FabSwingers.com forum: ok so this is the crack......

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

rite i've been having regular meets with a local guy, and he is lovely, i've had a lot 1st with him and the other day he told me he had a date!!! as in a potential gf date which i was gutted about however i think i hid my feelings well, so i now know things between us will always be for sex and nothing more, so last night a guy got back in touch with me that i haven't spoke to in ages and i've told my regular about it and he's read my message and not replied???? whats all that about??? do i assume he doesnt like the fact im so happy to have the other back in my life?? or is it that he really doesnt care??? advice please guys xx

p.s i know my grammer and spelling are crap xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

why did you tell him? if he is meeting other women for dates i would assume he just sees you as nsa otherwise he would be asking you on a date

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I would suggest an honest and open conversation about where you stand might do both of you the world of good. Relationships in my experience are often complicated because one or both parties make assumptions about the other person and their motives... An honest adult to adult talk might help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"rite i've been having regular meets with a local guy, and he is lovely, i've had a lot 1st with him and the other day he told me he had a date!!! as in a potential gf date which i was gutted about however i think i hid my feelings well, so i now know things between us will always be for sex and nothing more, so last night a guy got back in touch with me that i haven't spoke to in ages and i've told my regular about it and he's read my message and not replied???? whats all that about??? do i assume he doesnt like the fact im so happy to have the other back in my life?? or is it that he really doesnt care??? advice please guys xx

p.s i know my grammer and spelling are crap xx

Erm unfortunately men don't like to talk, I have the same issue with my fb, tells me he enjoys my company but can't commit... Yet gets jealous of normal dates or if he knows I have a private meet... So all I can say is good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why did you tell him? if he is meeting other women for dates i would assume he just sees you as nsa otherwise he would be asking you on a date"

he asked what my status was all about, so i told him, never thought of it like that but its a very fair and vaild point thanx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you needed to tell him ut at least you have been honest.

If he wanted more he would say so,and he may be one of these guys that wants to have his cake and eat it,wants to be dating but have regular sex also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So one of your regular meets is having a normal vanilla date, and you had to hide your feelings?

You have told your regular meet that your going to meet other meets, and he hasn't answered your messages!

Reckon he just sees you as a NSA regular meet, why would he want to know that your meeting others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would suggest an honest and open conversation about where you stand might do both of you the world of good. Relationships in my experience are often complicated because one or both parties make assumptions about the other person and their motives... An honest adult to adult talk might help? "

Agreed but if he won't talk to you then I suggest you either accept it as it is or just move on with your life.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I could be completely off the mark here and I appologise in advance if I am .. however how I read this is that you engaged, as alot of us do, on this site with the intention of having NSA sex, however, one particular guy has connected in a way with you that you had never anticipated happening .. you feel a fondness towards him that you hadnt anticipated happening either and wonder if he feels the same ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i know i've kinda gotten attached to this guy but i've learnt to suppress those feelings, esp now as i know hes looking for dates etc

i think you guys are right and a little adult chat cant hurt xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could be completely off the mark here and I appologise in advance if I am .. however how I read this is that you engaged, as alot of us do, on this site with the intention of having NSA sex, however, one particular guy has connected in a way with you that you had never anticipated happening .. you feel a fondness towards him that you hadnt anticipated happening either and wonder if he feels the same ?"

yeah xx

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I guess as a single its a bit harder but we always take every situation here as NSA and make sure there is no emotional attachment to anyone we play with.

Its a big potential mistake with a site like this.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Agreed but if he won't talk to you then I suggest you either accept it as it is or just move on with your life.

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Absolutely - you can only ever invite another person to talk/listen - if they are not ready or able then that is what you have to accept and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I guess as a single its a bit harder but we always take every situation here as NSA and make sure there is no emotional attachment to anyone we play with.

Its a big potential mistake with a site like this.

yeah i know what you mean and wasn't my intention for this to happen and its the only guy i've met its happened with xx

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Totally agree, the same happened with me, I'm married, but had very regular meets with a guy off here, we got very close, but he got very jealous if I had other meets or went to clubs.

He's now left the site, after all what happened. We went into it with no expectations, but you can't help feelings, it's hard when it takes you by surprise x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i dont want to appear to come across as insensitive but i just had a peek at your profile and you got 4 veris in the last two months so you must have had 4 different dates yourself how does your regular guy think about that

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By *uttyMan
over a year ago

Local to you maybe

Been there got the t shirt

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

p.s i know my grammer and spelling are crap xx

He met you on NSA terms. He doesn't see you as GF material.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe the guy doesn't know what to say. Or has a conflict of emotions. Or doesn't think or know you like him more than just NSA sex....so I think you will have to talk to him. Don't get jealous though or sad for too long if it turns out not the way you wanted. Bear in mind men on the whole are not too good at talking things through as well as you might be.

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By *li87Man
over a year ago

Manchester/Kendal

Have you thought of playing as a couple? If you surgest? It's like a little hint that you see him more than just a fb and maybe you wanna be with him.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

p.s i know my grammer and spelling are crap xx

He met you on NSA terms. He doesn't see you as GF material. "
That was my initial impression as well. Just thought it might be an idea to actually ask him so it is on both their radar as NSA?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanx guys for your advice and help on this its very much appreciated

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

its like politics this .. you set off on the road saying that you want NSA sex .. however a few years down the line and you find that you have an affinity with someone that you met for NSA sex .. people will hang you out to dry for changing your mind but people do change and there is nothing wrong with that in my opinion

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"its like politics this .. you set off on the road saying that you want NSA sex .. however a few years down the line and you find that you have an affinity with someone that you met for NSA sex .. people will hang you out to dry for changing your mind but people do change and there is nothing wrong with that in my opinion "
Absolutely agree...even if you set out with one goal, life, people, emotions are not as simple as that. People also have a right to change, to change their mind - of course sometimes that means disappointment but yes, I agree!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Have you thought of playing as a couple? If you surgest? It's like a little hint that you see him more than just a fb and maybe you wanna be with him. "

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

think youre doing it right - you know one guy who has done lots with you. Another old friend who want nothing more than nsa .. your current is looking around so why shouldnt you.

Unless you want a relationship with the new guy (and he does you) then I wouldnt let it get to you.

Its a case of he can look but you cant?? doesnt sound right that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"think youre doing it right - you know one guy who has done lots with you. Another old friend who want nothing more than nsa .. your current is looking around so why shouldnt you.

Unless you want a relationship with the new guy (and he does you) then I wouldnt let it get to you.

Its a case of he can look but you cant?? doesnt sound right that"

well thats the feeling im getting to be honest, double standards not fair is it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationships in my experience are often complicated because one or both parties make assumptions about the other person and their motives... An honest adult to adult talk might help? "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy is looking for a relationship and it does seem like he doesn't see you as a girlfriend, but its understandable that you will feel a little sensitive over this, especially if you've met regularly, or maybe gone out to clubs etc. A friendship develops, regardless of romantic feelings and if the guy meets someone, that friendship will probably also end. It is sad when people leave our lives, in whatever circumstances. Many of us are not hard hearted.

It seems like you know the answers, it takes a little while for the total acceptance to kick in. I would say don't think of trying to make the guy jealous by putting up statuses about other men or if you've decided on a meet etc, I'm not suggesting you are, but that's when things can potentially get a little bitchy and that will be more hurtful in the end.

Nows the time to just gently and slowly move on, talk to more people, don't be rash and meet guys looking for a replacement, try and come to terms with the ending of such a regular meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know i've kinda gotten attached to this guy but i've learnt to suppress those feelings, esp now as i know hes looking for dates etc

i think you guys are right and a little adult chat cant hurt xx"

But you haven't suppressed them have you. You told him about your old fb to make him jealous and trigger a response from him, but he hasn't said anything and that's pissed you off even more.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I thought I understood until I looked at your profile.

He may be a regular meet but you have by NO means been exclusive to him as your SIX verifications in two months testify.

Nothing wrong with ANY of that.

BUT

Trying to say he is NOW not happy with you meeting just doesn't ring true.

I really think the boot is on the other foot and YOU don't like HIM meeting someone else.

Nothing wrong with that either , feelings happen.

If you want him exclusively to yourself you are going to have to let him know.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"i know i've kinda gotten attached to this guy but i've learnt to suppress those feelings, esp now as i know hes looking for dates etc

i think you guys are right and a little adult chat cant hurt xx

But you haven't suppressed them have you. You told him about your old fb to make him jealous and trigger a response from him, but he hasn't said anything and that's pissed you off even more."

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"i know i've kinda gotten attached to this guy but i've learnt to suppress those feelings, esp now as i know hes looking for dates etc

i think you guys are right and a little adult chat cant hurt xx

But you haven't suppressed them have you. You told him about your old fb to make him jealous and trigger a response from him, but he hasn't said anything and that's pissed you off even more."

I wish you'd stop wearing a womans body I never know it's you.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Confused of Devon here....

The Op seems to have enjoyed several recent meets, but the regular guy is all of a sudden unhappy about the latest one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know i've kinda gotten attached to this guy but i've learnt to suppress those feelings, esp now as i know hes looking for dates etc

i think you guys are right and a little adult chat cant hurt xx

But you haven't suppressed them have you. You told him about your old fb to make him jealous and trigger a response from him, but he hasn't said anything and that's pissed you off even more.

I wish you'd stop wearing a womans body I never know it's you."

I put her photo up cos I don't really wanna look at my own cock. I see the bloody thing 10 times a day when I go for a piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confused of Devon here....

The Op seems to have enjoyed several recent meets, but the regular guy is all of a sudden unhappy about the latest one?"

Think the latest one is a date and not a meet?.....confused of Dundee

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Confused of Devon here....

The Op seems to have enjoyed several recent meets, but the regular guy is all of a sudden unhappy about the latest one?"

Dear Confused,

I said that too. Less succinctly as is my wont but I sedded it.

Yours recoveringly,

Granny of Liverpool

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Confused of Devon here....

The Op seems to have enjoyed several recent meets, but the regular guy is all of a sudden unhappy about the latest one?

Dear Confused,

I said that too. Less succinctly as is my wont but I sedded it.

Yours recoveringly,

Granny of Liverpool"

Dear recovering ill person....I rarely read the replies of the riff raff before posting....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Confused of Devon here....

The Op seems to have enjoyed several recent meets, but the regular guy is all of a sudden unhappy about the latest one?

Think the latest one is a date and not a meet?.....confused of Dundee

Dear Dundee

( nice cherries and nuts ) xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Confused of Devon here....

The Op seems to have enjoyed several recent meets, but the regular guy is all of a sudden unhappy about the latest one?

Dear Confused,

I said that too. Less succinctly as is my wont but I sedded it.

Yours recoveringly,

Granny of Liverpool

Dear recovering ill person....I rarely read the replies of the riff raff before posting....

Dear Confused,

Please be aware that laughing loudly is not advisable for invalids however it was unavoidable under these circumstances.

Regards Granny RiffRaff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell him get it of your chest ..... be true to youself.Be brave a do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

sounds like the craic to me.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"sounds like the craic to me."

No she meant 'The Crack'....she was looking down at the time when she typed it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

p.s i know my grammer and spelling are crap xx

This is the problem with fbs. You get to the point where feelings develop and you get jealous

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