FabSwingers.com forum: Flirty fun and a coffee

By *orny-Shadow OP Man
over a year ago

burnley

Would we say ladies of fab that a coffee is a good way to break the ice as i believe it is and gives good idea of the person. Plus flirty fun aswell. What your thoughts

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Ideally it's prudent to get a "good idea of the person" through extensive chat and repartee, before deciding to meet for a coffee. The coffee meet is the next stage to gauge attraction and synergy between two people, before taking things further — wherever that may lead to, either another social, "flirty fun" or parting of ways... ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we say ladies of fab that a coffee is a good way to break the ice as i believe it is and gives good idea of the person. Plus flirty fun aswell. What your thoughts"

If I meet a man off Fab for a coffee, it is because I cannot buy my own coffee. I choose coffee so that the shot of caffeine can jolt me awake, surely they will otherwise — without the coffee — put me to sleep with their ice breaking attempts.

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By *orny-Shadow OP Man
over a year ago

burnley

You know what mean people a social and ice breaker.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Would we say ladies of fab that a coffee is a good way to break the ice as i believe it is and gives good idea of the person. Plus flirty fun aswell. What your thoughts"

I'd think that women of fab won't meet you for coffee before they know who they are meeting.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr "

You seem more of a expresso

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we say ladies of fab that a coffee is a good way to break the ice as i believe it is and gives good idea of the person. Plus flirty fun aswell. What your thoughts"

Damn. There’s my USP well and truly over.

Op, I think that’s a perfect social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i turned up and mellow birds on offer then it not looking good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer flirty fun over rum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great but I don't like coffee or tea!

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

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"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr "

What about for one stops own brand, do the tits come out fir that...

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I don't drink coffee so there's always the discussion topic of why we're meeting in a coffee shop

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"I prefer flirty fun over rum."

D-does that mean you don't like rum?

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"I don't drink coffee so there's always the discussion topic of why we're meeting in a coffee shop"

You have to go with it. I don't drink coffee either, but they need a neutral place to feel safe that they aren't being murdered on the spot. You have to earn their trust first, you can always murder them later

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me. "

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr

What about for one stops own brand, do the tits come out fir that..."

Don’t know, you should make me a cup sometime, then we can check my arousal levels together.

The mr

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr

What about for one stops own brand, do the tits come out fir that...

Don’t know, you should make me a cup sometime, then we can check my arousal levels together.

The mr "

I'd make it with my special cream, it's kinda salty though...see if that gets your baps out...

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

It’s an absolutely your prerogative to do that.

I wish you best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Thinking you need to know him in and out before you even turn up for a social is really just insecurities. But hey, that's your thing and you're legally absolutely allowed to do that. Not here to tell you what you should do, but I do have my opinion about it. Don't like it? Suck it up and don't fight me over it. Good luck with your hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Who said I get to know them inside and out? I can message guys for months and not even know their name.

I'd also say having a set time frame to meet is not normal. People have lives outside of sex.

Guys like my hoops, I have no complaints.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Your views on women, your opinions of online interactions are a little bit concerning. Remember that the things that we do,and say perpuate opinions on men. There's no wonder why some women are so wary of interacting with men on here. As well as single men getting slated all the while, because of archaic and inconsiderate behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Well at least he's up front about his views of women.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Well at least he's up front about his views of women.

Ooh the joys of fab......

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Well at least he's up front about his views of women.

Let him crack on. I love jumping through hoops, I should have been a dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

I totally agree

Surely it is an individuals choice to determine how long they talk to someone before they may or may not arrange a meet.

I think some people forget that swinging doesn’t have to equal sex, and is far more likely to be built on connections and being comfortable with someone.

I personally won’t meet anyone for anything but a social first. Too many say things just to get sex.

But you do you. I’ll do me. But I struggle, really struggle that talking to someone and having a social is built on insecurities as you say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink coffee but I've been happy to meet guys in coffee shops before and it's been fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't drink coffee but I've been happy to meet guys in coffee shops before and it's been fun. "

Hot chocolate?

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By *orny-Shadow OP Man
over a year ago

burnley

Nothing saying cant be a smoothie or something. Lol x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

I'd say the majority of guys don't see it as "jumping hoops". Rather just been normal and not a dick.

Chatting a little is normal, a bit back and forth and then try to find a date.

But purposely not even thinking about finding a date for months, is not normal. That's just what you do apparently, but it's not normal.

If you like someone and you want to meet them, you know very quickly. It takes a few messages for that, not a whole online pre-relationship where he tells you everything about him first.

Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with. "

Or just those cheeky bastards that get away it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes me weeks, sometimes months of online conversations via Fab to get me (and the other person) to decide if I even want to move on to the coffee stage.

But that’s just me.

I'd absolutely block you after one month. No mercy. Always a waste of time to chat THAT long. But hey, I suppose you'll find plenty of guys to jump your hoops.

Block me please now as I only meet after 1000 messages over a 6 month period. Oh and I'm not a neutral woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't drink coffee but I've been happy to meet guys in coffee shops before and it's been fun.

Hot chocolate?"

I'm really not a fan of hot drinks!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with.

Or just those cheeky bastards that get away it

Yeah, there are some of those too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr

What about for one stops own brand, do the tits come out fir that...

Don’t know, you should make me a cup sometime, then we can check my arousal levels together.

The mr

I'd make it with my special cream, it's kinda salty though...see if that gets your baps out..."

Oh no I couldn’t possibly partake in salty coffee, creamy and sweet only I’m afraid.

No baps for you.

The mr

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr

What about for one stops own brand, do the tits come out fir that...

Don’t know, you should make me a cup sometime, then we can check my arousal levels together.

The mr

I'd make it with my special cream, it's kinda salty though...see if that gets your baps out...

Oh no I couldn’t possibly partake in salty coffee, creamy and sweet only I’m afraid.

No baps for you.

The mr "

.you tease

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with.

Or just those cheeky bastards that get away it

Yeah, there are some of those too

They walk amongst us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the coffee, I don’t get my tits outs for Nescafé.

The mr "

Me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wetherspoons do refils cheap at £1.50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with.

Or just those cheeky bastards that get away it

Yeah, there are some of those too

They wank amongst us

FIFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with.

Or just those cheeky bastards that get away it

Yeah, there are some of those too

They wank amongst us

FIFY"

Which leads us back to - Dick pics as profile. Why!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

It's as good a way as any, OP. Meeting for a coffee feels a pretty uncontroversial social to me...

Though I will judge you if you ask for a half-a-shot latte!

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Coffee

I used to like you...

LvM

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Well, the beauty of Fab is that there are so many people who do things differently and we can take steps to attract the people we’re compatible with.

Or just those cheeky bastards that get away it

Yeah, there are some of those too

They wank amongst us

FIFY"

To kind

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