my life that would have me believing there is nothing but chance and luck.

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By *agnar73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

I suppose a certain amount is accepting you’re fucked (yes I did) and getting on with it.

The end is inevitable but you can mess around on the way to it.

Fate is wholly inexorable and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Shag said there's no free will. If there's no free will and everything is preordained, there are no true decisions, right?"

This is where logic fails. They then change the meaning of destiny or fate to match with outcome

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By *odgers and PartingCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yes

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

No, the universe couldn't give a rat's arse and to think otherwise is to vastly (like mind-blowingly so) exaggerate our own importance!

NB: That doesn't mean I'm diminishing human endeavour, in fact it only makes it more fascinating and worthwhile imo.

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By *im RoyleCouple
over a year ago

chester

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