FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting people from fab elsewhere…

By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

What happens when you come across someone you’ve met on fab in the “real” world?

The reason why I ask this is just that I’ve had a couple unusual experiences in recent months, in person and on a dating app.

Me personally, I don’t shy away from it at the same time I am aware and respect that others may not be an openly free with their participation on fab.

But… if we’ve had an encounter, shared a drink etc, I wouldn’t hesitate to acknowledge you, whether if it’s a nod of the head,smile, or even a simple hello.

Would you stop to make small talk or would you just pretend that nothing happened and carry on? Baring in mind, at the time, they were good experiences

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I would always smile and acknowledge someone but stopping for a chat would depend on if I was with anyone else.

Nobody except fab friends know I am on here so if I was with family a smile and maybe a hello would be all you'd get.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Freedom is a about being able to speak to whoever whenever where ever. It must be horrid to feel caged when with others and feel like questions would be asked if you have a brief chat with others, I am very blessed to not have that in my life and I would not accept that either.

We are all human and I would never treat a person I met off here like they are a stranger if I bump into them in a shopping centre or restaurant it's horrid, for sure if I am with friends or a relative I would not be able to stop for long for a chat but I would always acknowledge the person.

We're all human beings regardless

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I would always smile and acknowledge someone but stopping for a chat would depend on if I was with anyone else.

Nobody except fab friends know I am on here so if I was with family a smile and maybe a hello would be all you'd get. "

Sounds about right, and that’s absolutely fine

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Freedom is a about being able to speak to whoever whenever where ever. It must be horrid to feel caged when with others and feel like questions would be asked if you have a brief chat with others, I am very blessed to not have that in my life and I would not accept that either.

We're all human beings regardless

Absolutely, you sound like a lovely person to have given such thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a long time ago but I met someone and we had a bit of a one time thing. I was a coward and ghosted him after.

Anyway years later I had a meeting for work which he showed up.

It was very awkward. He then proceeded to email me at work for a repeat meet. It didn't happen

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"It was a long time ago but I met someone and we had a bit of a one time thing. I was a coward and ghosted him after.

Anyway years later I had a meeting for work which he showed up.

It was very awkward. He then proceeded to email me at work for a repeat meet. It didn't happen "

That cant have been easy. I imagine if you were to do that all over, you do it differently

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

It hasn't happened to me yet. But if it did and they were alone I would stop and chat if they were with someone I would probably smile nod my head or give a small wave and let them decide if they wanted to engage with me any further.

If I bump into you OP can I chat?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Smile and walk on by, if someone approached me in my normal day to day family life I wouldn't be impressed, generally because id have my kids with me so it would be out of order.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I might catch their eye and smile. Depends who they were and who they were with at the time.

It hasn't happened to me, although someone I met a few years ago and then again recently mentioned they had seen me on the TV meantime... I did have more clothes on thankfully

Mrs TMN x

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

So, we have seen a couple and a single male on nights out. Both occasions been very different as the couple we knew kept their fab life very seperate, so it was a quick smile and that was it. As for the single guy, we chatted and had a drink and that was it, as well he was with his mates and we were out for a drink. Why, do people think that if you see someone you know that its going to just end up in a room!

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

We're all human beings regardless

Absolutely, you sound like a lovely person to have given such thought

Thank you I would like to believe I am

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

If I bump into you OP can I chat?

Good answer, something I would do.

You can chat to me by all means, not sure how much talking would be taking place

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"So, we have seen a couple and a single male on nights out. Both occasions been very different as the couple we knew kept their fab life very seperate, so it was a quick smile and that was it. As for the single guy, we chatted and had a drink and that was it, as well he was with his mates and we were out for a drink. Why, do people think that if you see someone you know that its going to just end up in a room! "

Precisely! I’m sure we can keep a lid on our carnal urges outside of the fab universe lol

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith

Many years ago had lunchtime social with a lady. Later in day went to a farming meeting . She was there with her partner me with mine. We just looked at each other said nothing. Late got message on here from her saying it was you wasn't it.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

I have bumped into 2 people I knew from Club F visits in non swinging scenarios. Pleased to say no awkwardness occurred

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Depends if I got on with them/liked them.

If I did, I'd acknowledge them, if not, I'd ignore.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Smile but don't otherwise acknowledge. I have no idea who they're with or how they would contextualise knowing me. I don't want to make it awkward for them. And I'd appreciate the same courtesy.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I would smile as I would anyone I pass by and catch eye contact with. If they decide to stop or acknowledge then I wouldn't mind chatting but not of I was with other people. I show the courtesy that I would hope for in return.

I would never stop them myself though, mainly because I'd be unsure if they even remembered me

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I would smile as I would anyone I pass by and catch eye contact with. If they decide to stop or acknowledge then I wouldn't mind chatting but not of I was with other people. I show the courtesy that I would hope for in return.

I would never stop them myself though, mainly because I'd be unsure if they even remembered me

Again, that would be the right way to go about it.

Don’t be so harsh, they would know!

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Smile but don't otherwise acknowledge. I have no idea who they're with or how they would contextualise knowing me. I don't want to make it awkward for them. And I'd appreciate the same courtesy."

Understandable

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Many years ago had lunchtime social with a lady. Later in day went to a farming meeting . She was there with her partner me with mine. We just looked at each other said nothing. Late got message on here from her saying it was you wasn't it. "

Slightly awkward situation that. Deep down she knew

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'll smile politely but not make it a thing in case they don't want it to be a thing and then I'd up having to awkwardly come up with some convoluted story about how I know them.

So yes. Little smile. Not say anything too weird. Get rid of sex voice. Job done.

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I'll smile politely but not make it a thing in case they don't want it to be a thing and then I'd up having to awkwardly come up with some convoluted story about how I know them.

So yes. Little smile. Not say anything too weird. Get rid of sex voice. Job done."

Sensible approach, although this sex voice… would others pick up on that if they were to overhear??

Also… how’s it different to your normal voice?

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

I was on bumble met him on bumble because my full self face pictures non sexual pictures were in bumble I thought he liked me for me...instead he recognised me from fab and instantly he switched. I asked him if he was ok was something wrong with home etc...because it was so obvious something changed he said ohh okay well.

I really liked you and was going to chat about our day to his mates, he then said that when he went to the loo he goes through porn etc and had flicked through fab and saw my public pics so now he said that he just wanted to fuck me and have hus first black chic.

It was an automatic block delete and I left. Glad I only wasted 2hours Vs hoped he was genuine and find out weeks later he was this crap of a male.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Regarding the people we've met in this lifestyle, yes, totally. We're friends. Of course we say hello. We wouldn't bring up anything sexual if it wasn't appropriate. We don't spread the word we've had sex but we don't try to pretend we don't know them. Nobody is is going to know what's happened between us just because we say hello.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Act normally. If we know them and are friends then say hello and have a chat if convenient, otherwise just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we have met and get on then it's not an issue at all that we would say hello to each other if we crossed each other in our day to day life. But if it's somebody who I've never met I would keep my distance and drop a non creepy message if I fancied them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was someone I'd met previously I'd say hello just as I would to anyone else I know. It's not like FABSWINGERS is printed on our foreheads. If anyone asked who's that, my answer would be 'someone from work/gym'. If they ignored me then there would be no further contact between us.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

"I'll smile politely but not make it a thing in case they don't want it to be a thing and then I'd up having to awkwardly come up with some convoluted story about how I know them.

So yes. Little smile. Not say anything too weird. Get rid of sex voice. Job done.

Sensible approach, although this sex voice… would others pick up on that if they were to overhear??

Also… how’s it different to your normal voice?"

Ermmmm you need to go get on Meli's profile and listen to her video. Yes. That is how she sounds in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grab them by the cock and greet them by their profile name.

"Hey spunkycockbigboy69! That vid of you with the 6 guys is sooooo hot! Message me!"

Their wife always looks a bit confused and upset but that's not my problem.

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I was on bumble met him on bumble because my full self face pictures non sexual pictures were in bumble I thought he liked me for me...instead he recognised me from fab and instantly he switched. I asked him if he was ok was something wrong with home etc...because it was so obvious something changed he said ohh okay well.

It was an automatic block delete and I left. Glad I only wasted 2hours Vs hoped he was genuine and find out weeks later he was this crap of a male."

I’m sorry you had such an experience, can’t have been nice.

I had met someone on fab who years later I came across on Hinge. At the time I thought we were kool. So I thought I’d say hello… I got a full denial and then got blocked

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Regarding the people we've met in this lifestyle, yes, totally. We're friends. Of course we say hello. We wouldn't bring up anything sexual if it wasn't appropriate. We don't spread the word we've had sex but we don't try to pretend we don't know them. Nobody is is going to know what's happened between us just because we say hello. "

I would’ve thought so also

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Act normally. If we know them and are friends then say hello and have a chat if convenient, otherwise just ignore them "

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"If we have met and get on then it's not an issue at all that we would say hello to each other if we crossed each other in our day to day life. But if it's somebody who I've never met I would keep my distance and drop a non creepy message if I fancied them. "

If it’s someone you’ve not met then it would be a bit creepy

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"If it was someone I'd met previously I'd say hello just as I would to anyone else I know. It's not like FABSWINGERS is printed on our foreheads. If anyone asked who's that, my answer would be 'someone from work/gym'. If they ignored me then there would be no further contact between us."

Makes sense that, it’s not difficult to circumnavigate the question if/when asked

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I'll smile politely but not make it a thing in case they don't want it to be a thing and then I'd up having to awkwardly come up with some convoluted story about how I know them.

So yes. Little smile. Not say anything too weird. Get rid of sex voice. Job done.

Sensible approach, although this sex voice… would others pick up on that if they were to overhear??

Also… how’s it different to your normal voice?

Ermmmm you need to go get on Meli's profile and listen to her video. Yes. That is how she sounds in real life."

So you’re telling me her everyday voice is her sex voice?? I mean it’s pretty alluring to begin with, imagine if there was a bit more syrup on that

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I grab them by the cock and greet them by their profile name.

"Hey spunkycockbigboy69! That vid of you with the 6 guys is sooooo hot! Message me!"

Their wife always looks a bit confused and upset but that's not my problem.

ROFL! That naughty lol

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By *rustratedmissWoman
over a year ago

York

If it someone I've met previously, I'd always say hello. It would just feel wrong to me to have had their cock inside you or in your mouth but saying hello was a step too far?!?! Off here I'm a quiet, shy person so there's no reason for anyone to assume I'm saying hello because I've had sex with them

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By *he_Horny_Variant OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"If it someone I've met previously, I'd always say hello. It would just feel wrong to me to have had their cock inside you or in your mouth but saying hello was a step too far?!?! Off here I'm a quiet, shy person so there's no reason for anyone to assume I'm saying hello because I've had sex with them "

Way to build a picture there! But you’re not wrong

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