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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One persons kink is another persons vanilla

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"One persons kink is another persons vanilla "

Absolutely but sometimes you wonder whether people know what being filthy is all about

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field


"One persons kink is another persons vanilla "

Kinks are what I enjoy, filth is what the degenerate perverts get up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have described by others as “filthy kinky”, but in my opinion I not.

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I have described by others as “filthy kinky”, but in my opinion I not. "

So you think you’re more vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla "

I think that's you being a bit judgey tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see why it matters? Do what you want and let others do what they want. It’s hardly a league.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

I think that's you being a bit judgey tbh"

^What she said. There's enough of this on that "other" site complaining that people aren't kinky enough. Communication is key, and if someone doesn't match what you're after, that's not a comment on them. You simply just don't click, it would be boring if everyone liked the same thing.

LvM

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m very happy just being vanilla.

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

I think that's you being a bit judgey tbh

^What she said. There's enough of this on that "other" site complaining that people aren't kinky enough. Communication is key, and if someone doesn't match what you're after, that's not a comment on them. You simply just don't click, it would be boring if everyone liked the same thing.

LvM"

Maybe I am

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Filth is one of those words that comes to life with a partner for me.

They love it they know you love it and when you look into each others eyes they burst wide with desire for it.

Filth me up.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla "

That's me too can never get right answer to my question.

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

I think that's you being a bit judgey tbh

^What she said. There's enough of this on that "other" site complaining that people aren't kinky enough. Communication is key, and if someone doesn't match what you're after, that's not a comment on them. You simply just don't click, it would be boring if everyone liked the same thing.

LvM

Maybe I am "

It’s just sometimes you are interacting with someone who you think is on your level sexually and then you realise it’s not the case dispute what that say

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What’s highly kinky to some is a cosy Tuesday night to others. It’s all a matter of perspective. Don’t be so quick to be dismissive of other people’s journeys, we all start somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is risky to say but generally, I am "kinkier" than men I talk to. And I find that out by simply asking them at the outset what their fantasies are, or to describe their perfect scenario. If the mismatch is too great, I simply avoid saying anything about me and end the chat.

I know that is uncomfortable for some people to get into the "sex talk" so early. And I try to keep it fairly light. But I don't want a huge mismatch. Kink is important to me. After conversations with too many guys who wanted me to "teach them" (laughable), I just cut to the chase a lot quicker.

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"What’s highly kinky to some is a cosy Tuesday night to others. It’s all a matter of perspective. Don’t be so quick to be dismissive of other people’s journeys, we all start somewhere "

Of cause I agree, I admit I’m being selfish but sometimes when you don’t get what’s written on the packet if can be frustrating lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have described by others as “filthy kinky”, but in my opinion I not.

So you think you’re more vanilla?"

I don't think I am kinky, but when people ask me about things that I enjon doing, I get called kinky.

I guess it does depend on the other person bassline.

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"This is risky to say but generally, I am "kinkier" than men I talk to. And I find that out by simply asking them at the outset what their fantasies are, or to describe their perfect scenario. If the mismatch is too great, I simply avoid saying anything about me and end the chat.

I know that is uncomfortable for some people to get into the "sex talk" so early. And I try to keep it fairly light. But I don't want a huge mismatch. Kink is important to me. After conversations with too many guys who wanted me to "teach them" (laughable), I just cut to the chase a lot quicker. "

Yeah I try and do the same, but that can go the wrong way sometimes lol

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

So is dipping your cock in custard kinky, filthy or both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is risky to say but generally, I am "kinkier" than men I talk to. And I find that out by simply asking them at the outset what their fantasies are, or to describe their perfect scenario. If the mismatch is too great, I simply avoid saying anything about me and end the chat.

I know that is uncomfortable for some people to get into the "sex talk" so early. And I try to keep it fairly light. But I don't want a huge mismatch. Kink is important to me. After conversations with too many guys who wanted me to "teach them" (laughable), I just cut to the chase a lot quicker.

Yeah I try and do the same, but that can go the wrong way sometimes lol"

Maybe it just requires adapting the way you introduce the subject.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't ever consider myself filthy. The term does not appeal.

As to kink, for some I'm extreme, for others I'm vanilla. And every dynamic is different depending on both parties involved anyway.

It's not a competition

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"This is risky to say but generally, I am "kinkier" than men I talk to. And I find that out by simply asking them at the outset what their fantasies are, or to describe their perfect scenario. If the mismatch is too great, I simply avoid saying anything about me and end the chat.

I know that is uncomfortable for some people to get into the "sex talk" so early. And I try to keep it fairly light. But I don't want a huge mismatch. Kink is important to me. After conversations with too many guys who wanted me to "teach them" (laughable), I just cut to the chase a lot quicker.

Yeah I try and do the same, but that can go the wrong way sometimes lol

Maybe it just requires adapting the way you introduce the subject. "

But going straight into the subject can put people off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is risky to say but generally, I am "kinkier" than men I talk to. And I find that out by simply asking them at the outset what their fantasies are, or to describe their perfect scenario. If the mismatch is too great, I simply avoid saying anything about me and end the chat.

I know that is uncomfortable for some people to get into the "sex talk" so early. And I try to keep it fairly light. But I don't want a huge mismatch. Kink is important to me. After conversations with too many guys who wanted me to "teach them" (laughable), I just cut to the chase a lot quicker.

Yeah I try and do the same, but that can go the wrong way sometimes lol

Maybe it just requires adapting the way you introduce the subject.

But going straight into the subject can put people off lol"

That's not what I suggested though? It's the way you introduce it. Not just when.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

"

You haven't given any examples, so how is anyone supposed to know?

pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filth and kink? Is that like peanut butter and marmite?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla "

Have sounding rod's stuck down your japs eye....

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Filth=police

Kink=uniform and or handcuffs

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

Have sounding rod's stuck down your japs eye...."

Done that!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Filth is pleasuring yourself with a feather, kink is using the whole chicken ?

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Filth is pleasuring yourself with a feather, kink is using the whole chicken ?"

Bbbb-because???

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Am I the only one that has a higher threshold of what filth is? Sometimes people will describe what “filthy kinky” things they are into and I just think that’s boring and Vanilla

Have sounding rod's stuck down your japs eye....

Done that! "

As have I, but have you used drain rods....that's filth especially if not sanitized

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field


"So is dipping your cock in custard kinky, filthy or both "

depends if its your own custard at home, or a random strangers apple crumble in the local pub

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

TBH I think "filthy kink" is like BDSM, in that both are not competitive sports. Both are like a swimming pool, some people swim in the deeper end, some play in the shallows. As long as people are having safe consensual fun, good on them in a different strokes for different strokes way.

I would also suggest that playing harder is its own subjective reward and not an objective badge of honour.

But it does highlight (as someone has alluded to) the importance of a proper discussion and negotiation when it comes to play partners. People from different ends of the pool (or anyone who is into kink) who plays with another without understanding the other's needs may run into serious problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filth is pleasuring yourself with a feather, kink is using the whole chicken ?"

Oi

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"TBH I think "filthy kink" is like BDSM, in that both are not competitive sports. Both are like a swimming pool, some people swim in the deeper end, some play in the shallows. As long as people are having safe consensual fun, good on them in a different strokes for different strokes way.

I would also suggest that playing harder is its own subjective reward and not an objective badge of honour.

But it does highlight (as someone has alluded to) the importance of a proper discussion and negotiation when it comes to play partners. People from different ends of the pool (or anyone who is into kink) who plays with another without understanding the other's needs may run into serious problems."

Totally agree with this!

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By *ond Jimmy Bond OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Filth is pleasuring yourself with a feather, kink is using the whole chicken ?

Oi "

Hahahahahahahahaha

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, so there's a lot of filtering that you need to do.

Be good at communicating as well as the vanilla action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filth is pleasuring yourself with a feather, kink is using the whole chicken ?

Oi "

I’d definitely use the whole chicken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TBH I think "filthy kink" is like BDSM, in that both are not competitive sports. Both are like a swimming pool, some people swim in the deeper end, some play in the shallows. As long as people are having safe consensual fun, good on them in a different strokes for different strokes way.

I would also suggest that playing harder is its own subjective reward and not an objective badge of honour.

But it does highlight (as someone has alluded to) the importance of a proper discussion and negotiation when it comes to play partners. People from different ends of the pool (or anyone who is into kink) who plays with another without understanding the other's needs may run into serious problems."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TBH I think "filthy kink" is like BDSM, in that both are not competitive sports. Both are like a swimming pool, some people swim in the deeper end, some play in the shallows. As long as people are having safe consensual fun, good on them in a different strokes for different strokes way.

I would also suggest that playing harder is its own subjective reward and not an objective badge of honour.

But it does highlight (as someone has alluded to) the importance of a proper discussion and negotiation when it comes to play partners. People from different ends of the pool (or anyone who is into kink) who plays with another without understanding the other's needs may run into serious problems.

"

Just read this.

Problem? Or like someone just shown me, they can help you learn to swim in the deep end.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"What’s highly kinky to some is a cosy Tuesday night to others. It’s all a matter of perspective. Don’t be so quick to be dismissive of other people’s journeys, we all start somewhere "

Exactly this, someone's kink is someone else's vanilla.

Communication is key.

Mrs

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By *eff1961Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's only filthy n kinky the first time then it's fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fuck buddy that I haven't seen for well over a year, came over for a cuppa and a chat. After awhile we got talking about some of our meets and he turned around and said "We were dirty kinky fuckers" I was thinking we had some good fun but kinky???? Not really.

I guess kinky is a bit like currys some people like hot and spicy Vindaloo others others like mildly korma.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Filth is Sid James’ laugh.

Kink is why he’s laughing

It’s not a competition and it depends on the dynamic.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So is dipping your cock in custard kinky, filthy or both

depends if its your own custard at home, or a random strangers apple crumble in the local pub "

If it is a pink cat then, it's gonna be "Fuckin' dis Custard". Roobarb! Down boy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TBH I think "filthy kink" is like BDSM, in that both are not competitive sports. Both are like a swimming pool, some people swim in the deeper end, some play in the shallows. As long as people are having safe consensual fun, good on them in a different strokes for different strokes way.

I would also suggest that playing harder is its own subjective reward and not an objective badge of honour.

But it does highlight (as someone has alluded to) the importance of a proper discussion and negotiation when it comes to play partners. People from different ends of the pool (or anyone who is into kink) who plays with another without understanding the other's needs may run into serious problems.

Just read this.

Problem? Or like someone just shown me, they can help you learn to swim in the deep end. "

From talking about it and discussing likes, dislikes and limits?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s all part of the journey - I’m sure you didn’t get to your kink level straight away. We are all on different paths and going at it at different speeds.

I remember almost running through the dungeon when they showed my around a club about 6 years ago…now it’s my home in a club

K

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By *ownwithafeatherMan
over a year ago

Watford

Sounds like a great new flavour for an ice cream.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

loving the comparisons of filth and kink

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"TBH I think "filthy kink" is like BDSM, in that both are not competitive sports. Both are like a swimming pool, some people swim in the deeper end, some play in the shallows. As long as people are having safe consensual fun, good on them in a different strokes for different strokes way.

I would also suggest that playing harder is its own subjective reward and not an objective badge of honour.

But it does highlight (as someone has alluded to) the importance of a proper discussion and negotiation when it comes to play partners. People from different ends of the pool (or anyone who is into kink) who plays with another without understanding the other's needs may run into serious problems.

Just read this.

Problem? Or like someone just shown me, they can help you learn to swim in the deep end. "

Hi

I think there "may" be a "problem" (I am avoiding language that may get this thread pulled), if there is no understanding of the other's needs and experience.

I had hoped the language I used also covered the situation of an "edge player" doing a scene with freely given informed consent with someone who may be more of a "sex sub" but wanted to expand the range of their experience.

So if someone says they like bondage and sex, there is a huge gulf between being tied to a bed and fucked, and a full on Japanese BDSM erotic experience of being tied, suspended, flogged, dripped with wax, vibed and fucked.

Which is why it is important, as many have said, to have honest, open and equal communication.

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