FabSwingers.com forum: 18-99

By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

As age seems to be a popular topic this morning...how do people feel about a profile that says willing to meet 18 - 99...? Do you consider it to be a lack of effort or a red flag ??...?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Both really.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We see it as people not being hung up on age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Yeah I used to have that on my profile as I’m not hung up on age but I got feedback saying it shows as lack of effort and should change it so I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inclusive.

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By *oungcoup69Couple
over a year ago

hidden garden

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though "

Exactly this! It's more about attraction rather than being hung up on age! There are some very attractive people in the higher end of the age bracket

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"We see it as people not being hung up on age. "

I get that..

however my last two friends requests have been sent by a 19 year old and a 22 year old, both females who live over a hundred miles away..as flattered as I am I still see red flags...am I overthinking ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a sign we won't get along really

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We see it as people not being hung up on age.

I get that..

No I don't believe you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We see it as people not being hung up on age.

I get that..

I don’t accept friend requests off anyone o haven’t been speaking to or have an intention to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As age seems to be a popular topic this morning...how do people feel about a profile that says willing to meet 18 - 99...? Do you consider it to be a lack of effort or a red flag ??...? "

Some people think age is just a number, others are insecure, don’t let it effect your choices

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"We see it as people not being hung up on age.

I get that..

Yes. You probably are. It's unlikely that those women are serious about meeting up. Much too young for me but also important to bear in mind that noone on here is quite what they seem or claim to be. Apart from me, of course...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We see it as people not being hung up on age.

I get that..

. That is so true.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I have mixed feelings about as it can depend upon the rest of the profile generally, if the person has put effort into writing their profile then I would say they are either inclusive or don't care about age, if the profile is basically blank then they really don't care because they are looking for anything they can get or are lazy and don't think a profile matters

But that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don’t give a fuck ngl.

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By *azzler2Man
over a year ago

halifax

It up to the couple or individual who they want to see age range is just a guide I have had couple send me messages then I find I am unable to replay as outside there age limit for me I have no problem witjy any age I am here for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they had a veri from a 99 year old we would be impressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think anything of it. How it equates to lazy or a red flag, I do not know. I think id maybe need to look at my own thinking if something as simple as leaving a default setting in place got my guard up.

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"I have mixed feelings about as it can depend upon the rest of the profile generally, if the person has put effort into writing their profile then I would say they are either inclusive or don't care about age, if the profile is basically blank then they really don't care because they are looking for anything they can get or are lazy and don't think a profile matters

But that's just me "

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By *ohnboy64Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think anything of it. How it equates to lazy or a red flag, I do not know. I think id maybe need to look at my own thinking if something as simple as leaving a default setting in place got my guard up."

I was just about to say the exact same thing. I leave my age range at 18-99 so it excludes nobody from messaging me. How does that make me lazy, equate to me making no effort (given the rest of my profile), or put up a red flag?

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

To clarify..both the profiles were very short on detail...I promise I won't let it spoil my day..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are."

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99. "

We could be friends!

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though "

It makes you wonder if there is one though at that age. It is a fascinating world

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99.

We could be friends!

We could

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though

It makes you wonder if there is one though at that age. It is a fascinating world

I think if there isn't already there will be soon. People are living longer and the desire for close contact with other humans never goes away even though it seems widely assumed that it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both really."

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though

It makes you wonder if there is one though at that age. It is a fascinating world

I think if there isn't already there will be soon. People are living longer and the desire for close contact with other humans never goes away even though it seems widely assumed that it does"

I am sure you are right. And why not indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To clarify..both the profiles were very short on detail...I promise I won't let it spoil my day..

I'm not sure why you would let it spoil your day....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99.

We could be friends!

We could

When you go to that Italian place again!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though

It makes you wonder if there is one though at that age. It is a fascinating world

I think if there isn't already there will be soon. People are living longer and the desire for close contact with other humans never goes away even though it seems widely assumed that it does

I am sure you are right. And why not indeed

I think the main barrier for very elderly people currently is lack of ability to use the internet. I'm not sure if my dad (96) would use fab but he did express an interest in 'getting a woman off the internet'. He does use the net but only for basic things like banking and Facebook messenger etc. I dread to think of him let loose on a dating site

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99.

We could be friends!

We could

When you go to that Italian place again! "

Oh! You remember that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99.

We could be friends!

We could

When you go to that Italian place again!

Oh! You remember that?

I have an annoying memory.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"There's lovely people of all ages on here, doesn't matter how old they are.

There are and if this was a site that people used for socialising only we'd have our age range set at 18 to 99.

We could be friends!

We could

When you go to that Italian place again!

Oh! You remember that?

I have an annoying memory. "

Me too.

This place is very far from cool. Probably why we fit in

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though "

Hang around I will let you know

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"As age seems to be a popular topic this morning...how do people feel about a profile that says willing to meet 18 - 99...? Do you consider it to be a lack of effort or a red flag ??...? "

Their very inclusive and not ageist

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport Hotel

I'd consider it potentially more lazy for someone to set an age range and not update it as they themselves get older, unless they genuinely won't meet people outside of that age range.

How many people update their profile periodically?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We see it as people who are willing to meet from a wide age range. Probably nobody is really going to meet someone of 96 or 97 though

Hang around I will let you know

we're not far behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As age seems to be a popular topic this morning...how do people feel about a profile that says willing to meet 18 - 99...? Do you consider it to be a lack of effort or a red flag ??...? "

To queue Connor mcgregor “I couldn’t give a f&@k”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I said both as I see it this way. You fill in the forms for your details for your profile and it's just another part of the form, I get that leaving it at 18-99 allows the inbox to be wide open and that's the individuals choice, but (I will get a bashing) realistically, it could be changed to 98, 97, 96 etc to show its at least been looked at

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's most often due to lack of attention, especially where age isn't a priority preference. They'll struggle meeting many 99 years old people, more than the average single men do

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Why is it a red flag?

Yeah 99 is a bit ridiculous, but if someone has a nicely written, active and photo'd profile, why would be casting a wide net be an issue?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Dont see it as either tbh! Never given it a thought! X

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Why is it a red flag?

Yeah 99 is a bit ridiculous, but if someone has a nicely written, active and photo'd profile, why would be casting a wide net be an issue? "

Wait, what? So no one 98-99 on here... damn it!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I said both as I see it this way. You fill in the forms for your details for your profile and it's just another part of the form, I get that leaving it at 18-99 allows the inbox to be wide open and that's the individuals choice, but (I will get a bashing) realistically, it could be changed to 98, 97, 96 etc to show its at least been looked at"

Or it could be thought that 98, 97, 96 etc. means they will actually meet people of those ages.

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By *hatBeardedChapMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Lol I mean going up to 90s is a bit daft..poor lass will have her pelvis turned to dust after couple thrusts

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I have received replies to some of my messages telling me that I am far too old for them, I check their profile and lo and behold they seek people between 18 - 99.

I am only 83 so well inside their age parameters.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

"Why is it a red flag?

Yeah 99 is a bit ridiculous, but if someone has a nicely written, active and photo'd profile, why would be casting a wide net be an issue?

Wait, what? So no one 98-99 on here... damn it!

I look it today if that interests you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or it could be thought that 98, 97, 96 etc. means they will actually meet people of those ages. "

I've just done a 1500 mile search of profiles aged between 90 to 99 and the majority are wind ups, fakes but interestingly, couples that have the incorrect age for themselves and clearly are using the site to have lots of fun, is that the magic answer lol falsify ages to have double the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have received replies to some of my messages telling me that I am far too old for them, I check their profile and lo and behold they seek people between 18 - 99.

I am only 83 so well inside their age parameters.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It’s depends on the person and if I’m attracted to them. The only “18”year olds on here that have messaged me have been scammers.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Why is it a red flag?

Yeah 99 is a bit ridiculous, but if someone has a nicely written, active and photo'd profile, why would be casting a wide net be an issue?

Wait, what? So no one 98-99 on here... damn it!

I look it today if that interests you

Haha you might be called on to prove that

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By *litpleaser OP Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"It’s depends on the person and if I’m attracted to them. The only “18”year olds on here that have messaged me have been scammers. "

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

My reasoning before was similar to some others mentioned here, the rest of my profile is clearly filled out so it's not like I didn't even look at the age filter. Realistically, I'm not going to be receiving messages but mostly initiating myself, so the range didn't matter anyway. Plus, I started off with a Bayesian approach - better to have a wider range lest I offend someone I'm attracted to by excluding their age! Now, with more data, I can narrow the range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it a red flag?

Yeah 99 is a bit ridiculous, but if someone has a nicely written, active and photo'd profile, why would be casting a wide net be an issue? "

It's a red flag if a man in his 40s is into 18 year olds. For me anyway. (And vice versa for older women/very young men). And "wide net" can be interpreted as just being indiscriminate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

All about the data

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It just looks like they cast the widest net possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to leave my ages wide open simply because I will chat to any age. Chatting is not meeting.

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By *ade crossTV/TS
over a year ago

chiselhurst

Lazy or desperate spring to mind and a little worring

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

All about the data

In Meghan's voice:

Because you know I'm all about that data, that data, no guesses

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I always used to leave my ages wide open simply because I will chat to any age. Chatting is not meeting."

You're right it's not but we learned quite quickly that a lot of people thought if we chatted we would meet them for sex. It became easier to limit our age range and who we spoke to. Its a shame because we genuinely hoped to make friends alongside the sex bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

All about the data

In Meghan's voice:

Because you know I'm all about that data, that data, no guesses

Are you singing it?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Think it depends on the rest of the profile - if it’s bland/blank/not much detail or pics then it just shows no effort has been made.

If the effort has been out in then we’d see it as not really too bothered about age (but you’d still expect some sort of amendment)

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

All about the data

In Meghan's voice:

Because you know I'm all about that data, that data, no guesses

Are you singing it?

I did in my mind, yes. Just to see if it'd rhyme - pretty good if I may say so myself.

Don't have her vocal range to try it aloud (so I'm listening to it instead)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always used to leave my ages wide open simply because I will chat to any age. Chatting is not meeting.

Different dynamic maybe as you're a couple? As a man on fab my messages aren't unmanageale.

Real world, I am more often approached by younger women than my own age too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

All about the data

In Meghan's voice:

Because you know I'm all about that data, that data, no guesses

Are you singing it?

I did in my mind, yes. Just to see if it'd rhyme - pretty good if I may say so myself.

Don't have her vocal range to try it aloud (so I'm listening to it instead)!

She has vocal range?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Lazy, desperate, an open book, any holes a goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My work colleagues have always covered ages 18-60+, so I've never really considered it unusual to interact with all ages.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I see it as either someone isn't too bothered about age or someone just hasn't bothered setting them, either way it doesn't bother me seeing it on a profile.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

To be fair, you can skip past that and then forget whatever is on your profile. I have no idea what my profile looks like to another user using the mobile app!

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

Okay, you've convinced me to set age filters.

All about the data

In Meghan's voice:

Because you know I'm all about that data, that data, no guesses

Are you singing it?

I did in my mind, yes. Just to see if it'd rhyme - pretty good if I may say so myself.

Don't have her vocal range to try it aloud (so I'm listening to it instead)!

She has vocal range?

Don't you think so? Not a fan I'm assuming lol

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