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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you arrange socials/meets?

We're looking into April next year being the latest so far (hang on, I need to make sure they're actually still willing to waste their day with us, Sherlock - where are you?)

Hopefully get a couple organised for October/November

Luckily we know Mr's shift pattern and days off well in advance so can usually plan stuff and hope childcare is still OK when we check the day before

Does anybody not plan that far in advance?

F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

were lucky if we plan a week in advance as life has a habit of getting in the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a week or two in advance. Very rarely do last minute.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

October is looking very busy but there's this couple we're hoping to squeeze in on our travels

We know there's stuff we'd like to do in November. December is probably more vanilla. So definite plans are looking like Jan/Feb at the moment

J

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"October is looking very busy but there's this couple we're hoping to squeeze in on our travels

We know there's stuff we'd like to do in November. December is probably more vanilla. So definite plans are looking like Jan/Feb at the moment

J"

How are you intending to squeeze that couple in? Are you more a cool book cafe type or cocktail bar?

F

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

We live apart so we have to plan a fair bit in advance so we're both free

Tinder x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might plan it for a while in secret, but I only invite the other person very near the time in case I change my mind!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"October is looking very busy but there's this couple we're hoping to squeeze in on our travels

We know there's stuff we'd like to do in November. December is probably more vanilla. So definite plans are looking like Jan/Feb at the moment

J

How are you intending to squeeze that couple in? Are you more a cool book cafe type or cocktail bar?

F"

I wish I was the cocktail bar type but cool book café makes me go ooohhh!

J

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Roughly a fortnight at times a week depending on the busy schedule and both availablity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally the same week for us, anything longer loses the nervous anticipation and too many things can change in vanilla life.

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By *edtabCouple
over a year ago

Sexville Birmingham

Only plan when I know I'm free, so at the most 2 weeks....just in case they change their minds....

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"were lucky if we plan a week in advance as life has a habit of getting in the way"
this - lol, although we plan events & friends meets further in advance, even those are subject to “life”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lately too far off into the future but it adds to the fun with anticipation and craving the person even more.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've often done 4 or 5 months in advance, when I'm busy or away.

Some idiot, when I told him I was in Sydney, Australia, wanted a same day meet in the UK .

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Lately too far off into the future but it adds to the fun with anticipation and craving the person even more. "

We worry that too far in to the future and we might be greyer, shorter, uglier and more self-effacing and less faux-modest than we are this week

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Can't see you slipping like that, smoking hot body

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Sometimes it has to be three months in advance.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I quite like planning in advance - I'm afraid I'm a great believer in if they wanted to they would so having definite dates locked down works for me.

That being said, I'm very aware of how quickly things change after an incident this year, people can go from lovely to toxic very quickly.

So right now I'm a bit cautious. I've planned some things for the next few weeks, doing a Big Thing with someone in December and yet to make plans for the new year.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We can be a nightmare, childcare and all that at the moment we've the Leeds social booked and trying to arrange a date but it's not happening schedules clashing, we are usually a few weeks/ month or so in advance.

If people don't want to wait they just aren't our people.

Mrs

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"We can be a nightmare, childcare and all that at the moment we've the Leeds social booked and trying to arrange a date but it's not happening schedules clashing, we are usually a few weeks/ month or so in advance.

If people don't want to wait they just aren't our people.

Mrs "

Oh I'm toying with Leeds! Sorely tempted to, need to make a decision very soon.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We can be a nightmare, childcare and all that at the moment we've the Leeds social booked and trying to arrange a date but it's not happening schedules clashing, we are usually a few weeks/ month or so in advance.

If people don't want to wait they just aren't our people.

Mrs

Oh I'm toying with Leeds! Sorely tempted to, need to make a decision very soon."

We've been to the last 3 they've all been great, would definitely reccomend Leeds social it's a good bunch

Mrs

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

1 year they've got more chance of happening then

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By *ioch86Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I usually plan and arrange my meets about a week in advance

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"October is looking very busy but there's this couple we're hoping to squeeze in on our travels

We know there's stuff we'd like to do in November. December is probably more vanilla. So definite plans are looking like Jan/Feb at the moment

J

How are you intending to squeeze that couple in? Are you more a cool book cafe type or cocktail bar?

F

I wish I was the cocktail bar type but cool book café makes me go ooohhh!

J"

I hope your book is long enough because Mr TT2 gets his coffee served in a bucket rather than a mug

As for our meets, it's usually either a few days or weeks. Nothing too crazy. We are childless, but Lorenzo works every other weekend and I work full time, so planning is still required.

K

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Generally I'll book an adventure 3 months in advance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"October is looking very busy but there's this couple we're hoping to squeeze in on our travels

We know there's stuff we'd like to do in November. December is probably more vanilla. So definite plans are looking like Jan/Feb at the moment

J

How are you intending to squeeze that couple in? Are you more a cool book cafe type or cocktail bar?

F

I wish I was the cocktail bar type but cool book café makes me go ooohhh!

J

I hope your book is long enough because Mr TT2 gets his coffee served in a bucket rather than a mug

As for our meets, it's usually either a few days or weeks. Nothing too crazy. We are childless, but Lorenzo works every other weekend and I work full time, so planning is still required.

K"

I had no idea a large coffee was going to be 'that' large and I was a little tired okay

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Normally a couple of weeks in advance but we’ll have usually been chatting a while before then.

October is looking busy with meets and November we’re throwing a party..

just us two, no kids, so planning is easy..

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

about a week in front for us as work gets in the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple weeks maximum.

If someone can’t spare a few hours within the next 7-10 days then it’s either not a priority for them or they are genuinely so busy I don’t think it’s a good match

Even at my busiest times, I can find 2 hours to grab a coffee/pint

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I can’t plan in advance so it’s the last minute for me.

As you have probably guessed, I’m not overly successful with this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weeks and months sometimes. But then sometimes I'll meet within the week if the 1st message.

It's almost impossible for me to meet January to mid May due to crazy heavy work commitments so people have to be extra patient with me then if they want to meet me.

If people can't appreciate that my important commitments in life come before casual sex then they aren't for me.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Shift work and childcare makes it very hard for us to find free time easily. And normally those slots fill up fast (vanilla and not so vanilla). So for us opportunity can either be pencilled in long in advance or come up last minute. For us it's perfectly ok to arrange a meet months in advance. Obviously there's that chance things could change over that time. But if they do the time is never wasted (providing we get some advanced heads up) and we'll go on a date or to a club.

But to be fair we don't really arrange to meet new people off here. We tend to just still to going to clubs. We don't have to make arrangements, just go when is good for us and meet new people there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be two weeks to a month in advance.

But if people can do midweek which is quite rare it can be as little as 3 days.

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