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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am so afraid to go to a club on my own is this a common feeling

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Don't be afraid embrace the moment and keep your head up and be confident...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Whats the worst that can happen and if you dont want to go on your own wait until there is an organized party and put your name down

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By *asey369Woman
over a year ago

London

Yes it is common - I have been exactly the same. I have used the forums to ask people what to expect, wear etc and plan to go with a friend so I have someone to chat to if I feel initially shy and / or out of my depth.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"I am so afraid to go to a club on my own is this a common feeling "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not start with one of the socials off this site.

You know what the people are all about and if you have been talking to some of them or following them in the forums, then you won't feel so strange.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The 10th of feb was ment to go but could not get there due to lack of transport and as it happened my son moved in that day lol but I want to go but afraid to go on my own. I do want to meet the people I have spoken too on here as everyone has been most welcoming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why not start with one of the socials off this site.

You know what the people are all about and if you have been talking to some of them or following them in the forums, then you won't feel so strange.

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Going to try one. Think that is an great idea

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol


"Don't be afraid embrace the moment and keep your head up and be confident... "

nice new avatar !

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I am so afraid to go to a club on my own is this a common feeling "

if you can go in to a pub alone you'll be ok in a club - if not i'd not bother, just mingle and chat and don't expect anything just because you've paid - relax - they're usually full of friendly people! Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am so afraid to go to a club on my own is this a common feeling

if you can go in to a pub alone you'll be ok in a club - if not i'd not bother, just mingle and chat and don't expect anything just because you've paid - relax - they're usually full of friendly people! Z"
ok that's cool yes I can walk in a pub on my own. Thanks Zoe xx

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I am so afraid to go to a club on my own is this a common feeling "
I think most people who go on their own, especially first time round, will suffer with some nerves. Some are just better at hiding it. I feel a bit sorry for single guys on this one because women (well many of us) like men to be confident so it is a bit of a double whammy.

I d say think of worst case scenario, what is the worst that can happen? Perhpas that you dont get to meet or play! Nothing worse can happen really. and that most guys would feel similar.

Then get your nicest after shave out and go, walking tall Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes it is common - I have been exactly the same. I have used the forums to ask people what to expect, wear etc and plan to go with a friend so I have someone to chat to if I feel initially shy and / or out of my depth."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am so afraid to go to a club on my own is this a common feeling I think most people who go on their own, especially first time round, will suffer with some nerves. Some are just better at hiding it. I feel a bit sorry for single guys on this one because women (well many of us) like men to be confident so it is a bit of a double whammy.

I d say think of worst case scenario, what is the worst that can happen? Perhpas that you dont get to meet or play! Nothing worse can happen really. and that most guys would feel similar.

Then get your nicest after shave out and go, walking tall Good luck xx"

Aw thank you I have bags of confidence normally. I have been to chams before but both times I had the pleasure of company. Just a bit apprehensive going on my own lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wanna try a club but im afraid too, as i also would be be going on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd recommend that you go on a night for couples and single ladies only as it will be less intimidating. I was scared shitless my first time!!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Don't be afraid embrace the moment and keep your head up and be confident...

nice new avatar ! "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd recommend that you go on a night for couples and single ladies only as it will be less intimidating. I was scared shitless my first time!!!"

yeah someone else said that too, ive heard they let limited guys in too, is that rite?? xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i wanna try a club but im afraid too, as i also would be be going on my own "

Meet you there we could go in together lead each other by the hand lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd recommend that you go on a night for couples and single ladies only as it will be less intimidating. I was scared shitless my first time!!!"

Pssst.... We all know Van shaves his legs.... But he wouldn't get into a couple's and single ladies night....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wanna try a club but im afraid too, as i also would be be going on my own

Meet you there we could go in together lead each other by the hand lol "

sounds like a plan

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i wanna try a club but im afraid too, as i also would be be going on my own

Meet you there we could go in together lead each other by the hand lol

sounds like a plan "

Cool so when and where we going lol xx

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