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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

So a bit of a strange one but any advice on helping me cum a bit quicker, it takes ages to come through sex and once in a blue moon through oral. Not much of a complaint you will say but can lead to both parties being sore. Any comments appreciated

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Try lube

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Are you on anti depressants?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I wish I had your problem as I cum far to quick.

Mr

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Maybe women don't do it for you anymore. Have you thought about trying it with a man?

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Try lube"

Just makes it last longer

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Are you on anti depressants?"

No not on any medication

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick? "

Maybe twice a week at most

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I wish I had your problem as I cum far to quick.

Mr"

Its not as great as you think but i get what you mean

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Maybe women don't do it for you anymore. Have you thought about trying it with a man? "

Would be an easy solution but men dont do it for me

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Are you on anti depressants?

No not on any medication "

Ok that helps.

Perhaps indulge in extended foreplay.

Abstain from sex a few days beforehand.

Avoid booze and maybe varying location might help.

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Are you on anti depressants?

No not on any medication

Ok that helps.

Perhaps indulge in extended foreplay.

Abstain from sex a few days beforehand.

Avoid booze and maybe varying location might help."

Tried all the above and still no luck, cheers for the suggestions though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most"

Not loads then. Are you horny?

2x a week leaves me a mindless fiend.

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most

Not loads then. Are you horny?

2x a week leaves me a mindless fiend. "

Yes always horny just have great will power and prefer playing with rather than alone

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Shag, furious wank, shag, furious wank, shag, furious wank. sleep.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most"

That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most

That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman."

Really? Twice a week at most

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most

That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.

Really? Twice a week at most"

How often do you have sex with a woman?

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Two or three times a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most

That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.

Really? Twice a week at most"

Twice a week isn’t loads of wanking to be fair. There are plenty who wank daily and don’t find themselves desensitised from using the hand.

Are you heavily focused on cumming? Like watching a pot of water boil, it takes ages if you’re hyper focused on it.

Can try focusing on the pleasure of being with your partner and not think of cumming perhaps that will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just learned to enjoy it whether I cum or not. And I also am not afraid to learn my body during masturbation and ask my partners to do those things. For example nipple play gets me there quicker and I ask my partners to play with my nipples.

Try learning your body. Try different things. See if anything gets you there. Ask your partners to be patient with you and try things.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Do you watch alot of porn OP?

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most

That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.

Really? Twice a week at most

Twice a week isn’t loads of wanking to be fair. There are plenty who wank daily and don’t find themselves desensitised from using the hand.

Are you heavily focused on cumming? Like watching a pot of water boil, it takes ages if you’re hyper focused on it.

Can try focusing on the pleasure of being with your partner and not think of cumming perhaps that will help. "

Thank you for the advice, i dont think im heavily focused but will try to focus on being with partner

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?

Maybe twice a week at most

That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.

Really? Twice a week at most

Twice a week isn’t loads of wanking to be fair. There are plenty who wank daily and don’t find themselves desensitised from using the hand.

Are you heavily focused on cumming? Like watching a pot of water boil, it takes ages if you’re hyper focused on it.

Can try focusing on the pleasure of being with your partner and not think of cumming perhaps that will help. "

If he is cumming from wanking but not when being with a woman I believe that's the cause.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"Two or three times a week"

Stop wanking and see how it goes

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I just learned to enjoy it whether I cum or not. And I also am not afraid to learn my body during masturbation and ask my partners to do those things. For example nipple play gets me there quicker and I ask my partners to play with my nipples.

Try learning your body. Try different things. See if anything gets you there. Ask your partners to be patient with you and try things. "

Have tried all that but will try again, partners are patient at the moment

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Do you watch alot of porn OP?"

Not that much

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

Find a tantric guide maybe start to address sexual energy blockages. I know it sounds pie in the sky but there’s substance behind these things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you on anti depressants?"

Yes this definitely happens

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I have a similar issue except mine is brought on by medication.

My answer is to stop thinking of orgasms as the end goal and instead focus on pleasure. Many people don’t orgasm or struggle to from sex, mainly femmes, often because of the perceived pressure to orgasm.

I’ve found that being open about it with partners, letting them know that it’s not about them but that I enjoy sex without orgasm and enjoy the pleasure around it as much, helps to avoid any issues.

Orgasms are great but they’re not the goal

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By *icecock7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I have a similar issue except mine is brought on by medication.

My answer is to stop thinking of orgasms as the end goal and instead focus on pleasure. Many people don’t orgasm or struggle to from sex, mainly femmes, often because of the perceived pressure to orgasm.

I’ve found that being open about it with partners, letting them know that it’s not about them but that I enjoy sex without orgasm and enjoy the pleasure around it as much, helps to avoid any issues.

Orgasms are great but they’re not the goal"

Thank you great advice will try that. I enjoy the sex without the orgasm but eventually you need the release aswell.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I have a similar issue except mine is brought on by medication.

My answer is to stop thinking of orgasms as the end goal and instead focus on pleasure. Many people don’t orgasm or struggle to from sex, mainly femmes, often because of the perceived pressure to orgasm.

I’ve found that being open about it with partners, letting them know that it’s not about them but that I enjoy sex without orgasm and enjoy the pleasure around it as much, helps to avoid any issues.

Orgasms are great but they’re not the goal

Thank you great advice will try that. I enjoy the sex without the orgasm but eventually you need the release aswell."

Your body will release when it’s ready, you can’t force anything

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