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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

flag. We talk a lot about red flags on here, things that put us off of someone.

What are some of the green flags for you? In whatever capacity - friendship, sex, work or romantic relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who is willing to talk about absolutely anything. I find that if I'm talking to someone whether is about absolute bollocks it means they are engaged with me on some level. May not be sexual but it's a brilliant start. Everything starts with a conversation.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Humour

Communication

Understanding

Acceptance

Open mindedness

Ability to converse on a range of subjects at various levels.

Able to view things from a variety of perspectives.

And fucking loaded with a large cock. Obvs the most important

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook. "

Absolutely this

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook. "

Competence!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Absolutely this

Great minds

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

Simple as someone who is fun to be around I guess

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Both male and female plutonic friends. If someone can have fulfilling relationships and form bonds that isn’t with agenda for getting their privates slobbered on then i think that says a lot.

This goes for women and men.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook. "

Ooft. What a word to make a typo on

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

The first time they really disagree with you.

That moment that proves they're not just vapid empty yes men saying what they think you want to hear. When they explain their point of view without violence or anger or actually trying to change your mind, just that exchange of interpretations and reasoning.

That's my biggest and most favourite green flag

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Ooft. What a word to make a typo on

I was about to start replying but yes. Brilliant. Love these forums. Really do.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"Someone who is willing to talk about absolutely anything. I find that if I'm talking to someone whether is about absolute bollocks it means they are engaged with me on some level. May not be sexual but it's a brilliant start. Everything starts with a conversation."

This for me too, constant sex chat is a huge turn off for me.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Yes! It doesn't mean that you have to divulge your deepest, darkest thoughts/past from day dot, talk frequently but having that open level of conversation, wanting to learn each other? That's a good thing.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

This for me too, constant sex chat is a huge turn off for me."

Should of said on here ^.

In real life humour goes a long way with me I love a good sense of humour whether its in a friendship or relationship capacity.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Ooft. What a word to make a typo on

Oh, ffs. You too?

I expected Meli to pounce on that

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Eager to meet

Eager for good sex

Hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first time they really disagree with you.

That's my biggest and most favourite green flag

I couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first time they really disagree with you.

That's my biggest and most favourite green flag

I couldn't agree more."

Hang on.

This is total fucking bullshit.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"The first time they really disagree with you.

That's my biggest and most favourite green flag

I couldn't agree more.

Hang on.

This is total fucking bullshit."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fab a couples profile with both people in the pictures

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Competence!

Oh, the irony

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Honestly

Loyalty

Respect

Manners

Politeness

Mrs

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Competence!

Oh, the irony

The result of no auto-correct and sausage fingers

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Emotional intelligence is important, along with self-awareness.

I find empathy and compassion very attractive, along with humility and an erotic mind.

Saying all that, a little bit of hubris now and then doesn't hurt.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Competence!

Oh, the irony

The result of no auto-correct and sausage fingers

If you say it how you spelled it it's actually quite funny

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I can break it down to a feeling.

The communication is open and explicit no ulterior motives, no reading you to see what you really mean. Ahhh bliss.

And then there's just that little moment of connection, when you are both lost for words and it doesn't matter. Although that's not always the best in a work environment. Important caveat.

When it's there it's there and then when it's not it's obvious by its absence. How the feelies are handled is when the green flags emerge. If it stays open and it's: ok I've been thinking/feeling and I need to ask you X. It's yay time. If it descends into games it's sads times.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook. "

I'm not going to jump on it again. It's good to see you back for the shits and giggles though.

I do think positivity attracts positivity to a certain extent. Yeah, I like this list. Not just for your inability to show competence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour.

Sarcasm.

Not posting "oh I love Tuesdays" on the TOT thread.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

I'm not going to jump on it again. It's good to see you back for the shits and giggles though.

I do think positivity attracts positivity to a certain extent. Yeah, I like this list. Not just for your inability to show competence.

The competenfe thing might catch on

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

A sharp sense of humour. Intelligence - both emotional & wit. Kindness. Empathy. A quiet confidence. Not completely giving in to my bullshit (probably. Mostly)

And the undefinable thing. That gets you in the belly and you know you’re going to have an absolute blast together, but that you are 100% safe.

And nice shoes. Nice shoes are always good.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Thoughtfulness

Kindness

A love of dancing

Well placed sarcasm

Immaculate lipstick

Considered choice of shoes

Individuality in fashion

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Humour

Communication

Understanding

Acceptance

Open mindedness

Ability to converse on a range of subjects at various levels.

Able to view things from a variety of perspectives.

And fucking loaded with a large cock. Obvs the most important "

You're such a scamp Granny. Viewing things from a variety of perspectives is underappreciated. Sometimes we (not you) can get lost in how we perceive things to be, listening to one source and we don't even consider alternative perspectives.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Outgoing personality types. I’m shy and quiet usually so I like a chatty Cathy, but one that knows when to shut up. They don’t have to be the life of the party, just outgoing (ish) with me.

I like humour.

Independence. I don’t do clingy.

Outdoorsy.

Good with their hands (be it DIY, art or whatever)

Patient

Loyal (particularly their cock and their heart)

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Both male and female plutonic friends. If someone can have fulfilling relationships and form bonds that isn’t with agenda for getting their privates slobbered on then i think that says a lot.

This goes for women and men.

Yes! Why are people so rotten at accepting that you just want a platonic friendship? It's really crap. Friendship is great, it shouldn't be conditional based on you bumping uglies.

I like people who are able to have meaningful platonic friendships without getting the hump that holes to service them won't be on offer.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

A pulse.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

A little confidence and a big smile. Preferably aimed at me. (The smile, I mean.)

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Honesty.

Sense of humour

Confidence without a massive ego.

Respect boundries.

They can chat about a range of topic's and not all about sex.

They are interested in me as a person .

Positive outlook on life.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"flag. We talk a lot about red flags on here, things that put us off of someone.

What are some of the green flags for you? In whatever capacity - friendship, sex, work or romantic relationships. "

Anything that indicates that their morals and attitudes are in the right place.

A Cis straight person saying thing in support of trans rights etc. for example

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Honesty.

Humility

Dependable

Thought for others.

Sarcastic Humour

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"A pulse."

Oh and a cracking pair of norks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A really bad relationship with their father

Makes for wild times ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'll be waving a green flag when we win the Rugby World Cup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We'll be waving a green flag when we win the Rugby World Cup

COYBIG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication and consistency.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Communication and consistency."

Yes. It's an even more vivid hue of green after being in a relationship where both were lacking. Is that a bad thing? I can't tell. I guess it's positive if you're more aware of what you do want rather than focusing on what you absolutely don't want.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"flag. We talk a lot about red flags on here, things that put us off of someone.

What are some of the green flags for you? In whatever capacity - friendship, sex, work or romantic relationships.

Anything that indicates that their morals and attitudes are in the right place.

A Cis straight person saying thing in support of trans rights etc. for example "

Ah. An alignment of your views is really important. You want people you can talk to, have things in common with. Not be thinking in your head this person is a massive 'phobe, why am I here?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Ooft. What a word to make a typo on

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Ah, but Míss Hånts, did ·you· really mean to say plutonic ? (sic)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Green gauging

Has a pulse

Has wit

Humour

Nothing pretence is a realist

Reads a profile and engages in a long message about my profile. Not oi love wanna fuck..

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.

Ooft. What a word to make a typo on

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Ah, but Míss Hånts, did ·you· really mean to say plutonic ? (sic)

Keen eye here!

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Liking cats. I'm not owned by a cat, but liking them shows respect for boundaries, independence, and engaging with someone on their terms rather than attempting to dominate them - all things cats demand.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Liking cats. I'm not owned by a cat, but liking them shows respect for boundaries, independence, and engaging with someone on their terms rather than attempting to dominate them - all things cats demand."

I can’t stand cats. Does that say something about me then

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I can’t stand cats. Does that say something about me then

Yes. It says you and I will get along just fine.

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

Chemistry….. whatever that may be. You can’t force it, it’s either there or it isn’t.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I can’t stand cats. Does that say something about me then

Yes. It says you and I will get along just fine.

As long as you don’t mind me not respecting your boundaries though

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"As long as you don’t mind me not respecting your boundaries though

Promises promises!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Actions that match words.

And the "I saw this and thought of you" wether it be a meme or gift, it's the little things that often mean the most.

Equal amounts of effort made.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Being able to disagree with them, without it causing serious blooming drama. I don't need to think like you to be friends with you. It's not that complicated a concept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might sound odd, but someone who supports the decisions I make or if they don't agree, questions them in a kind way. I suffer from a lot of indecision as a result of wanting to please people so someone who does that would be a real comfort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They respect me and my boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They say thank you when they get off the bus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are loud in their support for you.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Someone who is not massively arsed as to how they come across in their profile, doesn't take themselves and others too seriously, isn't after constant adoration and validation, can laugh at themselves, is light hearted and fun to be around.

Mmmm narrowed that down quite a bit. I'm fucked.

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