FabSwingers.com forum: Would you have helped?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When leaving the shop earlier after a quick food run, I politely gave a nod of hello to a disabled guy outside... with a guitar stack amp in a trolly! To abridge this saga. He needed some help to get it to the bus stop. After traversing the steep hill up to the bus stop and having to listen to all the events in his life the past week, I'm not sure whether my back ached more or my ears afterwards. Oh well, that's my good deed for the day sorted.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Would you like your medal posting or sending by DPD?

Ps. I definitely would’ve done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as a selfless act right op.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm always helping my local op residents, it's rewarding within itself and bringing comfort knowing that some people whom were strangers do actually care

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No such thing as a selfless act right op. "

Meep meep!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you like your medal posting or sending by DPD?

Ps. I definitely would’ve done

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Would you like your medal posting or sending by DPD?

Ps. I definitely would’ve done

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Do you need a tissue for that?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Maybe. Maybe not.

If I were to help, nobody would know because I'd not be bragging about it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

i would if anyone looks like they’re struggling, disabled or not, but especially if they’re female and sexy.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Maybe. Maybe not.

If I were to help, nobody would know because I'd not be bragging about it "

This ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe. Maybe not.

If I were to help, nobody would know because I'd not be bragging about it "

No bragging here, just telling a true thing that happened in a comic way for people to engage with and chat. Would you prefer I posted a yawn of a thread like (Who likes girthy cocks?) Zzzzzzz

Agreed, I'm directing the light centre stage to appeal to people, but this isn't an isolated case of me helping somebody and posting about it. I shared this one because it was funny.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I help hedgehogs.

Poor things just aren't equipped to deal with humans. Oh look bright lights, I know I'll just curl into a ball.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I help hedgehogs.

Poor things just aren't equipped to deal with humans. Oh look bright lights, I know I'll just curl into a ball.

Awww ... oooohhh ...apparently I'm a hedgehog!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you OP it's nice to be nice manners costs nothing .. that could be us or our loved one some day

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Maybe. Maybe not.

If I were to help, nobody would know because I'd not be bragging about it

No bragging here, just telling a true thing that happened in a comic way for people to engage with and chat. Would you prefer I posted a yawn of a thread like (Who likes girthy cocks?) Zzzzzzz

Agreed, I'm directing the light centre stage to appeal to people, but this isn't an isolated case of me helping somebody and posting about it. I shared this one because it was funny. "

This is what’s wrong with the world When saying you’re helping a disabled guy is seen as bragging, the bar is pretty fucking low,, you’re not giving 90% of you’re wages to charity every month in secret, you’re doing what everyone should do but doesn’t , I don’t know why maybe people feel awkward helping disabled people ? In case it’s seen as offensive ? I literally see people run away from them at train stations

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

But in my spare time help the wildlife

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I probably wouldn't have helped in that instance.

I think your experience is a case of no good deed going unpunished op

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe. Maybe not.

If I were to help, nobody would know because I'd not be bragging about it

No bragging here, just telling a true thing that happened in a comic way for people to engage with and chat. Would you prefer I posted a yawn of a thread like (Who likes girthy cocks?) Zzzzzzz

Agreed, I'm directing the light centre stage to appeal to people, but this isn't an isolated case of me helping somebody and posting about it. I shared this one because it was funny.

Thank you. It was ten minutes out of my day. If that person saw me in need another time. He'd help me in return no doubt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I probably wouldn't have helped in that instance.

I think your experience is a case of no good deed going unpunished op

My right ear is still resonating!

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’d have done the same OP

I have two sons with additional needs and I’d hate to think people would just walk past them or ignore them if they needed help or assistance

Kind words or gestures go a long way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I help hedgehogs.

Poor things just aren't equipped to deal with humans. Oh look bright lights, I know I'll just curl into a ball.

Have you got any ten pin skittles set up in your garden. Bowling? Oh shit, animal cruelty brigade alert.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

If I could help I would yes x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d have done the same OP

I have two sons with additional needs and I’d hate to think people would just walk past them or ignore them if they needed help or assistance

Kind words or gestures go a long way "

Too true, although if I had ignored him totally, I wouldn't have a stiff back to look forward to tomorrow. (That was a hefty guitar amp!)

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Everybody should try and help others in need. You did right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good on you OP it's nice to be nice manners costs nothing .. that could be us or our loved one some day

Likely me next month, I've got a poorly hip!

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I’d have done the same OP

I have two sons with additional needs and I’d hate to think people would just walk past them or ignore them if they needed help or assistance

Kind words or gestures go a long way

Too true, although if I had ignored him totally, I wouldn't have a stiff back to look forward to tomorrow. (That was a hefty guitar amp!) "

I’ll give you a virtual massage for your kindness

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My dad's partially sighted and although he carries a short white cane and wears a badge people still do things like point if he asks where something is and don't get me started on the guy in th building society who put a small iPad in front of a 96 year old partiality sighted man and asked him to fill in his details.

I think more people should talk about how they enabled people who find things difficult for whatever reason, to do them . Normalise it

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Went to get a chippy tea tonight with my boys, while queuing 2 young kids around 7/9 years were trying to gets just a portion of chips, they didn't have enough money on their card to pay. So while the lady in the shop took the chips back saying theyed have to go get more money and everyone else just stood there watching I told the lady to add it to my order. Pass it forward as you never know when you might need a little help from a stranger.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I help hedgehogs.

Poor things just aren't equipped to deal with humans. Oh look bright lights, I know I'll just curl into a ball.

Awww ... oooohhh ...apparently I'm a hedgehog!

I love hedgehogs, they always spike me though, when I least expect it.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I help hedgehogs.

Poor things just aren't equipped to deal with humans. Oh look bright lights, I know I'll just curl into a ball.

Awww ... oooohhh ...apparently I'm a hedgehog!

I love hedgehogs, they always spike me though, when I least expect it."

I shall endeavour not to spike you... although I can be a little prickly at times lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d have done the same OP

I have two sons with additional needs and I’d hate to think people would just walk past them or ignore them if they needed help or assistance

Kind words or gestures go a long way

Too true, although if I had ignored him totally, I wouldn't have a stiff back to look forward to tomorrow. (That was a hefty guitar amp!)

I’ll give you a virtual massage for your kindness

I thought you had a teleport machine? Get your delicious self over here this instant and work the crinks and cranks out of me. (as an aside) I do have another stiffness issue you might be able to help with.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"No such thing as a selfless act right op. "

I always say this and no I would not have offered to help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No such thing as a selfless act right op.

I always say this and no I would not have offered to help "

Why?

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I’d have done the same OP

I have two sons with additional needs and I’d hate to think people would just walk past them or ignore them if they needed help or assistance

Kind words or gestures go a long way

Too true, although if I had ignored him totally, I wouldn't have a stiff back to look forward to tomorrow. (That was a hefty guitar amp!)

I’ll give you a virtual massage for your kindness

Just firing the teleport machine up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser? "

As in need of help in that moment. A person that appreciated some aid in an instance of need.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser? "

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I help hedgehogs.

Poor things just aren't equipped to deal with humans. Oh look bright lights, I know I'll just curl into a ball.

Awww ... oooohhh ...apparently I'm a hedgehog!

I love hedgehogs, they always spike me though, when I least expect it.

I shall endeavour not to spike you... although I can be a little prickly at times lol"

Prickly is fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d have done the same OP

I have two sons with additional needs and I’d hate to think people would just walk past them or ignore them if they needed help or assistance

Kind words or gestures go a long way

Too true, although if I had ignored him totally, I wouldn't have a stiff back to look forward to tomorrow. (That was a hefty guitar amp!)

I’ll give you a virtual massage for your kindness

Just firing the teleport machine up

You've not arrived yet.... technical issues...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out. "

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have? "

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all. "

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No good deed goes unpunished.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?"

Would that make me lesser?

I really don't want to get into the help or not help debate. Suffice to say I have been on the receiving end of a lot of unwanted and unneeded "help", including "help" that was frankly dangerous. People think it is okay to touch me and my chair without asking pretty often.

Back to the lesser thing though. Whether or not I or anyone else needs help, how does needing or wanting help make you lesser? Would my physically perfectly able, 6ft 4in husband be lesser for needing help moving a heavy object, e.g. a sofa, from A to B?

was at the choice of wording. Not at your actions.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"My dad's partially sighted and although he carries a short white cane and wears a badge people still do things like point if he asks where something is and don't get me started on the guy in th building society who put a small iPad in front of a 96 year old partiality sighted man and asked him to fill in his details.

I think more people should talk about how they enabled people who find things difficult for whatever reason, to do them . Normalise it"

96 and independent.

defiance,love it.Just been talking to an 88 year old lady who drove 6k miles last year touring New Zealand,she has a 92 year old friend who has just bought a new car.Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?

Would that make me lesser?

was at the choice of wording. Not at your actions. "

I don't care how tall fit and able your husband is. If he wasn't there and you were in a 'lesser' than ideal situation, which is the intended meaning not an insult to those with a disability. I'd try and help you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe. Maybe not.

If I were to help, nobody would know because I'd not be bragging about it "

If you help, you help out of the kindness of your heart not to brag. If I helped someone, it’s not the highlight of my day in terms of having to share it with everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. "

I saw that and felt icky.

No one should ever be lesser than anyone else. As I tell younger humans, the only time you should be looking down at someone is if you’re looking to help them up. Otherwise no one is lesser or beneath you.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?

Would that make me lesser?

was at the choice of wording. Not at your actions.

WoT

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?

Would that make me lesser?

was at the choice of wording. Not at your actions.

WoT"

WoT!

So I you wouldn't help?

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?

Would that make me lesser?

was at the choice of wording. Not at your actions.

WoT

WoT!

So I you wouldn't help?"

Open your DM,I will explain.

Yes I would help.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Probly not i probly wouldnt have noticed him

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Congratulations.

You’re now the proud owner of a blue Peter badge.

You should have filmed it and posted it on social media as well, so you can get the international gratification you desire.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you like your medal posting or sending by DPD?

Ps. I definitely would’ve done

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

"
He definitely wasn’t a ‘lesser’ soul than you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember a one armed guitar player busking in nottm, he was a cool guy ,never asked for help, think he had a leg missing too, would play pool for cash, his own website . Amazing what you can achieve if you put your mind to it .Puts my aches n pains in perspective. Spent many hours laughing and drinking and hearing about his adventures in the jungles of the world.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I always help an attractive woman who's struggling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have helped him back into the shop to customer service who would have provided a delivery service.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Sometimes you just gotta help because it's the right thing to do. You don't have to like and it's perfectly ok to be annoyed.

There's no karma for thoughts. Only deeds.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No medal required. It was a privelidge to help a lesser sole than myself. (I can feel some vom coming up,...excuse me....

Lesser?

I saw that and did a

But then backed out.

A person in need of help. 'Lesser' as in at a disadvantage in the moment. So I did, I helped a person in a lesser situation than myself. Is being considerte a shitty trait to have?

I'm disabled. I'm never lesser. That is all.

So if you were clearly struggling and I reaslised it but decided, fuck it, let her get on with it. Would you prefer that?

Would that make me lesser?

was at the choice of wording. Not at your actions.

You haven't answered my question. In a scenario that I am totally absent from. If my husband was struggling to move a sofa and needed to get help, would that make him lesser? If the answer is no, then it should be no for any scenario where anyone needs help for any reason.

If I need help and the other person thinks I am lesser, I don't want their help. I will happily struggle or fail because I am not lesser than anyone. No-one is lesser.

Everyone needs help at some point in their lives, irrespective of their disability or lack of disability. That just means they need assistance. They are not lesser in any way.

I regularly turn down offers of "help" because I don't need or want it, but people try to impose it upon me. They grab my wheelchair and move me without my consent. They hurt me. They cause more danger by tipping me because they don't know what they are doing.

However, please ignore me and my disability and address my question of my husband needing help. Is he lesser?

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Q.E.D Sir P P

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Q.E.D Sir P P

Oh do give over

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Reply to OP,context:- direct message content,but Q.E.D again.

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