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"Two years ago I started a university course It was a course with lots of mature students and during one of the lectures about British values the students who were born in Africa said that they tell their teenage/young adult children that they are African but the children insist that because they were born in UK and that's all they knew, that they were in fact British. This seemed to upset the parent because they wanted their children to be proud to be African yet they seemed proud to be British" Most of my friends born here that are African all say that they’re from where they’re from in Africa unless the question is asked by a White person or is an official question. | |||
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" Most of my friends born here that are African all say that they’re from where they’re from in Africa unless the question is asked by a White person or is an official question. " That’s interesting | |||
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"I’m proud to see my ethnicity as Black British. But my feelings are that Britains is not a country that has historically or currently loved and appreciated the Blackness of Black Brits. It hasn’t appreciated or loved the cultural impact of Black Brits. It hasn’t acknowledged or truly considered the impact on the African diaspora the actions of its past. That makes being proud to be British difficult. Loving a place that doesn’t love you of hard. But you have to. I’m too British to be Jamaican. And ultimately I’m made here. My experience is made here. I’m British. That’s an unavoidable fact. I’m proud when I consider the impact of Black British people. When I think about the cultural icons that inspire. But I feel less proud about the country itself and its history with Black people. I’m not going to go any further than that because what I’ve already said makes me likely to get hate anyway. " Only love from me. | |||
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"Im proud to be a B.B.C (British Black Caribbean) man" Hear, Hear ! | |||
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"I don't see what a colonial past has to do with the here and now. I think like nearly everyone else in the UK we hate our government. We should all be joining together to look after our futures." But I don’t understand why people say, they hate the government, the people chose them. They are the best you have, they are reflective of the people. Anyone can join a political party & stand | |||
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"I don't see what a colonial past has to do with the here and now. I think like nearly everyone else in the UK we hate our government. We should all be joining together to look after our futures. But I don’t understand why people say, they hate the government, the people chose them. They are the best you have, they are reflective of the people. Anyone can join a political party & stand" Indeed. To yet again quote George Carlin "Now, there's one thing you might have noticed I don't complain about: politicians. Everybody complains about politicians. Everybody says they suck. Well, where do people think these politicians come from? They don't fall out of the sky. They don't pass through a membrane from another reality. They come from American parents and American families, American homes, American schools, American churches, American businesses and American universities, and they are elected by American citizens. This is the best we can do folks. This is what we have to offer. It's what our system produces: Garbage in, garbage out. If you have selfish, ignorant citizens, you're going to get selfish, ignorant leaders. Term limits ain't going to do any good; you're just going to end up with a brand new bunch of selfish, ignorant Americans. So, maybe, maybe, maybe, it's not the politicians who suck. Maybe something else sucks around here... like, the public. Yeah, the public sucks. There's a nice campaign slogan for somebody: 'The Public Sucks. Fuck Hope." | |||
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"White and distinctly not proud for much of the reasons stated. But I would be even less proud of being from other countries such as USA." Thanks for that… I’m a duel national…. So how do I feel about being British/American… hmmm I suppose it’s part of me but doesn’t define me.. if that makes sense… the older I have gotten the more proud of my Caribbean heritage I have gotten, and it’s taken me a while to get there as well…. It’s complicated!!! | |||
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"Two years ago I started a university course It was a course with lots of mature students and during one of the lectures about British values the students who were born in Africa said that they tell their teenage/young adult children that they are African but the children insist that because they were born in UK and that's all they knew, that they were in fact British. This seemed to upset the parent because they wanted their children to be proud to be African yet they seemed proud to be British Most of my friends born here that are African all say that they’re from where they’re from in Africa unless the question is asked by a White person or is an official question. " If another black/Asian person asks where I'm from ill say Jamaica but if any other national asks ill say Birmingham, usually when a non poc asks its from a place of ignorance so I'm keen to shut down the conversation as quickly as possible | |||
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"Two years ago I started a university course It was a course with lots of mature students and during one of the lectures about British values the students who were born in Africa said that they tell their teenage/young adult children that they are African but the children insist that because they were born in UK and that's all they knew, that they were in fact British. This seemed to upset the parent because they wanted their children to be proud to be African yet they seemed proud to be British" Being mixed race I often when I was younger would play up my white side in order to fit in, but now as a much older adult, I feel as though I can revel in all my identities as every little part makes me | |||
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"Two years ago I started a university course It was a course with lots of mature students and during one of the lectures about British values the students who were born in Africa said that they tell their teenage/young adult children that they are African but the children insist that because they were born in UK and that's all they knew, that they were in fact British. This seemed to upset the parent because they wanted their children to be proud to be African yet they seemed proud to be British" Someone saying that they are British because they were born and raised in Britain doesn't mean that they are proud to be British | |||
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"How can we be proud to be black British when some white people refuse to see us as British and often tell us to "go back to where we're from" " I use to feel that way until I realised that this is where I was born and we have contributed to this country before the Romans even came here whether its chosen to be taught or not and I won't let anyone deny me of that just because they're white and ancestors most probably came here with the vikings/Germans. I was born here so I am British end of. | |||
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"How can we be proud to be black British when some white people refuse to see us as British and often tell us to "go back to where we're from" " There is a phrase I haven’t heard in a while…. But I think every black person has heard some form of that | |||
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"How can we be proud to be black British when some white people refuse to see us as British and often tell us to "go back to where we're from" " tesstt more like tesstooreal | |||
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"How can we be proud to be black British when some white people refuse to see us as British and often tell us to "go back to where we're from" " Someone said that to my bestie once and quick as a flash she said ‘what, to my mums vagina? Don’t think I’d fit now’ | |||
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"Are you white and proud to be British. Tom cares not a jot about nationalism. Tom is just proud to be Tom. " Tom gets a little confused though sometimes bless him. pt | |||
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"I realise this is one of those subjects that is extremely sensitive, and I’m reluctant to say anything because I’m sure there’ll be a backlash. But I’m always concerned that just as most people (including me) were accepting the fact that everybody is equal, the ‘Black Power’ movement wanted more. Not just equals, not seeing everyone as ‘people’, but wanting power. The balance was becoming balance, but now it’s tipping the scales. Let’s just be ‘people’. " I don’t think we’re close to balance. | |||
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"I realise this is one of those subjects that is extremely sensitive, and I’m reluctant to say anything because I’m sure there’ll be a backlash. But I’m always concerned that just as most people (including me) were accepting the fact that everybody is equal, the ‘Black Power’ movement wanted more. Not just equals, not seeing everyone as ‘people’, but wanting power. The balance was becoming balance, but now it’s tipping the scales. Let’s just be ‘people’. " The Black Power movement wants more. Right. Any receipts for your statement that equality has been achieved in Britain? | |||
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"But I think that people being proud to live in a country is a positive thing. If you don't believe in that, what is negative about it? What is wrong with it? Aren't you curious why thousands of Black Britons answered the way they did? I am. " Still no answer to my questions. | |||
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"Two years ago I started a university course It was a course with lots of mature students and during one of the lectures about British values the students who were born in Africa said that they tell their teenage/young adult children that they are African but the children insist that because they were born in UK and that's all they knew, that they were in fact British. This seemed to upset the parent because they wanted their children to be proud to be African yet they seemed proud to be British Most of my friends born here that are African all say that they’re from where they’re from in Africa unless the question is asked by a White person or is an official question. If another black/Asian person asks where I'm from ill say Jamaica but if any other national asks ill say Birmingham, usually when a non poc asks its from a place of ignorance so I'm keen to shut down the conversation as quickly as possible " We're you Born in Birmingham or Jamaica? Surely that defines what nationality you are? I guess you could be dual nationality but I'd always go with where I was born, hence I'm Scottish even though the passport says British. | |||
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"I realise this is one of those subjects that is extremely sensitive, and I’m reluctant to say anything because I’m sure there’ll be a backlash. But I’m always concerned that just as most people (including me) were accepting the fact that everybody is equal, the ‘Black Power’ movement wanted more. Not just equals, not seeing everyone as ‘people’, but wanting power. The balance was becoming balance, but now it’s tipping the scales. Let’s just be ‘people’. " You think we are at balance…. Really? | |||
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"But I think that people being proud to live in a country is a positive thing. If you don't believe in that, what is negative about it? What is wrong with it? Aren't you curious why thousands of Black Britons answered the way they did? I am. Still no answer to my questions. " Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of | |||
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"But I think that people being proud to live in a country is a positive thing. If you don't believe in that, what is negative about it? What is wrong with it? Aren't you curious why thousands of Black Britons answered the way they did? I am. Still no answer to my questions. Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of" What she said. It's a doubled edge sward. | |||
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"Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of" Hell of a statement right there | |||
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"Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of Hell of a statement right there " But a true one sadly | |||
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"Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of Hell of a statement right there But a true one sadly " I think you could put it as every black person in Britain will experience that. To me it's just a statistical certainty, essentially a statement of fact. pt | |||
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"As someone who's lived through the rise in breakaway nationalism, I'm certainly happy to be British. For all it's faults I thinks its the most multicultural place on earth, and always was multicultural by nature. From coracles to the Roman navy to long boats to Windrush we're the island(s) people sailed to, and people could do it from all around us. We don't make a deal of it, but people even settle (back) here from America. Britain is actually so multifariously multicultural it can easily harbour mono-culturalists who say that they alone truly represent Britain (despite being only a section of their own ethnicity) to even people claiming that multiculturalism doesn't truly exist (I knew a Wikipedia admin who insisted this). pt " The UK has gone out to other countries looking for labour making promises of belonging and a wonderful life. That is exactly what happened with wind rush and then years later sent some of these people or thier families away denying the life they had created and the society they had contributed to. The phrase Stop The Boats is now also considered a unifying and politically expedite phrase. So whilst the UK may be multicultural it isn't comfortable with it or embracing it. | |||
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"Wherever you go in the world you’ll meet locals who claim that the county they happened to be born in is the best in the world (not sure what metric we’re all using!)They can’t all be right! “Nationalism is an infantile disease” - Einstein. " I often call nationalism the Achilles' heel of the Left, and sometimes even a cancer of the soul. The thing about Britain (and British) though, is that it's a union, and one that (though not perfect) is democratic (such as it is) and just makes so much cultural sense. Such unions are my favourite nations, and also my favourite flags (and flags are something I'm not all that keen on too). pt | |||
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"As someone who's lived through the rise in breakaway nationalism, I'm certainly happy to be British. For all it's faults I thinks its the most multicultural place on earth, and always was multicultural by nature. From coracles to the Roman navy to long boats to Windrush we're the island(s) people sailed to, and people could do it from all around us. We don't make a deal of it, but people even settle (back) here from America. Britain is actually so multifariously multicultural it can easily harbour mono-culturalists who say that they alone truly represent Britain (despite being only a section of their own ethnicity) to even people claiming that multiculturalism doesn't truly exist (I knew a Wikipedia admin who insisted this). pt The UK has gone out to other countries looking for labour making promises of belonging and a wonderful life. That is exactly what happened with wind rush and then years later sent some of these people or thier families away denying the life they had created and the society they had contributed to. The phrase Stop The Boats is now also considered a unifying and politically expedite phrase. So whilst the UK may be multicultural it isn't comfortable with it or embracing it. " Some people aren't for sure (too many who are too loud), but those people unwittingly actually add to the whole picture imo. Britain somehow contains it all. pt | |||
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"Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of Hell of a statement right there But a true one sadly " What they said…. It’s one of those statements where white people may deny it.. but if they ask most black people they will find that it’s true… | |||
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"But I think that people being proud to live in a country is a positive thing. If you don't believe in that, what is negative about it? What is wrong with it? Aren't you curious why thousands of Black Britons answered the way they did? I am. Still no answer to my questions. Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of" I can absolutely see why black Britons replied the way they did. I guess my questions were anyone who doesn't think being proud of your country is positive. If it's not your thing and uoj don't feel it, sure. But why so negative about it? And I find it strange that people dismiss the valid reasons why many Black Britons aren't proud of their country. | |||
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"Only Tom could make a thread titled 'The Black Voice Project' that says in it's OP "are you proud to be white and British?"! It's like WLM, it's kind of covetous and jealous in my eyes. By demoting the concept of nationalism, and by extension our pride in such (there are many instinctive globalists in modern politics btw - from Blair to Jonson), we must be careful not to also insinuate that racial prejudice, and the black identity that has party come from it, somehow doesn't have importance too (or even actually exist). And I've said it before and I'll say it again (wherever this crops up), I think that some people just cannot handle the idea that any 'other' people can suffer any more, or in any other way, than they potentially can themselves. It's like an innate entitlement to everything, including the boundaries of suffering. I've thought quite deeply about the internal elements of general racism for years. It's all about being reared to take and not to give imo. But we cannot properly survive like this. pt " Thank you for the compliment... Tom is legend | |||
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"But I think that people being proud to live in a country is a positive thing. If you don't believe in that, what is negative about it? What is wrong with it? Aren't you curious why thousands of Black Britons answered the way they did? I am. Still no answer to my questions. Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of I can absolutely see why black Britons replied the way they did. I guess my questions were anyone who doesn't think being proud of your country is positive. If it's not your thing and uoj don't feel it, sure. But why so negative about it? And I find it strange that people dismiss the valid reasons why many Black Britons aren't proud of their country. " They dismiss them because in their eyes the UK is perfect and any poc who complain about racism are either lying/exaggerating as the UK is "one of the most tolerant places on the planet" and/or we should just go back to where they came from if we don't like it here | |||
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"But I think that people being proud to live in a country is a positive thing. If you don't believe in that, what is negative about it? What is wrong with it? Aren't you curious why thousands of Black Britons answered the way they did? I am. Still no answer to my questions. Nearly every black British person has experienced racial abuse for simply existing in this country Not sure if that is something to be proud of I can absolutely see why black Britons replied the way they did. I guess my questions were anyone who doesn't think being proud of your country is positive. If it's not your thing and uoj don't feel it, sure. But why so negative about it? And I find it strange that people dismiss the valid reasons why many Black Britons aren't proud of their country. They dismiss them because in their eyes the UK is perfect and any poc who complain about racism are either lying/exaggerating as the UK is "one of the most tolerant places on the planet" and/or we should just go back to where they came from if we don't like it here " Well, yeah, there is that. And you really need to forget about colonialism cos us white people have. (sarcasm in case anyone takes me seriously!) | |||
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