FabSwingers.com forum: Love languages

By *tanley Funseeker OP Man
over a year ago

stanley

As a bit of an old codger love languages are a new one on me.

So what are they and do you have one?

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By *iz78Woman
over a year ago

wirral

Touch ie holding hands stroking of skin or hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the little things people in love do, whether physical touching, acts, words. Specific to the couple in sone ways, universal in others.

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

I too am old,although my understanding of love language is a person's preference on giving and receiving love.

Therefore mine would be acts, as i love cooking/feeding for the ones I love.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Yeah..

Receiving I'm tactile and like a lot of touch and sex. I also love quality time.

Giving.. I'm good on words of affirmation, touch and dedicated time. I like to give little gifts and surprises too but more in the way of hidden notes and cute thoughtful stuff rather than grand material things.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Basically, whatever you like, that's your "love language". Saved you having to buy the book!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the quiz online to find out!

They are.....

Words of affirmation

Physical touch

Gifts

Quality time

Acts of service.

I'm predominantly two of them but don't fancy giving away which two. But everyone has a different spread of them.

Really interesting and was used in sex therapy when I had to go. It really does help see your partner's well.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

If their boobs are in my face, they're interested

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I'm mainly quality time and physical touch. Words are powerful too but they can become unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm mainly quality time and physical touch. Words are powerful too but they can become unnecessary."

Now that surprised me.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I very much disregarded it all as hogwash the first time someone tried to explain it to me, but the more I paid attention, the more I saw it very much applies and simplifies how individuals express and expect love, and why what some people do out of love are not always "received" or accepted as love.

It would appear that mine and my Husband's are at opposite ends of the spectrum; - Mine are quality time, acts of service and gifts, whereas his are words of affirmation and physical touch.

So he doesn't feel loved if I'm not fucking him, but I don't feel loved and don't want to fuck him if he's not doing shit around the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality time is mine, I now realise its something you shouldn't have to beg for in a relationship.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I very much disregarded it all as hogwash the first time someone tried to explain it to me, but the more I paid attention, the more I saw it very much applies and simplifies how individuals express and expect love, and why what some people do out of love are not always "received" or accepted as love.

It would appear that mine and my Husband's are at opposite ends of the spectrum; - Mine are quality time, acts of service and gifts, whereas his are words of affirmation and physical touch.

So he doesn't feel loved if I'm not fucking him, but I don't feel loved and don't want to fuck him if he's not doing shit around the house.

But isn’t love doing the things you don't want to do ? I hate washing the pots but I’ll do them for someone I care about without being asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical touch and secondary was quality time. I'm a very affectionate person. I think I'd struggle being with anyone for whom gifts is the primary love language, for multiple reasons.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I'm mainly quality time and physical touch. Words are powerful too but they can become unnecessary.

Now that surprised me."

Now I'm intrigued as to why.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

It would appear that mine and my Husband's are at opposite ends of the spectrum; - Mine are quality time, acts of service and gifts, whereas his are words of affirmation and physical touch.

So he doesn't feel loved if I'm not fucking him, but I don't feel loved and don't want to fuck him if he's not doing shit around the house.

But isn’t love doing the things you don't want to do ? I hate washing the pots but I’ll do them for someone I care about without being asked "

It's not that I don't want to fuck, it is just not how I express my love nor how I want it expressed to me.

I do enjoy non-sexual cuddles and touching without the expectation of sex but I, personally, feel LOVED and APPRECIATED and therefore more attracted to him MORE if he does those things around the house without being asked.

I like quality time but being touchy-feely doesn't make me feel loved and nor is it how I express mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I do think our love languages are affected by our experiences as well. For example, I had an ex who used words of affirmation and was physically affectionate all the time, but he was a lazy P.O.S and who wouldn't lift a finger for anyone, made me buy my own gifts and arrange everything when it came to dates/experiences together and I practically had to beg him to spend time with me, so... Y'know, I blame him.

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