FabSwingers.com forum: 7 year itch

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

According to a “red top paper” today the 7 year itch for married couples is now a 3 year itch with more people cheating within the first 3 years.

What is causing this?

My thoughts are that lack of communication is missing. A lot of people now meet online and in some ways the art of actual physical conversation has gone.

Add to it increased financial pressures of late

Maybe lockdown effect still. Not used to being with partners as long as they had to be

Maybe just thinking the grass is greener on the other side.

What’s other people’s thoughts?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

What is causing this?"

People

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are disposable. The Internet made them not real.

This one doesn't fuck good? Bin it and get another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is causing this?

People"

Penises

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

People are having their heads turned by more and more different methods these days, and getting married for the wrong reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SOME (not all, before the mob screams) younger folk seeing relationships as disposable, like everything else?

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

What is causing this?

People

Penises"

Why is it always penises and fannies? Fannies go astray too... they just hide it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about the £30k wedding and how it looks on the Insta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is causing this?

People

Penises

Why is it always penises and fannies? Fannies go astray too... they just hide it better."

I did it for alliteration mainly.

Spose 'pussies' would have worked too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Increased temptation is the reason. With social media it’s easy to be tempted. For example, I get chatted up on instagram all the time. It’s just a normal social media but I get people trying it on with me via that app almost as much as I do on here.

I imagine for women it must be even more intense.

Whereas in years before social media there was always that barrier and boundary between you and strangers. But now they can see you and drop you a message in seconds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Declining social standards and entitlement, fuelled by the false expectations portrayed in the media

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"According to a “red top paper” today the 7 year itch for married couples is now a 3 year itch with more people cheating within the first 3 years.

What is causing this?

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My opinion. Too many choices and alternatives to your current lover.

Look at it this way. If they are online (Fab/twitter/Facebook) there’s another 20 (or more) people following them that want to fuck them or date them. And they know it.

So unless you’re giving them 100 per can’t if everything they want, they will throw you away and trade you in.

*just my bitter and cynical view, it means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no time frame, not even a 16 year relationship stops someone's head being turned as I've found out recently. If your relationship is good and solid, nothing or no circumstances will make them betray you. If someone's a shitty person, their just that.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"According to a “red top paper” today the 7 year itch for married couples is now a 3 year itch with more people cheating within the first 3 years.

What is causing this?

My thoughts are that lack of communication is missing. A lot of people now meet online and in some ways the art of actual physical conversation has gone.

Add to it increased financial pressures of late

Maybe lockdown effect still. Not used to being with partners as long as they had to be

Maybe just thinking the grass is greener on the other side.

What’s other people’s thoughts?"
Women probably

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Hyper-individualisation

Material-reductionism

Transactional interactions (consumerism)

Needs based compartmentalisation

Meme-culture

Mind over mood emotional repression

Fake it to make it

Little bit of everything all of the time.

Scarcity also leads to psychological changes that promote selfishness, risk taking, short-term mentality. So financial pressures also.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

People & the ease that they can reach others.

Some people want an ego boost when things become routine and mundane rather than working on things they seek validation elsewhere because it's easier, one pick up of a phone and you've many people you can strike up a conversation with, flirt with, feel good about yourself just all forgetting the person at home who's wondering what they did and where the attention has gone.

Mrs

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I think also it’s the shift in the “silent culture”. People no longer bottle stuff up & just get on with it. With counselling & divorce no longer being shameful, people don’t hang around a bad marriage out of fear etc.

Women aren’t expected to be just housewives & moms anymore so are able to leave the home/marriage and make it alone now.

So it’s not all necessarily negative.

Cheating wise - I don’t think people cheat more or less, it’s just more open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my younger dating days the only way to meet someone was in person.

You then dated, kept in touch by using the phone and then maybe settled down.

It’s a different world now. Temptation is a click away if you want it. There are so many methods of communication, so many ways to be secretive and betray your partner.

Relationships are too easy to walk away from.

As someone else mentioned, it’s a disposable world we live in.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

How easy it is to find someone to cheat with on the Internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s easier

Dating apps have built in features for “privacy” but they’re actually just to help people cheat and not get caught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"According to a “red top paper” today the 7 year itch for married couples is now a 3 year itch with more people cheating within the first 3 years.

What is causing this?

My thoughts are that lack of communication is missing. A lot of people now meet online and in some ways the art of actual physical conversation has gone.

Add to it increased financial pressures of late

Maybe lockdown effect still. Not used to being with partners as long as they had to be

Maybe just thinking the grass is greener on the other side.

What’s other people’s thoughts?"

Messaging is communication op so no not lost it. I am though no fool when read between lines.

3 year itch on here its 5 minute itch with Dishonesty thrown in. I don't stay because narcasistic says I have to because l am no fool. Ever been had with the selling of honesty or genuine.. 5 mins and I am off.

Financial pressure to buy a coffee or tea 300 miles away.. No but compatability counts on here big time op.

Joyously divorced this year so have years to make up for what I lost.

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