FabSwingers.com forum: Spirals

By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Do you need constant distraction to quell the bees in your head, or can you quietly sit in a room, alone and content?

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need someone whose voice I like to talk to me or I need music to focus on. Otherwise I can’t shut the noise up and sometimes it makes me want to cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sat in silence every evening for 2 weeks. It was bliss.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

No. I'm mostly happy in my own company and perfectly at peace alone with my thoughts.

Sometimes something will trigger a spiral, but they're most often caused by someone else's words. And once I've sat and dissected what happened in my head during the spiral I'm back to being at peace

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I don't have noise in my head I can't deal with, but I wouldn't just sit staring into space for any length of time. I would watch television, read or something.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

I need the bee's in my head ..they block out the voices in my head.. telling me to do bad things..

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I can't sit in the house byself without some kind of noise. But I will happily enough if I'm outdoors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being in my own company. Too much socialising wears me down sometimes and I just need to be alone for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sit in a room and just have the radio on. I could do this for as long as i need to. However, when the bees start to buzz, it is only then that i would do something, anything eg peel the spuds, play my guitar, go for a walk etc. as this becomes the evasion from the buzzing as it occupies the part of my brain where the 'buzzing' was creeping in.

This works for me but I know it may not work for others.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

It's usually in the early hours when i wake up, thats when the spirals happen.

Daytimes i can happily sit alone with a good book for hours.

Night times are the problem.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm always reading, listening to music or watching film/TV when home alone. When I'm working from home I have to have a podcast or something on as working in silence is difficult, I get too distracted by the lack of distraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cycling. Always been the place to quiet the spirals or the noise. Me and the tarmac

Sadly I attract narcissists so they just add to my noise and that is crippling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like being in my own company. Too much socialising wears me down sometimes and I just need to be alone for a bit. "

I think I misread the question but yeah, I don’t mind being alone. Lots of noise and things going on around me can be quite overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's usually in the early hours when i wake up, thats when the spirals happen.

Daytimes i can happily sit alone with a good book for hours.

Night times are the problem."

I'm the same. During the day I'm usually fine. At 3 am I could be a founding member of overthinkers anonymous x

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Very content on my own, and can quite easily be at peace even thoughtless.

Unless cPTSD kicks in and then my mind is hell. Buzzing becomes a continuous high-pitched monotone eat-static accompaniment to a kaleidescope horrorshow.

Not nice to deal with alone and not nice for people to be around either.

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By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I need someone whose voice I like to talk to me or I need music to focus on. Otherwise I can’t shut the noise up and sometimes it makes me want to cry

I find the heavy shouty music fairly effective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sat in silence every evening for 2 weeks. It was bliss.

This contradicts the messages I was recieving, I think someone is telling porkies

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I can happily sit in silence on my own. To be honest I often prefer it.

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By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I love you and we will get through this

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It varies mostly I need a distraction my head isn't a great place, very very rarely I can enjoy the silence & it's absolute bliss but that hasn't happened in quite a while unfortunately.

My brain is 1000 mph

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I can but I get bored

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I love be sat in silent , i love my own company, nevertheless this have in the past triggered an awful situation as my silent was very uncomfortable for some people at my work place . Fortunately 99% they gone only 1% left but i can say i never felt so happy as i am now . Saying this, they still ghost me... but at least i don't need to see their faces ever again or deal daily with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love been alone. I get to a point where I just can't stand the noise of other people and I need quiet. Even someone else breathing irritates me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m very content being alone. I crave it!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

There’s no better company than myself.

The mr

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By *heVonMatterhorns OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I appreciate those who can be alone comfortably. The question was more leaning to whether you need distractions though; TV, books, music, an activity, at all times

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I need a distraction, either tv or books, not so much to quell the bees in my head, more if I'm alone with no distractions I just fall asleep, then can't sleep at night which puts me in a bad mood!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Do you need constant distraction to quell the bees in your head, or can you quietly sit in a room, alone and content?

LvM"

I need noise. I hate silence.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

I enjoy company but I love time alone equally.

I think I'm awesome company

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"I appreciate those who can be alone comfortably. The question was more leaning to whether you need distractions though; TV, books, music, an activity, at all times

LvM"

I don't even have Internet at home , no Netflix etc etc ... my television have 20 years old. I do my own music even if is out of tune and is not audible, i don't care , all i want is be and feeling happy as i am without worrying at all with others opinions

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